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I decided to stop being a rentoid and buy my own place. Problem is, I was renting in my countries capital because my wife wanted to be there. I have about 350k saved up and I'd need to take out 100k more to buy a newly built place about 20 minutes outside of town. My wife is now asking me to take out a bigger loan so we could get a place in the capital, all because she doesn't want to drive to town and because living outside the city is "beneath" her, even though this move would put me closer to my job and allow me to advance my career.

Am I cooked? What do I do? I'm the breadwinner in the house and I'm paying 100% for everything. Not living in town is to her basically grounds for terminating our 10 year relationship.
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she sounds like a spoiled whore, no offense
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>>32567709
terminate her
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>>32567753
She comes from a low income family and I've always been atleast upper middle class. I think it's possible I spoiled her too much or triggered some deep rooted part of her personality I didn't know she had. Either way, none taken.
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>>32567709
>I'm paying 100% for everything
Yet she's complaining that she'll have to drive into town for her job? The one that doesn't earn enough to warrant her being on the mortgage? Tell her she needs to either deal with it or she can pay for half. I would recommend you continue on and get it only in your name, but if you're married then you're fucked financially anyway if she bails.
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>>32567709
put your foot down.
>closer to job, advance career
if you are the bread winner and this is the case then your wife is being a bitch control freak.
Tell her you will get her bus/train pass, buy her a car, etc. in exchange so it seems "fair" to her dumbass
>Not living in town is to her basically grounds for terminating our 10 year relationship.
tough, I would document this though, maybe you can use it in divorce court.

She needs to grow up
Walk her through the benefits of your idea
BE DOMINANT!
You are being cucked right now
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>>32567824
Mind you, she makes about 20% of what I make. She just got her drivers license and is giving me some BS about how she's afraid for her life to have to drive the distance tired and overworked. Meanwhile I started working and driving an hour to work the month I got my licence 10+ years ago. I'm not worried that she'd take half my shit, far from it. I'm worried because I do genuinely love the woman and yet her love for me seems to be conditional and geographically locked. It's tearing me apart fr.
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>>32569651
The thing is, me and my mom paid for her drivers licence in 2023 as a christmas present (around 2000€), and I already told her once she gets it, I'll sell my car and buy us both new ones. Public transport here sucks and is completely unrealiable, so I've always driven her to work. It's about 5 minutes from where we live.
Thing is, I don't want a divorce, I want her to see reason. I don't even know if this is her coping, being a cunt, being financially illiterate, or if I'm just a means to an end for her to own her own real estate.

I agree with the she needs to grow up. It's not even just about the benefits, it's about what I can reasonably afford and what would allow us a better future at the expense of lavish shit in the here and now.
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>>32569998
I get it from her perspective. After Biden got in, he made gas really expensive and Bidenflation soared. Basically the only life worth living is in the city where you don't have to drive far and you have access to customer service. The country/suburbs are getting beat up, everyone is in utter poverty and there is nothing fun to do.
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>>32570011
You're her only access to the stuff she wants and sp she's going to pressure you for those things. Marriage isn't only about love.
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>>32570011
Having babies matures people and forces especially women to have responsibilities. Why is your Mom funding things? Your Mom should not be funding things. Thats a form of control over you.
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>>32567753
>she sounds like a spoiled whore, no offense
depends on the country honestly. in a lot of countries it literally is ooga booga times once you leave the capital
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>>32570015
I'm not American. Our own government passed dozens of laws that made housing unaffordable, meaning I can't afford anything in the capital city. My wife refuses to aknowledge this and is continuously pressuring me to take out a bigger loan than I can reasonably pay back. If I'm even eligeble for it in the first place.
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>>32570023
We paid for it together as a gift. My mom loves my wife.
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>>32570020
I don't mind that exchange, but how am I expected to go beyond my means without literally killing myself?
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>>32570095
Are you literally killing yourself or you just don't want to do it? In any case, you need to get her to calm down and the way to do that is get her pregnant. Once she has kids she'll be way too busy to be overly demanding.
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>>32570070
It doesn't matter. You should not be getting funding (control) from Mommy.
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>>32570116
Believe me, if I had the money, if I could afford it, I would buy her whatever she wanted. The problem is, I don't. The other problem is that I can't get it trough to her that if she compromises now, she'll be better off years down the line, and yet she seems incapable of comprehending life 10-40 years from now.

Also she hates kids and would probably abort it behind my back if she found out she was pregnant.
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>>32570119
How is this an issue though? My mom asked me what she can get her as a present and I told her I'm considering paying for her licence, so she chipped in half. I could have done it without her as well, but then she would have gotten her something useless.
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>>32570124
I don't know you're a man figure out your own problems
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>>32567709
>Not living in town is to her basically grounds for terminating our 10 year relationship.
she's controling you by giving you this ultimatum
drop it and move on
there's plenty of women who will suit your life
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It's time to change wife anon. Why are you asking such a stupid question to something that should be so fucking obvious?
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>>32567709
It is people like you who were at the center of the 2008 financial meltdown. Taking out a massive loan on top of mortgage payments is practiclly a guarantee of being unable to pay one or both. We can only hope that no honest bank would allow you to overstretch yourself like that.

Meanwhile it is time fotr a frank and honest discussion with your wife, spelling out your financial limitations.
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>>32570015
This anon has absolutely no concept of how economics works if he thinks the President of the US (ANY President) has any effect on gasoline prices.
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>>32570260
1) if you're not American your opinion does not matter. Very few countries are free, only one in Asia. You do not understand that we decide the course of our nation while random leaders decide yours
2)"any" that is laughable. You are not American.
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>>32570123
This is why its better to marry a woman who has had to deal with reality, had a career, before you get married.
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>>32567709
Tell her to make up the difference if she wants something more expensive. Or just buy what you want and it'll be fate accompli or however the French is spelled.
You're life will be more miserable trying to afford expenses outside of your income than it would be with the occasional complaint from your wife and a commute.
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>>32570701
She's dealt with plenty of reality. She's lived in poverty for most of her life. Only when she met me did she become acustomed to something of a reasonable lifestyle and now after years of watching people her age live extravagant lifestyles on social media, she thinks shes entitled to the same luxuries.

She also has her own freelance career which she's passionate about, but it doesn't make house buying money. She knows what it means to balance a budget, but she thinks im just an infinite money printer.
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>>32570711
She can't make up the difference. She has no savings, nor is she eligible for a loan. Only I am. She has no leverage, no colateral, and what I have only really gets me enough for a place outside the capital.
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>>32570695
How is america free when its leaders have also been bunch of wall kissers? There have been leaders assassinated, and recently another one almost got killed, only for him to go back to twitter to say "had I been killed, US would've gone full-on Iran" or something, meaning he knew it was Israel that tried to shoot him, yet he's still find time to shitpost about it because he's so much their slave.



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