>be me>only compliments I've received all my life were being called "cute" and the like>recently at work a customer (who was probably 3x my age) was complimenting me calling me cute>I'm feeling somewhat emasculated from being called this>ffw to today>I come home after church, take off my pants and put on a nice long soft shirt, take a couple pictures of myself, start having gay thoughtsWhy am I like this? Honestly, I have so much self-loathing for being like this. I don't know, it's like I was raised to think all of this is bad yet it feels so good, it feels good to be called cute by people and to wear soft things and to have soft plump skin. Everytime I shake someone's hand at church they always say things like "oh wow how are your hands so soft?" (I put lotion on after showering since I have mild eczema). I know this sounds so contradictory, I hate being emasculated, I want to be considered handsome, sexy, hot, but I feel all warm and gooey inside when people call me cute and feminine thingsBe honest, do I need help?
Depends, was this individual a man or a woman.A woman? You're good. Just eboy/prettyboymaxxIf maleErm. You're gay, son.
>>32568872>Depends, was this individual a man or a woman.Sorry if this sounds stupid but I'm a bit confused to who you're referring to. If you're referring to me than yeah I'm a guy. 100% of the "cute" compliments I've gotten were from girls and 100% of the soft-hand compliments is from me hand shaking other guys.
Do you associate femininity with weakness?
>>32568887Not really.
>>32568862You’re being autistic and misinterpreting the word ‘cute’. If a girl has ever called you cute, and your autismo brain interpreted that as “She thinks im cute like teddy bears and kittens and soft plushy babies” then you got it all wrong. If a girl calls you cute, she is saying you are attractive. It’s a compliment that’s meant to get you to ask them out on a date. The only times this is not true is if its an old lady or family, then they’re just saying you are sweet in personality and likable.
>>32568885>100% of the "cute" compliments I've gotten were from girlsThen you're good. What you're feeling is appreciation everytime a girl compliments you, and trust me, not a lot of men get complimented, especially from women. I know this well ;_;
>>32568897>she is saying you are attractiveReally? Maybe you're right and it's my autismo brain but when I think of cute I think of things that aren't taken seriously. Like I don't think a woman will take something cute seriously compared to a man that's sexy or handsome.>>32568902>I know this well ;_;Damn I'm sorry anon, well I think you're a sweet person :)
>>32568885>>32568897>Soft handsAdding onto this, if other men are commenting on your soft hands, it’s most likely they’re teasing you. Not teasing as sexually teasing, or complimenting. But not quite bullying either. Just a playful mocking your soft hands. Men usually expect tough, rough hands to shake. Because men usually do lots of exercise, weight training, or jobs that have physical labour, makes their hands all rough at the skin, calloused. ‘workers hands’. So they comment on your soft hands because they did not expect you to have soft hands and it surprised them, caught them off guard, was uncommon for them.
>>32568916Oh, I think my mental gymnastics led me to believe they were sort of mocking me or something. From my perspective they never say it to anyone else except me so I suppose I could've overthought it.Also I think part of the reason why my hands are soft is because I'm not doing a ton of physical labor. While I do stay in shape doing lots of cardio and the like, I don't do a lot of rough work.
>>32568909>well I think you're a sweet person :)Thank you guy :)
>>32568909>Really? Maybe you're right and it's my autismo brain but when I think of cute I think of things that aren't taken seriously.Yes really, and it isn’t a ‘maybe’, it’s a certainty. I 100% promise you, that is exactly what women mean when they call guys ‘cute’. It means they find them attractive and if you were to ask that same girl out, the one who called you cute, you would get a 100% ‘yes’. So effectively, good news is girls find you attractive. Bad news is, your autismo brain fucked you over and you missed opportunities lol. You’ll get other opportunities. But bro the next time a girl calls you cute, do not squander it next time unless you don’t think she is attractive to you. >man that’s sexy or handsomeSame shit. Girls who find men cute will also find him sexy and handsome. It’s like when we call women ‘hot’, ‘beautiful’ or ‘sexy’. All the same shit, just different ways of saying ‘attractive’.
>>32568938No problem :)>>32568940Thanks for shedding light on this anon. Also man it sucks ass I'm finding this out now because there was one girl I liked who literally called me cute.I feel like such a dumbass lololol :/
>>32568944>Also man it sucks ass I'm finding this out now because there was one girl I liked who literally called me cute.Well if it wasn’t long ago, like in the past couple of years, and if she’s still single, send her a message and say hello. Get back in touch. If she found you cute before, she will find you cute again. People’s attraction is very very very slow to change.
>>32568960Ah I don't know anon. When we used to talk I've made myself look really desperate. I guess I could try but I think I shot myself in the foot to the point it's broken beyond repair.
>>32568970>I guess I could try but I think I shot myself in the foot to the point it's broken beyond repair.With peace and love to you my friend, you didn’t even know that being called ‘cute’ was actually a romantically charged compliment. Up until now, you assumed it had meant you’re a fluffy bunny or something lmao. Know what that means? It means your expectation that it’s somehow all broken beond all repair is not to be trusted, you may very well be misreading the situation also. You used to think you made yourself look like a fluffy bunny cotton candy kitten or whatever bro. So can you really say you made yourself look desperate? Your social scale to judge these things aint been guiding you correctly so why trust it when it tells you ‘it’s all doomed’?Dare to hope my man.
>>32568996Good point anon. You know thanks for all this advice you've given me, it's really helped change my view on some things.Also I'll go give her a text or call sometime. Thanks for the advice bro :)
>>32568916>Men usually expect tough, rough hands to shake. Because men usually do lots of exercise, weight training, or jobs that have physical labour, makes their hands all rough at the skin, calloused. ‘workers hands’.None of that applies to office cucks.
>>32569003Any time bro. So yeah my answer to your original question in your OP is>is there something wrong with me?Only that you are unable to see the things that are right with you. We have proven you have things right with you, it exists, but for some reason its invisible to you. But it ain’t invisible to other people. Trust people next time they compliment you. Peace my man
>>32569018Peace to you too!>>32569015kek
>>32568862the gay thoughts are the subconscious reaction to the emasculation. internally, you are starting to believe you are a failed male and want to make yourself into a girl to submit to your lack of masculinity and get some sexual satisfaction through getting fucked in the ass.
>>32568862Lift weights and get jacked. You will be more respected by your male peers, and you will be handsome to female peers.
