I have some time to listen. Tell me what's going on for you. What you need help or advice with. No judgment. I will answer anyone being genuine and real who needs an ear. Tell me your problems and let's figure them out.
>>32568971I don’t wanna talk about it.
>>32569075That's ok. Sometimes that's better. Starting is usually the hardest part, so if you change your mind, I'll be here.
Thats actually really nice of you, i cant lie. And i dont want to be a burden but just wanna talk, but before i wanna thank you for doing this and hope you enjoy your day. You deserve it! So anyways. I am currently very young still, but when i was 7-12, my brother (5 years older than me) kind of verbally abused me. Making an unsafe enviroment, me living in fear a bit and him threatening me and making my life hell. He had anger issues from a young age (angry, slapping his friends), wasnt a great student, but he always just hated me. Hes a great person now, reads, good school, is nicer in every way. He would call me a lot of things and make me feel worthless all the time. I would sometimes come to school just in a bad mood and scared, mind you i was 7-12. Im pretty sure i developed PTSD and childhood trauma, when i told me parents about it, they said "well thats normal for older brothers" and kind of shrugged it off. Its hard to live with it but im a kind and pretty positive person that just wants to care for someone and make someone happy, i matured WAY too quickly because i had to adapt and had problems making friends who get me. Only a very few. On the internet ive found people who care and relate to me and thats great, but still every once in a while (1-3 months) i have a PTSD attack, scared to death, migrane, fear, crying, the whole deal. And its hard to live with in real life because most people dont get me or dont know how to deal with me telling them that. Ive trusted people less and at like 11 i started teaching myself a lot of stuff and my personality, ive turned out great but the scars are most definetly there. Again, have an amazing day kind soul!!
>>32568971Long story short:>meet girl>we go out 3 times, it was fun>I think shes interested in me, compliments me, seems interested, kinda flirty, even jokingly says we should visit her country (we're foreigners)>suddenly start being cold and taking long to reply my messages >post a close friends story with some guy in a barbecue >finally sends me a message, I ask her to pay her half of the "dates", she does>I stop talking with her>days later she invites me to a barbecue >say I'll drop by>she says and I shit you not "oh my friend wants to flirt with guys, can you get there by yourself?", we were going together >I get flabbergasted and dont know what to say, tell her just "I dont know what to say", she says things in the lines of "sorry for making you uncomfortable I didnt mean to">I stop talking with her for good>fast forward some time>some mutual acquaintance tells me shes been asking about me>I tell him I dont care>same acquaintance asks me about some other girl >realize first girl probably thought I was hooking up with the other girl, from the acquaintance questions>deny everything >first girl starts looking at my stories again but then disappear So my take on the subject is that the first girl thought I was a player or cheating and moved on. I mean, I think we both had feelings for each other but because of some misunderstanding it fell apart. I dont really have any hope of salvaging it, but I also cant get over it because I actually liked her, she seemed nice. What the fuck do I do? How do I get over it? This whole situation made me spiral and me grades sank, Im almost failing some subjects. Help
>>32568971im really attracted to this one guy, but he is about 13 years older than me and has a daughter. I'm 22, and I'm kind of scared of dating him because of that. Should I just bite the bullet and do it? Will it hurt the kid if things between us dont end up working out?
>>32569086I am content to feel better, knowing that you care.
>>32571092I mean, why not? If you're mutually attracted to each other I see no harm, I've met many married people with big age gaps. If I may ask, how did you meet?
