I had a BPD cunt mother and a weak father. Can I recover from this and have a happy life or is my life just a bust?
>>32570495Damn, sorry bro that sounds extremely difficult. I know a guy who had a legit diagnosed BPD mom + weak dad combo. Guy got it rough. I think you can recover from this, but it’ll be hard. That shouldn’t bother you if you think about it, difficulty is all you’ve known right? So consider it a few last pushes out of Hell bro. Your biggest obstacles will be:>You gotta become your own parent. When parents fail to raise vital parts of their kid, it’s on the kid to parent himself as an adult and finish what they could not/would not raise in you. That’s the goal of parenthood, to raise a kid into becoming his own parent, mentally, to be an adult. If you ever had that weird feeling that you neither felt like a kid during childhood, or a full adult when you did grow up, this is exactly the reason for that strange foggy feeling. So the solution is you gotta raise yourself in parts that you shouldn’t have had to. It’s hard, but doable.>Radical acceptance of the loss and what could have beenBeing cheated out of a childhood sucks, it does. It’s something you can’t get back but can give to a human later when or if you have a kid. One roadblock is accepting what happened, happened and there’s no going back. Consider having a symbolic goodbye to the child (you), throw a nostalgiac and bittersweet private ceremony to commemorate the childhood that never was and couldn’t be. An emotional funeral for your innocence. It gives yourself closure instead of waiting for it.>Make pain and suffering your alliesYou got dealt too much of it, now it’s in you. You got options. Fight it, wage war in yourself, or let them in and make allies of them. Will it make it go away? No. But it makes the burden lighter, you gain clarity. You learn how to process it better, and that opens up room for happiness, struggled to feel joy, its simply because your plate was full of anger and grief. Empty the plate by eating it. Process it. And you got room for joy again.
>>32570551Sounds difficult. I think I’ll just become a Jeffery Dahmer way easier.
>>32570573Who knows if it was easier. He fed the beast for a time but obviously at great cost. Dahmer is interesting. Unlike most other serial killers, he seemed to have a genuine reawakening of his heart in prison and reclaimed his humanity. And we know it wasn’t performative either, there was no death penalty hanging over his head and no parole board to lie to. Tragedy of Dahmer is he did actually make it out of Hell and reconcile with his demons, but by the time that he did, he’d already left a trail of destruction in his wake and his life got cut short. He would’ve probably been okay in jail, but then a paranoid schizo/bipolar inmate murdered him. Dude probably only got to enjoy just months of actual self freedom.
>>32570592I read a lot about him and by all accounts his childhood was better than mine his mom didn’t sabotage and discourage him him at every step and wouldn’t stop him from going outside or having friends. Read my friend dauhmer his childhood was kind of shit and he was sort of a clown but he did have a childhood and friends. And his dad wasn’t his mom’s personal attack dog.Dude was in prison and was a pathological liar.
If you're extroverted, maybe you find some kind soul through church, organization, university or employer to mentor you. The other option is to join the military and let them toughen you up. Otherwise it's pretty hopeless. t. same situation. now 37 with a BA in STEM and and masters degree and making under $40k with no friends
>>32570495>harass the cunt to self-deletion>harass all "but dats yo motha" white knight retards>completely remove any direct or indirect influence she might have on youlife 100% fixed
