>See girl casually for about two years, hooking up and hanging out>Begs me to be her bf but I am dealing with a breakup so I say it's best to stay fwb>Eventually after two years of hooking up with random women every second day realise that I actually do like this girl and that she treats me well>Ask her to be my gf>Things are amazing but then she starts saying that she is "not in the mood" even though she was always in the mood before>Begin to resent her because I could be fucking another girl within the hour if I wasn't dating herI just don't know what to do! Why did this have to happen?Life is such bullshit.
>>32583668why does the exact same thing keep happening to me?Its almost like women want us to fuck other women while in a relationship. The girls I cheated on were the ones who stayed most attached to me... wtf
>>32583668Work out, make more money, talk to other girls.She will get competition anxiety and that will make her horny.If it doesn't make her horny then you are rich and ripped and have other girls to bounce to.
>>32583723idk man I really don't>>32583757And here I was thinking that I should be loyal and commited. This is such bullshit that I have to do this.
>>32583668You dont like this girl you just got lazy and desperate in the way that you realized that sex is irrelevant
>>32583668>Things are amazing but thenAmaaaaazing, this is like the male version of "let's still be friends"Tell her you're going to look for a cute girl to fuck and you'll understand if she wants you to break up with her before you do that.
>>32583795I like her plenty I just don't like not having sex>>32583818seems cruel
>>32583668This sounds Iike a total mess. Purge her and purge sexual activities until you're married. Read the Bible . If she does this before marriage imagine After
>>32583838You're being logically inconsistent, if you have sexual needs you cannot at the same time be sexually exclusive with someone and not put the full presure of fulfilling your sexual needs on them, if you don't you're just being a bitch by making up a fake issue.
>>32583668Normal evolution of a relationship. This is why men should never get into them. There is literally no upside for men, monogamy was invented by women for the benefit of women.
>>32583668>premarital sex
>>32583864>not put the full presure of fulfilling your sexual needs on themI am doing exactly that. That is their responsibility.>>32583847Too late for that now>>32583866Well that's depressing>>32583901>postmarital sex
bump
>>32583775I feel you bro.Women are just programmed like this.
She has you so why would she impress you?
>>32583668Just fuck other girls lol
>>32584579I am not a cheater
>>32583668How do you find hookups that easily? Dating app?
>>32583775Now you know why we hate women. They bring out the worst in everyone.
>>32586995>we Don't lump us all in with you retard
>>32583775>I was thinking that I should be loyal and commitedThat makes lose interest since she thinks you have no other options
>>32583668Gf wants babies in her oven she doesn't want sterile plastic sex that doesn't go anywhere
>>32586809>How do you find hookups that easily? Dating app?Yeah, pretty much or instagram
>>32587166>>32587166>That makes lose interest since she thinks you have no other optionsGreat.>>32587271>Gf wants babies in her oven she doesn't want sterile plastic sex that doesn't go anywhereI am (or was) game for this if it was what she wanted but she seems to have talked me into it and then lost interest
Bump. Should I bring it up and if so, how?
>>32583668she's low T, dump her ass
>>32583668Its the price for getting into a relationship with another person. Eventually, you're dick stops working and the early years are based upon figuring out if you like being with them despite eminent fact. If the emotional fulfillment doesn't outweigh the sexual frustration then long term relationships probably aren't for you.
>>32583668>I just don't know what to do!Have you considered sitting down and having an adult conversation with the woman you're in a relationship with about this issue?
>>32589269>If the emotional fulfillment doesn't outweigh the sexual frustration then long term relationships probably aren't for you.Surely this can't be thw standard that we have set for us, right?
>>32589513It's just human nature.
>>32583668Then dump herDude who fucking knows why these bitches can't just keep themselves horny, but so long as that's part of reality, you just gotta work around it, discard and draw.
>>32590103moids only care about sex and it is sad
>>32591553Oh great, it's another "shaming men for their biology" episode
>>32591553and foids only know the pick-me grifttwo can play this game
What's the rest of your relationship like? How often do you touch her without trying to initiate sex? Etc etc. Women tend to have a higher sex drive if they feel taken care of and loved otherwise. You might need to be more proactive in other areas to bring her sex drive back up anon>t. Relationship haver
>>32591553>>32591809>moids foidswhat the fuck is this language?
she would have a sex drive for him
>>32591829It's good. We hold hands and fall asleep all tangled up we go out on dates I buy her things. She seems to not even want to be kissing much these days. I'm thinking it could be her medication.
>>32592088>She seems to not even want to be kissing much these days.do both of you have jobs and live together?
>>32592108>do both of you have jobs and live together?Both have jobs but we don't live together
>>32592187is infidelity even a remote possibility?
>>32592194>is infidelity even a remote possibility?I did consider this but she is a massive shut-in with pretty much no friends. I would be incredibly shocked if this were the case. Honestly I feel like I am being cheated on with computer games which she stays up until dawn playing on her days off.
>>32592216hm. play some games with her. i can't help but wonder if she's bothered by not having more in common with her man. or you're gonna have to actually sit down and talk to her.
>>32592088>medicationwas she different before it? bring this all up to her, bro. you need to let her know your thoughts. if you can't resolve it TOGETHER and it's irreconcilable then it's time to break up. good luck bro
>>32592250We have plenty in common when it comes to comics and she even started reading literature as well so we can talk about that. I do play with her but maybe I should do it more. She just gets super autistic about it. Maybe I am being inadvertently dismissive.>>32592282Yeah, I think I will bring it up. I have brooched the topic before and mentioned the meds might be affecting things but she said that they are the only thing that has worked so far and she is worried about reverting.
>>32592342I get her as the medication hunt can be a real shitty one. still, it's affecting the relationship all the same. she should talk to her psych about the potential side effects and get his opinion
So I talked to her about it and it went surprisingly well
>woman uses sex to get relationship/resources from man>woman gets relationship/resources from man>womans caveman brain dails back sex to bare minimum to sustain said relationship/resources because historicaly sex/pregnancy is extremely dangerous for womenits a tale as old as humans and this is why men are told we have to woe and court women perpetually to keep them putting out.if you're not naturally drowning in pussy then you have to play the game or give up sex to some degree and quite frankly most women are not worth much if you aint fuckin them.whats frustrating is women generally know these things but quite frankly just don't care and nobody is going to make them. women will turn off the sex in a relationship then get mad when the man pesters them for sex then witholds it out of spite and then wonders why he cheats like shit you dumb hoe if you would just fuck us more there wouldn't be a fuckin problem
>>32594382What all happened?
>>32583668Have you considered that there is more to a relationship than sex? Maybe you're not ready for one.
>>32597836She said that she had thought about it a lot and that if it wasn't the meds then it was the notion that I have become 'attainable' to her which she recognised truthful but retarded so long story short we are doing a "free-use" type arrangement.>>32597848>Have you considered that there is more to a relationship than sex?No. I am also not going to. Have fun doing that though.
>>32583668The kind of woman to fall in love with a man who’s not in love with her will lose interest when he does It seems like she was more excited about the idea of chasing you because you seemed unattainable(from her perspective). Once she got you she got bored.The exact same story plays out with women who try to get a married man to leave his wife for them. They will lose interest 99% of the time when he does
>>32583847That’s just dumb.You really think she’ll want to have sex after they get married? She’ll still treat him the same way only this time she can divorce him for not agreeing to being treated that way.If you want to preach at least say something practical instead of throwing this shit in like it will do anything but make his life miserable.What a fucking stupid post. All you’re doing is dissuading people from religion you dolt.
>>32597848>Have you considered that there is more to a relationship than sex?Of course there is, but have you considered that a relationship without sex is just being roommates or friends?
>>32591855/r9k/ loser talk.
>>32597988I said to purge her . That means there is no hope for this one. Premarital sex and other sins caused this
Women love power, you got in a relationship with her which gave her power over you, now there's nothing left to be attracted to. Never, under any circumstance, give a women power over you financially, physically or especially emotionally.The best advice I ever got was that you can't "Just" love a woman, you have to genuinely babysit their dogshit biological impulses
Is she actually getting off when you do have sex? Are you making sure she's actually enjoying it, or do you mostly have sex for your own pleasure? Girls are satisfied in an LTR when the male is a really good lover, otherwise they won't be in the mood. For hookups it doesn't matter if they get off as much, but for a LTR, why would they have sex if they're not getting off?
>>32583668>I just don't know what to doJust get some young woman on the side. Its easy to do and not hard to cover up and it makes your relationship better since you aren't bitching about not getting any pussy. Just continue to fuck your gf good when she wants it and you'll be fine. In fact when you stop pestering her she'll wonder why and fuck you. Win win win.
>>32583723yes, they want the alpha.
