Im in my mid 30s and never moved out of my parents home. Basically a loser who does nothing but work my min wagie job (which I at least enjoy) and go home. Should I move out of my parents house and into my sister's backyard granny flat? It's has no toilet, shower or washing machine lol so I would need to go into the main house to shower and shit (I guess I can pee around the back in the compost heap)What do you think I would need to prepare before going anyways if I were to do it. I know im already old but it feels kind of scary
>>32584583I say go ahead and do it. Unless you can find an apartment with those basic features that you can afford. All you need is enough muscle to put your stuff in boxes, and a vehicle to move the boxes to your new house. Furniture and decorations go a long way in making you feel like you live in a house, instead of a box. So bring what you can
>>32584604Yeah I don't think I can really afford it. I will probably offer to pay her and her husband 20% of my wage. That's reasonable right? At least I know my "rent" will go to helping them out and their kids.Not sure if I will even have a bed. Was thinking of just having futon mats on the floor lol. It's just finding those smaller things like a desk etc and getting them over there that seems like it might be a bit of trouble.I guess I can deck it out a bit on the cheap, then when/if I move out from there, it will at least be a room set up for the kids once they're older
>>32584583Maybe try to get a slightly better paying job you enjoy, but yeah sound cool anon if your sister is okay with it
Stay with your parents, your sister doesn't want you living in her garden shed. Do you happen to have a condition of some description?
>>32585106She's been encouraging it for the past year.Our parents are kind of toxic and maybe she thinks getting me out of that environment might be life changing? I don't know, but I never asked or insinuated to move in to her bungalow.
>>32585126>> my parents are so toxic they let me live in their house, and pay my way through life when I'm a grown adult
>>32585125She's the one who keeps telling me to move in there. She's been telling me to trial it for the past 6 months.As for conditions. I basically had a bit of a mental breakdown over a decade ago and isolated myself from the world. Slowly happened form 18 to 23 but just became extremely weird and autistic after about where I go and how i move about. Been to a therapist and who said although I don't seem depressed, I'm highly anxious and agoraphobic. Which kind of makes sense when I started isolating myself from everyone and eventually losing all my friends. I just felt so weird about going out somewhere, more so when smart phones came out. Also have this weird thing about not really wanting to see people outside of where I general know or see them (example I can't see my own family outside of their homes and haven't gone to a restaurant or anything in over a decade)I basically only go to work, grocery, church, sister's place. And every time I go there either always have this sense of dread but manage
>>32585144More in the sense of constantly fighting with each other. Basically hoarders and almost living in squalor. Very wasteful with resources and money.
>>32584583I'd say yes, go for it. Don't underestimate the freedom of having your own space and place. You can always find a more appealing apartment later on. Changes are good, and even if it feels like a downgrade and less convenient, at least there is something fresh and new.
>>32585126what kind of toxic? To be fair you should not do this forever. They won't live that long.
>>32585612Just constant fighting. Hoarding tendencies and borderline living in squalor. Even all my siblings feel like they are walking on eggshells when they come over if one of them is going to get triggered and set offAlso being really bad with their resources and money and getting mad over being told or having it pointed out. They have also been renovating the house and going over board with stuff without any plan. Kept saying they only needed a good deep clean (+de clutter the hoarded stuff) and some touch ups/repairs but they have essentially butchered the house. It's been quite exhausting desu .And what do you mean I should not do this forever? As in live in my sister's spare room?
>>32586771Yeah, don't rely on people if you can help it, but utilize it while you can. Sounds rough. You prolly weren't socialized to have a lot of conscientiousness then and have useless psychological hangups that waste your time. I think moving sounds good. But also remember to save and invest. Including investing in yourself.
>>32586895>You prolly weren't socialized to have a lot of conscientiousness then and have useless psychological hangups that waste your time.Yeah basically. I only really started to wake up in my late 20s and kept it quiet but didn't know where to start. And yes I do have a lot of hangups. On my days off I basically do nothing due to exhaustion. And have issues with meeting up with people or going to new places.I just don't know what to do during this time if I do move into my sister's backyard. Maybe this will force me out the house more? Or feel more comfortable to do stuff without people (like my parents) asking where I'm going all the time which can be grating.
>>32586983yeah develop some independence, this is a good step
>>32585144you're a retard
>>32584583Go make more money.Learn more employable skills.Provide more value.Learn what people want and give it to them better than anyone else.
>>32584583I’m worried you are living my future. I’m a loser too. This is truly a pathetic existence op, it really is. You live a wretched life and you’re being enabled by your family. I’m also being enabled by my family.If I reach my mid 30s and I’m living like you are I’m offing myself
>>32584583what wagie job do you enjoy?
>>32587254Just get yourself out there more man while it's early. Don't be like me and borderline be a shut in. Find a hobby that gets you out to go somewhere or volunteer even to have a common task with others
>Basically a loserI disagree with you anon, from your post it sounds like you are winning more than you think. Good luck with your future plans.
>>32585063What are u sleeping on now? Can you not bring your bed with you?
>>32588703I sleep on my childhood single bed lol.Kind of want to keep things light ATM until I find a good mattress. I like the idea of just folding the bed away to have more space. I essentially sleep on my back now anyways. Plus it won't fit in my car.>>32588661Dunno. Keep telling myself that I'm doing better than I think Just hope the money I invest pays off decent in the long run. If I don't end up doing anything worthwhile I can give my portfolio to one of my nephews or nieces (my sister's kids) who hopefully benefit from it and put it to better use
>>32584583Do you look your age?
>>32589970I often get mistaken for being young or mid/late 20s but once i speak to people they realise I'm in my 30s
