I think living in this era is absolutely shredding my mental health. I’m a 20 year old average guy, I read, workout, have hobbies and a modest amount of friends. Yet despite that I can’t help feeling like I’m actually sub human and misanthropic because of the era I live in.I’m 175cm, didn’t think anything of it really until the internet hammered it into my head that I’m a manlet. I’m generally described as handsome by my friends but can’t help feeling hideous because of the constant stream of inhumanly attractive people I see online. I’m fairly moderate in my poltics but I feel like everyone around me is constantly trying to pull me into some political agenda now. I enjoy books and movies but the constant mind numbing discourse about them online by Reddit type intellectuals makes me never want to talk to anyone about it anymore.I’ve been working on cutting out more and more of my internet usage but this stuff has seeped into real life so I’m exposed to it no matter what. I genuinely wish I lived in a pre internet era, I already collect vinyls and cassettes just as a form of pinning for the more simple and authentic era my older family members describe growing up in.
>>32590482What are you looking for advice on?
>>32590776How do I not lose my mind living in the modern day? How do I find authenticity? How do I stop letting external influences make me loath myself? How do I escape the constant steam grating information I’m subject to?Anything that alleviates everything I listed really.
>>32590820*stream of grating information
>>32590820larp that it's 1975
>>32590482It's all about the face so if you have that it doesn't matter if you are a manlet.
>>32590482Take on the stoic mindset of "I can't change it, therefore I don't worry about it." Keep on doing your reading, exercising, and socializing. Know that yes, the internet would lie to you, so don't pay it any mind beyond useful information like weather and local happenings. Reddit, and honestly anywhere that reviews immaterial stuff like books or film, are largely garbage and should be treated as such.As for the subhuman part, remember that there are fully grown adults who are illiterate. Adults who don't take care of their physical or mental health. Adults who's only life pleasure is derived from sportball numbers. You don't need to buy all this extra shit to not be exposed to these people. Just don't interact with the online shitheads. Pretty much the only places I still visit is this haitian cooking forum, The Internet Archive for downloading movies and anime, kissanime for the shows I can't download, and youtube/ytmp3.cc for adding to my local music folder. No need to be a retro consooomer. Just don't give a fuck about what irrelevant others might think about you.
>>32590820>How do I not lose my mind living in the modern day?Realize putting in effort and expecting results is what makes you lose your mind. Blackpill is right: if it doesn’t come naturally (speaking strictly of relationships and making friends) then give up. Buddhism had a point that ego and attachment to the end result hurt us in the end, but they missed the part where humans need a goal to strive towards, otherwise there’s no point putting in effort to begin with.
>>32590863I mean to a degree I already do, I try to be as analog as possible I mostly listen to music on vinyls and my mp3 player, I’m planning on getting a Sony Walkman at some point. Still it’s hard not to use stuff like social media when all your friends expect you to have it and get annoyed/nag you if you don’t. Even when I’m not using the internet I do feel its effects because my friends will often regurgitate stupid takes and stuff they read online to me. Some are much less egregious with it but even then it’s noticeable that they use a lot of social media in the way they talk or reason about things.>>32590873Well I mean It’s less about that and more about the constant stream of expectations and beauty standards that kill my confidence. I know I’m not actually that short but because of social media I *feel* like I’m some kind of malformed freak because of it, same with my face, I know I have good traits but I *feel* hideous when I see some actor or other celebrity who has a perfect face.>>32591069I did use to read a lot of stoicism when I was in my early teens and back then I really could embody that kind of thinking but everything just seems so grating now. The background noise of beauty standards, polarised politics and inauthenticity that seems to just perforate everything and everyone in varying degrees. No singular post or stupid take really gets to me but it does wear me down little by little until I’m a insecure and exhausted shell.I know I’m not really subhuman but it’s hard not to feel I am when I see someone bragging about their 7 foot six figure demigod life or a thousand studies on why ill never accomplish anything because of xyz reason.I do mostly download stuff like you mentioned but I do also just like physical things for some kind of sentimentality. It feels nice to actually own and hold a song, movie or book.
>>32590820My cope is no TV, listen to Buddhist talks occasionally and sometimes a bunch, read regularly, study a bit of linguistics, and basic religious (= traditional moral conduct / self-mastery) practices like never paying for sex, eating healthy and doing my own cooking, studying and trying to understand what people wiser than me say and write, gardening.I'd like to also volunteer a bit and fast but I'm still ramping up to that, need to put together a bit more stamina and strength for that.
Oh and I do not engage with politics, I don't vooooote either, I don't discuss my politics, I barely read the news.
>>32590482I am 187cm and yet ive never had a girlfriend. Height doesn't matter anywhere near as much as doomcopers would like to think, your social skills and willingness to take risks and talk to people is 95% of it.The inhumanly attractive people you see online don't actually look like that they use tons of AI filters to enhance themselves and spend 15 minutes taking that perfect photo, you too can do it.Anyone that doesn't agree to disagree over politics and forces it is not worth being friends with. Online friends will never be true friends and interacting online expecting anything more than conversations the length of a 4chan thread is delusional.>I enjoy books and movies but the constant mind numbing discourse about them online by Reddit type intellectuals makes me never want to talk to anyone about it anymore.Normal people aren't redditors.As to how to proceed from here, really the only answer is to find more real interests and fewer screen based ones. Or get a job that works too.
>>32591369>dont engage in politicsok but did you get the covid shot? you and everyone on earth chose their standing through what is now in your veins. Is it human blood, or Science? You dont get to be nonpolitical anymore, or I would be too.and in case you haven't noticed, if you dont jump at the chance to discuss how bad conservatives/trump are, when its brought up by your commie friends, your chats, your job, you're automatically assumed to be one
>>32591483No, I'm not a GMO specimen.Big difference between obsessing over the news and the absolute minimum of local "political" action, which for me doesn't even include voting anymore.>trumpI don't know wtf you're on about, I'm European and obviously it would've been better for American voters to get a second term of Trump directly rather than the absolute senile moron that was Biden.
>>32590482https://youtu.be/lqZehFAwoTM?t=32It's over as soon as you turn 18 and leave the school system without a well established social circle. You go to work but you won't make any friends, just coworkers. You join a sports club, same deal. It's over, because everyone already has their social circles locked in since childhood. You'll be nothing more than a coworker, destined to be alone for life. Social life and relationships are like trains you have to catch at the quay, a race against time that takes place during adolescence. And by extension, logically, ofc, no social life, no women.But normies don't understand this because they are clueless normies who think you can walk into a bar full of strangers and magically form a social life like in The Sims. Only women can start from scratch and create a social life and get a boyfriend from scratch because of their status as women.Whether you're 20 or 40 it doesn't change anything, maybe for the normies, but for you and me Chud, a year is like any other, the sands of time flowing towards nothingness, nothing less and nothing more.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mLNAkPsjAEk
>>32590482You and the sad black girl should become friends. I bet youre both hot. >>32554860
>>32590482I have this theory that women only talk this way about men as a reaction to men objectifying us all the time. Truth is, men are just more visual and while appearance (height) still matter to women of course, it doesn’t seem like as much of big deal to many of us. Certainly not in comparison to personality, intelligence or career. The worst thing a shorter (you’re not short btw and you’re taller than most women in almost every country) man can be is insecure. I promise you that. Just take care of yourself and speak to yourself with kindness.
>>32590482Read the Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt. You will understand.
>>32590482I am basically in the same position, here is my plan. I already try to minimize all media consumption, 4chan is the only site I really enjoy. Plan A: make money and save aggressively in a tolerable job. live a very spartan lifestyle. basically just work out, save, keep up with family and close friends. Once I have enough money, get property in a secluded area and work as little as possible. Plan B (burn out plan): If I hate working and cannot do it long enough to save enough money, I have two alternatives: join the french foreign legion or go to graduate school for something I enjoy. Plan C: If, for whatever reason I cannot do plan A or B, I will just be a neet, I don't care. Meditating helps. I always try to bare in mind that even though this world is evil, there are good people, and I am under no obligation to be "productive" I can easily join the FFL, or, if it gets that bad, kill myself
>>325939751:14 kek that was average in the 80s just another reason to wanna go backother than that, ordinary average boring, somewhat creepy song written by member of one of the world's biggest bands and if it wasn't, and was written today by one of us nobodies it'd not even have a chance at negative feedback it'd disappear into the void of spotify, soundcloud, or youtube, and never be heard again. another reason to wanna go back.
>>32590482literally me>>32590820gain ambition without grandiosity
