Trying to make a long story short, looking for genuine advice.I've been in love with a girl from college for the past 12 yrs. After many years of her being with other guys, finally got the chance to be in a relationship with her. She is very hot, would say 9/10. We've been dating for 6 months and unfortunately I suspect she is a narcissist. She constantly has tantrums and attacks other people based on their looks. Reminds me that she can get any guy she wants and that she is hot and should not work. She expects me to support her financially and wants to be a tradwife. I can't talk about female friends or coworkers without her attacking them as ugly and fat. Lately she's been pressuring me to get engaged quickly, even though I'd like us to get to get to know each other better. She gave me an ultimatum and ghosted me for 2 months (during that time I found out she actually was with someone else). When confronted her, especially since she assured me she loves me and only wants to marry me, she said the guy "said the rght things and wanted to get engaged" (mind you she had just met him and saw him for 2-4 weeks).Other than that we are very compatible physically, sex is unbelievable and I feel like I've been wanting to be with her for so long that I think I could overlook the other things. Obviously this is me thinking more wiht my dick. Friends have warned me this could end up badly. My brain is 50/50, some days I'm ready to get married, others I think it is a bad idea. Please tell me your thoughts, advice.
>continuedOne thing to mention is that I feel like this is my one opportunity which makes it all the much harder. I'd say I'm more of a 6 and she is definitely a 9-10 and so that part of me keeps thinking I need to act before it's too lateam I being stupid?
Go marry her! You sound perfect together. I wish you and her the best of luck.
>>32590877>I've been in love with a girl from college for the past 12 yrsOh yeah, marry a woman in her 30s solely for her looks. What can go wrong?
>>32590877>I've been in love with a girl from college for the past 12 yrs.NGL, this is pathetic. You are guaranteeing yourself a life of misery and the rest of your post supports this. You only mention superficial things (what she looks like, how she attacks others for their looks, etc). My solid advice is to fuck her as much as you can to get over your puerile crush, dump her, then reevaluate your life choices.Don't think "I will fix her." That will only guarantee your misery.
>Hey, there is this 9/10 with a terrible personality going full golddigger on me!You really need to rate both on looks and personality. She sounds more like a 5/10, best case.Block her. Move on, get a life.
>>32590877If you have any hiccups about marrying her, she's not the girl for you.
>>32590976Part of me thinks this is probably the best course of action but I'm also thinking the person I've been wanting to be with for a while is now basically asking me to choose her and it's up to me to do it and don't want to waste the opportunity. At the same time, I feel like I had a view of how she was and unfortunately it is not how she is in reality..
>>32591094You will regret this for the rest of your life if you marry this woman, anon. You will make any excuse to do what you want to do, but you know she is bad news. She cheated on you, she berates you, she belittles you, she is using you. This woman will never respect you, and you’ll be the fool that married a broad with an old battered pussy who will never be a good woman to you. It seems like you have decent money, find a nice girl that’s in her mid to late 20s and will respect you
>>32591113Thank you anon, you are right, I keep making up excuses for her behavior and keep hoping things would get better but without communication and trust I don't see how that would happenFunny thing is she is convinced she "didnt do anything wrong" because when she ghosted me she was technically not with me.To me it was cheating, especially after she said how she wanted to be with me and came back right after things didn't work out with the other guy as if nothing happenedShe is not talking to me right now, says she will talk to me when I'm ready to get engaged, but I'm pretty sure she is seeing other people in the meantime, it's all fucked up. When I asked her "are we together then? since you say you want to get engaged" and she just replied "we've been together, it's up to you now to get married"
>>32591144Why would you want to marry someone like that?
If she cheated on you, why would you even consider marrying her? Why is that a possibility in your head? It doesn't matter if she agrees she cheated, the only thing that matters is that you feel she did. If she just randomly stopped talking to you for a few weeks without saying anything (ghosting you) and didn't break up with you, then it's pretty straightforward cheating. Someone who thinks that just not talking to you for a period means you aren't together, and constantly does this to pursue other people, isn't serious about you. She just wants to get married because she's aging out. She doesn't care who marries her. That is, she's desperate and manipulative. This is a bitch to bang and broom. You don't take roasties home to mumma.
>>32590877You are her beta orbiter. You are her plan B. If you marry this girl, you will be miserable guaranteed. You may think you are miserable now, but take it from a married man; things can become soooooo much worse than you can possibly imagine with a girl like this.
>>32592357lets hear your story
>>32590877>been in love with a girl from college for the past 12 yrs. After many years of her being with other guysThis is bait lmao herb
>>32590877>After many years of her being with other guysThats a deeply ingrained behavior which is not going o magically stop because you put a ring on her and she can take half of everything you'll ever own when she divorces you for the next guy.Shes for the streets, sorry. Everything you describe about her is the opposite of marriage material. She can want anything all day long she's not going to get it.Find a younger, less messed up girl.
>>32591094>I feel like I had a view of how she was and unfortunately it is not how she is in reality..What could possibly go wrong with marrying that? (sarcasm)She may have been worth marrying back when she was 23 but unless you build a time machine that ship has sailed.
>>32590877>After many years of her being with other guys, finally got the chance to be in a relationship with her.
