tmi warning, but i have an insatiably high sex drive and i have no idea why. ive been this way my whole life, even when i was a child, as i grew up watching my mother prostitute herself constantly (no, i never liked seeing my mom have sex in any way as im a straight female.) anyways, is it normal to be like this just randomly? idk, i hate feeling this way. some people have said i might be hypersexual, but i get highly uncomfortable doing sexual things with others so the only “experience” ive had was being sexually abused. does anyone have tips on how to help this kind of situation?
is that a bad thing for women? so people might call you a slut or something, so what?
>>32594712for me it is, i cant satisfy myself but i am also too uncomfortable to do anything sexual with guys. and im not worried about being called a slut, i just dislike constantly thinking sexual things, especially with no way to stop it.
>>32594723you're only a slut if you're having tons of sex outside of a committed, monogamous relationship. find a good man to marry and fuck like rabbits
>>32594733i guess. another issue is that im insecure about my high sex drive, and have problems trusting people in general. maybe one day ill end up meeting someone who i feel comfortable with tho.
>>32594753men naturally have a higher sex drive than women and womens sex drive significantly drops both as they age and when they are in a monogamous relationship while mens sex drive doesn't drop much even into our 60sthe only time men have a problem with women who have a high sex drive is if A they are turbo sluts outside of monogamous relationships or if she cheats gets resentful because the man either cant or wont fuck her twice a day everyday for months on end
>>32594807i see. well, i wont be having to worry about the last parts since im huge on monogamy. i suppose i am scared of the idea of making him (“him” as in whoever i end up with.) uncomfortable with how i am, but that soothes some of my worries.
>>32594699>I was a child, as i grew up watching my mother prostitute herself constantly>seeing my mom have sex>I was a child>seeing my mom have sex>i have an insatianly high sex drive>and i have no idea whyYour mother had grown men perform explicit sex acts on her while you, a child, were made to watch.
>>32594890thanks, that made me laugh. i did put that in there since i know it could be partially why, but i never enjoyed seeing it so, idk lol.
>>32594914wait you SAW the acts? that's horrifying wtfI thought like you just saw them coming and going.
>>32594920yes, my mother would often do those things when we only lived in a 1 bedroom apartment so i would typically see it. unless she wasnt home, of course.
>>32594914>but i never enjoyed seeing it so, idk lol.Yeah and I never enjoyed watching my parents viciously fight to the point of mutual borderline domestic abuse, yet still I wound up dating women who recreated that with me every time. Trauma is a weird bitch. It will have you recreate and perform the same shit that scarred you. So for you, what ‘home’ looked like was a hypersexual dysgenic and fucked up place. When you get close to someone, when you want to feel at home with them, guess what the back of your mind wants to recreate?>hypersexual sex, unwanted too. Because notice you have the hyper drive and yet you also say>i get highly uncomfortable doing sexual things with others.Just like watching momma defile herself repeatedly in front of you, and you hated to watch it. You spoke your own pattern in your OP post.
>>32594943stay strong
>>32594947thank you, im doing my best.
>>32594699>i have an insatiably high sex drive and i have no idea why.To stop being weird, simply do not act on the sex drive.To stop feeling differently, that is actually very hard and may require the use of a trained doctor to modify your brain's chemical levels.> is it normal to be like this just randomly?Not usually> the only “experience” ive had was being sexually abused.Oh! I know that one. You know how if you have to get out of bed at 5am you'll feel all shitty for the rest of the day 'cause your body didn't have time to get its shit in order when you hauled it out of bed?That's what happened with your sexuality. Instead of waiting until adolescence before waking up like in a normal person, someone looked at you when you were a child and was like "TIME FOR YOUR SEXUALITY TO WAKE THE FUCK UP RIGHT NOW, SLACKER" and now your sexuality's all grumpy since it got woken up early.Might just need a few more years of rest so it can catch up on development.
>>32594945yeah, i often find a lot of things im “into” come from traumatic experiences. it sucks but, not sure how to change something like that. i hope you are doing okay though after whatever youve been through.
>>32594943Were you safe? Did any of those men try to interact with you? Because prostitute mothers bring very sick and disturbed men into the home. Dozens, hundreds of times. A number of these types of men would see a young prepubescent girl as something to prey on.
>>32594972>i often find a lot of things im “into” come from traumatic experiences. it sucks but, not sure how to change something like that.1. Identify which sexual habits are inspired by trauma2. When you notice the unconscious parts of your brain trying to get horny for those habits, or trying to get you consciously involved in those habits, be like "No, that's sus"3. Spend a bit of time each week trying to get horny for stuff that you probably should be horny for instead. Can only be like 10mins a week, that's good enough to start with.If you keep saying No to the old habits and impulses, eventually they'll get weak enough for you to ignore them
>>32594973the sexual abuse i endured mainly came from men my mother brought around, though she didnt care. i havent spoken to my mother since i was a teen though so im doing better now.
>>32594972>yeah, i often find a lot of things im “into” come from traumatic experiences. it sucks but, not sure how to change something like that.You gotta do the whole trauma confrontation thing. Means going back in time emotionally and reliving the severe pain, fear, humiliation, with no copes, kinks, or denial to save you. Doing that in a safe and controlled way, ideally with a therapist or with someone you trust and is trustworhy. Once your mind sees it as the abhorrent thing that it is, your gain a repulsive contempt for it. No longer something you wish to recreate. Thank you, I am doing a lot better. I still carry pain, pain always happens. This time I carry it, instead of it burying me. Stay strong.
>>32594997>relive your sexual traumaOnly the best advice here
>>32595013Not sure if you’re being sarcastic, but yes. That is how trauma resolution is handled. Pain cures itself. To make antivenom, it needs venom. Think of it like pulling out an arrow. You need to cut yourself open, dig in, feel pain, grab the thing and pull it out slowly. It is extremely painful, but when it’s out it’s out. That’s called processing trauma. Again, only do it with a professional and with some guidance. Short doses.
>>32594994>>32594997thank you both, i was initially afraid posting something like this would just lead to trolls and whatnot, so thanks for the genuine advice. ill try these methods, and hopefully ill improve. part of me already is disgusted with certain things i “like” so identifying wont be a huge issue. to everyone else who replied, thanks to you too. i hope you all are doing well or that things get better for you if youve experienced similar things.
>>32595040>I was initially afraid posting something like this would just lead to trolls and whatnotUnserstandable. People like that are usually a bit broken themselves. What I do is forgive em. Some people need to make jokes as tragic horrific things to cope. I used to do that, it’s because I got hell if I dared to cry at home. I chose laughter instead.You’re not alone femanon. And fucked up as your experiences were, remember: you can cut a 3 inch scar onto a 4 inch tall sapling. It seems awful and ugly right? 90% of it is fucked. Grow that sapling into a giant oak tree, 30ft high. Soon those inches of ugliness seem like nothing in comparison to where you grow. So live and grow, OP. God bless you.
>>32595056i used to be in that boat when i was a teen too, so i understand how it is.thank you again, i truly needed to hear those words. may god guide and bless you.
I was raped by asian anime girls so that’s why i am obsessed with caitlyn from league of legends.The only way I can possibly recover is if another asian girl fucks me. Preferably to death. Someone please help.
>>32594699If you don't have any sexual experience, that rather suggests you *don't* have a high sex drive. If you did, you'd actually be having sex instead of just thinking about it.
>>32594699literally me but a manget therapy
>>32595411stupid.
>>32594699id say that youre traumatized from seeing your mom sell her body and the sexual abuse and have developed hypersexuality in order to cope and normalize those behaviors. this is definitely worth talking to a therapist about if you can afford it.
