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>Autistic
>Try to be friendly at work
>Say something kind of corny but heartfelt today
>Coworker makes fun of me, others around let mask slip and laugh
>I realize everybody just thinks I'm a retarded freak and are only nice to me as a courtesy, the same way people in high school would interact with the actually retarded kids
What should I do if there is no place on Earth for me?
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If you have aspergers it's almost impossible to be charismatic and likeable, so the better option is to be disagreeable and blunt. Otherwise no one will respect you.
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>>32596519
Become a satanist or something, study the occult and become smarter than everyone else and more powerful.
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>>32596519
If you're smart and analytical, it's entirely possible for you to teach yourself normie social skills and normie behavior. The key is to study human interaction like you would study a tricky video game, a chess board or a youtube video on dismantling car engines or whatever.

It'll take a lot of effort and time, but start people watching. Watch their faces, posture, eye contact, tone of voice and body language. Watch these things constantly. Watch the way popular people at your work carry themselves, and watch what they do to get positive responses. Try to mimic them. When talking to somebody try to mirror their eye contact, looking at them when they look at you and looking slightly away when they look slightly away.

When you talk to somebody, pay attention to their reactions. If you think they reacted poorly to what you said or did, spend some time analyzing it after the conversation ends. Analyze as many social situations as you can. If you can become obsessive about people watching, great. Make it a special interest of yours.

It'll take years if not decades of dedicated people watching and analysis, but you'll slowly begin to learn how to mask your disability and pass for normal. Don't give up.
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>>32596519
>>32596555
>>32596556
Stop trying to fit in. You will never be accepted. Instead, be different, embrace it. Dont let faggots walk all over you.
>>32596551
Do what this nigga suggests
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>>32596590
No, this >>32596556 guy is right.

OP, I understand your struggles. It's very difficult to be a person who genuinely wants to get along with others, and it feels like you're taking a test that you have never studied for. I used to be very socially bad, but in the last 5-6 years I have finally learned how to be at least passable socially. It takes a lot of work and contemplation. Learning the different concepts of socialization when you're impaired like this seems overwhelming, but the more you train the more you will get better. Sure, you'll probably never be as good as others but it is probably the most necessary skill if you aren't some sort of savant or genius where the value produced by your intellect compensates for your social deficiencies.

I have known some people in school and work settings that probably were autistic or on the spectrum and are despised, hated by the people they're around. I sympathise with their struggles because before I became decent in social situations I would have been doing those exact same things. It's like watching a toddler walking into traffic when they don't have the concept of "death" in their heads. You don't want to be a social outcast, the goal here is to be at least tolerable.

Good luck OP. I still work on my social skills, it's a never ending process.
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do steroids and train mma and just beat up people who laugh at you. guarantee they’ll shut the fuck up next time.

or shoot up a school
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>>32596688
>>32596556
I am improving my masking but it feels pointless, if I'm always masking then I'll never meet anyone who loves the real me.
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>>32597530
That's a downside obviously but this is what we can afford. If you're willing to pay the price of being your true self in exchange for a chance of finding love, go ahead.
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>>32596519

>> I realize everybody just thinks I'm a retarded freak and are only nice to me as a courtesy

Correct. No one likes autists. Autists are not people. Most people instinctively understand the threat your kind post with your lack of empathy and toddler tantrums in adult bodies.

>> What should I do if there is no place on Earth for me?

Rope?
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>>32597665
>Most people instinctively understand the threat your kind post with your lack of empathy and toddler tantrums in adult bodies.
As opposed to normalfags who are manipulative, sociopathic, opportunistic scum?
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>>32596519
Change your job. "Normal" people don't fit in into just any workplace either
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>>32597665
Most people aren't people either. Get raped fag *plap plap plap with blood as lubricant*
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>>32597681
>>32597842

Oh noes, the autists are upset again because they know what I'm saying is true. You aren't people and you know it. You're a mistake of nature. You shouldn't exist. Fix natures mistake. Rope.
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>>32597844
>Oh no-*gets raped again as the typical rapist is the fellow normal adjusted social man as proven by statistics plap plap*
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>>32597847

Keep seething autist. Everyone hates you. Everyone. Especially your family who you burden the most.
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>>32597850
>Ke-*more pointless noise muffled by rape*
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>>32597844
>>32597850
Obvious troll is obvious.
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>I realize everybody just thinks I'm a retarded freak and are only nice to me as a courtesy

That hit home, we can we autists together op
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>>32596556
This

It takes years and you'll leave a trail of regrets and embarrassment, but you will come out at the end more socialized and able to "interface" with people.
Most people/normies complete their socialization when they're little. Some people inevitably fall through the cracks.

>what should I do if there's no place on earth for me
Have some agency. If there is truly no place on earth for you then you will make a place for you.
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>>32597854

Yeah, you know everyone hates you.

>>32597856

Nah mate. Just truth. We used to throw autists off cliffs. Then we put them in cages. Now we can identify them in the womb when abortion is still viable. It's only a matter of time before autism is a mandatory abortion trait.
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>>32597530
Get to know people who seem non-judgmental. Mask at first but also be up front and honest
>Hey I'm actually pretty weird and aspie, and you'll see this as you get to know me
They'll see through the mask in bits and pieces, and if they are decent people who think you're worth their time, they'll stick with you. And if not then you'll have learned even more about humans for next time.
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>>32597869
I think autism comes from gut microbiome in the early ages and it cannot be diagnosed in the womb.
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Reminder that if you're on 4chan there's a 99% chance that you have some mild form of 'tism. Normal people don't come here.



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