I'm going to throw a dinner party. Gibs me some advice.
>>32597604Why are you having a dinner party?
What are you seeking advice about specifically?
>>32597621So I can make friends and be social.>>32597635I haven't done this since college and never by myself. Where do I start?
>>32597637Get a bluetooth speaker and dim the lights a little bit. Make sure you have drinks. Is it a sit down and eat situation or like a grill type event?
>>32597664Sit down and eat
>>32597637I'd start by deciding how many people you want to have there. Then invite people, see what they say. If you get people coming. Decide on what food you will cook, and cook it. Eat together, talk. Afterwards, talk some more in the living room or play a party game like charades or similar. Make sure your house is clean before guests arrive. People will judge you on your toilet. Make the place inviting to be in. >>32597664He said a dinner party, not a party party or a bbq.
>>32597672Just beer and wine then. And triscuits, for some reason. >>32597677a dinner party can be a lot of things.
>>32597697>beer and wineI'm Christian. How about soda pop and grape juice?
>>32597697No, it can't. A dinner party is a sit down event where people come over for dinner and polite conversation. Afterwards they continue polite conversation over coffee and desert, potentially whilst playing a dinner party game. They classically do not have music. Wine is usually consumed, which is traditionally brought along by the guests as gifts to the host for the meal. A party party, is a party. A bbq where you grill and eat outside with your friends is a bbq. These are NOT dinner parties. >>32597705What does christianity have to do with consumption of wine?
>>32597721Not looking to get into a debate, suffice to say that my church is very anti-alcohol.
>>32597721>watched the Dinner Party episode of the office
>>32597725Not trying to start a debate. I've just never heard christians be against consumption of alcohol because of their faith. Alcohol consumption is party of many church rituals. If your church is against alcohol consumption, could you not drink alcohol removed wine? Remembering that all fruit juices, and products containing plants in a processed state contain some alcohol...
>>32597604since you said its a sit down and eat type of situation, put some chill music and dim the light a little, make sure the music isnt too loud otherwise no one can get comfy enough to chat lol. Buy some grapes, cheese, crackers, some pepper jam, etc you know some simple and light finger foods. For drinks, buy some regular juice, and maybe some sparkling water, soda is a bit too gassy. Get some party games ready! card games work too
>>32597741why are you grilling him about not wanting to drink alcohol? point is he doesnt want to get drunk, not hard to comprehend
>>32597733I don't watch nor get my information about how society functions from try hard comedies. I inform myself by living in the real world and having an active social life. A dinner party is explicitly one thing.
>>32597744I'm not. I'm asking if alcohol removed wine will work. A dinner party is a formal occasion, it isn't just friends coming over for a meal. Part of the tradition of a dinner party is wine. Alcohol removed wine has less alcohol in it than fruit juice. I'm asking if that would work for his situation. Maybe work on that reading comprehension
>>32597759I'll just do grape juice, maybe sparkling.
>>32597742A dinner party does not generally have music. The focus is on conversation. Usually one would choose guests who may create fun conversations. Such as guests with opposing ideas on a topic but common ground on others.
>>32597766Could I go for some unoffensive quiet background music? Like traditional pop and soft jazz?
>>32597764Whilst you should have a few bottles as a reserve, your guests should primarily bring the drinks as gifts.
>>32597771Soft background music would be nice in the event of a long silence.
>>32597771Definitely not pop. I wouldn't make background music a thing throughout the event. Again, the focus is on conversations. If a conversation turns explicitly to music you may play some for the purpose of further facilitating the conversation, or perhaps if there is a,game that requires music. Otherwise most music isn't really appropriate. You may get away with soft classical or structured jazz while everyone is arriving and saying hello, but once the first course is served the music should stop.
>>32597783If there's a long silence, your dinner party is dying and you didn't consider your guest list appropriately. Guests should be selected explicitly because the existence of two or more in the room together will naturally spawn interesting conversation that all party members can participate in. At least two of the guests shouldn't know everyone else. As the host, it's your job to keep conversations flowing and direct the conversation such that it naturally moves to other topic and continues for hours. A dinner party has no end time, but in my experience, they usually go for between 4-6 hours.
Remember too that a dinner party has between 3-7 courses. Each of which should be self made at home. Are you sure you want to throw a dinner party? Are you sure you don't just want a meal with your friends?
>>32597800>7 CoursesAnon's dinner party experience comes from First Class Titanic dining
>>32597819No. It comes from elocution and etiquette lessons as a child, and attending many dinner parties in adulthood.
>>32597819Also worth noting that strictly speaking there is no dinner party in this movie. That's more a simple meal with invited guests. It isn't a formal occasion.
