The title basically. I dated a girl for a month and a half before she ghosted me in December, and even now I'm thinking about how she dated other guys in the past before me and I feel really negatively about it. She probably had sex with them too, and I never had the chance to have sex with her. I wanted to lose my virginity to her but she cut ties already and never communicated why. What a bitch. Separately, my friend hooked up with several girls and I was really jealous of him for a while. Fuck's wrong with me?
It sounds like you're dealing with a mix of hurt and insecurity, and that’s totally normal after experiencing rejection or feeling like you missed out on something important. It’s easy to get stuck comparing yourself to others, but everyone’s journey is different. Jealousy often comes from a place of feeling inadequate or unfulfilled, so try focusing on your own personal growth instead of comparing yourself to others’ experiences. It’s important to process your feelings around the girl who ghosted you, but holding onto negative emotions about her or her past won’t help you move forward. As for your friend, try to see that his experiences don’t take away from your own worth or path. The key is shifting your focus inward—focusing on building confidence, setting your own goals, and being patient with yourself as you grow emotionally. It’s okay to feel jealous, but use it as a reminder to invest in your own well-being and trust that your time will come, on your terms.
>>32597991nice chatGPT reply, worthless.
>>32597994Grow up.
>>32597987Please stop valuing sex so highly. If losing your virginity is one of your life's goals that will warp your judgement and character because women stop being ends in of themselves as people you can have a mutually fulfilling relationship with and become means by which you can use their vaginas. Directing all of that rent free energy towards building an actual relationship with another human being of the opposite sex would have eventually landed you the sex that you desire and would likely be a much more fulfilling experience than losing your virginity to someone that you dated for a month because she had a vagina. I'm not saying that this was the case but if I had to guess she probably figured that you were just desperate to get in her pants and decided to ghost you; obviously I can't say that for certain but it doesn't take a genius to realize when someone doesn't care about you for who you are.Re-orientate your priorities and you'll find that you'll be a lot more successful and fulfilled in the long term; jealousy is merely a reflection of the ineptitude that you're critical of having which can easily be fixed by positively working towards it, not being so critical of yourself and even letting go of whatever meaningless ego was ever attached to such an item (e.g. losing your virginity -> man -> not a loser).
>>32597987Get a romantic and sexual life of your own
>>32598235I did focus on building a connection and I didn't talk about sex at all with her, I have no idea what went wrong but clearly we weren't a good fit. >>32598273How? I thought I had a romantic life before she ghosted so now I'm back to square one.
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