i've always had two 'sides' to myself and i don't know which is 'me'. one side is playful, snarky, scruffy and presents as boyish as possible to the point of crossdressing; the other is reserved, brooding, and presents very feminine with a focus on elegance.i don't know which is the real me, i go back and forth and its not did but more drastic than a change in mood. if i try and merge them then i compromise on the traits that i like in both sides. if i see something that resonates more with one side, i'll feel really determined to choose that side until the feeling fades and i go back to not knowing what part of me to choose again.i know i sound unlikeable and for lack of a better term extremely cringe, but it's just for me. i failed at socializing and have no desire for friends/a boyfriend. talking to others just bores me and wastes time.what should i do? what side should i choose, if any?i can't explain it well. i'll elaborate if needed
>>32601595the answer is bothsome persona segmentation is always inevitable, including when moods are involved t. end up changing personas even depending on the board I am
>>32601595You're alright. It's all you. You're allowed to pick and choose. just make good choices. Being effeminate isn't exactly desirable but it's a thing so whatever.
>>32601608thanks. i still want to merge them both though. its not much of a problem online where you can be anyone but in real life i find myself not even knowing how to dress some days.>>32601610thanks. aside from being a loner i'm doing okay.>Being effeminate isn't exactly desirablei'm a woman (not trans) so it's probably more desirable than me being really tomboyish but it does feel unnatural on many levels due to never getting into fashion growing up and some self-misogyny. larping as a male online and pretending i was a twink always made me feel better.
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Logic [Success:Medium]>Perhaps there are not just "two sides." Perhaps there are many sides--multifaceted, like a disco ball. Each shining their own ray of light. But (YOU) are that disco ball. There are no sides to you. (YOU) are you and you alone.
>>32605562thanks
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