I'm supposed to meet up with my biomom for the first time in years. She's the only person in my life who knows I'm gay. I deeply regret telling her. What should I do? I'm thinking about lying and saying I was confused/going through a phase.
I’m sorry you're feeling this way, and I can understand why you're in a tough spot. Meeting your biomom after so many years must bring up a lot of emotions, especially when it comes to being open about your identity.If you regret telling her about being gay, it’s important to consider why you’re feeling that way now. Is it because you’re unsure about your own identity, or is it because you’re worried about her reaction or how she might treat you? It might help to reflect on whether you’re feeling pressure to change or hide your truth because of her beliefs, or because of how you fear she might respond.Lying about your identity could feel like a temporary way to ease tension, but it’s also likely to create more stress in the long run. Over time, hiding a part of who you are can lead to feelings of isolation and regret. Being true to yourself—whether or not she agrees—is vital for your own well-being.If you feel comfortable, maybe try having an open conversation with her about your feelings before the meeting. You can express that you feel conflicted or scared about how she might react. It’s okay to not have all the answers right away, and sometimes explaining your internal conflict might help her understand where you’re coming from.Ultimately, it’s your identity, and your truth matters. It’s okay to take your time figuring out what feels right, but it’s also important to prioritize your own sense of authenticity and peace.
>>32602407Why do you regret telling her? Was she not accepting? If she did do not pretend you were lying
>>32602419I think she is fine with it, the problem isn't so much her as the fact that anyone in my life knows about it. I'm horrified that someone in my immediate family somehow finds out that I'm a fag. Also, I've sort of built up an identity about being a hardcore right wing Christian.
>>32602407>What should I do?it faggot
>>32602430That's not very construtive.
>>32602407She has enough to feel guilty and insecure about herself, and is not likely to dump any moral criticism on you.
