My girlfriend thinks im a narcissist. I personally don't think I am. While I am cocky sometimes and I do think other people are retarded from time to time I also think I'm retarded. I don't really wear flashy clothes and I don't do social media. I honestly sometimes feel like she's projecting because she cares so much about her looks. She just paid 15k to have her teeth done. Is it possible shes projecting her narcissism onto me? She does need attention or she gets angry. I really don't think I'm a narcissist though.
>>32608286Narcissist is a buzzword that is quite popular and gets thrown around a lot recently. After my own extensive experiences over the years, I have found that the people who use that word “narcissist” against others are typically the actual narcissist themselves. Think about it: You are being villainised for not conforming to the feelings of the one who calls you a narcissist. They think you are a devil for not being under their control. Take a wild guess what kind of person seeks obedience and control in others using shame as their weapon to achieve that? Just a wild guess OP.
>>32608315Bro I think she's a narcissist
>>32608337There we go. Now keep a very close eye on her. Once you keep seeing that pattern of hers repeat over and over like a broken record, you can go from:>I think she isto>I know she isStay sane, OP.
>>32608286She's definitely projecting.
>>32608377Yeah but sometimes I think my coworker is a narcissist as well. Does that mean I'm projecting onto my coworker?
>>32608437Difference between personal opinion and actively gaslighting, no?
>>32608460Yeah that's my personal opinion. I don't gaslight her and tell her she's a narcissist. I just think she's very controlling and critical of others but she never owns up to her mistakes so I think she's a bit narcissitic.
>>32608460nta, but you got it correct.Yes there is a difference a big one between personal opinion and actively trying to convince someone they are (xyz). Narcissists do the latter, a LOT. This is what they call ‘Darvo’. To (deny) the (attack) and (reverse) the (victim) and (offender). It’s a classic. So yeah, to keep control they want to keep the other person in a state of confusion or uncertainty, to make them second guess themselves. They do this by actively trying to convince them they are a villain whenever that other person tries to live their own life.
>>32608315Absolutely. I have a friend who's burned bridges with at least ten people. He constantly complains about how everyone else is a narcissist and hates him only because they're narcissistic.The reality is, he treats his friends like shit until they finally snap and abandon him. Then he says "oh they were a narcissist I'm glad they're gone."Like the other anon said, your girlfriend is likely projecting.
