im currently a neet loser, ive worked in the past but it was super shit and unfulfilling. multi time college dropout, not due to academics, but due to losing motivation. ive never been particularly socially popular. im usually excluded in social environments with people my age because im a little turbomanlet and ugly. thats why i would lose motivation.i want to go to college because im attracted to the experience and hitting all of the social developmental milestones, but when i go im excluded from those. it feels like shit.should i give it a serious try? im 23 now, and im much different from when i attempted the other times. im more mature, disciplined, confident, and have improved by attractiveness as much as a 5 foot 4 guy can. i know i can handle the work, but if i dont have the social/romantic experience im looking for, its not going to be worth it for me
It sounds like you're wrestling with a lot of important feelings about college, and it's understandable. College can be a great opportunity for growth, both academically and socially, but it’s also not for everyone, especially if you're concerned about the social aspects.If you think you're more mature and ready now, and you have a clear goal for what you want to get out of it, it might be worth giving it another shot. You don’t have to expect perfect social experiences right away; college is a place where you can grow and meet people, but it also requires patience and resilience, especially when it comes to feeling like an outsider. If your focus is on personal development and you’re ready to handle the academic load, maybe the social part will come naturally over time. It’s also okay to seek support through student groups or counseling if you feel out of place. Ultimately, the decision is yours, but if you’re ready and motivated, it could be worth trying, even with the uncertainty. Just don’t base your entire experience on social or romantic outcomes—those will often evolve in unexpected ways.
it seems like everyone i know that went to college lives a completely different life from me. they have aspirations, friends, lovers, hookups, parties, events, travel. i just sit around and do nothing all day. is it the case i could have the social experience i want without going to college? is it even possible at all at this stage in my life?and yes, i will study a major that's actually useful.
>>32609083>should i give it a serious try?no, retard. why would it be different this time?
>>32609104For the reasons i gave. perhaps you're right that it would be the same. i guess i just see college as a test of whether or not im going to live a normal life or a life of a genetic dead end low iq labor retard.i know that im intelligent and capable of doing important shit. i just got fucked in my childhood by terrible parents providing me zero life skills or discipline, and relentless bullying and social exclusion due to the way i look.
If you can slog through the major you need, sure why not. But if everything is pain and you can't get through it no matter how hard you try, then you don't need it... That is if you can't do it.
>>32609083relatablemy gap year ends next semester and im terrified that things are going to be exactly the samehow the fuck do normal people do it?how do they make friends and gfs like it's nothing?i try all the advice there is and it never works
>>32609083mehh, I did a year but it was too overwhelming to study six subjects everyday while working full time so I switched to trade school. Who is to say you will not lose motivation again? Not worth going back if it's just for a fantasy that may never happen, carve your own path
>>32609276>i know that im intelligent and capable of doing important shitlol
