For me to give you the link to all I researched for this, would take a long time to put together. Essentially you got to put your mind in reality as much as possible and less in your head. To get you to my point would be difficult. I'll start you off with a book suggestion, read Novum Organum by Lord Francis Bacon and start applying inductive reasoning to your life in as positive and careful a manner as possible. It won't be easy at first, but overtime it gets easier. The main thing is throughout life live observantly anchored in the middle while it bounces it's extremes.

>>32609283
>The main thing is throughout life live observantly anchored in the middle while it bounces it's extremes.
Can you explain this more

>>32609307
It's too difficult for me to explain it. A lot of what I learned would take me a very long time written as a book to explain it all. I'd have to honestly pick the right words to someone who isn't me. For now just ponder on that statement and think about it for a little bit.

Think of yourself like an anchor observing things.

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>>32609357
It's very commendable that you managed to reach this understanding so circuitously.
I really like the imagery you offer -- "thinking of oneself as an anchor observing things".
I've heard this worded before as "Living from your centre".

Maybe this will interest you and OP. https://undelete.pullpush.io/r/DimensionalJumping/comments/3h2yxo/the_act_is_the_fact_part_one_an_exercise/cz6mmx1/
Do mind the odd source, that guy TriumphantGeorge had very interesting perspectives on human functioning and reality and he kinda linked all of it together. Would recommend reading over his stuff.
That being said just read that, it has good advice for this general case and good book suggestions.

>>32609266
What else do you do with your time? You probably ruminate so much because you're not really doing much else. I'm willing to bet that if you spent your time more actively you would ruminate much less.