I've had a gf for 5 years, yet I feel so fucking repulsive that I don't feel like anyone desires me.I hate that I'm still fat, I'm working my hardest to change it but Its all so slow. I'm starting to doubt if people will even want me when I stop being fat.I just feel so fucking dehumanized It's horrible. Terrible.And EVERY fucking girl I meet has a boyfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!And I can't get a job cuz I'm a fucking STUDENT and I'm 29!! and I have NO FUCKING MONEY so I can't get a car. The only thing I have going for me is I rent my own large studio apartment with my own furniture.I hate this so much, and dating apps don't work at all, and I live in a country where I don't speak the language, I HATE THIS, IS THERE ANY HOPE FOR ME????????????I've IMPROVED, I have so many hobbies, I meet so many women. I'm not even joking I meet about 80 women a week and atleast 20-30 of them I've never met before.So I:1) I work out and lost 50% of the weight I'm supposed to lose to be normal BMI, I'm right now exactly in the halfway point.2) I go out and meet women3) I have interesting and expressive hobbies4) I'm not afraid to make male friends and female friends and I have both5) I have a conventionally attractive face and I dress well and smell goodWHAT MORE CAN I DO??????????WHAT MORE DOES THIS FUCKING WORLD WANT SO I CAN GET A GIRLFRIEND ALREADY???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
>I'm not afraid to make male friends and female friends and I have both>I meet about 80 women a weekHow are there no single women in your fuckhuge circles?
>>33800752I've only started doing this in the past 2 months, but I do it DAILY. So it baffles me how nothing happens??? I did ask girls out, and nothing fucking happens. They aren't interested.
>>33800729Why do you think women don't show interest in you? Be honest.
>>33800729>I've had a gf for 5 yearsWhat have you been doing with her?
>>33800806I know this feeling. Women complain about never being approached then when it happens they give a non response or agree but never plan and avoid the subject. Basically i think a lot of women aren't actually comfortable with a relationship and get validation when asked out.It just ain't worth my time.
>>33800815> Why do you think women don't show interest in you? Be honest.If I'm entirely honest, I think the real blocker is my fat. But I'm working on it, and yeah I'm less invisible than before - but I'm still not getting any dates. It hurts so fucking much >>33800817>What have you been doing with her?We had sex, we had love, constant touch, everything. BUT, I was truly lucky. And now that we've been separated for a bit over a year, I just CANNNOT FUCKING GET A GIRLFRIEND ON MY OWN!!!!! I tried apps, I gave up on apps, I'm trying real life, I have friends but not gf's, IT'S SO FUCKING DIFFICULT! I meet women and then I get excited and then I try and then nothing happens and I get disappointed and It's this CONSTANT cycle of hope/excitement/expectation and disappointment.I'm fighting against it as much as possible by trying to just have fun, without expectations. It's working somewhat, but there are moments like this one right now where I JUST FEEL SO FUCKING ROMANTICALLY LONELY EVEN THOUGH I'M AROUND SO MANY PEOPLE!! And I see all these couples and I just don't fucking get a girlfriend I'm SO FUCKING.. AAGH
>>33800833>Women complain about never being approachedThis is one of the points where black pillers are actually correct. When women say men aren't approaching anymore, they mean Chad isn't approaching them.
I was once overweight and the difference in attention from women between overweight and lean is just...not entierly sure how to describe it accurately. It's like going from being legitemately viewed as a subhuman to a human. I'm honestly not exaggerating, women are looks first >>> everything else second. You're not identified as a living being if they don't find you physically attractive.
>>33800836It's never too late for you. You'll find the right one eventually. You just have to keep looking.
>>33801098>I was once overweight and the difference in attention from women between overweight and lean is just...not entierly sure how to describe it accurately. It's like going from being legitemately viewed as a subhuman to a human. I'm honestly not exaggerating, women are looks first >>> everything else second. You're not identified as a living being if they don't find you physically attractive.god... thank you for saying this. Because I really feel this way.There was a period in my life when I was very thin, that's the only time I got a tinder date. It's also when I got my gf.Can you share more experiences about how much u weighed and how much you got to, and the change in treatment? like I assume you got a gf after you lost weight right? how did you get her?>>33801134thank you.. I'm meeting a lot of women but I FEEL LIKE A SUBHUMAN TO THEM>>33801030It makes me SO fucking jealous, they can just CHOOSE!! EVERY girl has a boyfriend, they are just PERMANENTLY IN A RELATIONSHIPWhy can't I be like that?? I'M SO FUCKING LONELY ROMANTICALLY
>>33801098None of this is a man/woman issue, I am a man and I think fat people are subhumans. You comlletely ignore fat women too.
>>33800729Stop watching porn you weirdo. You only want a girlfriend because you're a pervert. Many men abstain from sex and from any sort of sexual gratification for life and they're totally fine. Also how are you renting a studio yet don't have a job? You're probably really ugly and short, not everyone is supposed to reproduce, just accept your fate.
>>33801286Op here, I would be with a fat chick if she was nice.>>33801291>Stop watching porn you weirdo. Okay disciple of Christ, how about you bust a nut and loosen up a little?>Also how are you renting a studio yet don't have a job?Because I'm from a nice socialist country in Europe that allows you to breathe while you study instead of bury you in debt chud
>>33800729I won't read anything with such a subject line, because I know it will be a long complaint, and that is very boring on an advice board.
>>33800729Most likely your problem is that you come across as someone who hates himself. More than anything else, women are attracted to confidence. If you are confident, or able to fake it convincingly, you will have no problems.
>>33801098It's funny because I ad the exact opposite experience >>33802113It's just that so many of you guys have nothing going on except your dayjobs and aren't making things happen in a big way, so all you really have is your body.Case in point last year when I was lean I met this chick and she had very little interest in me. Now I'm the fattest I've been in my life but gained a very good reputation in my field and this same chick is trying to cheat on her fiance with me even though her fiance is lean and I have a gut.Rich fat bastard maxxing is a thing, key word being "rich"
>>33802080THISCompetence breeds confidence. Go do something OP, make things happen.
>>33800729>I have never known the touch of a woman>I've had a gf for 5 years, yet I feel so fucking repulsive that I don't feel like anyone desires meUninstall yourself
>>33802148>>33802080I used to but not anymore, I don't talk shit about myself because I noticed people only assume good things about me, so if I don't say anything bad about myself I come across as confident, and that's what I do. I think personality wise I'm very likeable. Often I make my friends laugh and volunteer at social games and stuff, like I'm super social>>33802141I made pic related. I call it the rule of 2/3rds, you have to have 2 of these 3 things to be considered attractive to women generally. I think you just had money and personality going for you because you're this business owner guy who's life is dynamic and you're able to both provide and make them feel good. I'm still a student, full time, it's not possible for me to work alongside the sheer amount of schoolwork.I feel like I got the personality part down, people like me wherever I go and I have friends, but the fitness.. it's like a repellent for women.. just this extra fat around the face. God.. so yeah but everything goes so slowly. And I live in a European country where EVERYONE is healthy weight as a BASELINE. So I'm really an outlier here, but my progress is going so so slow.. Just about 1kg a monthI want to think that this is the answer because I just don't have anything else to go off of ;( I feel like I'm doing SO well on the social part of things. I can't be any more connected and meet any more women than I currently do.My weekdays look like this: I go to school 9 to 5, at 5 I immediately go home, take a shower and eat, 6:30 go out to my event that day, come back home at 11/12. Sleep and repeat, weekend I go for more events the entire Saturday, then usually meet with friends on Sundays and do some chores. Like, I feel like I live in an episode of friends BUT NO GIRL WANTS ME ROMANTICALLY. And I'm askking why?? It's so frustrating, and I'm asking when, and I'm asking WILL IT HAPPEN??
>>33802722you sound like a Scandinavian homolord
