Why does the dating game become nightmare mode for average, non chad men in their thirties?
>>34418777Bait
>>34418777When was it ever easy for average man ?its also better than being a woman in their 30s
>>34418777>Why does the dating game become nightmare mode for average, non chad men in their thirties?Because the dating 'game' as you call it stopped being a game after high school. Most people did the 'normie' thing and grew up and grew into adulthood, so they started taking relationships seriously, stopped using words like "dating market" and "dating games" because they understood games are for children and that's why they got married and had kids in a timely fashion. Meanwhile the immature girls who have no husband to care for them and hold them at night cope by calling the ones who grew up an "ick". The immature guys use the word "cuck". And I guess trannies cope with the word "breeder". If you wanna catch up you can, anyone can, late blooming is not shameful. But it will require shame to expedite this process. The quickest way to do that is to listen to your child relatives, or if anyone you know has children, or if you hear them in the streets. The ones aged 8 - 12. Listen to their words they speak. "Sigma" "bro he is actually like a gooner" "heheh yea Stacy told me, Kyle was like a total (insert current meme word). Then realize you had been talking and thinking like a child. And that's not because of you necessarily, no need for a dramatic little pity party. What it means is, get off the Internet. Seriously just leave it for a while. The reason men and women are stagnating so hard is because they share a an interwoven culture with children now. We do it without noticing. They're in our video game lobbies, they're on social media comments, they're in every fandom every hobby every single space that was once adult and mature has now been overrun by kids. And because we don't know who is a kid and who isn't, we assume that's how adults should think and talk. So you go outside and you see you talk like a fucking child. Thank the internet for that. The Unabomber tried to warn us, but did we listen? Nah.
>>34418777Because that is something you tell yourself.
>>34420391Very good post
>>34420391i always tried to date with intention, never got into red pill talk or misogyny, never had a child-like view of social interaction as an adult, and nothing happened for me. you're naïvely overestimating the role of agency in any of this
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>anything more than 2 sentences Is spam The state of zoomies
>>34420947this >>34411405 is longer and not spam, it's asking for specific advice (on the advice board)OP's post is one sentence
this site is completely fuckeda flamewar would kill the thread fasteri doubt mods will do anything
>>34418777>Why does the dating game become nightmare modeBecause you think memes are a substitute for thought or a personality.
>avatarfag begging for le modslmao
>>34420933>i always tried to date with intentionI believe you>never got into red pill talk or misogynyI believe you>never had a child-like view of social interaction as an adultI don't believe that>nothing happened for me.I also don't believe that>you're naïvely overestimating the role of agency in any of thisI am not pretending to know you in your totality. You, like everyone else including me, have points of maturity to their character but also points of immaturity. What people call 'strengths' & 'weaknesses'. Also, I am not overestimating the role of agency. Because clearly there is a lack of agency, which is why 'nothing happened' for you. If nothing happens in life no matter what part of life, it suggests a lack of agency somewhere.However I don't think you did not execute your agency. I believe you did, and yet things didn't happen, which leads to frustration, which is why your thread is here. Now why I don't believe that you don't have a child-like view of socializing:"Dating game" "Nightmare mode". Those are descriptors for video-games. I appreciate you deliberately know this and use it for harmless analogy. But if you use those or think those often enough, mature perspective becomes lost or dulled.And why I don't believe nothing happened for you. I believe you feel nothing happened, but I guarantee things happened, opportunities presented themselves but you didn't follow through because you couldn't recognize them. And that probably happened because your mind was set on convincing itself of "nightmare mode". People who expect nightmares wait for nightmares, they forget to pay attention to the reality that making their dream real is actually not a nightmare, it's easier than they think. But if they're perfectionists they never take shots, or, they pack it all in if nothing happens right away. It takes process and consistent good faith and trying. If you're here, calling it nightmare mode it says you either lost good faith or stopped trying
off-topic spam thread>>34421169i guarantee this was copy-pasted from somewherethis might be an entire copy-pasted reddit thread & they're copy-pasting replies as templates for necrobumping to make it seem organicthere's no way to know at this point since fucking google doesn't work, u can't copy paste the phrases in quotes to see if there's a reddit postthis is vague spam social tension garbage either way though
>>34421178No, not copy pasted from reddit at all, I wouldn't go near that limp-dicked, milquetoast, servile, people-pleasing circle jerk website even if you paid me money. That website is so prolific in its cliqueish toxic positivity and fake pageantry that you don't even need to use it to know it's for self-important effeminate morons. You are thinking like someone who lives on the internet. That's why the most important thing happening in your day today is trying to notice a grand conspiracy of copy-pastes and cross referencing website cultures to prove some misguided point to yourself that you were 'right', that you uncovered a complex and super covert plot.. about a supposed copy-paste. Of an opinion. On a thread that will die after a day. On a website. On your screen, of your device or computer, in your room. Anon please get a fucking grip, turn off your computer and go find something else to do
>>34421194AI-generated reply
this world is so fucking broken
>>34421169>People who expect nightmares wait for nightmares, they forget to pay attention to the reality that making their dream real is actually not a nightmare, it's easier than they thinkNot that anon but isnt it a bit naive to treat reality on a completely different mindset if one has been having shitty experiences all his life?
>>34421204>Not that anon but isnt it a bit naive to treat reality on a completely different mindset if one has been having shitty experiences all his life?That's actually an excellent question, and I struggled with that as well because I would think people who couldn't see my dismal view at that time were idiots, or gullible, or sheep, I would always presume to think better of alternative modes of thinking and mentally I would argue for my own defeat. And then I realized what I was doing, I paused and I paid attention. I was arguing for my own defeat. I'll repeat that, I was spending my own mental energy to convince myself that my reality is fixed, defeated, and I wanted to prove to myself I was defeated. It isn't naive to treat reality from a different mindset, what's naive is only picking one and clinging to it like a comforter, like a pacifier, like a depressing teddy bear. That's what's childish, and what is mature is not settling for one perspective, the mature approach is to go and grab as many of them as you can. Don't just have one eye or two, or three, have one hundred. Then you see the bigger picture and from that picture you can see exactly where you fit in and you go and you execute that.
>>34421211How did you stop self-sabotage as you described>I was spending my own mental energy to convince myself that my reality is fixed, defeated, and I wanted to prove to myself I was defeated.
>>34418777because as a man you were supposed to spend your 20's making sure you'd be above average laterif you haven't you fucked up big timebut you still have a bit of time lefthurry the fuck up because it all ends at 40 if you haven't managed to move up in social status/fitness/looks/career/money/etc
>>34421763All I had to do was accept I was the reason for my failures but not because I tried, or because there was something innate about me that was wrong. But that what I got wrong was I made the dumbass mistake of identifying with my own thoughts. I stopped feeling like the thinker in my own head, and that meant I no longer identified with failure, I stopped making the delusional conclusion that I am a failure for the petty crime of failing. I stopped the self pity and I got busy, got my life in order
it really isnt if you have your shit together, by getting your shit together (not even just money) and being somewhat functional puts you ahead of the curve in 90% cases breh
It doesn't. OP is a homosexual liar.
