Can a genuinely based guy (one who introduced me to red pill) genuinely just be immoral and cheat on you online and watch porn because he’s self sabotaging? Can a based guy recover from this and become a better person whilst in a relationship?> I don’t want to go into too much detail >My partner said that he was gonna kill himself and talked to girls online because he was self sabotaging and being a piece of shit and didn’t care about himself anymore, said he didn’t deserve me>he did this at the beginning of our relationship, stopped, did it again in the middle, stopped, then did it once more recently , but it wasn’t cheating (that I know of) he was watching stuff on social media>he said that he’s in love with me but was getting “manipulated” by stuff and people>he’s deleted all social medias but now he just seems like he hates his life as all he does is work and talk to me plus family and friends >are guys actually happy being monogamous and not watching porn?>should I throw it all away? I keep trying to break up then sometimes he says fine and starts planning to but sometimes he begs me to stay also I love him>yes, he is very smart and based but sometimes has misinformation >he has trauma >there is a large age gap>I am very confused about if I’m being taken advantage of or if he’s genuinely just a struggling man>it doesn’t feel like we connect on a deeper level anymore, maybe because trust has been broken and I’m constantly questioning him about odd behaviors with his phone, like history always being wiped or no browser pages open.>gifts are always low effort and never much thought put into them…>his excuse is that he’s clumsy and doesn’t have an aesthetic sense Help
>>34456304>>are guys actually happy being monogamous and not watching porn?Yes. I'm a guy in a relationship with a girl. If I ever needed a wank I'd just think of her.>>I am very confused about if I’m being taken advantage of or if he’s genuinely just a struggling manFrom what you're saying, he's:>Avoiding accountability, blaming his actions on others>Talks to other women and says he only does it as a recurring self sabotage act>"Deleted" all social medias (doubt)>Blames it on trauma>Doesn't connect anymore, always wiped phoneSo yes, he's taking advantage of you.He feels no spark anymore, the only reason he hasn't broken up with you yet is because he's afraid of change. That's also the only reason why he acts nice when you threaten to break up.Find someone who genuinely cares for you.>>there is a large age gapHow big is the age gap? Who's the younger and who's the older?
>>34456358Hi. Thank you for the response. There is about a decade age gap, me being younger. We met when I was 18. Relationship has been going for 2 years now. We got married very soon into it. and I’ve just been reading another post that is shockingly similar to my situation. It is very long winded though and I’ve spent probably too much time reading it, but I’m genuinely convinced my partner posted it because of how accurate it is x) just with ages swapped and tiny details. Here it is:>>34439569Also I am sorry if I shared the link wrong. I don’t post on 4chan very much but my partner is a huge fan of it.
>>34456304If you are dating someone then porn usage should not be a thing. It's cheating. Takes a single communication to say it's not okay.
>>34456469He has totally eliminated it (so he says) for a while now, I just don’t know if I should trust him still~ he also just acts kind of cold and distant? Almost feels like he’s lying to me and can’t connect on a deeper level. I don’t know how else to explain it. Things just feel off.. I’ve always been right about my gut feelings.
>>34456358I’m also scared I’m not going to find someone like him, he’s really smart and knowledgeable and he does a lot for me now but I can’t seem to shake what he did before, I have a really hard time trusting him and it keeps nagging me. Then he gets mad at me for questioning him and not trusting him.
>>34456470He is either honest or not. Had he lied to you before? Has he snuck around on his or your device? Has he been manipulative? Any of those and it's cooked and you are better off moving in while you are still young, be with a real man and not pollute yourself more with this boy. The longer you pollute yourself the less likely you will get to be with the best possible man next.
>>34456304TldrNeither of you are based
