>>34463168
Men don't cheat because they're bored they cheat because they feel neglected or are low agency NPCs with no self control.

>>34463168
depends on the guy, many guys cant even get laid, so in many cases his 'gf' is just the first girl he could even get so he essentially didnt even massively like you and just went for it to finally get his first, in those cases if he starts 'improoving' and thinking he can 'do better' he might think about it
but if hes just a normie and actually likes you etc then maybe not

it really depends on the person, cant generalize it

>>34463189

thanks. he was never desperate to have a girlfriend but was a shut in when we met. he's not anymore tho and he had a huge glowup since, which i am super happy about, but i'm a bit scared

>>34463168
Statistically it is likely he will, can you also leave this site?

>>34463211

non-sexhavers are welcomed too:3

>>34463168
>QUESTION FOR MEN (preferably sexhavers) — would you get bored having an intercourse only with one woman your entire life?
Absolutely, yes. But I'm up front about it: I've never been in a relationship that wasn't open, and I won't date anyone who isn't completely comfortable with that.

As far as your bf is concerned, the important question is: were you his first because he could have had other women but chose not to, and you were the first woman to really interest him? or were you his first because he'd been trying to get with someone for some time, and you were just the first woman who said yes?

If it's the first, he'll probably stay loyal to you; if it's the second, he'll cheat the first chance he gets. Ex-incels are the absolute worst for that. The desperation never really goes away, and they just can't bring themselves to turn down an opportunity.

>>34463221
Fine, then I will share my non-sexhaver opinion without flaming you for being female and having sex - it depends on the person. There are some people who will do that, there are some people who won't. In my opinion, you shouldn't worry about it because you will create a problem even if there is none by being neurotic about it and hurting his emotions over something he hasn't done and you have no idea if he will ever do. If your boyfriend hasn't given you any reason to think he will do this, then you shouldn't worry about it. It really depends on the person, like the other anon said.

Becoming gradually bored is probably normal for the vast majority of people in relationships, but that doesn't mean someone will cheat on you, especially if you end up having kids, because they would value the connection you have more than temporary sexual pleasure from something new and exciting. But you would know better than any of us, because you're the only one who knows your boyfriend.

My only advice can be to not worry about it, because it can only make things worse and create the problem you want to avoid.

>>34463221
Also don't listen to the degenerate who said he has never been in a relationship that wasn't open.

>>34463251
It doesn't really matter if she was the first woman who reciprocated his interest, because that's still the first connection of that kind which he had. Telling her to worry about hypotheticals outside of her control does nothing good, especially when you say something as retarded as "he will certainly cheat on you given the opportunity" if she wasn't the first woman he ever had an interest in, despite the fact that it's statistically just false. Unless he's a nigger, he's statistically not likely to cheat even if she wasn't his first.

its a commitment and some people just cant commit, so its more about willpower than anything else

>>34463221
>>34463263
>>34463266
>>34463283

The only thing you could maybe do is make sure he doesn't have untreated adhd, besides from obvious functioning impairments, it makes you do stupid things and take stupid risks out of boredom and adhd meds fix that without any downsides to functioning

>>34463168
The excitement of sex with someone new is at least part adventure and part conquest. The excitement of sex with the same person over time is at least part confidence-building ("I can still do this for her") and part comfort ("Yes, we're still connected")

>>34463266
If you do listen to anything he said, you will just dig a hole for yourself by obsessing over questions you can't answer with certainty and disregard your own experiences and the fact that you are his first romantic relationship anyway, and then whenever you doubt yourself, because it's not something you can answer with certainty, you will become neurotic and think he is going to cheat on you because this degenerate anon told you he'll cheat the first chance he gets. This is not good for you in any way and why no one can answer this for you, and why the only valid advice is to not worry about it. Not everyone values sex above all like that degenerate anon, and not everyone who values sex above all would even do that, they just wouldn't be fully happy.

>>34463283
>Unless he's a nigger, he's statistically not likely to cheat even if she wasn't his first.
Being an ex-incel is a much higher risk factor than being black.

>>34463358
Rich coming from a guy who says he would be bored, and demands all his relationships are open, and then comes to an incel imageboard to give advice with flawed logic. Also, what a way to tell me you're a nigger without telling me.

>>34463168
>would you get bored having an intercourse only with one woman your entire life?
No. And a lot of men won't be bored with that, majority of men wouldn't be bored. And the reason for that is the same reason some women hate men - we objectify the woman's body. And because we objectify the woman's body we understand that a vagina is a vagina is a vagina and there's not even a point to cheat or leave a woman just because of skin deep shit. What a man wants is a woman who can at least consistently reciprocate his needs: Sex peace and comfort. That's all.

You're fortunate you're a woman, you can have this insecurity about him leaving you and show it to him and he will feel all manly and useful and strong and needed, like you're his damsel. When a man feels the same, he's not only shit on by men and women, the woman gets turned off and he's out lol

The man won't get bored or cheat. If he showed signs of that (actual signs, real troubling behaviours) you'd have mentioned those. But you haven't so it's safe to assume he ain't the dude who is gonna cheat.

>>34463177
This is a lie. Men absolutely cheat because they get bored.

>>34463168
Nah. I wish I wasn't with anyone else before my wife, she's the most incredible woman I've ever laid eyes on and I regret ever giving my passion to women who only wanted me for sex.

If you keep it interesting, novel, and communicate what you both like and want, your sex life with your partner can be just as captivating after a decade as it's been for the 3 years you have been together. If you do that thing he likes without him asking, surprise him with sexy outfits now and then, and tell him what YOU want sexually, he'll be a very happy man.

>t. Very lucky 26 year old man with wife for 8 years

>>34463514
>>t. Very lucky 26 year old man with wife for 8 years

Nigger or indian? Why are you even on this site? You're a complete normie fag

>>34463521
White, just very lucky to meet the right woman at the right time.

Started with lolcows, then the golden age of greentexts gave me brain damage and now I browse this cesspit website when I'm bored. Blue boards are pretty solid for info and advice too.

>>34463580
Can you leave and never come back? Can you close the site and block it from your router?

>>34463583
Nah I've been here for years, I take breaks but something about this site keeps me coming back.

>>34463593
I'll flay you nigger

>>34463168
I've tried everything (except men) and I'm ready to settle
my previous relationships, specially the first one when there were many kinds of girls I had not yet fucked I was constantly tempted
I'm not one to cheat but I yearned to be single to fuck those girls
now that I have my bucket list completely full I'm ready to marry any girl that is ok as a companion, even if sex is just good and not spectacular
but I'm a very sexual person, I wouldn't settle for someone with whom I have regular sex, for example, good is the baseline.

>>34463609
Have you tried shooting yourself in the head?

>>34463611
man, everyone is so angry lately, lol
so much jealousy

>>34463616
How can I be jealous when I'm a stone cold incel?

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>>34463608

>>34463611
>>34463619
you do sound incredibly mad over my life choices as if they affected you so it does seem like you're jealous.
anyways, I'm currently having too much fun to entertain death.

>>34463627
>>34463609
>>34463616
Sir, this is Wendy's

>>34463168
there is no better pussy than new pussy
"faithful" men are just unsuccessful and coping
>would you get bored having an intercourse only with one woman your entire life
absolutely

thank you all for the answers x)

>>34463753
You got better answers from me, an incel, than the sex-havers like >>34463730 >>34463609 >>34463251

>>34463759

thank you incel C:

>>34463759

incels like you are the reason why i went for one

>>34463168
I only want to be with one woman in my life. That's why I don't want to have sex outside of marriage.

>>34463168
Why are you asking 4chan incel chuds about what normal sexhaving men think, kek. You are like a sheep asking wolves for advice.
"A man is only as faithful as his options" - Chris Rock.
The real question is, how much temptation does your boyfriend face? Is he actually attractive?
Another aspect is whether he is emotionally needy. A lot of beta males end up cheating because they are white knights who are attracted to and can't say no to bpdDemons, and the persistent attention and traumabonding gets them laid eventually.
There are countless different kinds of men. Some guys are genuinely turbo-autists and they are so into obsessing over comic book lore to think about 3d women.
>>34463496
Don't listen to retarded posts like this. 98% of straight men are biologically hardwired to find new vagina the most exciting thing in the universe. Bone-deep, body-tinglingly exciting. A lot of dweebs like who 4chan post don't even realize it because they don't even know what it's like to get attention from women. It's easy to be sour grapes when you're an incel. But when there's a novel 3d reasonally cute woman next to you, smelling each other pheremones, and she's showing attraction it's like getting hit by lightning, it's getting hit by billions of years of evolutionary imperative to spread seed in one moment.
Men who can resist that are experienced with euphoric highs and lows of partying, drugs, and hookups, not some guy who's only had one insecure femcel 4chan posting gf his whole life.
But on the other hand, it'll probably be okay. He probably doesn't even realize how much he'd enjoy cheating, and might be too retarded to notice if a girl is sending signals. Many such cases.

Cheat on him first and cheat on him more, he will cheat if he gets the chance. He's probably technically cheating right now by looking at porn on Instagram thots, don't be loyal to him

>>34463364
>Also, what a way to tell me you're a nigger without telling me.
I'm a white ex-incel. :) But whatever helps you sleep at night.

>>34463168
If you change your body over time it helps. Have a chubby phase. Have a underweight phase. Change your hair. Develop random muscles. Let those muscles atrophy. Stuff like that. I used to get turned on by imaging my past gf with bigger or smaller tits.

>>34463168
I am a man. I lost my virginity to my girlfriend at 16. We have been together ever since, 17 years now, married for 12. I love her so much it is unreal. I am very much aware that I love her a lot more than she will ever love me. Not her fault or anything, I just love with a very rare and unusual intensity. I still absolutely love having sex with her and am not bored of her in any sense.

If she wanted to throw me a bone with an FFM then that would be cool and I would very much enjoy that. But I would never cheat or do anything against her wises and am happy for her to be my one and only sexual partner until the day I die.

>>34464061
i hope this is real

>>34464157

This "person" is just looking to find incels jealous enough to actually believe this BS. Don't fall for it.

>>34463815
>Don't listen to retarded posts like this. 98% of straight men are biologically hardwired to find new vagina the most exciting thing in the universe.
Not true, what you're describing is called sex addiction. You're in the minority of men.

>A lot of dweebs like who 4chan post don't even realize it because they don't even know what it's like to get attention from women
I've had 4 long term relationships, currently married. In my youth had plenty of female attention, proposals for casual sex with I'd rejected, and even married women trying to make a move, which I'd rejected.

>Men who can resist that are experienced with euphoric highs and lows of partying, drugs, and hookups, not some guy who's only had one insecure femcel 4chan posting gf his whole life.
I was able to resist it because I care about having self respect and a sense of honor. I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror and know I'm someone who is trying to be decent.

>He probably doesn't even realize how much he'd enjoy cheating
All you've told the OP is that you're a guy who loves to cheat. And if that's what you wanna do with your life, fuck it who am I to judge? But don't go thinking you're 98% of men. You're about 20-22% of men.

>>34464061
>i fucked my gf when she was 12 and i was 17, married with her for 16 years
Cool

>>34463168
>would you get bored having an intercourse only with one woman your entire life?
No. But I might get bored of having the same routine sex my entire life. Random bursts of sexiness count for a lot.

>or would you feel like you're missing out on something?
I can't really speak to this because I am largely against FOMO in general. I always *really* wanted a ffm threesome but realistically never will get to have one. Oh well.
I'm grateful for what I have and I know the grass is plenty green on this side of the fence.

>>34463177
>Men don't cheat because they're bored they cheat because they feel neglected or are low agency NPCs with no self control.
Largely true in almost all cases.

>>34463506
>Men absolutely cheat because they get bored.
Those aren't men. They're immature manchildren. But it does happen.

Another cause for cheating is unexpected abundance. Like when a regular guy becomes rich or famous and suddenly has 10/10 waitresses throwing themselves at him. He's not prepared for it and deludes himself.

>>34463815
>Men who can resist that have a modicum of self control and value something else more.
FTFY

>>34463168
I probably wouldn't get bored. I don't get bored of jerking off either. And it's the same motion and feeling every time more or less.

>>34464157
It is. Also, I have turned down many women for sex, both before meeting my wife, and after. When I was in college I had girls at parties literally ask her if it was okay if I fucked them. It of course pissed her off, but I'm just saying, I am a good looking guy and I used to be very magnetic too. Life has dampened my charisma, mostly because my intellectual values have caused me to drift far from normiedom, but even today I am still considered very good looking and the people that see my worth value me highly. I had and have other options, I just am fully bonded to my wife and want to live my entire life with her.

>>34464234
We are 1 month apart in age, to the day. Cope more.

>>34464360
>she was 12 years 364 days 23 hours and 59 minutes old
Ok bud

>>34464341
Stop it anon you're going to make her ovaries explode. You've passed every single checklist a girl could want in a man:
>Good looking
>Sexually experienced
>Committed and loyal
>Yet also has all the opportunities to cheat but you don't take them (shows other women vetted you and still vet you, her you choose your wife over them).

You just tickled her right in her preselection genitals and now she is going to want your number.

>>34464419
>sexually experienced
I literally said my wife is the one and only girl I have ever had sex with. I have had other opportunities, but never took them. My last gf before my wife literally broke up with me because I refused to have sex with her. My wife was simply the first person I trusted enough and wanted enough to be sexual with. And all though I have had very tempting offers from beautiful women since then, I am just completely devoted to my wife and treating her right and keeping her trust is far more important to me than being with other women could ever be. I'm not kidding, I'm pretty sure the magnitude of my love and devotion to this woman would probably qualify as mental illness in the opinions of many.

>>34464360
>>i fucked my gf when i was 12 and she was 16, married with her for 17 years
Coolio

>>34464341
this never happened literal cope of a guy who just stayed with first girl he got, its obvious too
you literally have zero charisma or game or whatever since you never really had to develop it or flirt
people who get into early relationship and stay in them are usual more average npc farmer people
but i do believe him that his gf is probably better looking than him, otherwise he wouldnt simp for so long

>>34464620
She is better looking than me, but far from my first gf. More like 10th or 12th. Even now, I work in a male dominated field, literally 0 women in my company atm, and several guys are hitting on me. Everyone calls me handsome and makes "jokes" about kissing and fucking me
I almost beat the shit out of my boss for touching my boss once, but after I cussed him out in front of everyone he apologized. I have options, but my wife is more perfect than you know. She is better looking than me, though.

>>34464436
>literally said my wife is the one and only girl I have ever had sex with.
Yeah I know. And I presume you and her have had lots of sex that you've lost count. So you are still sexually experienced bro.

>>34464673
> I lost my virginity to my girlfriend at 16
> but far from my first gf. More like 10th or 12th
its really not hard to know you are full of bullshit

>>>34463168

>pou
Great game back in 2016
Now I realise it sounds like "poo" and is brown :/

>>34463168
No
However I could never be satisfied with used goods like you

>>34465066
Found the incel
>>34463168
It's a case-by-case basis imo, in your case I think it's likely he will cheat or at least explore the idea. No matter how great of a girlfriend you are to him the grass will be greener in his eyes since he has no real perspective on love/relationships besides you. This is why I never date virgins nowadays, they either get way too attached or run off on their 1st chance. Hope things go well for yall tho

thanks yall

>>34463168
You only get bored if you get bored.
You only feel like you're missing out if you feel like you're missing out.
Everything is how you wish to be.
Voice your worries about him to him.
If he wants you to do spin anal so things don't get boring, it is your choice to appease him or not.
If you choose to do what he wants, make sure that you also want to do it or you will resent him.
If you don't want to do it but still care about fulfilling his needs, find something else that you both will enjoy.
You can also sacrifice your own enjoyment for him but most women are unable to keep that up for the long term and if your needs are not being fulfilled, it WILL destroy your relationship.
Men are able to go decades without sex with the women they love because we love truly.
Not many women will stay in a relationship if they keep wanting things to be better, even if they love the man.

Not a real answer still? Jesus

Look, given the chance, he might cheat, but if he likes you it doesnt fucking matter.

What do I mean? If a guy treats you well and actually likes you, if he cheats he wouldnt leave you for some other whore. Specially if there are things bonding you together. Men are just that horny and people hardly ever keep it in their pants, ever.

If he never liked you that much to begin with, then you are at risk of being replaced, but thats an entirely different problem

Nobody should cheat, its bad for society, but since religion and any social contract has been thrown out of the window lets be fucking real: men cheating and women cheating is not the same and if it makes you angry Im sorry but its the truth. Stop worrying about whether he will cheat or not and begin treating him well and with respect (if he deserves it of course), then I assure you if he likes you you will be his girl.

Feminism is one hell of a drug. Men can be absolute pieces of garbage, drug addicts, beaters, losers, etc that is fine & dandy as long as he respects wahmen but if he dares to cheat he is the worst human being in history.

Get real.

>>34463168
>>34463177
>Men don't cheat because they're bored they cheat because they feel neglected or are low agency NPCs with no self control.
This, or
1) they feel they're being treated disrespectfully, unfairly or abusively,
2) the girl is WHINING and full of complexes
3) the girl is actually sexually constricting (rare sex, bad sex, forbidding masturbation)

>>34463168
NO ONE on 4chan has ever even spoken to a real live girl, so all responses about being bored with too much sex are total fantasies built on total ignorance of the subject

>>34465932
>Nobody should cheat, its bad for society
>Stop worrying about whether he will cheat or not
Pick one, retard

>>34465932
>if he cheats he wouldnt leave you for some other whore.
Duh.
That's why people cheat instead of leaving. There's an old adage: Men always cheat down. As in, men will cheat with a worse woman than their partner. It's obvious when you think about it.

>men cheating and women cheating is not the same
Let's be real: You're a moron posting unsubstantiated idiocy.
How exactly is it not the same? It might be different but it's just as bad. You're a fool if you think otherwise.

>>34466382
>>Stop worrying about whether he will cheat or not
This is actually decent advice though.
People get insecure over whether their partner will cheat, act distant and weird, and the relationship suffers. It sometimes causes cheating because the person does the crime to fit the punishment.

You can't control if your partner cheats. Ever.
But if you focus on a quality relationship, you can make cheating an unnecessary and unwanted act.
So stop worrying if it will happen and just work on having a quality relationship. Don't worry, simply trust but verify.

>>34466667
>>34466382
It is not the same because men and women are different. Again with feminism: when it is convenient, men and women are to be treated under the same scrutiny and when it is not, women are disadvantaged

Is a dog killing a boy the same as a man killing a boy? Yes, as in the boy is dead but no, as in the dog is not seated in a court of law

Same for men and women cheating. If a man cheats, most of the time he was just horny. If a girl cheats, its so over for the relationship that is not even funny. Both are reason enough to break it off yes, but that is on the individual's side to decide.

I tried to lay a guide for the OP: if her main fear is that the guy will leave her, then I gave her a key. If her main fear is that the guy will cheat, she can do absolutely nothing about it and should stop worrying. Or maybe break up with and date down to a dude who would never ever cheat out of fear lmao

If this thread was opened by a dude (like >>34464806) the people would be telling him to cut it off immediately.

>>34466696
>It is not the same because men and women are different.
See
>>34466667
>It might be different but it's just as bad. You're a fool if you think otherwise.

>If a man cheats, most of the time he was just horny.
>just horny
And thoughtlessly selfish.
Cheating being thoughtless isn't necessarily better than it being it being thoughtful.

>If a girl cheats, its so over for the relationship that is not even funny.
No, that is on the individual's side to decide.
It can be just as over if the guy thinks he can stick his dick wherever he wants because he's horny.

I find it difficult to believe that you're legitimately unaware of the connotation of "he was just horny" and "it's different when men cheat."
It is just as bad. And you are implying otherwise.

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>>34463168
I’ve been with my girlfriend for seven years, and she truly brightens my life. She’s always supportive, always trying to help, and she does it with a genuine smile. I make sure to do the same for her. So I don’t really understand why I’d feel like I’m missing out when I see so many unhappy people around. As long as you both enjoy your sexual life and keep putting effort into making each other’s lives better, I don’t see why he would get bored, unless he’s simply immature.

>>34463168

I was an autistic incel for most of my teens and 20s until I decided to lose weight and invest in who I was, which transformed me into someone moderately attractive.

By that point, my main focus was meeting every hot woman I could to make up for the time I felt I’d lost by taking them back to their place to fuck. The novelty was fun for about a year, but most of those relationships were short-lived and vapid. Eventually I met someone I could pursue the stuff I was passionate about, like music and travel, at the autistic granular level I appreciate and I didn't feel the need to have sex with anyone else.

Every man is going to be different in that regard, but essentially most people are just looking to feel connected and alive.

>>34463168
No, I only cheat when I'm continuously feeling unloved, unheard, or mistreated, and am already looking for an out. Happened only once but it's okay she was cheating long before that

>>34463168
That is a problem I would like to have.