We did MDMA on the weekend, I am quiet unexperienced to it in comparison, she's done it a lot of times. It didn't go very well but not terrible either: She was hoping we'd have sex while on it but it hit me too intensely to be able to concentrate on something else, she tried to blew me and I got an erection but then she sat on top and I simply lost it a few seconds later. She was dissapointed but not terribly, she was very kind, supportive and comprehensive as she was the other times when it didn't work.
I have to make a decision though, I can't drag this situation much longer. I will talk to her about this, we've already exchanged a few comments on it but nothing certain. Maybe it is true that we didn't connect, but I am worried that my problem is caused by something else and I will lose her and keep on thinking "what if". The very first few days we talked I actually came to think that she was "the one" but that feeling went away slowly. I don't feel excited about seeing her anymore. I feel like a burden to her, in the sense that she might feel weird about herself because I can't get it up, thinking it's her problem, when in reality, most probably it's simply me. I was alone for a long time before her and although I had a few dates and stuff, I never got to this level of intimacy and I think I lost practice. I also sometimes don't feel good enough to be around certain people, I might be boring or an unoriginal person. I'd like to solve it but I don't want to keep her waiting, she deserves the whole package, including a hard penis.
What should I do to have more certainty, about this being my own issue or that I am simply not attracted to her?
TL;DR: I can't get it up for this new girl I've met and liked and I don't if it's my own issue or that I don't like her.
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>>34477099
It's really hard to get and maintain an erection on MDMA. If you already have ED, then expecting to be able to have sex while rolling is actually retarded

>>34477282
Yeah, I know I know, you guys think greentext is autistic shit but I grew up in the 80s so it’s what I know.
>gym lockdown starting to get to me, in my country we cant go the gym
>now this in itself is not my problem as I am home gym master race
>shortly before everything kicked off I started seeing this girl at my gym
>super cute short shorts you know (this is important for later)
>let’s call her Sarah
>exact same name as my sister
>same appearance as my sister
>same sex noises as my sister
>anyway long story short my parents walked in on me masturbating to a picture that
>she sent to me, one in her parties, no bra and sucking off a lollipop
>parents, and sister, freak out and call me a disgusting animal that should be put down.
>try to tell them but they don’t believe me and because of lockdown am unable to prove it.

I barely read that novel you posted but its the former bro. Almost every woman is sexy when she is bent over showing you her ass and pussy.

>>34477276
No, I knew I wasn't going to keep it up that night at all but the next morning I couldnt either
>>34477343
We were exactly at it and my erection still went away even though she has an amazing ass. It might be her tatoos that put me off though

>>34477093
You watch porn? It's probably that.

>>34477710
Yeah someone mentioned this too. I do but not so much, once or twice a week and for a few mins until I do the deed, nothing fancy either. I stopped two weeks ago to see if there is any change in the chance I got myself desensitized by it but nothing yet

Its completely simple: you arent attracted to her. You cant stay hard because you dont really want to fuck her at a primal level. Not saying youre gay; just that you feel in your heart that yoy can do better. If the girl is fat, stinks, has features you dislike, then surprise, your dick dont work. If she hits a fetish or major desire for you, then your dick will be rock hard and drooling precum until you have a massive cum, preferably with/in her.

>>34477099
You need to do longer foreplay. Essentially you are not getting in the mood while she is ready to get down to business faster. You need to focus on doing things that feel good for you and then take control once you get horny.

>>34477765
I would say this may be the truth but some men are so completely mechanical about having sex that I think the problem is that just getting in and "doing the deed" is a mental block problem. Also hearing a 2 minute wham bam jerkoff session once or twice a week is concerning because that suggests a lower sex drive. He might need to jerk off more and longer with less of a focus on ejaculating.

>>34477749
The issue is more or less when you started watching it. Like if you've been watching it even once or twice a week since you were 15 or whatever, that will end up doing more harm to your perception of sex than you realize.

>>34477765
Yes, I've felt the same way with other women so I know what you're talking about, you simply don't like her or your dick is connected to your subconscious that knows something you don't. But I am really not sure this is the case here. I had a constant erection for her for a few mins at least, we did fuck for 15 mins. I am concerned that I might not like the fact she is so self-sufficient that I feel intimidated by her, that seems more likely. I really hope it's not what you are saying because, how could things have changed so quickly? The first time she took her clothes off I was speechless.
>>34477782
Yeah there is a problem with that too: we have to limit our foreplay to kisses and grabing because she has HPV. I really like to go down on women and make them squeal but I cant with her, I think this is another issue mounting with the others.
>>34477794
Yes, from adolescence and probably the same amount of time, I will away from it hoping it makes a change on my reward system eventually

will stay away from it*

>>34477099
MDMA destroys erections; don't worry about that. Beyond that, it's clear that this woman is perfect for you in every possible way. The problem, I suspect, is that you hate yourself. You think that if a woman really likes you, there has to be something wrong with her. So you deliberately aim for broken women because you think it's only if a woman isn't capable of independent function that she will need you enough to stay with you. This woman wants you, but doesn't *need* you - she's intelligent and independent - so your brain is telling you that you're not good enough for her and she's going to leave you for someone better before long.

On top of that, you've got cumulative porn damage, and the simple fact that you're approaching 40: at that age, even the most healthy of men starts to need a lot more in the way of foreplay.

If I were you, I would keep trying. You're getting too old to pass up the opportunity of being with someone who is literally perfect for you. Just understand what's happening, use Cialis or Viagra as a confidence booster to begin with, spend a lot more time on non-sexual touch so as to get more comfortable with physical intimacy, and try and realise that it's your brain that's the problem, not her. Once you see she actually does like you and want you, things will probably get better. Keep an eye on your diet too: take it easy on saturated fat and carbohydrates, and eat 100g of pistachios every day (healthy fat and lots of arginine).

>>34477815
Your dick doesnt want a diseased tatted whore. Thats the truth

>>34477093
>ugly tattoos
>manly ways
>overweight
>has HPV

wow anon, I can't imagine why you can't get hard for that.

>>34477832
Yes I do hate myself on some level and the fact she is so self-sufficient might be hard on that. Exactly, she doesn't need me and this is kinda weird, most of the women I've been with on LTRs needed me some way, so this is new. I do think we are perfect for each other but maybe, because we are so much alike, we don't attract ourselves, I don't know if that's a thing. She has been super wet most of those times though.
Thank you for your input, gives me hope, I'll keep trying until I can't anymore
>>34477861
I really hope this isn't the case but I keep it in mind, her tatoos are small though and in places covered by clothing
>>34477873
Very little overweight, some on her arms and neck but her body is like a hourglass

>>34477879
>but maybe, because we are so much alike, we don't attract ourselves, I don't know if that's a thing.
It isn't.

>>34477093
are you circumcised OP?

>>34477093
ok i have read the thread OP, other than circumcision, you should try to last long while masturbating, masturbate to pictures of her, not porn, aim for a healthy 1 hour or around that, jerk off but when you are getting close stop, also do high volume leg workouts, like 100-200 bodyweight squats, deadlifts and shit, if you are skinny gain weight, if you are fat lose weight, tell her that you like foreplay, and if you are not a fat or skinny bitch ask her to toy with your nipples and chest before sex, kisses and hugs are good too, try that before trying cialis or viagra, you should notice a 50%-90% increase in erection quality, if you are circumcised wear underwear that doesnt cause lots of friction and comfy, and sleep without underwear, you can wear a top, but nothing on the bottom

>>34477099
You hate her cuz you hate yourself cuz you're both vapid pseuds with more degrees than self worth

Anyway isn't cocaine the "sex" drug? Either way completely stupid thing to get into a twist over or even bother trying

And y'all nearing 40 for crying out loud

>>34478270
I am not
>>34478331
Thank you, I'll try it, usually masturbation for me it's like a chore, something I preffer to get done quickly and be over it, but I'll try and extend it, make a session of it. I do exercise and do different kinds f squats, deadlifts and also train on a spinning bycicle.
We are supposed to talk soon about this issues so I'll suggest we stay on the foreplay rather than go directly to the deed.
>>34478471
I reckon from many experiences that most of the people who try to criticize you without cause and without knowing you are simply reflecting something they dont like about themselves so let's leave it at that

>>34479311
no problem, looking forward to hear your success story

>>34479311
>who try to criticize you without cause and without knowing you
Mate you wrote 2 great wall of china texts about your life, that's plenty of material to criticize. If you're this touchy about critique then don't lay your life out for anonymous randoes to give their opinions. Fucking coward. What you're essentially saying is "no u!!1!" but in some retardedly pretentious form which further cements my point of you two having more degrees than brains+self worth

>>34480114
>Mate you wrote 2 great wall of china texts about your life, that's plenty of material to criticize
I am not saying you cannot criticize, I am saying there is no logic in your comment and this is because you are simply trolling and have nothing better to do than reflecting your own issues onto others. We may be pseuds but there is nothing on that text to suggest it, so I know for sure you are simply trolling and very unoriginally for that matter, you also chose to come back to reply which is the final prof of your flaming because this thread doesn't affect you in the sligthest so there is no logic into that as well. It was a very bland trolling though, you need better material or simply go back. I mean, trolling on /adv/? Fucking kek
>Fucking coward
Also, don't get angry buddy, there is no need to insult. Deep breaths kid.

>>34480200
>pseuds but there is nothing on that text to suggest it

There's plenty to suggest it, with your overemphasis on "intellectual" compatibility based on the number of degrees one has, being almost 40 and still having these petty teenage insecurities, reaching 40 and not having formed a family yet meaning your priorities were completely warped on pseud shit for the majority of your life, feeling threatened by a self sufficient person (although I doubt she's all that considering the age, though consider she didn't even care that much about your limp dick whilst you're having a crisis over it)

There's never a need to insult, doesn't mean I can't insult where I deem fitting

>>34477093
You're fat and an alcoholic. Stop that.

>>34480238
>with your overemphasis on "intellectual" compatibility based on the number of degrees one has
You got it wrong, I was describing our lifes, studies, interest, because I was talking about feeling intimidated by her. It was 2 phrases on that wall of text, less than 15% of it so I doubt you can qualify it as "overemphasis".
The rest of your "critiques" have no causal relation with being a pseud. I have no problem with being qualified as such though, I may probably be it in some aspects, but I also expect you to know that me or anyone here couldn't care less about what a random on an anonymous weaving basket forum would have to say about it. The fact that you asumed otherwise or simply chose this place to ventilate, I simply cannot understand it.
>>34480241
I am fit and drink very little on the weekends only.

>>34480281
The other thing is
>We like a lot of the same stuff (movies, series, writers, places, what to do, etc)

I say overemphasis because these are the ONLY things you mention. Nothing about same values, goals, etc. The only thing binding you two together are liking the same trite media that any tween can have a "mom it's just a phase" thing with

The other things do link to being a pseud because it suggests one never found their footing in life hence this overemphasis on
trivialities/things for "show" used to try and mask the desperate hollow inside. This is the defn of a pseud - someone who tries hard and ends up larping "intellectual" to mask their lacking of it. Not realising that true "intellectualism" isn't about "books" but is about the self on the streets.

Your misvalued emphasis on "intellectualism" can also be seen here
>I also sometimes don't feel good enough to be around certain people, I might be boring or an unoriginal person.

You overvalue the wrong things. You think you're supposed to be some creative witty remarkable genius person and anything missing the mark means you're a failure.

Of course, I'm patching many things up with my imagination, but am I far off? You to tell me

You say you can't understand, but there's nothing to understand on my part, I'm just people watching on the /adv/ board.

>>34480338
>I say overemphasis because these are the ONLY things you mention
I gave lot of circumstancial info to make a well explained case, you are choosing to focus on two lines
>Nothing about same values, goals, etc.
I've only known this woman for 3 weeks, I still don't have practical knowledge on this to share, we've talked of it but you can't have it for sure in this phase, if you've dated, you know.
The rest of your opinions and conjectures are simply that, I have no interest on them.
>Not realising that true "intellectualism" isn't about "books" but is about the self on the streets.
lmao
>You think you're supposed to be some creative witty remarkable genius person
Not at all, I value down-to-the-ground people much more than what you are describing, again, I was talking about feeling intimidated by her, my interest is that people with advices can understand me, it's definitely not to have a pseudo-debate with some anon with many opinions.
>I'm patching many things up with my imagination
That goes without saying and this is curious to me, is this a good way to spend your evening for you? Does this fullfills you? Are you having fun replying to me?
>but am I far off? You to tell me
Yes you are, I am not a pseud because I know nothing about most things, I am almost all ignorance. When I talk about something I might know, I may be a pseud, I leave that for others to say, but that's not what happened ITT so I know you don't know. I simply wrote about our interests and not things I still don't know for sure, to paint a picture to get advice, I wasn't expecting some bored judgmental anon would get so angry and far off point by it, my apologies if my thread triggered you.
>but there's nothing to understand on my part
Yeah lmao that's for sure, I really don't understand why someone would spend their time "people watching" (kek) as you describe it and on /adv/ of all places, but you do you buddy, whatever fills your boat.
>in4 more opinions of me being pseud from this

>>34480456
>gave lot of circumstancial info to make a well explained case, you are choosing to focus on two lines
And the way you framed those two lines spoke a lot about what you value. The rest is just blah blah my dick is limp wah wah

>I've only known this woman for 3 weeks
And yet you already rush to have sex. Lmao, again, values completely warped. If you were just looking for something casual then just say so. Suddenly your dick is limp and now you hate her entire being, when you're now saying you barely know anything about her. Maybe get to know her better before jumping to conclusions about her?

And inb4 you say I jump to conclusions with you - you do realise that by actually sharing my conclusions with you, I actually give the room to get to know YOU better, otherwise I'd have simply had my own judgement and that'd be the end of it. Do realise that I'm actually doing you a service by sharing my judgements with you, so that you can get a bit more awareness about how you come across. Whether it actually aligns internally with you or not is besides the point, because if there is dissonance/misalignment, then that's a skill issue on your behalf that you ought to fix if you want better relations with others. If everyone has a false idea of you, then they can't connect with you, only the false idea of you.

>value down-to-the-ground people much more than what you are describing, again, I was talking about feeling intimidated by her
You value them because you feel threatened by anything more than that

>Yes you are
Okay and how so? Please enlighten so I further refine my internal people-reading algorithms

>I know nothing about most things, I am almost all ignorance
Then why do you flash your degrees and knowledge of le movies, series, writers, places, what to do, etc as if it's something substantial

>>34480675
>Are you having fun replying to me?
It's a bit of a sunken cost thing, "don't forget, you're here forever", but once I stop having any responses to things I read on here, will be yeeting off the board.

>>34480338
>Not realising that true "intellectualism" isn't about "books" but is about the self on the streets.
>>34480675
Please enlighten so I further refine my internal people-reading algorithms

Brother your sperging is out of control lol
Poor OP just wanted to talk bout his limp dick 'n now's gotta deal with some chud lmao

>>34481024
We have limp dick threads a billion times a day.

I was just giving OP some fuel for introspection and he lashed out as per usual with retards on this board

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>>34480675
>you do realise that by actually sharing my conclusions with you, I actually give the room to get to know YOU better, otherwise I'd have simply had my own judgement and that'd be the end of it.
>Do realise that I'm actually doing you a service by sharing my judgements with you
>OPEN THE DOOORRRR I AM HERE TO HELP HERRRRR

>>34481060
Help who?

I actually wasn't here to help anybody, it's more that I wasted my attention span reading these 2 great wall of china texts so I decidedly shat out the conclusions I came from it. But my intention doesn't change the fact that the resulting outcome of my intention has potential helpful utility in it.

>>34481052
Nah bro u'r talking like a chuddie, we can see you sperging a mile away, don't go on normalfag business if you're autistic

>>34481081
>Help who?
>Newfag doesn't know the meme of the week

>>34481060
Uncanny kek

>>34477099
You need to go out more on non sexual activites. Walk together while holding hands and talking to her, go to the cinema or a show, have a fancy dinner, etc. Make her more familiar to you. Then slowly re-integrate the possibility of sex.
Also disregard this imbecile >>34478471, he is the local retard, tries to derail and does the same thing on 70% of the threads. MODS we need your fine work here.

>>34481094
I wish someone would ban that cunt.

>>34480338
>>34480675
lmao talk about being a pseud

>>34481088
Nothing wrong with a lil autism if it trumps normalfag retardation

>>34481094
I don't and I'll extrapolate the meaning of the "meme" to mean I'm trying to assist when unwanted, and to that I already said I came to shit out my conclusions rather than to directly help anyone

>>34481246
>>34481370
>tries to derail and does the same thing on 70% of the threads. MODS we need your fine work here.
Again nobody actually addressing the conjecture I put out there. Boring

Go ahead and ban me, if you can!

>>34481408
I'm a pseud minus the pseud part :)

>>34481246
Yes, this is exactly what someone close to me said, I've been doing so this week and I've seen concrete results, I hope it works. Thank you.
>Also disregard this imbecile, he is the local retard
Thanks, I don't frequent the board so I wouldn't know but I got a glimpse of it from his mistaken austistic responses. Poor guy huh, I can imagine the state of his life.
>>34481060
Lmao fits perfectly

>>34481542
>I don't and I'll extrapolate the meaning of the "meme" to mean I'm trying to assist when unwanted
Hahaha moron
Can we get an anti-autistic captcha please

>>34481542
Anime watching manga reading figurine collecting steam backlogging shorts in the winter wearing socks with sandals toting checkered shirt wearing cold approaching face value speaking as-a-matter-of-fact blabbering jaw mewing personality maxxing special education having autistic fucking NERD

>>34481542
>Nothing wrong with a lil autism if it trumps normalfag retardation
Hahaha this nigga funny, yes its wrong, this board is for grown ups, you never seen pussy = you dont post. Dont be a little chuddie bro, leave your PC and get some poon