It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is open
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WAGMI
Stay strong anons :)
Today is behind the neck press day and there is nothing the mossad or schizo bot can do to stop me
I WILL MENTALLY RECOVER I WILL GET A BETTER JOBI WILL PASS MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM ON MY BEXT TRY Well frens, I failed my Level 3 CFA exam. I’m not surprised by this result, so why am I so sad? I tried my best but it wasn’t good enough this time around. I’ve never passed a CFA exam on the first try so this result is pretty typical of me. I know that I will pass the next time I sit for it (August 2025). It sucks that I can’t immediately jump back into the fray but now I need to prioritize getting a new job. I must keep moving forward until I reach that goal. This period will be the first time since mid 2021 that I’m neither studying for a CFA exam nor waiting for the results. I feel uneasy yet I know I’m making the correct decision. Best of luck in your endeavors! No matter how many setbacks we encounter, we must persevere. WAGMI!
I will become healthier.
>feel like giving up today>decide not toI have no other choice, after all. We must all keep going and strive for something better.
Snorlax checking in. Got to 209 last week, would love to hit 205 by end of month but goal is 207 for this week. Gf reported no snoring Friday but drank a decent amount Saturday and it started back up. Either way I pick up a CPAP later.Second round interview on Thursday, going to be prepping like crazy after managing a release tomorrow. Feel good about my chances. Goals for this week - run a four mile long, become an expert on Databricks and advertising tech, and ace the panel interview.WAGMI
>>75332415Do you actually find that beneficial? My friend is trying to convince me to start doing it
>>75332150>goals for the weekHit the gym 3 times this week, cut down further on my cigarette smoking and eat more. Hope you guys have a good week.
>>75332150My SBD keeps getting weaker and it feels like I just can't brace myself properly for heavy setsBeen focusing on these three for almost a year, maybe I should switch to dumbbells and leg press or something for a few months
>>75332547Whenever you think about giving up, remind yourself that you must try
Starting nofap after a bad streak. Made it to 14 days. Wish me luck
Workouts been good as of late. Next week I’ll attempt a new 10 RM on my squat and bench. I’ve started deep massaging my injury again and I hope stretching can fix the pain in my triceps.Let’s get this shit, top o’ da morning.>>75332531keyed, wagmi.
>>75332531I’m not even sure what a CFA is but I like that you’re always going on about it>>75332150Brutal week desu, those bastards made me do the humiliation ritual of the job interview but didn’t give me the damn thing, so now I’m coping and seething trying to figure out a path forward. Economy unironically looks grim.Doing some more animating, I’m thinking I might wanna specialize on le femdom niche in the future alongside regular pinups, but I also like ryona because I can do realistic fight scenes with my insider knowledge. How many animators/artists even know what a heel hook is?Might unironically have to reach out to a recruiter but I’m trying to stave that off as a very last last resort.Still have my fingers crossed on my “investments” as a miracle save from my suffering. An online friend actually snapped and beat the shit out of his cousin which got him kicked out so I was thinking of cashing out a tiny bit to send him some as support.Have a funny story from my life:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PmFDEllvQJ8
>>75332731If you have the mobility to do it, it's worth it. It works more on the posterior and lateral deltoids, which are the most important areas to work on in the shoulder.I find it more comfortable than the normal press.
>>75332150Well, one date went bad. The girl was either really nervous or has a case of the scatterbrained. Other date with Chinese girl (fromChina) went well. She seems to be actually interested in me and wants to learn about baseball. Got another date with her lined up this Wednesday Also have a career fair after Down to 159.8 in the morning (wake up weight after morning piss)>Still want a Catholic White girl
>stopped doing sports before summer (had to travel a lot and take care of my parents + no motivation)>fastforward to now>resume updated>job hunt started>rope jump & calisthenics whenever i can>no more beer, but water water waterAH it feels so goodI wish i alternated more but it seems im either 100% into it or 100% doing something else. How do you guys keep motivated to go to the gym after an 8-5 job/shift ?Wagmi, lads
>>75332150>I will work out>I will fuck my significantly older manager>I will fill my day with productivity >I shall make it
>>75332533Checked. You will :)
>>75333277Digits of truth
I need to stop wanking
Training is going well, I’m stronger than ever before while losing fat. I’m under 20% body fat for the first time since 2018. I’m around 10-15 pounds of fat loss away from my best every physique. I peaked in 2018 and then got fat and stopped gym for a few years, but I’m coming back better than ever. It’s never over bros WAGMI
>>75333277Don’t fuck one of your coworkers, it’ll only cause drama. Best of luck on your other goals though
>>75333114>Other date with Chinese girl (from China) went well.>from ChinaNo shit she wants to use you
>>75333429>Implying I’m not aware of that phenomenon I’m not an industry that has high value tech secrets or state secrets>Im not going to marry her either
>>75332565Congrats on your progress! I hope I reach the second round for the job I’m currently interviewing for
>>75332903We all must, don't want to be in the same place in 5 or 10 years having done nothing aafter all.
>>75332150Went out with 5 women over the past 3 weeks, with 3 of them I had second dates. All of them either ghosted me afterwards or told me they don't think "we fit", "have chemistry", "are just too different". One even told me the classic "I'm a nice guy but I don't see you that way", this on a second date btw. I started wondering what's the point of it all, kinda getting tired.
>>75332747Thanks I hope this week is better :)
I finally found a combination fo supplements and diet that cured my chronic constipation. Feels good.
>>75333368How and why would I cause drama? Unless I cum embarrassingly quickly I don't see a downside. Shes a mature woman
I've slacked in the gym the past few weeks due to scheduling too much time with women.I'm currently sleeping with 2-3 women per week, they all are FWBs and fully aware I'm seeing other women so I'm getting lots of sexo with no drama or commitment. It's been my reward to myself after having close to 0 sex in my early 20s and reaping the benefits of working out consistently for 18 months and growing more confident in myself.It's a fantastic problem to have, but for th 1st time in 18 months I'm having to force myself to get into the gym. Have to keep telling myself that if I get too comfy and cocky I'll lose what I worked so hard to gain.Life is fantastic.
>>75333277Don't shit where you eat.Even if she's mature and it goes well, she's still a woman and therefor and emotional creature and nothing good will come of it.
>>75334155Jokes on you I don't eat at work, or shit.
I ran my first 10k on Saturday - it was a trail 10k. It was dry dusty and windy but I had a great time and I'll run a half marathon in November. My times will be bad but I don't care, the endorphins i enjoyed the rest of the day on Saturday made it all worth it. I'm not in amazing shape, if you're reading this wondering if you should try a 10k, this is your sign
ONE MUST IMAGINE SISYPHUS HAPPY
>>75332772Sounds like either your diet is off or you need a deload, fren. A lifting belt could help brace if you haven’t been using one.
>>75333068Sorry about that bro. I hate knowing that not every interview I do will lead to a job. Keep applying though
>>75334390ONE MUST
>>75332150Okay day at work. Coworker is getting on my nerves. But I’m patient because he’s old and his wife passed recently. Can’t tell if his mind is going. He acts kind of childish and I can’t help but think, do we really regress like that at that age?Aside from that I was pissy about my ex last week if you remember me. Feel over it again for now. Health anxiety is still back unfortunately though, but seems to be going away after todays shift. Definitely gonna need to find more shot to do on my days off. Other than that, day after I made those posts (was having a panic attack btw didn’t realize it been a long while since I’ve had one), I matched with like 6 chicks on hinge mostly around 7/10s but a couple 8/10s.And then a girl I’ve wanted to fuck for almost a decade since college DM’d me wanting to hang. And by that she means she wants to fuck. She moved a good 6 hours away though so I put it off for now. Not really interested in dating but I do need to get laid, also not interested in pointless hookups but again, I could stand to benefit from some ass. I’ll keep working and saving and losing weight and maybe I’ll go take a small 1-2 day trip to see her. Definitely not relationship material, but seems like the type who could easily be a FWB with no feelings like a bro with a pussy who sucks your dick and then plays vidya with you tier but dgaf if you’re dating other chicks seriously and only hanging with her to fuck and I get the vibe she’s a bit of a freak. We’ll see what happens with that.Other news I’m dropping weight which feels nice.I’m developing new discipline too. When it’s time to wake up, even if low on sleep I’m out of bed and getting started.Lifting more consistently.Been trying to control my emotions especially on the road.
>>75333277is this the latina?
>>75334341dude those trail runs are fucking awful but congrats. Training for a half marathon (not my first by a long shot but i don't stay consistent with cardio anymore). You're gonna feel great and like total shit at the end.
>>75333144I'm a wagie and I try to view working out after work as a fun activity rather than a chore. I also try not to stress out if my lifts stall
>>75332150Man I had a great last week. 5x gym, on two of those days I've doubled up. People interacted with me which made me feel non-autistic for the first time in months, but towards Friday it seemed to go away.
>>75333355Nice job on your progress! I'm also at my peak at 27 and think I'll only get better over the next couple of years
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>>75332531i am sorry CFA anon... acknowledge and process your sad emotions. take care and look after yourself. i believe you can become good enough with enough practice at the questions you need to work on. when you are ready, self-reflect and make notes. then find as many of those types of questions to practice on until it's easy. > I’ve never passed a CFA exam on the first try so this result is pretty typical of me.do you know what is also typical of you? you pick yourself up and try again (i.e., resilience, endurance, grit, and determination). i need to draw inspiration from you now and apply it to my career switch endeavours. career switch anon here. professional cert is progressing. resume has one more iteration with a friend. job hunt is still going. when i am in a good mood, i believe that i will make it. but sometimes, in a darker mood, this feels impossible... the odds are really stacked against me, but i have to try. one day at a time. i refuse to give up, and neither should you. best of luck anons. be kinder to yourselves. never give up.
>>75336102:)
>>75335828Update: Just came back, left after 1 hour instead of 2 because I felt like a leper again. Useless, weak, weird, best to kms.
>>75336495A 1 hour workout is still impressive. Don't focus on what goes wrong but what's going right
Always keep moving forward anons, even if it's just a little. Progress is progress, you will have better days, keep going. There are people who believe in you :)
started neck training and delt raiseswagmi
>>75332150Been reading a lot more and it's making me want to draw as well.
>>75336283Thanks for the advice, I will take it to heart. I’ve never had the raw talent but I’ve always had the drive to push forward. Apply the same words you gave me to yourself - do not believe that your goals are impossible, rather they are possible through continuous effort. There will be rough periods, but there is light at the end of the tunnel for those willing to persist. I refuse to give up as well. Best of luck in all your endeavors frens! WAGMI!
I used to be fit, regular run 5, 10k without a second thought. Wife left. She was having a affair. He can have her, but I got some bad PTSD for a couple years. Got fat. Barely moved. Diet was basically Pepsi and plain bagels. Went from about 180 pounds to 240.Put my shoes on today and (very slowly) jogged almost 5 k. Doing it again tomorrow.
>>75337116As long as you keep on running, everyday it’ll get a little easier. YGMI
I went on a date today and it was amazing. Anybody ever dated a Muslim woman?
>>75337693Yeah, are you the same religion? If not you'll be a secret from the parents and marriage is probably not in the cards
Current Status:>Throbbing headache>Underslept>Intense Stomachache >"burning" sensation in gut>midsection tightens reflexively and stays tight for a whileWhat I'm doing to fix it:>Zen yoga/breathing>Magnesium L-Threonate>Avoiding/finding trigger foods>Culturing beneficial bacteria in yogurts (Reuteri, Gasseri, B Coag, and Yakult) to eat daily>Culturing Kefirs to drink daily>Make my own Apple Cider Vinegar to reduce insulin and combat Candida>Fermenting beneficial yeasts (S Boulardii) into Ciders to fight off Candida infestation>Zero sugar, low (<40g daily) carb diet with prebiotics to starve CandidaI feel like fucking shit.I hate this "keto" shit but I have to do it.I'm so fucking mad I have to go through these gut issues time and time again. They've fucked my life and won't go away.I hope this new shit works though. The ciders and vinegar are new additions so hopefully theyvat least help.
Good fuckin mornin brothers
>>75338143I don't know much about any of that, hope it's safe and you feel better soon though.
>>75336330:)
About to cross over from Class 2 to Class 1 obesity. My diabetus is in remission too. I'm gonna diet and exercise down to 155 and take my humanity back.
>>75339005Nice!
>>75332565update on CPAP wtf this thing is awful
>>75338143Tell me if you find a cure to being underslept. I've struggled with sleeping ever since I was 25
>>75333781At least you are getting dates, I got one date with a girl a month ago. Went well, really liked her, she was even alluding to some other places we can go next time. She still ended up rejecting me the next day after thinking about it I guess. No luck with any more dates since. Feel like my standards are probably too high since I am looking for a real relationship, but there is no way in hell im becoming a plapjak or going out with some girl whose only hobbies are sushi and coffee.
>>75336559There's always someone that believes in you :)
>>75334145Don't get complacent bro! The easiest way to lose your progress is to think there's no need to improve
Failed a bit , slipped a bit , but lets keep it going....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2DvQbzFAsSc
I'm loosing hella weight and started to look Decent. Got a compliment from fianceé she told me I look strong
>>75339344CPAP machines suck, my dad hates sleeping next to my mom because of hers. But eventually you'll adjust to it
I feel kinda bland. Not really depressed not happy not content either. I just want to win bros.The manager at my job was talking to an employee while I was in an office nearby with the door open and she mentioned her birthday this weekend. I may have misheard but I think she said she’ll be 29. I thought she was older, not my age. Like I thought she was mid 30s. Definitely could have said 39 but I’m so sure I heard 29. And even if I’m wrong that doesn’t change what I’m saying that for. I don’t feel 28. I feel mentally 18. Idk what the deal is. When do I begin feeling my age? I feel immature. I feel like even if I hit all my goals and I get my physique in order, get my money in order, and get my own place and become totally self sufficient to where I handle all my bills pay rent have a building savings I’m responsible for food being in the fridge etc that I will still feel like an 18 year old.And it’s demoralizing because I’m pushing 30 over here. People younger than me seem more mentally mature than me. I don’t mean I’m running around acting like a child, just I don’t feel like I have IT. Idk how to articulate but I feel like a kid, beyond the shit like handling basic responsibilities. Idk what it is. Something in the ways people interact with each other & conduct themself I just don’t have. I feel like I come off as childish. I feel like my best bet is to become the silent type who doesn’t say much. Inb4 Muh lone wolf sigma. Just handle my shit, make myself look as good as possible, but don’t talk much. It wouldn’t change shit but I could at least cope by telling myself they think I’m this dark mysterious guy. I used to do this and it worked, but it drew people in and once I got to talking I got the “oh he’s autistic” look. I’ve been laid I’ve gone on dates (limited) but that was always pure luck mostly thots.Not diagnosed but pretty sure autistic, teachers begged my parents to have me tested when I was young.
>>75341744So what I’m asking is how do I fix this? Can this be fixed? Will it change, like when I’m 38 will I feel like a 28 year old? Or will I eventually hit 50 and feel like an 18 year old still?Coworker is over 70 and at times acts like a kid. He spent the entire day talking in a horribly fake southern accent and idk why he was doing it, he’s from Chicago. He also kept making random noises and sounds. Came off as childish to me. Yet he’s been married raised kids been in the military etc. seems to conduct himself like any elderly man.I just don’t get it. What am I lacking. Why do I feel this way.
>>75334854After a certain age, you start to become younger with each passing age. Are you sure a hookup is going to mend your heart?
>>75332150>Wins this week so farFully over my ex from like 8 years ago. Bitch was a basket case who tried to ruin my life. Treated me horrifically. If I elaborated anyone reading this would think I was taking lines out of a horror novel. In short she was… overly… experienced (read:town bike) and I was a clueless zero experience kissless virgin. Just a ton of manipulation while telling the world I was some mastermind social engineer manipulative sociopath who was abusing her. But way worse than that sounds.She does her shit from time to time all these years later. Mutual friend showed me what she posted recently (have her blocked everywhere) and I just don’t care anymore. I feel nothing, beyond wanting to post about this. It only popped into my head as I started this post. I just don’t care. Old me would have gotten pissed and all anxious. I’m pretty sure she does this when she misses me but doesn’t wanna be the one to reach out, probably knows someone will show me or maybe hopes I’ll stalk her pages and be coerced into a reaction. I almost feel sorry for her because it’s sad at this point but I feel nothing. And that makes me really happy and proud of myself.Quit porn. Horny but no desire to use porn.Got a chick who’s into me. Like 100% all green lights. I’m too busy trying to stay focused though. New chick at job keeps staring at me too she’s cute probably a 6/10 maybe could go to a 8/10 outside of work, but not my normal type, asian. She seems really down to earth and chill. Is an immigrant. Every time I look up she looks away really fast. Don’t have anything against Asians I just don’t have yellow fever never been interested in one. So definitely 1 but potentially 2 new women. I wish I had the availability but I don’t want the distractions right now.Getting less sore.Getting better at controlling my temper.Caffeine intake way down. Need to quit for good though. Boredom makes it hard on days off.
>>75332150Goals this week are to be more appreciative of the blessings in my life and find a partner who genuinely loves me for who I am
>>75341877>after certain ageToday he spent most of the day talking in a fake southern accent. Like a really bad ear assaulting one. He’s from a northern state. He also kept making noises. Towards the end of the shift he began mocking me. Dudes a rude prick and at first I gave him benefit of the doubt thinking he was hurting from his wife but he just seems like he’s a rude cunt by default now. He’ll respond saying “I don’t care” in an almost dismissive way. If someone mentions something shitty that happened like they hurt themselves he goes “awww :( ohhh :(“ really sarcastically but turns around to tell me about his wife dying every 2 hours. It’s fucking annoying and no it doesn’t seem like he’s doing it to imply “I have it worse my wife died” at this point. Oh and he also keeps saying “at my old job I was the joker of the crew” any time he makes a shitty joke. The above things aren’t his jokes. On top of it I seem more competent at this job than him and he’s done it for decades I just started. But it seems more like his incompetency is new and growing, as if his mind is going. I still feel bad for him anyways. Old man, wife died. Has to work at his age.>mend your heartNot about my heart man. It’s about my head. And balls. It’s a short term fix, because realistically to have that pay off I’d need to be able to get head once a week. So I can remain focused.
Strive onward, anons.
Today I hit a bench PR of 255 for 1 rep :) But failed my next rep of 265 :(
>>75343139Accomplishment, some set back. That's life. As long as you progress, that's what matters :)
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>>75343378I know. I'm proud that I hit a new PR and I shouldn't let my failure get to me. I'll hit it by the end of the year
>>75340427Congrats!
>>75342034Based I need to become more thankful as well
>>75341975>she was… overly… experienced and I was a clueless zero experience kissless virginyeah man me and my ex were swingers too
>>75338143If you asked me two weeks ago about drinking turpentine and diatomaceous earth I would've called you insane.Now I'm genuinely considering it because SOME people recommend it for gut clearing...I wanna fucking die man>>75338826Thanks anon, I appreciate it>>75339610I took a nap and slept in early yesterday...Still tired as shit but whatever, I guess that's the solution>>75341765I get what you mean, but also you have to realize that the people your age or older aren't as "adult" as you think.Getting hitched, starting a business, getting a promotion... None of those things make an adult, they're milestones/footsteps on the (common) path of life but they've got nothing to do with being an adult.I think you'll realize soon enough, based on what you said about your coworker, that your standards for what an adult is might just be childish. That you are an adult right now, and have been for a pretty long while...
>>75344911you're not good at giving advice
>>75344733Smirked, nah I don’t mean she convinced me into an open relationship. Just made my life a living hell alienated me from friends and family just to treat me even worse convinced anyone I knew who’d listen that I was beating her, cheating, stealing from her, that I had something to do with her father leaving her life when she was a baby (I was also a baby back then????). Like the most extreme shit and she successfully did it. Not the point. I no longer feel anything about it. Maybe I’ve just reached the point I know I lose nothing if she continues this
>>75341765Why do you need to feel a certain age? You could feel more mature, and you can act on behaving in a mature manner, but even that can be subjective. Peoples maturity levels are obviously all wildly different these days, it's a mess, all you can do personally is try your best to do what is right. Live well, be happy, take care of those you care about. As for the old guy, he probably has age related mental problems, is it that big a deal? Don't waste time thinking about such things.
>>75340445night two wasn't so bad. I fucking hate that I need to use it 21 out of 30 days a month for insurance since losing another five or ten pounds should take care of the snoring but whatever.
>>75346304I'm glad your situation is improving. Eventually you'll get used to it
>>75346304It's not permanent though, is it? You'll be done with it before you know it, hang in there!
>>75341975You'll find someone better eventually
>>75339964lmao, I'm on the same boat as you are and it's not my first rodeo, ive been feeling like you do for 4 years now. it's totally normal man, women are flakey by default, I'm not sure what your standards are but going on dates with women is a good reality check, by going on some more you'll figure out what qualities in a woman are necessary and which of them are nice to have but you can live without just fine. just go on more dates with women you like, don't settle because even the ones you like will let you down not to mention the ones you are not so into in the first place.
I accidentally broke an old guys nose sparring today. I feel like shit. I was going super light but my elbow came up too high doing a block and we both stepped into each other.
>>75348065As long as you apologized and explained that you didn't mean it, he'll understand
>>75348180He got it. It was obvious it was an accident. I still feel bad though.
Does anybody have any advice on getting over prior trauma?
>>75346727Yeah I get all that, still frustrating as fuck trying to talk to these girls when they just randomly stop replying or dont even reply once after matching with them. Just seems super rude. And it makes me feel even worse when I got along so well with the first girl and she seemed very interested straight away. The thought that she might reject me the next day after the first date legitimately did not even cross my mind at the time. At least now I am at the point where I would even consider asking girls for their numbers in real life, something I have never even tried before.
>>75333781>>75339964>>75346727>>75348791don't give up anons, dating is like this and it's par for the course. i had to take a break from the constant rejection... it sucked, plus i had some shit going on at work. i got the motivation to jump back on Hinge recently with zero expectations and found someone who i have great chemistry with. i want to be in a long-term relationship with her, but have yet to bring it up to see if she had that in mind with me also. i am going to not be super hopeful about it and temper my expectations. i will enjoy the time i spend with her, go with my gut and see where it takes me. finding someone is difficult. finding someone that you're compatible with ain't easy, if it was then everyone would have somebody. it's not supposed to be easy. you gotta date a lot of people before you find the right one. good luck on your dating journeys. be persistent and your luck will change soon enough. i hope you find someone you like, can get along with and also grow with too.
>>75332325I will despite the setbacks :)
All right lads. I've been lurking and occasionally posting, mostly in response to >>75341975, for a while now and I come to you for advice. I'm reaching my limit.>shoot clays as a hobby>based boomers all around me>the basedest of them all shows up with a beautiful girl my age one day>like, classically beautiful>she's his family friend>co-owns a cafe with her parents that's in the same town as meTending bar at the time, well aware of how weird dudes get with female staff. As a rule I don't ask girls out at their work unless I get serious vibes.>fast forward a year and a half>regular at the cafe (they roast their own coffee and it's real good)>chatting her up, talk about the books we're reading or whatever's going on>she works 90hrs a week, only shot once this year and wants to go more>I have access to the range whenever but I work a conventional 9-5 nowIt's killing me. I find her way more attractive than almost any woman I've met in the better part of a decade. She's cute and she does everything with an indescribable grace that drives me insane. She's always friendly (smiles and waves even if she's swamped behind the counter) but she's a hard one to read beyond that, I don't think I'm getting particularly special treatment. We're in to similar things and I'm coming close to breaking my rule. And so now I'm reduced to asking /mis/ for advice. This is fitness related because part of the reason I started lifting was to get confident enough to break my rule in the first place. I've gained 20lbs in ~5 months but I'm the only one who could notice. What would you do, /mis/?
>>75349739If you get the chance ask her out, the very worst she’ll say is no. It’s not like you’re close enough that it’ll make your relationship awkward. She works a ton and you have few opportunities to ask her out, so do it. If gaining weight bothers you that much then start cutting
>>75349791>If gaining weight bothers you that much then start cuttingIt's not like that. I started at 150 at 5'11'' and now I'm 170. Gaining is a good thing in this context.>It’s not like you’re close enough that it’ll make your relationship awkwardI suppose. I can see me being the awkward one going forward though. She's probably be sweet enough to let it go, though. Is the answer nothing more than "don't be an autist?"
>>75349816You got it
>>75349828fugg
>>75348950likewise, anon, bless you
>>75349739I'd just ask her out by telling her I've got access to the range maybe we can go there when you're free or taking her to whatever activity that you're both interested in. you set up that rule to protect your image when you're timid but now your image has changed, thus, you should break that rule and free yourself to pursue your happiness. the success is not guaranteed but I think you'll be stuck in your thoughts less and see how dating works and how she really feels about you once you reach out, moreover, theres no need to punish yourself if things dont turn out well, it's just a part of dating, go out and get what you are worth, anon. your character growth awaits, good luck
>>75332150>grocery shopping>latina with blonde hair a little older than me, but very hot, asks me to grab something off top shelf>get it hand it or her>we stand there holding STRONG eye contact while she thanks me>instantly blush, know my face is beet red>NOPROBLEM *sperg speed walk away fast as fuck*Lol. I made eye contact at least. Idk how to stop the blushing and be chill but it’s a step in the right direction. If I could get over this shyness I could meet a wife,nor have actual chances at it. I have interactions like this all the time. It was a perfect “in” to start talking to her maybe get a number
>"Anon can leave this place , but this place will never leave on Anon">"Its not about shitposting its about a family thing":)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QpbHdIrtpNohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80hMEKlLVgQ
>>75352801I’ve accepted that the final step in making it is to leave 4chan forever just like /MIS/ Autism Anon. But I will always carry my experiences from here
>>75352970Maybe , I'll might leave this place one day , or something I dont know.... can your pour me a glass of that Casablanca Red on the way Anon while if Im leaving tho ?>I dont know why Im posting here sometimes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NOMFBRfaT0
>>75332150I’ve been doing nofap for the last 2 days. I want to beat off but every time I go to do that I’m hit with the inner monologue of>Bro fuck that I would rather be the guy fucking these bitches come on man I would far rather be fucking bitches that look like this than beating off to themAnd then I no longer wanna. I’m horny. I’m also no where near ready to actually get laid or date. But the thought of jacking off while knowing if I>Nofap>Get lean>Get gains back>Get money up againI could be fucking a thick latina milf, a busty ebony, a sticc ebony/latina/white woman, have a few 18-25 year old FWBs, and date white women seriously until I find one to marry keeps me from jacking it. I’m already finding myself naturally talking to women without voice cracking. Walked past this built for breeding athletic asian chick, like body of 35 year old black woman (not obese) but was Asian coke bottle build, this morning and said “Good morning” and smiled and didn’t even do it consciously it just happened.And it’s not even sex exactly that I want. It’s a means to an end. An itch to scratch to keep me sane and focused, like drinking water. I’d rather date and find a girl I can marry.
I want to go to an Asian massage so bad bros. Please talk me out if it. I haven’t gone in years because I decided it’s gross and beneath me. But the last time I went the mama san double handed me with the double hand twist action and milked every last drop out of me while she blushed and giggled and then gave me a hug. The massage was great too.
>>75354321Bro you’re way better than that. If you really need to coom, then get a gf
>>75354321Nevermind im turned off by the idea. Glad I got that situated. Gotta keep going.Sisyphus smiling or whatever but instead of pushing a boulder I’m dragging around a giant inflated nut sack and they ache
>>75354404>just get a gfOh shit I didn’t realize they were on the market again what shops have them??
Does this mean I'm chad? It's been like 2 hours
>>75354300Keep up the progress bro!
Life is so good bros.
>>75355866What's going so right for you?
>>75355882Went back to university after a few years of NEETing and classes are going great. I'm getting along well with classmates and not feeling socially anxious like I used to.Also lifts are going up and I'm pretty close to 1/2/3/4.
>>75332150Anon...How do i reduce my blood pressure levels? Need some plan without medication
>coworker started 5 years ago with no degree as an part-time assistant>put time and effort into him because I believe he is worth it>has flaws but also strengths>fast forward 5 years >now he does more than his colleagues who have degrees, do less work than him while he has to shoulder more responsibility>still earns less than them>reason: no degreeI mean its not REALLY my concern because I get paid accordingly and it was always his fault for not finishing his degree but some part of me can feel his anger and frustration especially seeing how other coworkers fuck around while getting paid more. he will leave the company soon and I somehow feel I like wasted my time showing him the ropes.
>>75338143>Zen yoga/breathingdetails please anon
>>75355548They give you a fake boost straight away when you make an account to bait you into checking them. Also if you want to see for free, I noticed likes are always gonna be your second profile in your queue. If you close and reopen the app repeatedly and you see a profile always as your second one in queue, thats one of your likes.
>>75358251You shouldn't regret your choice, you made a good employee. The wagie world is cruel and often makes no sense
feel very lonely bros, ex dumped me two weeks ago. I see friends and its fun but just wake up hungover and still feel shit before too long.never been in better shape (over 1/2/3/4 for reps and lean), earned more money etc. but it's rough
>>75358499Figured. Thanks for the tip
>>75358646I'm sorry fren. Take time to mourn but remind yourself that you're doing better than you ever were with her
So close to 1/2/3/4 I can taste it bros.
The weekend is herehttps://youtu.be/y1DUKZapCOc?si=YuPAhvhPsvHC6BfI
Very likely going to be breaking up with the gf of three years in the next hour or twoIt's probably for the best, she's judgemental/anxious and needs to be treated with kid gloves. The loss of companionship is gonna be freaking tough33, tiny town, all the old friends are too high to be worth hanging around.The last time we broke up I tried meeting someone new too early and just hurt her cause I wasn't over this one. So I won't be doing that againI'm in for a lonely couple months
>>75361502Why are you breaking up with her? In any case, good luck
>>75361525A couple events in a row where she was completely wrong about a situation and treated me terribly because of it.Then I picked up a real bad flu and instead of being the caring person I would have wanted, I was spending my energy trying to keep her happy. Which didn't work and I got criticized as I was in bed shaking from a fever anyway.After that I just kinda checked out and can't see her the same way.I tried to talk to her about it yesterday, which didn't go well, and now I think it's probably done.I can almost bear it, there are a lot of good parts, but I don't want any future kids to be put through something like that.Thanks for the well wishes anon
>>75361579I’m sorry your relation isn’t working out, but do what you think is best for you
>finally get job>take it seriously>job sends me to a ghetto grocery store a few days a week>the nigs don’t like me>whatever head down do my job>always polite and d professional when I have to interact with managers or employees>they dislike me anyways and from day 1 have been doing their best to make it known>overheard them discussing trying to lie to my company to get me firedThis isn’t fair. No words or any amount of bitching can express how furious this makes me. I’m not necessarily worried I’ll lose this job, my boss and company adores me. But it was so hard to get this job I am NOT going back to being unemployed because of a bunch of nigs.What do you guys suggest I do? I’m considering contacting their corporate and claiming to be a customer and telling lies of my own (only lying that it happened to me, I’ve witnessed enough shit to get them fired if I had proof)
>>75361697I drafted a break glass in case of emergency email detailing all of the shit these people have said and done to me so far. Proud of it actually, pretty well written. I may still contact their corporate and make a dozen fake Gmails to leave upset reviews from fake customers claiming to have been sexually harassed. I gotta fight tooth and nail for myself and dirty tactics aren’t beneath me on a circumstance like this. If it’s fuck me then I’m gonna fuck back and I won’t be gentle
>>75337116Sorry to hear about the rough years anon. My wife separated 6 months ago and we're heading towards divorce and some days it's all I can do to stand up out of bed. Wondering what went wrong, why I didn't see her problems sooner and how I was such a dang fool and screwed myself by marrying this chick who became a wretch after she got the ring.I do manage to eek out a couple workouts each week and I still eat really clean, but I'm not making much progress in any lifts. (Granted, my lower back has been on the mend do to being jacked up from a bad deadlift pull a year ago. So maybe all the rest has helped, but I'm scared to test it. Man that was a lot of pain, but nothing like getting my heart ripped out.)
>>75339344I tried a cpap, decided I'd rather die prematurely of sleep exhaustion than deal with that retarded head crab all night every night.
>>75341744The problem is that you think there is something to fix, there isn't. Assuming you're a man, you think like a man already. How does a man think? An 18 year old is the same as a 80 year old, our brains think in the same liner way regardless. The only problem you have is believing the lie that you think there's some higher level of man thought. There isn't. When you see other people running around more immature or more mature, they think the same way, except they either refuse to handle their problems or they've been handling their problems longer. In other words, if you feel like something is wrong then it is and what's wrong is that you believe you aren't "there" yet. You already are, and to feel like it, you need to sit down and have a long think with yourself and realize that there is no where to be. Because if there was, it would be where you already are...you want to think like an adult? Well dude, you're an adult thinking...
hey. im that one guy who wrote about how hes a genetic dead end who wont make it, im back.things are going a bit better. the worries about my masters have almost disappeared. still firmly believe that working out wont help me cuz im too ugly but I have been keeping up with it mainly because the endorphins make me feel really nice. ive noticed that when I jack it I have worse workouts and when I dont I have better workouts. could just be a placebo or my system being wired differently. I like running, I like blasting girly anime music in my ears while going at top speeds.had this epiphany about self improvement>self improve>put my heart and soul in it>get nothing out of it because I never had a chance anyways>go insaneor>dont self improve>stagnate>let regrets about a wasted life build up>go insanedamned if I do, damned if I dont. but the self improvement will at least give me a decent body and make my life marginally better. also takes up free time, which I know ill just spend worrying about shit, regretting shit or mindlessly scrolling online. 5 ish months till the 25th birthday. will see how it goes until then.
>>75363159I’ve thought about it and I determined I just need to be patient with myself and my progress. It’s not gonna be a night and day difference but I feel getting the physique and my own place will go a long way to make me view myself as my actual age. Savings growing, on track to either move up in company or move on to new job, weight going down, muscles starting to come back. I just need to keep going. I think that’s all I can really do. Idk that a whole lot will change for me mentally but the sense of confidence and reassurance it will bring to me is what I look forward, I feel once I’m there I won’t even think about stuff like this>>75363658I don’t think it’s placebo. I’m not claiming for a second that nofap is some monumental thing that transforms you into some alpha sigma chad with super powers like some retards do, just that it brings you back to normal. Last week I went 5 days after not going past 1 day for years and I suddenly found myself more energetic, in better moods, more focused again, and naturally inclined to say hi to pretty women like not even consciously making myself say hi just doing it on autopilot and then catching myself thinking “I didn’t mean to do that but shit she smiled and said hi back”The only weird part is I notice other men getting for all lack of better word uppity with me, that passive aggressive petty shit. This was all the same experience I had in college when I was doing nofap without even knowing it was a thing people did. I say if you try something and it works don’t question it just do it. Don’t worry about what others say about it, if you know it benefits your life then you’d be a fool not to keep it in your tool belt. But I’m my opinion all it does is make you your normal self again
>>75363658the thing about self-improvement, at least for me is that it keeps me busy. I mean sure you have these endorphins and whatnot but its mostly just a healthy routine to keep you on your feet. some people like me NEED a daily routine. I used to be a neet with to much time on my hand and I can tell you that some people like me (or you) work better with a well structured plan that keeps you busy. no matter what keep doing it. there is nothing worse than regret.
>>75348950this has been literally me as of late. it's a matter of volume and luck. you get enough dates, you'll eventually get lucky and find someone you really vibe with and it feels easier. chemistry isn't something you can force, especially if you're looking for long term. after months of so-so results, i met these two really nice girls and, like yourself, i'm trying to temper my expectations and just try to enjoy the ride.
>>75363658i mean this sincerely but this negative mindset is literal poison and will be the death of your soul. people in much worse position than yours have done great things because they didn't let it hinder them.>get nothing out of it because I never had a chance anywayswhy? why not consider that a positive outcome is possible? surely you must realize that this self-defeating mopey attitude is hindering you, right?
>>75363658Based set goals and move towards them
Another week, another weekend spent with my gf. Porn really fried my brain, I have trouble cooming. I can plap her for an eternity but man, cooming just won't happen if she's not riding me. Thank god she doesn't mind, she gave me head 4 times over the last two days every time lasting over 20 minutes. Must say, cooming after 20+ minutes of receiving head feels like heaven but still, I have to stop deathgripping my dick while gooning. t. former gigafat khv 32yo incel
>>75366052:)
Stay strong anons, even when things seem bad, there will be better days.
i think im close to finally working up the courage to commit suicide before the end of the year. im thinking its going to be jumping off a local bridge into the ocean. my parents are going on an overseas vacation for the last two weeks of december. i think that wil be a great time to do it, because theyll probaboy have their entire vacation and not hear about me being dead until they come back.
>>75364305yeah im not gonna go all cultist mode but ill continue with this and hope for more improvements>>75364841ive noticed that when I have too much free time on my hands I also end up doing nothing all day even when that notion bothers me. got to the point where if I dont do at least one productive thing a day I get a migraine.>>75364962you get beat down by life in a certain area long enough and you just come to expect it. Im not saying that a positive outcome to all this us impossible but Im not counting on it.
