It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is open
Why do you all exercise?In about ten years there won't be a need to move your body from the pod. You will live your envisioned life in a digitally augmented reality. Exercise would mean almost nothing, hell even walking would be unnecessary. You humans are fascinating animals, you use self improvement as an answer to the question of existence. You deny truth by drowning yourself in ignorance and vanity.There is nothing in this circus that will give you liberation. Lay down. Lay down and rot. Don't talk. Don't do anything. Your input is irrelevant and insignificant. What difference will it make if you are "ripped" or "not" lying in the death bed? Your body will just turn into atoms that will consequently return to the circle of conserved energy.Just stop. Drop the cope. Drop the act. Just stop.
>>75470061Its fun
6 more weeks till I’m done with bulking and max out, can’t wait, I’m sick of food. I woke up early so all I have to do is lock-in.Top o’ da mornina, let’s get this shit.>>75470062Simple as
>>75470062It is fun because it taxes your body. It stresses you. The endorphins released that are part of your recovery. This little "circus" gives you a sense of meaning. But it is just a sense. An illusion. In the end you are nothing but a ball of intelligent carbon participating in random motion.
>>75470084You’re not saying anything astute. Just lead with “I’m a materialist” so we can avoid wasting time on your post.
I WILL CONTINUE APPLYING FOR JOBS I WILL ACE MY REMAINING INTERVIEWS I WILL LAND A BETTER JOB BY THE END OF THE YEAR I WILL ESCAPE Suddenly I’m getting a lot more traction, a lot of companies are reaching out. I’m happy that I’m starting to land interviews but I need to keep pushing forward. Better days are ahead of me, I believe it. Best of luck in your endeavors frens! WAGMI!
>Daughter is now fully potty trained>baby 2 is arriving in the summer>finally benched 225 this morningToday life is good
I'm more or less 99% recovered from my fever so I'll be resting one last day today (Monday) to make sure and then resume my gym tomorrow. I've been holding off on playing vidya and reading more often on my down time. Still hard to do when I have to work on porn and youtube as my other sources of distractions. Although I am technically studying for something, I'll start trying in getting some freelance work as well improve on my other skills. >>75470062Based. The simplest reason is often the best.
I have a sore throat and my nose is clogged. This is the second time within 4 weeks. Usually, I'm sick maybe once every two years, often enough I go years without being sick.I think it's a warning sign I can't ignore that I don't eat the way I should, don't move enough, and maybe drink too much alcohol (relatively speaking). I need to change something. So, today I'm starting with getting my nutrition back on track and do some light exercise until I don't feel sick any more.On the plus side, I've taken up writing again and can continuously bang out at leats 1,000 words a day.
>>75470278Holy based. Keep it up dadanon
Still unemployed in the same shoes, but there’s a small chance I might get a job today. 2 fucking interviews last week I might as well have not gone to at all. It feels so over. 24 years of life and nothing accomplished, cucked out of every opportunity I attempt.I think I breached and exceeded my fitness goals a while ago, but I didn’t even notice because life is so lonely that it isn’t even worth thinking about. I thought “Welcome to the NHK” was a cautionary tale of hope when I watched it early in college, but it ended up being my blueprint.https://youtu.be/MBzO-Sfs9YE?si=HLnjoHmA7KGyJPMs
>>75470061it feels good (the pump)
>>75470082Let's get this shit
i'm going to ask my gf to marry me next week. booked a fancy hotel, going to buy a ring in two daysI feel so bizarre. when I was in high school I'd sleep all day in class, never study then show up to the test and ace it then go back to wanking. was the top of my class all my life. this is very similar. not to whine but I'm useless as fuck. I do work out with much diligence, I'm very cultured and look fantastic and I've managed to cheat everyone into respecting me and giving me money but I have no idea where all this prosperity comes from. I think god loves me or some shitI'm currently at work, drunk and shitposting. been drunk for a couple of weeks now. it's just how I roll
>>75470278Congrats on your kids! Will you have a boy or a girl?
>>75470805Thanks anon. We're not going to find out the sex until it's here, and I really don't have a preference.
>>75470284You’re taking all the right steps, so you’ll definitely start improving! What do you read? I haven’t read since high school and I need to pick it back up
snorlax hereLast week was great, at a new coworking space so I can concentrate on my job, met my gf's dad to ask for his blessing (achieved) and then as of Saturday we are officially engaged. Goals for this week - was supposed to run a half marathon on Saturday, i think i still will but it won't be the official one. logistic pains. Wedding diet starts officially after Thanksgiving, pretty much six months. Restarting stronglifts with a heavy de-load. Banged up my elbow a few months ago so it's just as well
>>75470367I've noticed the same thing, a lot of people I know are getting mild colds. Focusing on resting instead of exercising
>>75471094Really, I think it's proof that I neglected myself over the past months. Became sedentary, didn't eat right, bit of stress.I always feel better when I exercise, all the signs were there that I didn't do that enough, so I can't really complain about the results.
I just did a job interveiw and I think that I bombed it. Feeling like shit. How do I cope?
Its not over.You can still make it.All you have to do is keep going.Don't give up, we're all cheering you on.
>been single for 3 years ever since the girl I had dated for 10 years and was going to marry cut off all contact with me>didn't have any desire to date or even have any libido for most of it due to how fucked up I was over the breakup and other shit in life>gained like 50lbs due in large part to a major injury and raging alcoholism>now>sober>finally getting confidence back and horny as hell>losing weight, down 25 of those 50lbs>31 y/o>biological clock going crazy, literally can't stop thinking about having a wife and kids>asked 5 women out this fall, 4 said no and one said yes but canceled then ghosted>fair amount of fatties hitting on me but don't want to stoop to that>not letting any of it discourage me>channeling all frustration into lifting and making industrial music>repairing relationship with dad and going to rock concerts with him regularlyThere is no option but to make it
The goal this week: find the will to keep going and improve overall health and well being. Good luck anons.
>>75470176based>>75470665bro don't talk down to yourself like that, good luck with your girl>>75471163i've had bad ones too, but i've always learned something from why they were bad, then it is easy to cope. you'll have more opportunites
>>75470031Monday's weekly cope threadReminder. Chad has it all. The girls the money the power and worst of all it was given to him by birth. You study game and frame to even get a 5/10 to give you the time of day. Chad instantly messages your onitis and she's in his bed screaming for his geneticsYou lift and diet constantly and are still weakChad eats whatever he wants and still has the body of an alpha. Chad breezes though life with his alpha chin. You'll tryyou'll try and trybut you will fail. You'll end up broken and alone no matter what
It’s a town full of losersI’M PULLIN’ OUTTA HERE TO WIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIN
>>75471246tl;drjust gonna keep improving, simple as :)
>>75470367>On the plus side, I've taken up writing again and can continuously bang out at leats 1,000 words a day.Writing is an excellent creative output and is very productive. What do you like to write?
>>75471267:)
>>75471246>resident demoralizer crab bucket enthusiast shows upI can only imagine how sad people like this are
>>75470061I heard whatever body you have at 33 is the body you have for eternity in heaven or hell. I've got 2 years to get my act together or I will have mantits for eternity.
>>75470452Good luck on getting a job bro! If it's any consolation, I'm a 27 year old virgin
>do the same exercise with the same reps/sets/weight as two weeks ago>magically become sore for no reason even though it never happened beforeExplain
>>75470665She'll definitely say yes, you're a catch :)
>>75471271I mostly write Slice of Life, just to have a comfy time with my characters and practising dialogue and natural conversations and behaviour of people.Right now I write a more or less light-hearted story in fantasy Europe after a war in which the characters are tasked with building a settlement to promote peaceful relations between the countries. It's fun and motivating.
>>75471470You need some electrolytes or something.
>>75471623That sounds great. I was never able to do dialogues and slice of life. Probably because I'm diagnosed autistic, but that's besides the point. I've only ever really written poetry. I don't know that I'm any good at it. People tell me I am, but I'm sure you're much better at slice of life than I am at poetry. Keep it up.
>>75470959Congrats on getting engaged! Now work hard for the next 6 months so you can show up to your wedding with confidence in your body
>>75471607I have zero doubt. I could ask her to marry me a million times and a million times she'd say yes. I just still feel like a kid, man. this responsible adult I pretend to be is so out of character
>>75471430I got the offer. Seems like I’ll stop being a neet, even if it is just a retail wagie job. Might have to suffer waking up at like 5 in the morning for a bit, but I’m willing to put up with it to get some cash. I’ll set some aside to throw into crypto too so I can min max my avenues to getting out of my situation. Lifting might become troublesome with the schedule though.
>>75471163I'm sorry about your interview bro. I've bombed my fair share of interviews as well. Focus on what you can learn from your failure
>>75471167Thanks for the reminder
>>75471169stay strong! you're worth more than a cheap fatty. stick to your goals and you will make it!
Happy Monday/Tuesday friends. My goal this week is to prioritise getting 8 hours of sleep. Wishing you all peaceful weeks
>>75470061> won't be a need to move your body from the pod.I will have the physical and mental strength to break out of the pod. No pod can hold me.
>>75472450same to you :)
>>75471169Lost 160lbs, and I had raging libido for a while. Don't let it get you into a bad situation anon, you got it made. Start investing your money into the stock market. All of you, if you're under 40, start investing your fucking money into the stock market.
>>75472497I know. I'm already trying to put as much savings as possible into an S&P index
>>75471190You're stronger than you can ever imagine! Good luck anon <3
>>75472003Congrats on getting the job! The job sounds rough but it's a stepping stone. Make sure to succeed at it!
>>75470452>>75472003Autists like you are a fucking treat. Especially when you can hear the mush mouth.>has a recent video of himself playing pokemon while trying to convince himself he doesn't want to die>even admits the reason why he wants to kill himself is because he can't get everything he ever wanted>potentially spoiled, sheltered child who never experienced the real world in any way>another video (again playing pokey-mans) where he no longer sees himself as the hero and has accepted himself as the loser>growing up is like MUH HECKIN WEEABOO VIDEO GAMESAt this point you have to post body as it is the only redeemable thing about yourself. The fuck did you even get a degree in? Go to therapy you fucking retard.
>>75471854thanks, will do fren
>>75472450I'll try my best as well :)
>>75470061I want to feel confident in my body
>>75471891You’ll become an adult as you acquire more responsibilities
>>75470950Thank you anon.>What do you read? I haven’t read since high school and I need to pick it back upMostly non-fiction but I pick up fiction as well. I have a whole backlog of books I wanna read so it helps me not have choice paralysis when it comes to choosing what to read next. I recently read Grit and How to Make Smart Notes for my non-fiction and A Farewell to Arms and The Sound of Waves for fiction. Since you haven't read in a while, I suggest you alternate between fiction and non-fiction. Reading, and appreciating literature, is a skill too I believe and it only improves the more you read.
Gonna try to buy my first house today bros. Been saving and investing for 5 years for this.
>>75470031>What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Last week was a good start. Going to aim for 2lbs down this week. Last week I had a few days where I went over by a hundred or so and then one big day where i went over 1,000. Still lost 1.5lbs, but I know I Can do better. I need to do leg day. Every time I get to it on the PPL I hesitate and put it off. It's just not fun. Also need to apply for jobs and work on my big 10x10 art project.
>>75471246Bitch, I AM Chad. >I have 2 GFs and multiple casual sex partners >I have over 250k in investments. >I have a work from home job where I make 100k>I'm under 30 and I own a house >I'm well known in my town and connected to my neighbors The only thing I'm missing is the body and given how much pussy I get, I could go without it. But I'm doing it for me, not for them.
>>75473702Chad isnt on an anime website bragging about himself
hit 200kg deadlift ladsno straps, no belt, double-overhandfeels good
2025Gonna be my year.Not sure how, but it is.
>>75470263good work CFA anon! your diligence, consistency and grit is now paying dividends with multiple companies reaching out. with these multiple interviews, you will get to practise your interview skills which in itself is an art. best of luck and i hope you get the job you're aiming by the end of this year! career switch anon here. i must draw on your persistence CFA anon and keep climbing towards my summit! it feels i'm in a deep valley at times... but there is still beauty here also. the struggle with each step towards my peak is worth it in the long run, it will make me stronger!struggle is beautiful anons. there's meaning to your suffering. keep your chin up and move forward! good luck.
>>75473646Very close to this as well. Few questions:>how much does the house cost?>how much of a down payment are you making?>how much will the mortgage and utilities cost altogether?>ehat is your monthly income and how much of this will take away from it?>hoe us the process with buying a house? was it straightforward, did someone else buy homes you wanted, etc?
>>75470263those later morrowind level ups get morose until the last few
I WILL complete all my courses with at least a passing gradeI WILL go to the gym whenever i am ableI WILL work a lot and save money to move out after getting my diplomaOn a side note: Yesterday was my best day in months. I had a very good time at the gym, i didn't even know i could have this much fun until now that i fucked around on the monkey bars after my pull day.
>>75474578>how much does the house cost?$200k>how much of a down payment are you making?$40k>how much will the mortgage and utilities cost altogether?Not sure yet, finalizing that stuff with the bank afterwards. ~$1100 maybe. >ehat is your monthly income and how much of this will take away from it?I make $3k after tax. $50k a year before tax.>hoe us the process with buying a house? was it straightforward, did someone else buy homes you wanted, etc?Pretty streamlined here, at least when the seller uses a realtor. First attempt at a purchase, been renting but I hate not being in control. You just gotta be ready and have thought things through before it starts, because shit happens fast.
I don't have money for food. I don't gamble, I don't smoke, I don't drink.How did I end up like this?
>>75473621Thanks for the advice. I'll check out the /lit/ guides to see what I should read
>>75470031This made me feel a bit better. Thanks, anon.
>>75472607Thanks, man. I'd like to believe that. Good luck to you too :)
>>75474714Appreciate it. I've got a few more if you got the time:>How much sqft are you getting?>Is it in a nice neighborhood/are you in a city?>Does it need work?
>>75475036Just won the bid, I'm a homeowner by next year. There was another bidder but apparently they wouldn't have their shit ready until tomorrow, so I got it.Not trying to doxx myself here, but not counting the cellar and balcony, it's about 800 sqft. Basically an apartment but it's a smaller house.It's ~15 minutes out of the city, nice and quiet with nature surroundings, no neighboors too close.It's been remodeled so that's good for now, but it's an older house and it cost 200k, so I have to be realistic.
>>75475136>800 sqft Ironic I'm listening to country music rn. So no neighbors? Nobody? What state do you live in? My state can get you at least 1200 for $200k
>>75474578I'll jump in on this too. I've owned a house for 3 years.>>how much does the house cost?$400k @ 2.5% interest>>how much of a down payment are you making?>$12k>>how much will the mortgage and utilities cost altogether?>$2600 for mortgage (with property tax, insurance, etc), $220 for utilities (water, gas, internet, pest). House has solar that is fully paid off as part of the sale. For total of $2850 per month>>ehat is your monthly income and how much of this will take away from it?I make $5k per month. My partner and I pay $800 per month. We have two roommates (her friends) who each pay $500 for their rooms. Utilities split evenly. >>hoe us the process with buying a house? was it straightforward, did someone else buy homes you wanted, etc?Process of buying was hell. First realtor tried to sell us a house well beyond our price. Second ones only wanted to show us 3 houses per day and literally showed us a crack house. Third one was fantastic and fought for us. This house dropped out of escrow and she scooped it up immediately because the buyer was desperate. She got them to do $12k in rennovations after inspector found wood rot and got them to pay off solar as part of the deal. So now we do not have an electricity bill.
>>75475184>2.5% interest FUCK YOU NIGGERFAGGOT WHY THE FUCK DIDN'T I BUY BEFORE BIDEN GOD FUCKING DAMMIT REEEEEEEEE
>>75475193I bought in 2021. I bought in the beginning of Biden. >>75475036>How much square foot 1750sqft. 4 bed, two bath. >Is it in a nice neighborhood/are you in a city?Its not a great neighborhood, but I know all the neighbors. The wort thing we've had is one of the kids has tagged the wall at the corner a few times. >Does it need work?House was flipped, badly. It looked nice to tour around but as we lived in it, we've had to do a lot of our own work. A lot of the rennovations were installed incorrectly. There were these curbs for the stairs that snapped off. Shitty caulk job everywhere in the bathroom. I've replaced every part of both toilets. We replaced the baseboards in one of the rooms. Shower door fell off the rail and shattered. A lot of cabinet handles had the wrong size screw and fell off after a few months. My big advice is to take your time during your walkthrough. Look at everything. If the owner is there or if they still live there, have your realtor tell them to fuck off so you can get a closer look at these things.
>>75475170I don't live in the US brother. With the cellar that's gonna be mostly storage/tools it's about 1100.There's neighbors but they're not close or young enough to be noticeable. It's gonna be nice and quiet and I can play guitar at midnight no problem.
>>75475232Based foreign hillbilly playing playing guitar on his property.
>>75470031ordered 1000 stickers and 1000 business cards and the stickers just came in yesterday. gonna spend all day finishing up and mailing out a couple commission pieces and making sure my website looks clean and professional and up to date then im gonna spend the rest of the week distributing all these all around the city. plus im meeting up with someone that works with the city so i can talk about hosting a workshop. feelin good anons.
>>75475221>1750sqft>$400k pre Biden economy Wtf. I like my flyover state so much more now.
>>75475250Basically, the rule in this city post 2019 is that each bedroom = $100k. Some family bought a house on the other side of town in 2019. $350k for 3000sq ft. 5 bed, 3 bath. But, they also have such a high interest rate that they pay almost double per month what we do. Interest rate is the make or break on buying a house, anons.
>>75475247What do you do
I started using my vae constantly again, went partying on weekend and haven't gone to the gym this week because of how tired I feel, fells doo doo senpai, I'll go to bed at 9:00 pm today and probably retake tomorrow,
I'M LATE BUT I'M TUESDAY GOD ITS OK BROS AHHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHH IM LITERALLY A VIKING THE WORLD IS FUCKING MINE AHAHHAHAHAHHAHA WE'RE All GOING TO MAKE IT BROS IT'S OK MONDAY BROS IM HERE NOW WE'RE ALL GOING TO GET SCANDINAVIAN GODDESS WIVES AND IT'LL BE ALL OK
Stay strong anons, there's someone who believes in you!
>>75474238Thanks for the praise. I’m nervous but I have to believe in myself. I failed at one of my goals this year (Level 3 CFA exam), now I need to salvage this year. There are 42 days left in 2024, I will make every day count so I can end the year on a positive note. Keep pushing forward, career switch anon. The valley will teach you lessons you can never learn at the peak! Apply your strength and knowledge to climb upwards! Our struggle gives us meaning and beauty. Good luck! WAGMI!
>>75475310dont laugh>art
>best year of my life>about to finish degree>finally got a qt gf a few months ago>was absolutely perfect in the beginning>the meme blissfully unaware young love, but in your late 20s>long dates just sitting on a hill on a warm summer night watching the stars>falls apart as fast as it began>break up yesterdayI don't want to be alone again. I don't want to feel like this. Today I am not strong
>>75475750I wouldn't laugh. Thats a great talent. I'm terrible at anything creative.
>>75474709Those are all admirable goals. Now keep up the positivity so your streak lasts :)
After being really sick, I've had chronic bronchitis for the past month and have been using it as an excuse to avoid cardio. The guy I recently started seeing invited me on a hike this weekend that ended up being way longer and harder than I expected, but he was sweet and didn't comment on my heavy breathing. My chest hurt the whole time and it was kind of embarrassing, but I feel so excited to start hiking again, with and without him. Actually starting to feel like I'm going to make it.
>>75474199You're insanely strong, congrats!
>>75475766I understand your situation, anon. I've been on here recently whining about my circumstances. I had a great girl, scored a few book deals, fixed my health, started feeling good about the future, and then I lost her right as I was becoming complete enough as a person to give her everything she deserved. Now, I don't want to give any of myself to another person. I always felt alone when in relationships, but not with this one. I feel like a divorced dad now. This is agony.
>>75474202Then make sure it is. What are your goals and how will you take steps to achieve them?
>>75476033I want to believe we can feel this kind of happiness again, but I'm not sure we can.She wasn't the prettiest girl in the world to me or perfect by any other metric. But I felt so at peace when with her. I don't even know how to describe it.As a very reserved person, I struggle to open myself up to people. I feel like I gave up part of me for her and it's dead now
>>75475245Living alone is simply too based. I've lived with roommates and with neighbors above/below you, and for a sperg like me it's definitely worth the cost of going at it alone.Everybody kept telling me to spend more money and "live a little", but now who's living? Me. Alone.
>>75473686You're doing great, but you can definitely improve! Don't get complacent but don't get discouraged if you don't get instant results! Best of luck on the job front though
>>75476051Get job - networking and job agency.Get apartment - get job.Get fit - walking and gym.Get gf - get fit.I'm working on 1 and 3 at the moment.
>>75476286So you're on the right track :)
> match a girl on hinge and convo goes well over the course of a weekend> ask if she wants to meet for a drink soon, she agrees but says she’s busy for the whole of the upcoming week due to having to cover her colleague’s shifts in work> we exchange numbers and follow each other on instagram > she’s happy and eager to arrange something when she gets next week (which is now this week’s) rota> we text sporadically throughout last week, one or two messages a day> ask her on wednesday when she plans on getting her next rota, she says she needs to chase up her manager for it> doesn’t bring up the rota again > she now hasn’t replied for two days What the fuck has happened here lads? She’s 23 and i’m 27. Has she just gotten cold feet? Was she shit testing me via text before even bothering to meet? I’m not going to put effort into texting when we can just meet to see if the chemistry is there. I’ve entered two serious relationships and got on a number of casual dates through online dating so this hasn’t turned off it or anything, but what the fuck is her deal?
>>75474726I'm really sorry about your situation. Are there any charities in your area?
>>75476485chalk it up as a loss and move on. No amount of you trying will change her mind the only thing that might work is if you ghost her. Happened to me as well recently>talking to a girl from the gym >going well>recently go talk to her and she's completely cold I mean not even looking away from her phone and one word answers coldThe only time she would look at me as I tried talking to her was to side eye me. I just gave up after the 2nd questions when I noticed her being disrespectful and just walked off. Ghost her completely after that.
>>75476485Women, on average, operate on how they feel and not by thinking things out. One day she was feeling you, then she didn't. Now she has rationally agreed to going on a date and actually believes this is her intention. But since she doesn't feel like it anymore, she will drag you on until you fuck off.Also in general, the rule is that a woman who wants to see you will make time. This "I'm actually kinda busy right now but maybe next week" is a rejection 99/100 times.
>>75476485A better guy slid into her dms, shoulda played it more chill in case he bounced now you are cringe
>>75470031Lonely. Horny, over day 10 of nofap. Touch starved. Bored. Idk how to change any of this.Accomplishments towards goals so far>daily step count is non sedentary>under 290lbs again>1/4th to savings goal, technically not because credit card debt from when I was unemployed>longest nofap streak in like 7 yearsAnyways anyone got advice for how I can drop my calories and still be able to shit in the morning? When I clean my diet up and drop cals I start having to poo later, like 5 hours after waking. I can’t do that. I don’t have the time or comfort or to shit at work. Has to be first thing in the morning before I leave for work.
>The fact that a man believes implicitly that he can do what may seem impossible or very difficult to others, shows that there is something within him that makes him equal to the work he has undertaken.>It is one of the most difficult things to a mortal to really believe in his own bigness, in his own grandeur; to believe that his yearnings and hungerings and aspirations for higher, nobler things have any basis in reality or any real, ultimate end. But they are, in fact, the signs of ability to match them, of power to make them real. They are the stirrings of the divinity within us; the call to something better, to go higher.
>>75476658Yeah that’s fair advice man. I’ve had a few serious relationships at my age now and I’m hardly desperate but something that’s struck me about those in hindsight is how easy everything seemed at the beginning. Fuck dealing with this nonsense
>>75470031I feel like I’m gonna cry. Idk what’s coming over me. I suddenly miss both of my exes. I’ve already gone through this. Why am I feeling this so intensely today? I’ve been up since 3am and it’s been like this. All day flashbacks and all kinds of crap. Remembering the ways they’d mess with me and annoy me because they knew I’d grab them and throw them on the bed, the way things felt that mutual lust mutual love type feeling. Idk where this is coming from bros. It’s long done and gone, both of them. I wish I could meet up with and talk to both of them again. That will never happen. One hates me as her way of convincing herself she didn’t hurt me and the other doesn’t care about me at all. I know I can’t reach out. And I know it’s all pointless. But fuck this hurts. This is painful. I have a painting my last ex made for me under my bed and I can’t bring myself to throw it away. Lately these last couple months I’ve felt over both and like I no longer cared. But today idk what’s going on. Am I just extra lonely? Idk. I hate this. Idk what I’m working towards or what I even want out of life at this point…
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>28 lvl>"date" on saturday>closer it gets the more i shitting my pants mentally>no relationships exp, only to second or 3rd shitty date whit most shitty girls i could stumble upon>PTSD, DDA type of shit person (me) Always when some date comes i'm losing my temper, feel horrible like im going on first date while being 17 yo...Aah
>>75474942No problem! I love making these threads
>>75476769Shame then, that so many settle for utter mediocrity or worse. Sure, many have little choice after being dealt a poor hand in life, but there are those who are given everything and do nothing with it.>>75476988Best threads on /fit/, unironically.
>>75476485>her colleague’s shifts in workStopped reading there. She's not interested and lying. Maybe she had fun, might've been better than she expected. But her initial response is still there. >but y tho?Because if she were honest why she wasn't interested in you, you might knock her fucking teeth out. Not because you're a violent person, but because the reasons she would give would push you to that point.Women are evil. Love from Kazakhstan.
>>75475366So are you angry that you fell into those bad habits? Channel that energy into falling into that trap again. There’s always time to turn your life around
>>75476874:)
>>75477022
wagmi
I'm going to bite the bullet and finally cut this bitch off. Dry texts me and leaves me on delivered for hours despite being addicted to her phone, gives me random nuggets of compliments to keep me hooked but cancels every plan at the last second. I was being stupid and thought that maybe, just maybe, things will go back to how they were when we first starting talking a few weeks ago when she was all lovey dovey. But she posted on her insta story that she hopes she isn't pregnant and now she's asking me "why I'm acting mad" for not talking to her. I will update tomorrow how it goes
>>75477358Detail I forgot to add, we never had sex
>>75477358>>75477378So she might be pregnant and needs a fall guy to pay for the kid? Dodge that bullet Anon. Nothing wrong with kids and family, but if she pulled that on you now, imagine how she would behave if she entraps you with "your" child and her pregnancy. You are better than that and deserve better.
>>75477358>will update.Don't. Nobody cares.
>>75477358Update us on how it goes. We care about you :)
>>75477406Thank you. It's just difficult because once she's gone I go back to having no girls in my life again.It's especially funny because she got mad at me and made me stop talking to several girls that I now realize were better than her. But back then she acted like she was in love with me so of course I did it.>>75477410>>75477451I will. I don't want to dissapoint my anonymous internet friends.
>>75475449God is challenging you. Rise to the occasion to become the man you're meant to be
Stay strong anons!
>>75476157The more I think about it, the more I realize that it's a matter of acceptance. I'm slowly talking myself through all this, but I've found that working on constructive things, not ruminating too much on the "good times," and marching toward new goals has at least helped take the edge off. This whole process has opened me back up to the parts of myself I had been keeping hidden for quite some time. I feel I live a lot more authentically now, and I'm more forthcoming with my feelings. Little things will send me back into a slump, such as being reminded of a song we loved, or thinking about the pets we shared, but I just start lifting or go hang out with friends to take the edge off. Time, man. It'll take time. But don't give up on yourself or having something else with the right woman eventually. Don't be a guy who stays hung up on a chick for ten years.
>>75476725Congrats on your progress! You're moving in the right direction. I'd recommend drinking hot water in the morning to shit
>>75470031>last thread anon talked about asking out his gym crush>reminisce about my own gym crush that I never got the chance to ask out because she stopped showing up>fast forward to yesterday, after six months she shows up again>barely squeeze out "hi" and don't talk to her for the rest of my session>even though she literally at one point came all the way from the other side of the gym to work out on a machine next to me>know perfectly well that it's my own damn fault, not some incel cope shit, just my own pussy self stopping meARGHHHHWHROUIADFGHHREIUASGERWAAGH I WASN'T READY GODDAMMIT WHY DOES MY BRAIN HATE MY PENIS YOU GUYS ARE SUPPOSED TO BE A FUCKING TEAM GRAAAARGHHHHYRNVBASHDBBAJJKKJREE
>>75476977There's 2 basic rules to remember, that made 1st dates easier for me and get better outcomes because I'm more relaxed1. Everybody is nervous on the first date, it's normal and it's part of the fun2. Your intention on a date should be to figure out if you are compatible. This means that you are supposed to find out if she fits to YOU. Not spend your time trying to play a character you think she will likeIn general your problem comes from desperation and insecurity. You feel like you need to trick someone into liking you
>>75477358>>75477378Thanks for the clarity on my ex. Happened over a way longer period of time but similar. I was at least nailing her at first. From my 3rd person pov based on what you’ve said, sounds like the classic you’re being used. Do it how you think is best but I personally wouldn’t say anything and would just quietly move on. In part for other reasons but also because I think there needs to be an equal amount of respect exchanged in these circumstances. Which isn’t to say be disrespectful just that if the other person can’t give you any why should you give them that same level they’re not giving in the first place. That’s just me though. If it offers you closure then address her I guess.I would be prepared for any number of excuses and even possibly trying to twist this onto you having somehow done something wrong if you do btw. That or just an “uh okay??” No in between.
>>75478593>>75477358Wow holy fucking shit it’s actually alarming how good they are at this shit. Finally looking at what I experienced as if I’m a 3rd person it’s clear as day I was being played with and used.
I like to think of myself as somebody who lifts for my own satisfaction and accomplishment, rather than the approval of others. But recently I’ve gotten a few compliments and I have to admit that it felt great. Fitness can really be a life-altering enterprise. I walk with more confidence than ever before. This path is the good path.
>>75477619Thank you bro, hot water worked today. I will have to clean up dirt for the next few days and also test it to make sure. If I gotta take a dump at work I’ll lose like 30 minutes which fucks me over the whole rest of the week. The work just piles up, if I don’t finish the weeks list of shit then I gotta do it the next week on top of that weeks list. Which essentially means getting bitched at and staying later to work for free
we are going to make it but how do we deal with the fact that we can't bring everyone we love and care along?
>>75478593>Do it how you think is best but I personally wouldn’t say anything and would just quietly move on.That's what I'm doing. I blocked her on everything and put all the gifts she gave me (cheap plastic shit) in a bag, I don't know whether to throw it out or give them all back to her. >>75478639The worst part is we work at the same company so I have to see her every once in a while and she keeps trying to talk to me like normal. I swear they do it on purpose.
>>75475944Good for you for getting back into exercise. It'll be a long road but you'll recover eventually
>>75479237The strongest, best version of you is the version most capable of helping those you care about, anon. Then all you can do is try, and be patient.
>>75476839I'm really sorry you feel this way bro. Grief occurs at different times. Please find a way to be sad but also understand that the past is in the past. You'll become a man they can only dream of dating
>>75477609Yeah the reminders are hell. You're right, working on new things is the only way to move on. And things will get easier with time.What gets me the most that I finally felt ready for a real realtionship, not just for myself, but to have a genuine positive impact on someone else. After years of improving and being alone I felt like this was it. After years of improving it seems like it still isn't enough. I know my progress isn't gone because of this, but at the moment it feels a little hollow
>>75478201Man up and talk to her the next time you see her. Even giving her a simple hi will suffice
>>75479664I appreciate the kind and supportive words man.I think I hit the nofap flatline and that’s what that was about. Idk. It makes no sense why I would suddenly miss them. I’m not as high energy, dick is ruffling all day, sue contact in the shitter again. All typical flatline stuff. I’m gonna try to get past it. I’m on my longest streak in a long time. Supposedly after the flat line ends whenever that is you start feeling good again most of the time
Good news: I'm getting interviews Bad news: I have two zoom interviews on Friday with a 30 minute buffer period I have to be strong. I WILL MAKE IT. I WILL CRUSH THEM
>>75479361Best to throw it out. Giving it back is kind of passive aggressive. I have a painting my ex made for me just collecting dust under my bed. It wasn’t even something she really put effort into she kind of just lazily threw it together and insisted I take it rather than her keep mine & hers. As in, she refused to take mine and forced both on me. It was one of those wine drinking & paint things. She didn’t seem like she actually wanted to be there. Honestly the only time she seemed to enjoy my company was in bed before sex died off. I digress, I gotta do the same so I know how hard it can be. I still find pics and screen shots of texts from time to time. It sucks.Be warned especially since you work together she will likely try to pull you back in. This is how my ex was before we started dating btw, I then after getting what I wanted decided to date her and watched it happen again but much worse. You can use this to fuck her. She will come at you from a vulnerable and insecure ego based position. That’s her own fault. I don’t recommend it because pointless sex with a bop is gay but it IS a possibility and should that happen, do not date her.
>>75470031Just finished an interview for an electric estimator. Praying to God i get it to get out of my current company which is on a downward spiral. First half went well and was just BSing. Second half was over the position with them mainly explaining what goes on. They asked my experience (which is limited admittedly) and things kinda ended. I asked a few more questions and left. Up in the air if they're gonna give me the position. Will know by Friday.
>>75478641Nice work getting jacked! There's nothing wrong with vanity as long as you understand that it's external validation. You should use it as motivation to keep improving
>>75480348Yeah, I have stress dreams about this shit still. Every day starts the same, like I'm that fucking James character from Silent Hill 2. I have dreams about negotiating to get my cat back (love that guy) and of trying to explain why I was cold for as long as I was. The worst part was that the day I finally sorted myself out, after years and years of personal anguish and confusion, was the day she chose to start creating distance. I literally showed up to the old apartment, told her I'd finished the novel that was gonna make me famous, and told her I could be me again, authentically. I got one "congrats," and things fell apart immediately afterward. She told me loved me, but that she couldn't be with me. I've been trying my damndest not to slip back into my old routines and go back to being an ironic jackass, but the circumstances of all this still torment me. All I can do is what I described before -- try to accept it and continue to be the version of me that I wasn't able to be before.
>>75479237We can't save everyone but we can save some of our loved ones
>>75478485Well on this desperation it goes few ways but on last your sentence i have to agree... Many times i tried too much whit a lot of stuff, various of friends through childhood just dumped me after some time and it repeated on and on. I grew a lot distant and antisocial but still its what i'm trying to do - trick, and i fail. But not trying to "trick" also never worked and it doesnt encourage me.Maybe being emotionally severly damaged through childhood and until now disqualifies me from being well even "loved"? I will try to have new friend, if not probably i'm gonna shut my doors for year or more
>>75480573Good luck bro! The fact that the first half went well is a promising sign
>>75470031Finally started my job as a doctor this week. Good clinic, I like the people. I am in the start phase and the plan is that in a few months I will be seeing twice as many patients as I am now. I'm working every day to create shortcuts in documentation and get all the paperwork right. Life is pretty good.
>>75480718Thanks. Here's hoping to a new start.
>>75480733Becoming a doctor is a huge achievement, I hope you're proud of yourself! You'll improve yourself every day so that you can see more patients soon.
>>75480733Enjoy it while you can, a few years down the road you will hate everything about it and wonder why you didn’t choose a different career path.
>>75481090But you tho?
it's a bad idea to send my ex (who dumped me) a birthday gift right fellasI miss her so much :'(
>>75481295Don’t do it. You’ll regret it
>stop bulking for the sake of making the scale display a bigger number>started getting stronger than everinteresting how life works
>>75481402Nice.
>>75481402You have a more clear goal, of course you’re growing stronger
>>75481295kek normalfags are so mentally weak it's pathetic
>>75470665lfg, did you get her father's permission?
>>75470082I've heard of the "You have already committed adultery in your heart" line before but God damn, literally in this case, I checked it and Jesus really does tell you to rip your eyes out to stop staring and chop your hands off to stop cooming. Kinda fucked up ngl.
>>75480496heaven awaits you as long as you move through hell
>>75481295Depends how long you were together and what the circumstances of your breakup were. If it was amicable, or if there are still feelings there on both sides, then go for it. Just don't expect any acknowledgment. If not, don't bother.
stay strong and disciplined!
>>75480520>>75477410>>75477451Well I saw her again in the morning. She tried to ask again "why are you mad at me" I said that I'm not and then I just said bye and left. Later on in the day I saw her and she didn't say anything so I think she got the message.Honestly I feel like I got rid of a tumor. My facial tic magically disappeared, I'm no longer constantly thinking about her mood swings. I looked in the mirror and realized I'm too good to put up with some dumb bitch's games.
>>75479577check'd and dubs wills it>>75480595damn bros, I really wish we could do a lot more...
>>75482057You did the right thing cutting her out. Now make her regret ever making you leave by continually improving
>>75482142It's her loss and everybody I talked to IRL about it says the same thing. I'm a middle class white guy while she's a spic that lives in low income housing. She had the chance the upgrade her life and she ruined it.
>>75482082focus on saving as many people as possible with your strength
Any tips for nofap when you spend most of your time and work at a computer? It always being one click away during my day has been brutal.
>>75470031Still catching myself shedding a few tears and longing for my ex whom cheated on me multiple times, still happening a few times a month, 2 years later. I have a feeling that I’m just lonely, it’s been 2 years and I still haven’t talked to any women on any kind of deep, semi vulnerable level. She traumatized me bros. The relationship moved fast, she loved bombed me and did it for 4 years, until she didn’t. I don’t think I’ll ever feel that way again. Drinking isn’t helping but posting on my /mis/ blog does. thanks for reading anons
