It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is open
>stuck at 66 kg for MONTHS despite eating at 1500 calories>finally hitting 65kgFor autistic reasons I just really wanted to reach this baseline before stopping the cut. FUCK plateau's, holy shit. Laws of thermodynamics my ASS.
>>75712746Do I really have to plan every meet up with a girl? Makes me feel like she's not as interested even if she agrees to go every time
I failed all my goals last year but this year is different, I just have to lock in.>>75712797Sadly, yes. Women are top tier pathetic and boring so you must entertain them at their command or they’ll leave you; a juice not worth the squeeze, imho.
>>75712746Weighted pull upsI fucked up with burpees and squats. Need to move my 50 burpees to non squats days
>>75712797>makes me feel she's not interestedSorry anon. She might not be. I've dealt with women like this, they engage if you reach out but never reach out themselves. If you're feeling like it's one sided, back off a bit and see what happens. Don't force yourself into anything.
I WILL ACE MY INTERVIEWS THIS WEEK I WILL TAKE A BETTER JOB OFFER THIS WEEK I WILL SUCCEED IN MY NEW ROLE I WILL BECOME A CFA CHARTERHOLDER THIS YEAR This week will be full of change. I’m getting a formal job offer from one of the companies. I still want to receive offers from the other companies I’ve interviewed with since I want to choose the best offer. I’m nervous but excited about what’s to come. I know this year will be difficult but it also offers many opportunities. I will work hard so that I make it. Best of luck in your endeavors frens! WAGMI!
>>75712797write down this feel somewhere you can find it and read it when you find a girl that doesn't make you do this.
Everyday I wake up with a jolly attitude and a hop in my step some shit just has to happen to fuck up my day at 6am.Garage door track literally snapped in half right when I thought I was going to save money this month. Fuck offDemon you won't win. Nice try, but you can't stop me.After a couple months of feeling like shit and eating like shit. 2025 I'm going to revamp my workout and start from the foundation. A full deload and recomp. A new me, new motivation. We are so back baby
I am still a virgin wagie doomer. I am still power hungry and filled with worldly desire. I am still mildly suicidal. I am still liftingI want to try making an animation of chudjak as Richard III wherein he plots and schemes to steal sex from the normies. But I lack confidence that I can pull it off. And my wagie job burns me out and reduces evening productivitty. I also want to see through my gamedev ideas so I can make a bajillion dollars and hire mafiosos to do my bidding.
>>75712746Question: How many anons have worked in sales before and what was your experience? Insurance sales specifically but any will do. I've had/got several interviews coming up this week and at 30yo, I'm ready to make a career change. Was making 75k at my last office job as a data analyst, had a crash, and quit. Simply put: worker smarter and harder doesn't mean the company dies better nor do you get paid more. I'd rather grind out and relearn to socialize to make as much as possible than get a piece of paper for maybe a 10% bump in pay.
>>75713131Is this bait or are you that far gone? This shit is never gonna take off and might get like 3k views at best over a 5 year span. You need a better job, dude.
Today I will smoke some more weed (already inhaled a fat j upon sunrise), do my cardio, hit arms, and talk to at least one girl.
>>75712944>>75713119That's the thing, if I back off or leave her on read she always comes back. She's also the one that makes the plans when I suggest we do something.I guess the problem is she's a student and I work 7 days a week so we just assume eachother is busy. But I always have to take the risk of asking and maybe being rejected because girls can't handle that lolIdk maybe i'm looking into it too much instead of just not giving a fuck. I'm too autistic for these games, just give it to me black or white
531fag here>195x15>205x13>215x7What the fuck
Spilled piping hot coffee on my lap. My dick is shedding and my inner thigh is blistering up. Go on without me bros.
>>75713215For bench btw
>>75713182Its just an idea for fun, not for profit. Or are you so far gone you've no concept of artistic pursuit?
>>75713162Lmao. Sales is the most soul crushing job imaginable. If you had a nervous breakdown doing data analysis I strongly recommend you run as far away from sales as possible. You think you’d rather “grind out” because you have not worked 80 hour weeks for shit pay before.
>>75712746Stalling a bit, but at least the cut is going strong post xmas gluttony.WAGMI good to be back boys.>>75712797That sucks, but I would say try to keep it in context of the rest of her behavior/how involved you are. In a 1+year relationship this is different than if this is someone youre just casually seeing. Where are you in the relationship? also if its bothering you maybe talk to her about it?>>75713037Love popping in and seeing the progress. Soon you will be unstoppable.>>75713216We will remember those who have fallen
>>75712746Making myself go out each day since the new year (I've been virtually housebound since November due to crippling depression). Struggling big time today but managed to get my flat clean, shave my beard off and drag myself to the gym. Today I'm going to start replying to phone messages from friends/colleagues that I've been ignoring for the last 2 months and will write some things to plan/look forward to on my calendar.Girl I had a few dates with before I became depressed has messaged out of the blue and wants to meet up this week - probably nowt good will come of it but it might help me get back to my normal self.Still feeling the call of the noose ever hour lads
I’m back from my interview, it was rough. I vaguely remember using a database at one of my internships 7 years ago, so the interviewer grilled me on it. She also asked me a lot of very technical terms that vaguely related to the job description. I tried to answer them to the best of my ability but I forget a lot. I really want this job but I’m afraid it’s not in my fate. Maybe everyone else will do even worse
Making progress step by step...#deofavente#weball>tfw no tomato farmhttps://youtu.be/1vMmgCEoZuk?si=7MSekr-fyrBstpIt:D
>>75713124Seems to be a common frustration. I like to throw song related on, kind of laugh at the situation. What else to do? https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hzCXQdjY2q0>>75713131Creative expression is always good regardless on whether you make a buck or not. Progress on my Doom Metal demo is glacially slow and it sure doesn't sound right, but I've never once regretted the time I spent on it. Creativity is good in and of itself. For money and power, you probably need some kind of investment vehicle or crypto hit or something though - activities that feed the soul and activities that get you cash are both worthy, but almost never the same activities.
>>75713493Strongly agree with this anon , creative process making you focus and stress relief .to a point of course.... like dont throw all your cards at it but if you blessed with a talent , go with it...https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_29ZQBwMCn4
>been casually running innawoods for a couple years>5k time of ~42 mins >resign myself to being a slow fuck>tried a flat gravel path on a whim yesterday >33 minOh. Well I may be a retard but I’m a retard that’s going to hit sub 30 this spring.
I think I’m gonna make it. I want to do it slowly so I know I will sustain everything. One thing at a time.
Blue cross means planned rest day.
>>75713672Sorry for fucking up the layout, I’ve never phoneposted before and don’t know how to fix it.
>>75713493That song is literally my life
I have already dropped nine pounds this year as of this morning. Down to 202lbs now. Working on losing more and building up muscle, getting my life together for myself. Going to start Scooby's pullup routine today, sore as fuck from randomly making myself jog/sprint multiple times during my Saturday hike in the snow. Looking for a new doctor as well thanks to mine dropping the ball all of last and this year. Sorry for the rant, I'm tired as fuck due to my sleep being interrupted by a fire alarm. WAGMI bros.
>>75713188If she truly wasn't interested in you she'd probably not want to do anything at all. The fact she agrees and commits to going out with you probably means it. Unless you are a total simp buying her everything under the sun then yeah she's probably using you but I highly doubt it given the information. I'd say poke a bit harder to see what her feelings are cause it is also possible she is just wanting friendship and not wanting to date, and as much as that does still hurt I'd still try to look positive that at least she didn't find you repulsive enough to even reject the idea of your friendship. It probably sounds like reddit cope but progress is progress I guess.
>>75713391As opposed to being an office wagie? I seriously have nothing left. I hit my desired income and inflation made it so I'll never be able to live how I want. At this point money is the only thing motivating me. That or a total collapse of America but that latter is never going to happen.
>>75712924You should be proud of your strength, weighted pull ups are crazy hard
stay strong anons :D
pull day wagmi
>>75713186bro please quit weed. You're doing great but your use of drugs is hindering your ability to make it
>>75713985wagmi
>>75713124That's the spirit! No matter what life throws our way, we must keep our optimism and hope
/sig/ how do i refocus my sexual energy into something productive? ill get horny in the morning time and then that just ruins my concentration and i cant focus on anything else. i wont fap but ill get lost in time sinks like youtube, go over to /gif/ for a bit, etc. i can abstain from fapping but it just takes over my mind. i just want to have sex with my wife pretty much every time she takes a break from work.
>>75713162i did outbound sales for a lawncare company for about 6 months a while back. initially it was ezpz because all our leads had already signed up for consultation and were interested. we were basically just getting dims of their yards and signing them up within one phone call. then those dropped off when the season changed and we had to switch to straight cold calling, following a script and everything. and brother, i dont even think i lasted a week doing that. i think maybe if there werent a script and you were free to make the sale as you saw fit it might be different but understand its like a 90% rejection/hang up to 10% success, if that. just hit da oil rigs anon, its fun.
>>75712746>interviewed for engineer position>waiting for budget approvals for job offerI’m excited, bros. I will have to move and non relocation assistance and I’m broke so that will be tough but this is a big step up in my careerWAGMI
>>75713451You're taking all of the right steps. Leaving your house, even for little reasons, is proof that you're getting better. Remember that your friends and family love you and genuinely care about you. You've set a pr for days lived, don't break that record now
>>75712797>>75712825>>75712944>>75713119Some women will make plans or have activities in mind. Most women are horrible at communicating and either can't express what they want/dont want or want you to "get the hint", which doesn't mean they dont want to see you sometimes.>>75713037Congrats bro hope it works out for you.>>75713493>>75713534Also helps to not go into it with the expectation of making money. As far as 'talent', learning to see and hear in terms of art and music will take you a lot further than technique.
Secured a date for wednesday lads. Been interested in a girl from my gym for awhile, but I only saw her around there with her friends so never had a chance to talk to her. I ran into her in line at the coffee shop on campus today. Grew some balls and said fuck it and actually talked to her. Just the basic shit, mentioned that I’ve seen her around the gym lots, complimented her, asked her name. Seemed to go pretty well, we talked for a few minutes and seemed to have a decent amount in common. Paid for her coffee and we started leaving together, asked her if she wanted to get dinner with me tomorrow. She said she’s teaching a class at the gym tomorrow, I figured it was a polite rejection. Then she said she was free Wednesday. Week is off to a great start boys
>>75713451Hey, anon, think of it this way. This was over a decade of my life, and I could barely go into a store without having a meltdown let alone talk to anyone. I still absolutely fucking hate talking to people or being near them, but I can carry a conversation and even pick up women if im having a 'good day'. You can get through this, forcing yourself to get out is one of the most simple ways.>>75713124misdiagnosed and given giga meds for 15 years, barely able to get out of bed, overweight, tired all the time and the only time i wasnt was in the middle of the night. get off jew pills, get shit together, mom gets cancer, gf becomes more psycho than before. work was alright, was barely a year into it. buy first car, car is great. lose job, still have enough to get by, transmission goes on car, car can barely drive, perma limp mode.At this point I believe if I was to win the lottery or something, the day after I cash it, the entire world will end.
>>75713451Good on you anon. As long as there's still blood in your veins and breath in your lungs you're not finished.
>>75714605Nice work anon, sounds like you read the mood well and if you keep that up Wednesday will go well too.
>>75712746How do I just go up to random people and talk? I'm good at conversation but not at starting it first
>>75714688Thanks bro, I was like 90% sure she was into me before I talked to her which helped a lot
How do you guys handle the winter depression time? I'm pretty active in spring and summer, but in the winter I lose all motivation and sit at home doing nothing. I take Vitamin D3 and still exercise but it's a struggle.
>>75713216your dick is only shedding because it got bigger and need more room now!nice bro!
>>75714710This is gonna sound unhelpful but literally just do it. People are more receptive than you think if you approach confidently. It’s when you give off the weird shy autist vibes that they get weirded out. Just do it and don’t really think about it
>>75713406Welcome back fren! You’re always welcome here Thanks. My interviews today were mixed (one went not so well and the other went well). I’m cautiously optimistic about this year
>>75714605Well done brother, had the same experience with a girl I see sometimes but only got her name and now I don't know what to do. First time I've felt something for a girl in 5+ years and I blew it. I hope it goes well for you
>>75715006Thanks man. If you talked to her and got her name, that’s a solid start, why do you say that you blew it?
>>75712825Don’t focus too much on your past. This year is a new opportunity to make it. Articulate what you want and then commit to it
Finishing my application for nursing school, theres one thing I need to get settled and I hope it won't cause them to reject my application outright. I'm 25 but I can feel the pressure setting in in multiple parts of my life, some days I feel more lost than others. I've been abstaining from porn and I'm feeling better despite having to fight the urges and actually deal with my anxiety and emotions. qt coworker is giving me mixed signals for months but after taking 2 days to reply back to me I think its just done though she is really reclusive at times so idk. I was also talking with a friend I used to be coworkers with. He told me he wants to go out more often to fight his seasonal depression, so we tried to find events and groups to join but it seems like they're few and far between in our area and our schedules don't always line up. It really is brutal post grad if you don't have a close group of friends to hang out with and introduce you to more friends and maybe that special someone. I'm considering just having us hang out at random places and see how that goes. Feels like theres nothing but locked doors atm
>>75715191if all the retarded stacy sluts i knew from high school can make it through nursing school, so can you.
>>75715023Just had a golden opportunity to go for it and I didn't because I was afraid of being pushy lol, it was a nice interaction and I wanted to avoid ending it on her possibly rejecting me and feeling bad about it. Now I'm just too afraid to ask because I'll probably spill my spaghetti in record time>hey how are you!>you too! hey can I have your number?
>>75712746tried sleeping without the cpap - still snore and slept like shit. i'm kind of thankful though. won't be complaining about using it anymore. back at 200 squat, 225 deadlift, and progressing bench. halfway to 1/2/3/4had wedding food tasting, we're gonna have a great ceremony if i dont kill her over picking out the tiny details.still need to lose more weight. the still snoring thing annoys me and might boost me into hardcore cardio fag mode to lose weight.week two of meal prep is chili
>>75715271is that you snorlax? congrats on all of your progress. good luck on losing weight
>>75715285woops, yeah it is, thanks fren. forgot vegeta too
>>75714733Try to get some real sunlight if you can, I do way better on days where I run in the morning around sunrise vs running at night in the dark.
:)
>>75713694>The fact she agrees and commits to going out with you probably means it.Not true. A lot of women will have a date as a backup plan waiting to see if they have anything better popping up on that day.
>>75715320This is the unfortunate truth. I was going out with this absolute smokeshow for a bit. She was an interesting person (rare) and was easily one of the most beautiful girls I'd ever met. She just couldn't stick to plans for the life of her, and even though I was getting some, I knew it was "only my turn," as they say. Don't fall for one of those types -- they haven't the capacity to settle down with you.
>>75713651congrats on your progress! keep practicing and you'll meet your goal by the spring!
>>75715412oh yeah bro you were fucking an absolute "smokeshow" huh?
>>75715191>>75715203i cant imagine how bad it would be to be a male nurse surrounded by all women, and especially when female nurses seem to be universally reviled by people
>>75715535It’s a bad thing to be a /fit/ male surrounded by a bunch of horny sluts for 12 hours at a time?
>>75714432for me, I go for a run or do chores around the house to reset my focus, mindfulness techniques also help but those are less approachable, but if you’re doing nofap without practicing semen retention then you’re wasting your time imho. You’re just trading one vice (masturbation) for another (casual sex)
>>75715535I currently work as a PCT and more often than not I'm the only guy on the floor or 1 of 2-3 other guys, I'm well liked since I just move nonstop and handle any favors asked and offer help when I don't have much to do, I like the high pace of the job and I love interacting with patients. The times I sit with an elder and hear wisdom from them and just talk about life are times I cherish. I feel like I lucked out with the nurses I work with desu majority are helpful and our unit is one of the busier ones so theres not much time for butting heads. If they do gossip I just stay out of it and offer no input.
I’m still alive I guess
>>75715610whats pct
>>75715295Forgot to add, getting some weak winter sunlight is for the sake of your circadian rhythm, not to replace taking vitamin D.
>>75713658You will do it. Don’t feel afraid of going slow or encountering setbacks. This world is full of quitters, don’t become one of them
>>75715650clinical technician, basically a nurse's assistant
>>75712746Was push day today, my son and I went in there and gave it hell. Came home and I warmed up some roast beef, and cooked some cheesey scrambled eggs and potatoes to go with it. We watched some Ghost tv show for a bit while eating, was a good day lads.>Were you thinking of giving up today? No
>>75715228Sounds like positive progress still, ask her next time for sure
I have fallen off the wagon again... I have to get back up again
>>75715546>SlutsDo they really have anything to offer, then?>fitAbsolutely not
>>75716313>Do they really have anything to offer, then?their pussy and once the other sluts find out you’re banging one of them, the others come flocking. + workplace drama caused by your penor is funny to witness
>>75712746>pros>getting stronger>cardio is making an impact>apt is gradually being fixed>swapping out soda and french fries for plain water and fresh bread is already working wonders>actually improving my skateboarding skills from zero which I thought would be impossible since I'm no longer a teenager>making progress on my video game project>cons>still no real friends>still no proper job>still don't have the guts to ask the girls I find hot out because I keep waiting for a convenient moment and my brain keeps feeding me "you're too old" shit which has been happening since I was 22 crushing on 18 year old girls which now looks retarded in retrospect>still at least 20 pounds over my desired weight>thinking of getting an artist to help out with my video game since my art skills are kinda shit but I don't know where to find one since I'm a loner plus I can't really pay that much>probably will also need a composer/audio guy as well but that's further down the line
>>75713216What’s the verdict bros? It doesn’t hurt anymore but it’s pretty ugly. Should I go to the gym rn?
>>75716118keep going and you'll make it
>>75713672you're doing great. keep up the momentum! I would suggest taking 2 rest days a week but everyone needs different amounts of rest based on their goals
>>75716663Don’t do anything that’ll tear open the blisters (so upper day?) Keep it clean and disinfected.
>>75715191I've been a nurse (psych) for 10 years. It really is a privilege to help people in their time of need. It is a job that demands a lot but can be really rewarding (mostly instrinsically but I've got a very nice paycheque, respect among my communities and it been good for getting laid too). Best of luck mate.With your friend, if there are no groups or events to go to - why not shoot some hoops or take a walk together? Would do your friend a lot of good.
remember anons, there are people who believe in you :)
>>75717964But what if I have no friends or family?
>>75718000We believe in you and your future connections will :)
>>75718000There's anons who believe in you, so believe in those anons until you can believe in yourself!
>>75713672aedrfvi WHAT sdofiuv IS sdfbsb THISI want one, what do a search amazon for?
After two rounds of interviews, one of the companies wants to arrange a brief call. They wouldn't waste their time on a call to reject me. The future is looking bright :)
Things are tough right now, but we must all persist.
>>75718083>They wouldn't waste their time on a call to reject meYes they would, but that’s not going to happen.
>>75718132so why do think they're calling me?
>>75714605>Paid for her coffeeSIMP. jk jk lol have fun on your date, anon
>>75717905Yeah I just did back work without sitting down
>>75713691You should feel proud of yourself for having dropped 9 pounds in 13 days, that's a huge accomplishment. If you're obese/fat, prioritize cutting before you start balking. WAGMI!
>>75718151Kek thanks dude I’ll update here after it happens
>>75714473You've worked hard and should feel excited about this change in your life. You're upgrading in your job which will help you escapee poverty. WAGMI
What's this called?
>>75718506
>>75714733look into a happy light. my mom uses one to stimulate the sun
tried squats today, bombed out hard and couldnt even get 2 reps of 55kg (im a novice to squatting and mainly learning form atm) when last week I did 2 sets of 6 easily. I reckon it's because I went boxing yesterday cus I just couldnt brace my core for the life of me. tomorrow I will have something more substantial for lunch and try again. thank you for reading my blogpost. wagmi.
>>75718346Thank you Anon. I'm just pushing to to see the scale drop. I'm looking so much better, but I still need to kill the remains of my fat gut for now. WAGMI.
>>75718512hyperextension/back extension
I FINALLY GOT A JOB OFFER :DDDD IM GOING TO MOVE TO A CITY IVE NEVER BEEN TO BEFORE BUT IM EXCITED TO UPGRADE MY JOB AND LIFE
>>75715191I can relate to the second half of your post. Since graduating 5 years ago, most of my friends have started to become distant/not talk to me. I've realized how important having a close group of friends is in post-grad life. I need to follow in your footsteps and learn how to make friends as a working adult
>>75718993congratulations and good luck, anon
:D>Matthew 7:21-23
How do you learn to forgive yourself for being a general piece of shit person in the past without it feeling like you're making excuses for the things you did? Genuine remorse and embarrassment doesn't feel like enough but I'm also tired of holding this guilt over my own head even years later.
>>75719284Currently going through this myself. I just want to be happy and enjoy my life. There’s no need to dwell on the past, don’t use that as negative reinforcement. Make every day that you have the best it can be. Take risks. Get embarrassed. Get hurt. Bask in those feelings, that’s where life is
Anyone have a backup of the Chadnet wiki archive? 95% of links has been removed and I can't download the archives on Internet Archive.
>>75719284why are you holding on to things that no longer serve you? feeling shame and guilt aren't inherently bad things; they're emotions like any other and serve a purpose. the shame and guilt you feel allowed to acknowledge that you weren't living up to your own standards and allowed you to change. now that they served their purpose, you can thank them and let them go.
>>75719467I've been trying to adopt that mindset, but I guess I feel that my past behaviors are gonna come back to haunt me somehow. I see so many people get dogged on for shit they did years ago regardless if they changed and it chronically worries me.
>>75719284For some reason you enjoy hanging onto the past failures. It gives you an out to not do things that, arguably, you truly do not want to do. >i can't go out with people because they might drink and i'm an alcoholicDo you not want to go out because of the possibility of becoming drunk vs not wanting to go out because you genuinely don't like going out/the people you go out with/something else.>>75718993Congrats. What's the job and how far away is the city from where you live now? been tempted to apply out of state but am fully aware the rent/housing is piss cheap in my current area.
>>75719526yeah but so what? Every person has a past, and none of us are defined by our worst moments or mistakes. What matters most is who we are now and who we continue to strive to be. No person worth hanging around judges people from their past and worst behaviors; they taker stock of who the person is now.When we hold on to shame or guilt about past behaviors, it can feel like we're trapped in an endless cycle of self-doubt. But the truth is, you can't change what's behind you, only what you choose to do moving forward. It's easy to feel haunted by the fear that your past will follow you, but part of healing and growth is releasing that fear and embracing who you've become as a result of your experiences. Everyone makes mistakes. It's how we learn from them and become better people that matters most.If you're concerned about how others might judge you, remind yourself that their opinions don't define your worth. People are going to have their own views based on their experiences and biases, and while it's natural to care about how others perceive us, you are not beholden to their judgments. The most important thing is that you are being honest with yourself and committed to being a better version of yourself.You don't need to feel trapped by your past. Your journey forward starts with the intention to move forward, and that’s something you can do. Start by recognizing the progress you've already made and give yourself credit and some grace for that. With time, compassion, and a commitment to your personal growth, you’ll see that the past can remain just that and it doesn't have the power to dictate your future.
>>75718993:D
>>75719567>Start by recognizing the progress you've already made and give yourself credit and some grace for that. With time, compassion, and a commitment to your personal growth, you’ll see that the past can remain just that and it doesn't have the power to dictate your future.Thanks fren, this part really spoke to me in particular. I regret how I affected other people with my past behavior deeply but I just have to recognize that I wouldn't do that stuff now and just work on being myself more instead of someone who's obligated to carry that kind of weight all the time.
any anons just become non horny these days and realize girls are simply not the effort just for some sex?
>>75719567Damn Anon...
>>75719284>>75719363>>75719467>>75719526>>75719567>>75719593I don't know what you did (or didn't) do, but the best way to rectify any of those things is by simply living the best life you can. Some people can be very forgiving, and time definitely heals some wounds. I'm not gonna ask what you did, and I'd rather you didn't say, but people can move on and wish you well sometimes.
>>75716072I'll do my best brother
>>75719675I believe in you fren
>>75719665It's nothing illegal lol I was just an asshole, talked a lot of shit and had a huge ego, too handsy/desperate with women just general loser shit.It's just when you wake up and those years of acting unconsciously hit you all at once is a trauma in and of itself and it's hard to overcome.
>>75719713Unless you r-worded some chick then most people will move past it. Live a life that shows you've improved as a person. Not really any other choice.
Anxious that I am 26 and still living at home, still an intern.I am too tired, I don't workout anymore, I don't read, I don't study, I don't keep up with my hobbies like learning latin. I keep brain rotting myself with instagram reels and romance anime that make me feel lonely (how utterly embarassing). I don't feel like much of a man, not even much of a person.I just had an epiphany, I realized that the reason NTR appeals to me is because I was never loved by a woman and that wound made me resentful. It's about seeing something that I don't have be destroyed. It's about convincing myself that I am not missing out on anything because love is fake and only lust is real. That it is all fake and filthy.Because it would be too tragic if love was real.At least tomorrow evening I get to eat grandma's cooking. Also this week I get to experience my favourite weather of cold crisp air and bright blue sky.I'll do one set of dips, one set of pull ups, read one page of memoirs of Hadrian and write one sentence in latin. I'll also try and stop using screens after 20:00.
>>75719834I'm eternally thankful I was never that depraved, I guess it's the aspect of not being in control that I struggle with a lot in regards to that life approach. I think it's undiagnosed OCD ngl
>>75718767Thank you
>barely any friends and all of them are spread around the country for school>no social life>working 50 hour weeks blue collar>talking to one girl but it isn't really going anywhereI might just give up honestly. I know the year just started but I don't see how anything will change. I just want a proper gf for once in my life (and so i'm not a virgin anymore)
wagmi
>>75712746>Were you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as well>What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down1.a 14km roon on saturday2.Have to finish 2 work related projects till monday 3.Keep studying 3h daily4. Liften daily5. Try to swim atleast twice this week6. Maybe bike for 1h on sunday7. Keep my daily meditation and stretchingAll this said I'm so fucking filled with hate after I saw my ex gf after so many years it's so fucking gay... i felt enlightnend this past couple of years i didnt think about her at all and was doing my shit and improving; Now it's messing up with me I gotta get my shit together
>>75720044Please never stoop that low. People who do are literally the worst people on planet Earth and think everyone needs to bow down to them.
>>75719713this hit home...>i still think about all the stupid shit i talked about my ex gf cousin to her when we broke up>still think about how i treated her poorly and didnt commit to the relationship>still think how i used the excuse of "i want to do my own things, run, lifting, studying" as an excuse of break upshame and regret is a bitch
>>75720167You know strangely enough these years of self flaggelation makes me wonder how many potentially redeemable people chose not to go down the path of change because the weight of all the bad things they've done/said that comes with developing empathy is too much for them to bear.That being said I'd rather be overly critical of myself over willfully ignorant of my past actions. Shows I at least have humanity to cultivate.
>>75720194what did you do bro
>>75720196As I said above >>75719713I'm just an anxious person who thinks to hard though so I blew it out of proportion. But I'm also taking my personal experience and wondering if people, whether they behaved better or worse than I did, choose to stay that way because they too felt irredeemable and unwilling to confront themselves.
>>75720216Sometimes people are such chicken asses they go “This is fine, I did nothing wrong” because they don’t want to believe they did anything wrong. It’s too hard for some to even accept they did something horrible.
>>75720235i wish i was like thati feel like i have too much empathy
>>75720240Same. Had to even cover it up because i didn’t want people to know I cared enough to even give advice at one point
>>75720235>>75720240Not just the empathy thing but I think especially with us young guys there's also a couple more factorsAt least in my case 2 big ones are>A newly formed adult sense of rationale and accountability clashing with our old childhood ego>having few or no positive relationships to reinforce the fact we've changed for the betterI've made decent progress over the years, I have a handful of platonic female friends that I can approach with respect to them and their boundaries, and I'm more open to new ideas in order to teach myself how to be a better man.
>>75720282It’s always good to consult more than one person on shit too. Don’t go to the same people with the same personality every time for advice. Get unbiased advice from someone you know will be clear with you and help you out of whatever hole you’re in.
>>75720282>I have a handful of platonic female friends that I can approach with respect to them and their boundariesTeach me howI'm 29 and have had 4 relationships. 2 of these relationships I was cheated on. I constantly hate on women. It's definitely a generalization but whenever I think about what women do and how they act(always on social media, dressing like sluts, going out with multiple guys) i just feel sick. I feel like I don't want nothing to do with them. I just want their hole.I really wish I could change my view on them to have a healthier approach
>>75720331The “all women are whores” mindset derives from the same “all men want to use me” mindset women have: hurt.
>>75720331I was in the same position as you man, not exactly cheated on but heavily betrayed by a girl who was very close to me and it I collapsed in myself.There are two things you can start with:>Understaning that what happened to you wasn't your fault, and while those women who hurt you were bad that doesn't mean all women are that way. Recognizing the generalizations you're making is a big first step, and unfortunately you just have to take each woman at a case by case basis which our brains hate because nuance requires more energy than pattern recognition.>Understanding that the world is indifferent to you, not in the shitty nu-nihilistic way but with the idea that if there is no ultimate goal to life then our decisions and the people we associate matter so much more because it'll be actions made from true free will, not with any directive in mind.For example with that second point, I have a female friend who I met in college, she had just gotten into a long distance relationship and we had a lot in common. I made it a point to test myself to see if I could really be a positive influence in a woman's life by helping her out and being her friend without expecting anything in return and I feel like life rewarded me for it in a way because she helped me get connected with a huge career opportunity. Have I had fleeting feelings for her? Of course, but it's because I'm able to understand that those feelings are a result of proximity and instinct I can use my rational brain to process those feelings and learn that I am a part of a greater whole. I highly recommend getting into Carl Jung and a little Freud and Decartes, it changed my life for the better dramatically. And most of all just remember you're not alone in this game of life bro.
Let's get it!
>>75720367A lot of people want to put everything in a black and white scheme when there’s a grey.
>>75720367>Carl Jung and a little Freud and DecartesThats on my must read list man. I'll definitely try to get on those >For example with that second point, I have a female friend who I met in college, she had just gotten into a long distance relationship and we had a lot in common. Were you always like that? It's gay as fuck but all my life I've felt disdain for people in general. For some reason(maybe mildly assburgers) I always see things objectively. "Why would I talk to that person? What can I get from that? Do I need to do that to get the over all objective i'm trying to achive?"So if I talk to a girl it's because I wanna get into her pants usually.
>>75720341I mean.. generally speaking most men would want to use a girl if she's not ugly as fuck. That's definitely true.What wouldn't be true would be something like "all men cheat"A girl gotta be so stupid to think men would ONLY want to be friends with her and nothing else
>>75720341This is a good point too, really understanding how your ego works is game changing for your psychological development.You'll realize pretty quick that a lot of negative associations are just your brain trying to protect you in the ways it learned how growing up.It's shocking how much of our adult selves is just the cultivation of maladaptive behaviors we learned in childhood to get our needs met.
>>75720430>So if I talk to a girl it's because I wanna get into her pants usually.See I was in the same position with that girl, there was a bitter part of my old self that told me "whats the point in being friends with her now, there's no chance of you getting together"And that's the basis for what I tested myself on, the idea that I could put my own feelings aside and form a relationship with a woman who isn't just "someone I can't be with", but a human being like myself who is nigh infinitely multi-faceted.I've been there man, and if anything I'm the universe showing you that there is hope to grow as a person and learn to let go of that pain and anger. I have that similar tism as well that makes me default to transactional thinking but that comes from an instinctual place of instant gratification, and you have to be willing to take the risk of investing in someone selflessly despite the chance of things not going your way. It's definitely a leap of faith but I know you can do it.
>>75720453Eh, I don’t think every man is like that. Gay friends wouldn’t exist.
>>75720490If you feel better with the world and less hatred it's definitely a good change Hopefully one day I'll get this enlightned and feel the will to approach women and maybe even not be racist anymore.
>>75720514by "men" i mean straight men c'mon dude
>>75720520>not be racist anymore.Let's not push too far, anon. Keep your racism alive!
>>75720520This board as a whole has come a long way, r9k fags finally fucked off and men can actually approach gender relations with some nuance. My current philosophy is that while men and women follow trends, it comes from a place of unconsciousness and instinct, it's men and women who can approach each other as human beings beyond their sex that will truly make it.As for the racism thing it becomes less of a skin color thing and more of a cultural thing, like I can say that the caste system has bred one of the most abominable cultures on the face of the earth without generalizing it down to a single skin tone.
>>75720538I don't think it's racist to dislike indians in 2025. It's just common sense
>>75720514>Gay friendsthats what your gf tells you lmao
>>75720545Well my point was that the fact that 99% of caste system enjoyers are Indian is secondary, if not mutually exclusiveAt least hating a culture is more workable than people being born a certain way, at least in my opinion.Granted people are largely ignorant of that, like I would've never guessed that hating Israel would've finally become mainstream but I'll gladly take it.
>>75715640Your heart is still beating, which means that you still have time to make it and find happiness
>>75720554Nah, she tells me she wants to be around me all day to a point she won’t let me leave the house sometimes :^)
>>75716051You're a great dad and serving as a good role model for your son. I wish I was close with my dad and could do bonding activities with my life. I've been meaning to see my old man, I should see him before it gets too late
>>75720167At what point is someone not redeemable? even if they have the self awareness and empathy to know what they did is wrong
>>75721055>>75721055When they do horrible things like rape and then pretend to themselves it was fine, that the said person wanted it, etc.The first step is even feeling guilt. Some people never learn and instead of actually changing, they just decide “This is okay!” Besides that, if you really want something intimate with someone and not some crazy bitch, work for it. Don’t just fucking go, “Everything every single time is her fault and not mine, I don’t want to try and be the best I can for her.”t. Learned not to blame others so much from my past relationships because some friendships I fucked up really bad (circa 2020-2021) cuz I kept saying none of it was my fault and ran even though I was a selfish lil bitch and should’ve apologized
So I'm not trying to blackpill, but I've been blackpilled. I haven't gone on social media in a few years and I've recently taken a peek and it's horrific. People have become absolute monsters (unless it's all AI.) Kill whitey this, men suck that, but on steroids. They get zillions of likes too, maybe all botted. I have difficulty meeting new people I feel isolated and alone and if people are becoming like this then I'm terrified to step out there. I just want my 30s to not be like my 20s, which was total shit.
>millennial woesTheir youth is gone and the best years are behind them. Their women are withering away, many of whom never even blossomed into motherhood. They have no assets or stake in the economy. They have no social standing and mostly stand alone.Like an old work animal whose time has come and needs to be put down, like a stray dog who overstayed it's welcome, like an old man who understands so well the point where oblivion takes you forever, it's over for millennials they are finished.
>>75720680well said
I’m very close to the physique I envisioned when I first began lifting. I’ll be there by spring, summer at the dead latest. And then, to go even further beyond…
took almost 6 months off gym, no good reason but there was some smaller reasons. I'm not giving up but I'm tired, I just don't ever reach a point where I'm happy when I look at myself whenever I am consistent, then I slip due to personal circumstances and lose that consistent and have to start again. I just want to look good anons.
>>75716552Focus on the pros, you're making a lot of progress and getting closer to reaching your goals! once you get /fit/, you can start socialmaxxing
I went to an escort yesterday and couldn't even cum. I think using Cialis for gym pumps and years of porn and gooning addiction fucked my shit up.
>>75718637sorry about your failure. if you're still a novice, emphasize proper form over putting on weight. there are many factors that affect gym performance, so dont feel discouraged. next week you'll try again. WAGMI
>>75717715Thank you! At this point it works to rest once a week, I'm probably going to switch to 3x swimming, 2x lifting and 1x tennis in a couple of weeks when I go from dumbbells only to barbell stuff which will make recovery more important.>>75718036I've never used Amazon, I looked for a year-long calendar and went to a store in my town that sold one.
Today I had an interview. I answered the questions well since I had researched the topics. About half way through the interview, he asked me if I had any questions. Is this a good sign?
>>75719945I'm 27 (1997) and I still live at home. I think for late millennials/early Gen Z, it's pretty normal to live at home as an adult. Work sucks but having a hobby really does give life a lot of meaning. I'm so grateful that I have fitness and the gym after work. Try to find something to do after work, even if you do it poorly. We're still young, we can make something of ourselves
>>75719565I'll be working in asset and wealth management. I'll be moving 2,400 miles. Cost of living in my area is way too high whereas it'll be relatively cheaper in this new area
>>75719945i'm 27 just like the other anon and also live at home.I see no problem with that. If you have a healthy relationship with your parents you can only reap out the benefits Living with my parents I have access to a private gym, olympic pool, sauna, free food, rent, whatever the fuck else. I work at home and all the money I get goes straight to my bank account. The only downside is that if you have a gf things usually gets tiring. Last gf was always nagging me to move out my parents house. You know what I did? Dumped that bitch lmao.If you don't care about having long term relationship with cum dumpsters it's a done deal. I literally just straight up lie to whatever hole i'm talking to and take them to motels
>>75723644>if I had any questions.They usually do that and sometimes it's good to ask something in return if you feel the need but you gotta really understand how it's goingIf it's an interview that you feel like it's somewhat casual/relaxed you might ask "whats been your experience with the company" or ask something about the job that the interviewer havent covered it yet
>>75723662Yeah, I'm almost 30 and am currently living at home. I was with my ex in an apartment for nearly two years, but when that ended, I was faced with the option of either going it on my own and spending $1500/month for privacy, or heading back to rejoin the senpai. I was thinking of moving in with my new girlfriend, but I feel like things aren't gonna work out. She's one of those girls who always finds fault with what you do when you're together, but when you're apart, she's telling you how much she misses you, cares about you, etc. It's annoying as fuck.
>>75723834I made sure to ask questions for 10 minutes. Unfortunately, I forgot to ask one of the questions I prepared >what is the biggest gap in your team currently and how can I address it
Nigga it’s Thursday Also, >it’s nearing the end of the week again, take a shallow breath in and hold it >were you thinking of giving up today? Good. It’s close to the weekend, just splurge out. You didn’t make it through last week and you only half-assed your attempt at being on track this week only to fail halfway through Monday>put your goals aside in the back of your mind, you don’t need to remind yourself of them all the time >take a deep breath in, hold it>you’re not gonna make it
>>75723847you asked questions for 10 minutes? dont over do it too mate>what is the biggest gap in your team currently and how can I address itThat's a good one. If I ever have to go through an interview again(hopefully not) i'll use it a good question i used to ask is "what could I do/study to be more prepared for this position i'm applaying"
>>75723892>Nigga it’s Thursday you fucking piece of shit almost gave me a geezer attack
>>75723897Thee interview session was scheduled for 30 minutes, he stopped asking me questions after 15 and I thought I needed to fill the void. I tried to talk after each answer he provided me
>>75723913Not sure what job you are applying to but remember one of the most valuable things is your soft skills and how confident you can beDon't be acting like an autistic person that asks questions just to fill the 30 minutes that the interview was supposed to do. "30 minutes" it's an estimate my man. good luck tho wish you the best
>>75723925Thanks for the advice. I'll remember that in the future and try not to feel obligated to ask questions to fill time
>>75723904It’s Thursday in countries that matter
>>75717955>I've been a nurse (psych) for 10 years.I've been interested in the field of psych. What should I expect if I choose to go down that path?>With your friend, if there are no groups or events to go to - why not shoot some hoops or take a walk together? Would do your friend a lot of good.We're going to hang out today, watch some shows and go on a walk
>>75720093Don't give up bro. Life will improve if you put in the effort and commit to your goals. It's pretty typical to be lonely as an adult but don't let them discourage you
>>75719388yes from..... early 2022 I thinkI will add it to the /sig/ archive since multiple people already asked for the chadnet wikibut I am a few days out of house currentlyjust keep checking this weekly thread for the /sig/ archive update, I will post it here once it is there
>>75720160become the man you're ex can only dream of getting with. as a piece of advice though, don't fuel yourself solely on rage
>>75713037embrace that change wholeheartedly CFA anon, you will hit the ground running and smash it in your new gig! your persistence and efforts last year in finding a gig has finally paid off, you did not give up. know that you have this immense capacity within you and apply it to your CFA level 3 exam attempt this year. career switch anon here. the tutoring year is beginning this week and will suck time away from my career switch efforts, but that's okay it will be a good change! i hope i can excite them about the content i'm teaching them this year, so i'll mix up my teaching style and trial some new strategies. i must also remind myself of your persistence CFA anon and apply that to my career switch no matter how long it takes. i am beginning to see that persistence may be a virtue. good luck anons on your journeys! you can rise again after a setback, don't give up on yourself. you're worth the effort and sacrifice. you are cultivating yourself into an impenetrable being that can withstand the blows of fate.
>>75722178you're so close to your goal, the end is in sight. keep pushing forward so you can reach it!
>>75725337I understand what you’re telling me. Change is occurring in my life and I need to embrace it wholeheartedly. Now I must remind myself of what I have accomplished in order to complete my goals this year. Good luck in tutoring, career switch anon! Teaching others often enhances one’s own understanding of the material. Your students will definitely spot your passion and enthusiasm for the material! No matter how long it takes and how much failure you face, you will make it eventually as long as you persevere! Heaven awaits, so keep trying. 2025 represents new opportunities to grow and change for the better, don’t squander the year!
Changed up my meal prepping method and am seeing resounding success so far. Instead of making the same meal over several days I broke it down into a variety of "snack-sized" foods and it has a lot of mixability.Starting to think I don't have a poor appetite and am just very picky, or rather just flavor motivated.
>>75726271That sounds great. I’ve always had a “small appetite” so maybe I should try experimenting with something like that too.Also, I love that Regi art lol.
>>75726288He's my top guyA good thing to do I'm seeing is to have a rotation of sandwiches on deck, among other grab and go items.On my next grocery trip I'm gonna try and stock up on some more fruits and veggies too to prep for smoothies, frozen fruit isn't terribly expensive but there are some things like beets that are good to throw in too.
>>75726271You're a grown man making "snack-sized foods" for himself. Let that sink in.
>>75726301and you'll just have to cope and seethe about it fren :)
>>75726297Yeah, anything grab-and-go sounds good to me. As long as you have it all planned out so you’re still hitting the macros and whatnot.
Whatever happened to this project?
>my most likely romantic partner is a cute 26 year old>looks a little like Anne Hathaway>wouldn't mind dating towards marriage, but I keep thinking that at her age, with her looks, she probably went through a hoe phase for years>kinda don't want her, but feel bad because at that age had I been able to get a new girl every night I probably would have>kinda feel like God may want me to rescue this wayward sheep in his flock>think she'd be a good partner but keep coming back to the likely triple digit body count>kinda feel like being extremely selective just like girls were with me for all those years and locking down a nice church girl, early 20s, or late teens>hell, this girl probably swiped left on me in my Tinder years like virtually everyone elseidk guys, I feel like Christ would have me forgive her and just be a good partner to her, but he also says do unto others so I feel like doing unto others as they have done to me.She is a qt, though. Really small too with sizeable breasts. Cute toes as well.
>>75726586get to know her and her familyif the parents and siblings are at least normies you should be fineabove all, she should be a good mother of your children and a good wife
>>75719945Dude, me and my friends all live at home, it's normal at this day and age. So does every girl that I talk to. I'm a bit younger than you, but I've got friends your age and they all do as well. I've talked to some people who have their own place, and they all say "Stay at home as long as you can and save." I get where you're coming from though. Wanting your own place just feels like the next step, it has been for pretty much every generation except ours. My dad lived in a beach apartment with a friend when he was like 20. That opportunity will probably never come my way, which sucks. As for the other stuff, start small. Going from scrolling reels (which I'm addicted to like you) to reading is tough, and I used to be such an avid reader. I miss it a lot. Start with audiobooks while you're in the car. There's a million of them on YouTube or Spotify if you've got that. You're going to want to fix your attention span. The sooner the better. Try to have the mindset of going back to your roots. Embrace doing the stuff that made you happy before. You've got this bro
>practice gf wants me to show affection in public>says she wants to wear sexy clothes on our dates>keeps making cringe raunchy passes at work>tried to touch my dick at starbucks>she's shaped like that negress with Cushing's syndrome from /fph/is this how women feel when women get approached by ugly men?
>>75727478you're pathetic
>>75727483Why?
>>75723933It's friday here though?
>>75726586>don’t even know her deal but already imagined an intricate sexual history for herLmao this is just like my Gogol short stories
>>75727483>mid tier women can run through a hundred pump and dumps before settling with a soýboy for his wallet and that’s ok>some generic anon cant practise on a landwhalego fuck yourself with a herpy dick
>>75727655>it's okay to act like a woman
>>75726586this is why we’re fucking dying. this do-gooder christian shit when browns get away with fucking everything. we need to enforce the old testament for fucks sake grow a pair of balls and shit test her for her bodycount.
>>75727676>YOU must follow the rules unlike everybody elsenah thats faggot shit. life isn’t fair i’m just adapting to that rule set.
>>75715191make an effort to be there for your friend when times are tough, I look back and many times I feel like those little moments saved my life, and you'll look back at it fondly
>>75719284You must learn self-compassion, no one will give it to you or be there for you like you can be for yourself. It is okay to make mistakes if you learn to change from them. Much of guilt and shame stems from a helpless need to control, "if I had just done x then y," but it's false. Literally speak to yourself ou tloud in the "you" perspective and tell yourself what you think you need to hear, and you'll be able to move on in time.
>>75722188it's never too late to get back in the gym and try again. I also suffer from massive body dysmorphia and have accepted that I'll never be completely satisfied with my body. However, I can always work towards something better and sculpt a better body
no matter how bad things get, you have to stay strong and persevere, anons. there are better days ahead of you, believe in that. believe in yourselves.
>>75727967:)
>>75714605Date anon here with the update. Went really well. We met up to get sushi, hung out there for a couple hours, I feel like we were able to connect well and the conversation flowed pretty naturally. Funny enough we didn’t go over most of the first date basics but I think that’s a good sign. After dinner I asked her if she wanted to get some dessert, she was into it. We wandered through the streets for a bit, checking out stores and shit and eventually we got donuts cause everything else was closed kek. We sat on a bench by the water for awhile and just kinda hung out before I drove her home (she took the bus there). Ended up being around 4.5 hours in total, and she was very complimentary towards me (I think she might be a little autistic). We’re going to hang out again on Saturday, maybe mini golf or axe throwing. Glad I talked to her in line bros
>>75727478You receive what you put out into the world, I hope you've made peace with women treating you with the same lack of empathy in the future
>>75722384Let this be a lesson to you to change your lifestyle around. Also don't see escorts, you're better than that
>>75728130>You receive what you put out into the worldI've seen hundreds of people get handed everything on a silver platter while I was homeless in high school. I've seen people in mustangs with designer clothes pull up to the food pantry I volunteer in
stay strong :D
>>75728364OK and all you're doing fuck all about it, either do a Luigi or take your incel shit elsewhereYour reading comprehension could use some work considering I was clearly talking about social ramifications
>>75724171Thanks for the update /sig/ anon. We appreciate your effort and are looking forward to the updated megadrive :)
:D
>>75726367WTF IS THIS AND HOW AM I HEARING FROM THIS THE FIRST TIMEwhat website is this, a first google search gave me nothingor is it gone? then let me check all kind of archives
>>75726271do you have tips/recipes you can share?
never met a single woman who wasnt retarded or a cheating piece of shitand I work in a field filled with women and have had 4 different long term gfs
>>75728943https://youtu.be/G5NEwx6KqPM?si=lDcKpE18xReE2Ez1This is a good one I found, specifically the energy balls recipe. I'm gonna try a variety of flavors with stuff like maple syrup and pecans but as a whole medjool dates are really good dense high carb snacksIt's the first week for me so far so I'm just doing basic stuff like sandwiches, salads, and smoothies but I was able to make some homemade pizza bowls as well that are really good macros-wise. If you have a WinCo near you I highly recommend checking it out they're great for Bulk ingredients.I'm working on making my weekly meals/snacks centered around basic foods that have multiple uses but are great nutritionally, like ginger, salmon, Walnuts, etc. I just can't stick to a single meal 5 times a week I'm way too picky for that lol.
>>75727478practice gfs (especially mid ones) make other women envious that they don't have a bf like them. Post her on your stories, and you'll see. When they ask about her just don't say anything negative, only positive traits and they'll SEETHE and start wanting you
I went to the theatre today and watched a great play, there was a lady in the play who I fell in love with at first sightI already have a woman I love so I will never know what it would have been like to get to know herI am now melancholicI looked her up on the internet and we even have mutual friends. I would love more than one woman if I could
>>75727478what is a practice gf?Why?>>75729194Why do you want to make women seethe? You should want to love them and be loved back
>>75729230>what is a practice gfBasically a girl who’s into you but you aren’t really that into but you keep her around for practice talking to women and for sex when you need it
>>75726586>Cute toes as well.Surely you have strong feelings for her if you decided to share something like this, so I will humour you.Here is the likely truth:1) You seriously overestimate how much sex people have, not many people are into casual sex, and even fewer pretty women. They get to be picky and despite what hopelessly pornography addicted numales would have you believe, women who get to pick do not in fact want to be a whore. She likely has not had more than 3 partners in all her years.2) People change a lot, you would do well to forgive the past of others, if they no longer reflect their old selves. Why hold a grudge against a stranger? Out of some sense of perceived righteousness? I agree that the thought of other men having already made love to a woman is very repulsive, but unless you are a virgin you are in no position to judge her. No, being a virgin on account of being unattractive and shy does not count.3) if she is 26, you are likely not much younger. You would do well to find someone soon enough to start a family before you And this is besides the point, but you can't be a Christian larper and still hold a grudge against women who used to be promiscuous. That's not my rule, that's your God's will - if you really are Christian.
>>75729258That is despicable behaviour, you should be ashamed
>>75729216You sound pitiful, weak and miserable. Hard to say WAGMI when fools like you covet the grass on the other side of the fence.
>>75729298I cannot help it, and I do not enjoy it. It is easy for me to fall in love with a woman I've just seen. It always has been. In my defense I have never cheated on a woman, and I am in a 4 year long relationship currently which is more blissful than any other bond between two people I've seen among any of my peers.I am not pitiful, or weak, or miserable, but I do appreciate your words of discouragement, deep down I understand that my desire is superfluous and pathetic. I just needed to hear it reaffirmed from someone else.
>>75729216Envy is a childish trait to possess, get over your animal instincts and appreciate what you have
>>75729345Would it not be greed instead of envy? I envy noone in this scenario, except my theoretical alternate self
>>75727478You deserve the mistreatment you will soon face.
>>75729216You're retarded if you think using fancy words can cover up your grug-tier MUH DIK show of weakness. Nice reddit spacing.
>>75729359I am a rather sophisticated person, I speak like this in real life too and people love me for it.I'm not sure what "muh dik" is supposed to mean, it's supposed to be about nigger being insecure and resorting to their penis size as a cope, but I'm not coping here at all, I'm lamentingReddit spacing is a term that saw practically no use before 2016, and I've been browsing this site since 2014, so you are inferior to me even in this superfluous e-dick measuring contest. Mind you, every person who wants to type coherent sentences that are simple to read spaces their texts.
>>75729351When it comes to desire for another person it's interchangeable, but after seeing your other post I feel I was a bit too harsh.Point is you aren't a bad person for feeling like that but you just need to recognize there's some animal/monkey brain thing going on that's impairing your emotional stability. Just sit with it, recognize it for what it is, and you'll see it's more fleeting than you realize.
>>75729285It’s a cold world, better to have a practice gf than be a beta orbiter for some other chick
>>75729230>Why do you want to make women seethe?Not the objective. It's just a phenomena I've experienced. When dating I would post the woman on the dates just for the heck of it and mutual follower women would start messaging talking about how I've never taken them to those places and how it's been so long since we've seen each other, etc. They don't even pay attention when one is single, but they see another (less attractive than them) woman and suddenly they want what she has. I was just telling anon to bait the other ones if he wanted some other fucks.
>>75729311I apologize for coming off as mean and rude. We all have our burdens to bear, but damn dude. At least you understand the problem and situation and I wish you the best with dealing with it, even if I can not begin to understand it. WAGMI, Anon.
So how am I supposed to meet women
>>75728119Congrats on your date! You describe it as a very positive experience. Do you have any cool plans for the next one?
>>75729771Thanks brah, it was pretty sick. Not sure yet, either gonna be axe throwing or mini golf. Just trying to keep my feet on the ground and my head out of the clouds
I finally received a job offer. As I promised in last week’s thread, I’ll see my old man for the first time in 5 years. I’m proud of myself, I hope he’s proud of me
It's been a difficult week, lads. I am not a religious man but please send a good vibe my way. I need to turn my life around.>Monday got up bright and early and went to local technical college>found out that the class I was trying to attend got cancelled because not enough people signed up, next sign up isn't until May>can't really afford to do anything else - I do qualify for scholarships but I am trying to get a higher education quickly so I can stop floating and get a better job>want some kind of indoor office job or something so that I'm not burned out by the time its lifting time>felt defeated in the moment but proud of myself for actually getting out there and attempting to make a change>earlier today>have a standing rule where I can't play vidya before 5pm while I'm unemployed>organizing a decade worth of files, pictures and videos on my PC>find folder from my very first phone>find tit pics from her>a handful of tit pictures and some full frontal nudes I got from my "one that got away" at my first job>thought I deleted them ages ago after she got with her new man out of respect and honor, even remember telling her I deleted them, remember doing it>apparently I transferred them to my PC beforehand and just completely forgot for years>never made a move on her, waited too late to confess my love>she said she was madly in love with me but thought I wasn't into her so she had to move on>she moved 1500 miles away, I couldn't afford to follow>we are still great friends and I think we are each other's unspoken rebound (she's definitely mine at least, and now that I'm older with savings I would 100% move to be with her if we both end up single)>she got engaged literally last Friday to her on again off again childhood sweetheartI just wanted to be productive today. I didn't want these feelings and wounds to blanket over me. It aches.I persevere.
>>75730184You'll shake those feelings with time. You will meet new people and you will fall in love again. If you harbour such deep feelings after this much time has passed, you should talk out your situation with people in real life, a good friend, preferably a lady friend (men will just tell you to drink up, LOL).And take any sort of job you can get your hands on that isn't slave labour. It's good for self esteem, it's good to make friends, it's good for future job prospects, plus you'll make a little money.And you will probably want to delete the titty pics
Today I saw a guy squatting 4pl8 with perfect form. I used to squat 4pl8 before going down in weight to focus on form and volume. Rather than feel anger or jealousy, I feel more inspired. I want to be that strong and squat that well soon
>>75730544>And you will probably want to delete the titty picsI definitely should. But I think I'll rub one or two out over the weekend beforehand lol. When life gives you lemons, you know? Thought these were long gone and forgot about them for... 7 or 8 years now? But you're right, and I will, just to honor my promise to her at the very least.>And take any sort of job you can get your hands on that isn't slave labour. It's good for self esteem, it's good to make friends, it's good for future job prospects, plus you'll make a little money.This is the big problem I have right now. Everything I've ever done is either warehouse work or restaurant work so it's a duo of hard industries to break out of. I'm looking at other schooling opportunities but I do definitely need something in the meantime. Restaurant work pay is dogshit and warehouse work destroys me, physically but even more so mentally a lot of the time. I'll play the cards I have though. If I don't have a job by the end of the month then I'll open myself up again to one of the two and just bare it.>talk out your situation with people in real lifeI would but a lot of the people I know are mutually friends with her so I feel like I don't have the credence to say anything, especially now that it's literally a week after she got engaged. I've been thinking about trying journaling again, maybe this is a good catalyst to get me back into it.
>>75729409Nice comma splices, dork.
>>75730633Don't take shit jobs if you dont need the money. I'm certain you can find something less menial if you are a college student. Some small firm's internship, anything that isn't physically exhausting would be better... Ask around with friends, that's how I got my comfy sidejob. And I'm sure you know at least one guy you can talk to irl.You should be grateful, if somber that this woman you care about got her happy ending even if it was without you, and you should know that she would likewise be happy to see you get engaged with a lady of your own. Meet new people, fall in love again, the rest will follow.
>>75730644Will that be all?
i had a pretty shitty day.>getting paid late due to issue with the bank my work uses>intended on pursuing a girl from work today and made my first ever attempt at this sort of thing, but she told me she was married. r>my best guy under me is leaving the job in 2 weeks>been wasting most of my free time trying to distract myself with games because i live in an area with basically no single women who don't already have kids, and havent already moved away plus there is absolutely nothing to do within multiple hours of this dead end area (even no state/national parks)>friends all moved away one by one, and the only "friend" left is a guy who will cuck out on plans at the last possible second because his girlfriend has him whippedi am losing the motivation to get out of bed in the morning. i spent most of last year and part of the year before working a lot on self improvement. i made some progress from it, but my life truly didnt get anywhere in terms of reaching long term goals like finding a relationship. i dont think moving away is the solution because i think i would generally end up in the same mindset.how do you make progress when there are no possible options in sight, and no realistic way to create more options? if life is going to continue feeling stalled like this when i hit 30, i dont think i want to see my 30's. i know the statement about how you have to fail in order to be able to succeed, but i dont see any options available to potentially fail in while i attempt to succeed.
>>75729409You sound like a fucking faggot
I need to get a haircut. And decide what to do with my beard. I don't like going to the barber because they always raise the prices. It's like 30 fucking dollars now and they still expect a tip on top of that and that's for the fucking basic cut with nothing else. Unless I go to a chain like supercuts or something but that's it's own thing.
>>75729610What the fuck. Make better female friends.
>>75730755Sorry, m8 -- I'm not done "sophisticating" all over you.
>>75728814Some anon back in 2023 was making a /sig/ website but suddenly stopped posting. I had forgotten about it, but randomly remembered it and wanted to ask about it. We need a new site considering signet, chadnet and various other sites are dead or taken down.
>>75730892Hope it makes you upset
another day to keep trying anons
remember, there's someone who believes in you! wagmi!
>>75730850I'm really sorry about your rough day, fren. Life sucks sometimes. As we grow older, it gets harder to meet new people and make new connections. I keep trying because I believe that someday I will make it. That belief motivates me even when life seems hopeless
>>75729409>not typing like a fucking retardniceat least he could if he wishes to>>75731391the name if that website would be great to have so I can check it out or maybe check some archived version in case it is gone.
>>75730915so figure out what you want and then go to a chain. you'll feel better afterwards
wagmi bump :)
>>75732614thank you for hearing me out. i dont really have anyone i can talk to like this other than you guys, so i appreciate it. the girl i attempted to pursue ended up quitting today over her boss accusing her and another girl of intentionally being too slow at their jobs, so the girl ended up quitting. i can finally say i tried to pursue a girl in person, so ill take that as a positive. i try to remain positive a lot of the time, but enough negatives have built up lately that it eventually ended up boiling over for me last night.feel free to get something off your chest like i did, and i will listen.
>>75734660You tried and failed. Keep trying until you succeed :) I finally landed a new job. I've realized that almost every aspect of my life is going to change over the next couple of months. I'm going to move out, I'm going to switch jobs, I'm going to learn new information, I'm going to meet new people, I'm going to have to become independent. I know it's necessary, I've reached my ceiling in my current job and have been living with my parents since i graduated from school. But I can't help but feel nervous. Change is scary even if it's necessary. I'm making the correct decision, right?
>thread still going:)>>75734558:)
>>75731391I really wish someone would make a separate /fit/ website. I'd love a place to shitpost beyond 4chan
>>75727676whoa that scared me haha
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>>75715109Thank you, anon. All I pray for is growth and resilience. wagmi
Tore two ligaments in my knee and was out of the gym for awhile. Almost fully stopped lifting for 10 months due to being super discouraged. Current progress after about a month of trying to hardcore diet and do some cardio. Still got probably 10 lbs to go.
>>75735457I'm glad you've recovered now :) You're looking strong, especially your arms. Now that you're back, you're to hit new brand new prs this year!
>>75735547Appreciate you bro. Winter sadness definitely took its toll but lifting is a good stress reliever.
>>75735648I feel it. Even if I don't lift well, I always try to view going to the gym as something to be grateful for
>>75730938>female friendsI have, but don't want to date and/or fuck them. It would ruin the friendship.
Been 8 days sober, going to meetings for the first time in my life and it's helped.But my best friend who would hang out with me everyday finally got a gf and I havent seen him in a week so Im incredibly lonely, not the best time to start sobriety lol.29yo btw.
