I'm an MtF tranner and I've tried having sex (with men) but I haven't been able to cum while having sex. I'm pan but leaning more towards liking women, but men are cool too and I've thought the people I slept with were cute/nice/etc. I've tried a bunch of different stuff with them but I never managed to cum so I'm starting to think that's a problem with me rather than any of them. Even when they give me head for the most part it doesn't really feel like anything, nor does it feel all that good when they try to use their hand on me. I actually topped one of them once and that felt disappointing too, like "this is what sex feels like?" kind of a moment. If I try masturbating I can kind of feel like I'm getting closer to cumming but I never get all the way there, and I feel embarassed about it and don't want to just spend the whole time we're having sex jerking off by myself, so I give up at some point and just try to make them feel good.Any tips? I don't think I have a death grip problem btw, though I'm willing to hear that point out too. Do you think there's stuff I could do outside just trying to have sex with a woman instead and seeing what that's like?
I really don't know what to say You're gonna need to figure this out over time?
Do you feel comfortable and confident during sex? The mind is the biggest sex organ.
>>36349304Honestly, it seems to me one unironically needs to be wired a certain way to get off anal sex as a bottom. That, and/or you probably aren't that attracted to men to begin with.>trying to have sex with a womanGood point. Why don't you literally fuck around and find out?
>>36349320I don't think I'm nervous, but I'm not really able to let go in the moment either. I'm able to banter and stuff for example. I want to do a good job and avoid something embarassing happening, so I want to stay in control a little bit, is how I'm thinking.
>>36349331Yeah I guess I should just try being with women.It's not like I HATED being with the guys though, there's a reason I tried it multiple times. Cuddling afterwards was really nice for example.
>>36349340Sounds like youre nervous. Its okay to be cringe if it lets you cum. Get into it and let go a little.
>>36349359Sounds to me like a comphet situation. Shit happens, good luck on your journey anyway
