what aspects of tranners trigger your broken bird syndrome and why? I just have a morbid curiosity. Is it just pity or is it at all sexual?
>>37769459Neither really. I think it's seeing the difficulties trans girls have, from the people around them to their own bodies, triggers some kind of protective instinct. Like I just want to wrap my arms around them and make them feel safe, give them some stability and love and help them better themselves.I know broken bird syndrome isn't the healthiest thing, but I try not to let it make things toxic idk.
>>37769459I became the person a younger me would have needed but never got, and it gave me a sense of empathy for others. I also would just like to have an outlet for the love I have to offer the world. The world is unfair to tranners, I want to compensate for that unfairness by being kind
>>37769459Is there a point where someone is too broken? I feel like because I'm crippled and need a cane to walk it's too much on people. I feel like most broken bird syndrome people want someone cute who just needs lots of hugs.
>>37769459I grew up lonely and sexually repressed so I like being someone's fantasy made real, something I never got.
>>37770146im crying i shouldnt have opened this thread
>>37770352What? Why?
>>37770352do you need this anonette? you know if you give your location I'm sure you'll find many loving chasers interested in giving you hugs
>>37770370you just sound like you care so much and anyone ive dated shuts me down when i start to feel dysphoric or insecure and says its annoying and ill never find someone like this ill never find someone who actually empathizes with what i feel and it just hurts that even with others i always feel like im suffering alone nobody ive ever been with has made me feel safe or secure
>>37769459I love people and helping them out with problems. I love giving people what I never had.
>>37770407dont say this or i may actually do it...
>>37770452please do itwe need you as much as you need us
>>37770434WHAT? You've already dated people? Fucking whore. Fuck off
>>37770434>anyone ive dated shuts me down when i start to feel dysphoric or insecure and says its annoyingI'm sorry you have to deal with that. Should go without saying, but you deserve to be with someone willing to understand and be there for you. It's really bare minimum relationship stuff, and it's ok to expect that from people you date.>ill never find someone like this ill never find someone who actually empathizes with what i feelIf that's what you want or need, you absolutely can find someone. I can only speak for myself of course, but there really are lots of genuinely good people out there. I'm certainly not special in any particular way. You just need a little patience, and a solid understanding of what you're looking for in a relationship. If you have that, you can absolutely find someone that doesn't make you feel so alone
>>37769459Personally, I know what its like to grow up invisible and how I felt about the first person to change that. It'd be cool to be the one to change that for someone else.
>>37770560This groomer is going overboard with it sheeeeesh, respect
>>37770593By growing up I meant my own youth, not that I'd look for someone who themselves is still growing up. There's plenty of people well into their 20's still living a life of complete invisibility.
>>37769459I actually have 0 broken bird syndrome for trannies most of them have their shit together better than me or are fucked up in unatractive ways
>>37770619>moonwalking back this smoothlySHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESH, he crazy with it
>>37770668Its an anonymous forum, think what you want to think. I'm not some trip fag worried about building a reputation here.
>>37770474its not safe...>>37770498sorry...>>37770538thank you<3
>>37770682All we need is a single victim, after all
>>37770694what do you mean it's not safe? at least say the country/state come on
>>37769459I'm a sociology/psych student and the shit y'all go through just makes me want to hug every trans person I see :'(Plus I have my shit together with money and resources that I don't need for myself so I just try to help out the youth
>>37770864>sociologyok based>psychkys nowe
>>37770066based and compassion pilled>>37770146I feel the exact same way>>37770191even as a cis person I feel that, I want them to have the formative years I never got>>37770270no, not really. in the words of Three Days Grace, its never too late>>37770434you'll find someone, it just takes time, I'm saddened that you've dated losers
>>37770895I started as a psych major realized it was bullshit after one sociology course, so I switched majors and slapped on a WGS for funGave me way more compassion for all the hurt out there, and also lets me see the psychopathy in the medical field
My older sister was trans. She was disowned by our family when she came out when I believe she was 15. I would meet her after school some times to hang out and just be with her. She was miserable. The last time I met her she was 22 and crying non-stop. I was 12 at the time and held her in my arms telling her it would be okay. That one day she would be happy just like me. She left this world that same day.I guess I want to hold someone in my arms and tell them it'll be okay and for it to really be true.
>>37771011oh my god anon im so sorry...
>>37771001lmfao, Women and Gender Studies
>>37771011thats gut wrenching, im sorry
>>37769459what a tragic and beautiful thread
>>37769459When they're alone, sad and in need of a good plapping
I repentTrans women are valid and deserve to have their rights protected
I just like nerdy girls who seem like they'd get nervous if asked to order pizza
>>37771605My sacred trip ... It's over
So many good people in this thread. I really hope you all will find a tranny that will love you
>>37771741I think most of that replied here are also broken, we want to love more then we want to be loved
>>37771605thank you chuddie
>>37772078That's ok, it's kinda romantic when two broken people get together and want to support each other and be better together.
It’s kind of pity, but not in a bad way. To me it’s like they’re the ‘underdogs’ - they are seen as predators and monsters when they’re the victims. And I also think that the way they suffer is beautiful, an innocent feminine soul forced to harden and masculinise in a world that does not allow it to exist. I wish I could rewrite the world so no trans woman has to suffer, but the closest I can get is being a broken bird chaser.Also helping people with their struggles helps me too. When I’m comforting someone, it’s like I’m saying those words to myself as well. I’ve always tried to be the person I needed/never had.
>>37769459chasers, does seeing a tranners scars have any specific affect on you?
>>37772640Yes. It makes me want to hug them
>>37772556omg, I was originally gonna write this. I feel the same way its like the underdog in the societal level, for me its like this is the team where I can make the biggest difference. Why help an already winning side where my contributions will not make a difference? Comfort the ones that need it the most, the most disadvantaged with the least help. I head this mentality even as a kid, I hated playing dodgeball on the winning side, I'm a stud athlete so I would always join the nerds team so I could be the hero, it was selfish somewhat but they appreciated it.>>37772640surgery scars or cutting scars? one makes me v sad
>>37769459I wish women with broken bird syndrom were interested because I'm a mess >_<
>>37770146How am I supposed to find anyone like that? Dating apps don't work since I started passing. Plus women who find out tend to really treat me like a fetish
>>37771011I'm so sorry
>>37772793from reading this thread it seems like it comes from wanting to protect and comfort which is a very male-coded thing. Women are usually motivated by different things
>>37772793Maybe in older women(30+) you might find that. Zoomer and younger girls have been trained to kinda loath vulnerability.
>>37772793Yeah, what >>37772834 said, most women with broken bird syndrome are mothers
>>37772813Traditional dating apps are designed for speed, caring people aren't usually going to be aggressive about it. If you want to find someone with this mentality I'd look for a place people don't typically look for a date and just simply get to know people. Something like Discord or talking to someone that's not especially extroverted at a social events.
>>37769459Personally, it's seeing an otherwise nice person being downtrodden through no fault of their own. If a person is a gambler, criminal, drug addict, etc, I have little sympathy. Most of the tranners I've seen IRL are human beings trying to make the best of the hand they've been dealt. If I can make their day a little better by treating them like a worthwhile human being who has value, it makes me feel good see them smile.
>>37772724>>37772721even if they’re bright purple burn lines?
>>37769459Second reply to the OP, but another thing I remembered:I love the idea of finding a diamond in the rough, a treasure not yet recognized. Its how I think of myself, a niche that's not right for everyone but absolutely perfect for some.
>>37772834Yes sadly. I mean maternal instincts are a thing. Honestly that' Would explain my taste
>>37772886Yeah sadly with that only men like me since I'm autistic
>>37772899Yeah. It doesn’t really matter what they look like, I have a lot of scars too
>>37772899yes, i want to give people with scars a hug>>37772813i don't know about other anons but I hang out at the library on campus>>37772891nice heartfelt response. i remember making a good friend because she just seemed so defeated and when i smiled at her she gave me just the slightest smile back and i wanted to cry and hug her right there
>>37772966sometimes the deepest scars we have are the ones we cannot see :'(
>>37772556words like these give me hope that maybe it's worth livinghow cruel would i be to die and deny myself to the person who might be looking for me? i have to do my best for them. i have to take care of myself, because that's what my soulmate would surely want me to do. someone, somewhere out there, is searching for me. i live for them.
>>37773028You deserve to be loved and appreciated on every level, it will happen.
>>37773028>how cruel would i be to die and deny myself to the person who might be looking for me?thats a beautiful outlook anonI hope everyone on this thread matches the kind of person they need
>>37773088>>37773089thankyou <3
>>37770146save meee
>>37770407almost atp
>>37772640I'd rather you not have them, not for shallow reasons like them 'making you look ugly' or anything like that, but because each scar denotes a time you were in anguish and nobody was around to console you, and that kind of pain weighs on my heart.
>>37773506reading this just makes me sadder bc i my seems like ill never find someone that wants to console me
>>37773506i have no scars but i'll be crying about this message tonight
>>37773506How I feel when an ex or a friend has told me about their childhood/adolescence or bullying before they met me. Breaks me heart>>37773636You will, someday
>>37773220it's funny to me how you're one of the more attractive trannies on the board & you're constantly saying stuff like this & getting totally ignored
I’ve never really understood why broken bird syndrome is a bad thing. I’ve never been in a relationship so maybe thats why.
>>37773722as a "broken bird", me neither. all i've ever wanted is for someone to care about me. can someone explain to my why it's meant to be bad? i actually dont understand
>>37773722I think there's 2 different groups:1. There are genuinely predatory people that look to take advantage of the vulnerable.2. There seems to be people genuinely opposed to the idea of love in any form, so they're quick to show disgust in genuinely caring people. They believe that any amount of idealizing a partner is weakness,
>>37773708>it's funny to me how you're one of the more attractive trannies on the boardu rly think so ?? :D>& you're constantly saying stuff like this & getting totally ignoredhappens irl too
>>37773813Could you explain the second type a bit more? Sorry, I’m a little slow
>>37773825i would say so but i'm not a gynephile so can't really see through those eyes. you're like 5months on hrt aren't you? kind of obscene
>>37773722there are two types of people who look for broken birds, just like there are two types of chasers who seek out trans women
>>37773636you will one day, you deserve that and there are people out there worthy of you. You just gotta find them is all.>>37773643Not all scars are physical. Besides, who doesn't love a bit of consoling when we're down from someone who cares?
>>37769459need to treat them well for not much in returnalso fuckin pretty omg>t.ransbian
>>37773918>you're like 5months on hrt aren't you?yeah>>37775955real lmao
>>37773636You will, dear. Sometimes it comes from unexpected sources, and you will eventually find your soulmate.https://youtu.be/skL7OftbT-I
>>37773965What are the two types of chasers? I’m trying to get a straight answer from this board. I don’t want to be a chaser I want to be a good bf
For me the satisfying thing is making them happy. It feels like the happiness and gratitude they express is so deep and genuine. You are making them feel better than they have in their entire life, maybe even better than they ever thought they could even feel. And all you are really doing is expressing to them how beautiful they are to you, how rare and precious. It just feels very special in a way that relationships with cis women do not—there is no template to follow, no prepackaged role for you to step into, no social expectations, no history, no religious doctrine telling you what to do and what not to do. There is just authentic love.
>>37779301your message is so sweet and beautiful and resonant with me and it made my heart flutter but i did start to worry a little when you said there's no expectations...is it okay if i expect you to top...? i won't be demanding about it or anything i just, it would make me happy...
>>37779324I top exclusively :)
>>37779522yaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!! :) :) :)
>>37778574People in this thread looking to fix tranners.The rest of us who just think a girl who use to be a boy is hot.
>>37779851Can’t it be a combination of both? I’m drawn to sad people, the saddest people on campus are generally tranners It’s somewhere between broken bird and saviour complex. I just wanna be someones knight in shining armour
>>37779324>>37779641>>37779522Pretty sure like 99% of the people who have posted will top, men like to protect
>>37771011i cries
>>37769459>LV>>FaZe Clan and OpTic gaming>>>bf2042, codbo6
>>37780081this poem is beautiful...for all their flaws i really do love men sometimes
actually cried reading this damn threadthanks to all anons who posted kind words
>>37778574Cringe and based
>>37782387which one made u cry the hardest
>>37782548what an odd thing to ask
>>37782601well?
>>37782619um>>37770146this one>>37770538^this one because it was directed at me>>37771011and this one because it broke my heart. i cried a lot yesterday...
>>37782663but which one made you cry the most???????? i didn't ask for ur top 3 favourites
>>37782348Thank you anonette <3>>37782418kek>>37782663brave of you for entertaining the odd behavior, but appreciate the appreciation, lots of humanity in this thread>>37782694bruh, do you think she measured her tears lol
>>37782694nta but it had to be the suicide one
>>37782717quiet gayboy, go suck some hon's cock. i am doing important research here
>>37782694they were "favourates" the just all made me cry!but the one i was crying the longest for was definitely >>37771011 i can only imagine the pain stored within those memories...
>>37782736werent*
>>37782727>>37782736Thank you. Your feedback will be evaluated and used to improve our next thread.
>>37782760were they fake? were you trying to make us cry on purpose? i cried last night too. >>37773506this one broke the dam
>>37782728understandable, have a nice day>>37782727>>37782736I think that one crushed everyone who read it, the rest of us just want to be heros>>37782760this has been one of the most wholesome threads I've read on this board, I sincerely wish more of this stuff pops up to show that we are human on both sides of this struggle
>>37782778Your purpose as a human is to live, not just to exist. Did you live?
>>37769459Since I’m a woman myself and I helped raise my siblings and alcoholic mom I just gravitate to helping others. Trans women need that big sister, but also I don’t want to be pretentious and infantilize trans women so idk what to do with it besides donate when I can
>>37782736>>37782747i spelled they wrong too i have to stop having so many late nights>>37782760what does this even mean anon? :(>>37782778i really dont think they were fake i mean what kind of sick monster would fabricate all that..?
>>37782809its okay...im sure not everyone will be receptive to it but there are lots of girls out there that are looking for exactly that
>>37769459It's not sexual for me, I just feel bad for them. Probably stems from my own insecurities of being useless and helping them or people in general makes me feel like I have a purpose in this world.
>>37782778>>37782815nta but they aren't fake, some of the posts (incl. the poem) are mine>>37782809ayy, my father was an alcoholic and I raised my sister, but I left home after highschool and I feel like I abandoned here even ten years later so I try to make up for it where I can by helping out other little sisters :'(
>>37782829My mind is too guilty to date the women I’ve been attracted to so instead I rather donate to girls who need hrt or housing. Plus it’s not about me, it shouldn’t be. One day the tides will change for a more gentle future, I truly hope so
>>37782839I completely understand this guilt. I just couldn’t stay there anymore and I left them with monsters. We should probably go to therapy
>>37782792why are you trying to make me sad? :(i'm trying to live. im fighting.
>>37769459happy this thread is still up and still beautiful. thank you OP and everyone for making so many of us cry and feel loved
>>37769459Trannies actually cured my broken bird syndrome. After speaking to enough horribly narcissistic BPDemon trannies, I think I'm okay just settling down with a 6/10 normoid cis woman.
>>37782901Fuck off, you left them too? :'(After my dad broke his back in a drunken stumble I knew they were safe from physical harm at least so I joined the Air Force and sent her money and gifts when I could.I've tried therapy a few times it hasn't really helped, helping others has helped me more even if its a 'toxic' coping mechanism, its the cross I bare. Do you open up to people about it?
>>37782916i'm nice & have zero personality disorders. you should date me
>>37782914OP here. Could you post a quick pic of your asshole on unsee for us?
>>37782963I have a fart and shit fetish.
>>37782907Animals fight to live, always. Do they ever live? Stop extending time, spend it.
>>37782963Listen, we are broken chasers here, please come back with problems
>>37782979never mind
>>37783004well i want to kill myself & don't have any friends & stuff. the other guy put me off though. maybe if i wait long enough i'll turn into a transbian
>>37783018>well i want to kill myselfSo does every other tranny, you aren't special.>don't have any friendsThis is a lie and you know it>stuffBPD.
>>37782939I’ve been open with friends about it but friends will comfort you by telling you that you had to and it’s not your job. But that’s not the point, the point was that I was the only one there, and I left to save my own ass. And I didn’t come back because I wasn’t wanted anymore anyway. It doesn’t get easier, I just get older. But if I can help with the life I’ve built for myself to those who need it then of course, and its due to friends who I’ve lost in the past I’ve dedicated a portion of my salary to helping transfeminine causes. Nobody deserves to be in the street like we were at 14. Nobody deserves to have to stoop to being hurt to afford their medication. God it was all so horrible and I lost my best friends to that life, the only women who welcomed me and didn’t see me as a freak. I will always be thankful. Anyway I’m crying and will go calm down. Please stay safe out there girls, please
>>37783034ok fine i have one friend. i don't have bpd but a psychologist i had when iwas younger suggested that maybe i had schizoid, but i odn't really believe in that or psychology generally. i'm nice too
>>37783060If you were nice you'd send me a video of you farting with your balls visible.
>>37783018Don't worry, you definitely will. I feel bad for the people here. Hopefully they find a cis hog or something to date. She's bound to be more loyal.
>>37783018Now you're speaking, you fit right in. Know that you're loved and will find someone.>>37783041Yeah I get that, friends don't really know how to react to true trauma. We were the abandoners not the abandonees, its that survivor guilt. Its no consolation, but thank you for everything you are doing.>>37783060Psychology is mostly a sham and random labels, I wouldn't put too much stock in it.
>>37769459>thought I didn't have broken bird syndrome because it had never come up in my relationship history>dated one trans man and went insane with how hard it hit meI have to actively not allow myself to feed it because I end up grooming in effect if I doanyway yeah I only have broken bird syndrome for male struggles and men without supporttrans men who are in the full swing of HRT uglies who haven't become independent adults trigger it hardestit didnt start out as a sexual thing but it's turned into a fetish now
>>37783147>I have to actively not allow myself to feed it because I end up grooming in effect if I dodepressed boymoders get me like this, its like I'm the first shred of decency they've seen and I really don't want to take advantage of that
>>37783018Where are you
>>37783248guess
>>37783173the upside with trans men is they usually have relationship histories of groomers they met online before 16 and know to put it on balance and not take it as a love bomb or feel deeply indeptedthe downside with trans men is that the most common learned coping methods for being groomed with monetary support are either hyper-independence to avoid debt in the first place or total entitlement and lack of respect to what's being given in its own right
>>37783284USA
>>37782963sure, where are you from?
>>37783291first part seems well-adjustedthe hyper independence is annoying, but the total entitlement is worse, I had an NB friend like that I'd buy them random shit because I'm leagues ahead financially but very little respect or reciprocity. Trans women I found to be a lot more accepting and respectful? Like they know the value of money more or something
>>37783297>>37783305interior alaskai am un-edateable
>>37783342lmaoooooo
Where do broken tranners hang out? How can I save them?
>>37783591giwtwm iwn have a successful transition>giant shoulders skull and ribcage
>>37783591interior alaska, please see above.
>>37783591in my room
>>37783753You just have to find a bf like me who has exceedingly large shoulders, ribcage, and skull so you look like Griffith by contrast :)>>37783777Where? I've been on exercise to Eilson and have partied in Fairbanks and went rafting somewhere in the interior
>>37783809literally the biggest problem I've found, all my trans friends run from class to class and then straight home, how am I supposed to appreciate and love you :'(
>>37783826wtf... i am in fairbanks
>>37783851wait, this is what i do. what else am i supposed to do? where am i supposed to go?
>>37783905exactly. before i graduated, that's what i did. if i didn't have an obligation to go to, why wouldn't i just go back to my room. it absolutely beats just sitting around at some random place for no reason
>>37783896cute, i'll look for you next time i'm there <3>>37783905>>37783943study in the library, become a familiar face. mere exposure effect, people (me) are more likely to talk to you when you are someone we recognize, then people (me) can love you and appreciate you forever
>>37783943no i want more than one friend. i want to know what random place i should sit around at so people can meet me
>>37783982thank you anon i'm going to the library right now. a new world has opened up for me
>>37783982i stay home because i feel like a monster and whenever im in public i feel like im committing a crime against people by existing in their line of sight. i'm so viscerally uncomfortable any time i'm in public i try to get home as soon as i can. i feel like if i study in the library people are going to glare at me and feel uncomfortable around me just for existing and i don't want to make people feel that way.
>>37783982i didn't need to study in college so why would i go to the library for no reason. i wouldn't want to take up space from people who need to anyways>>37783986people i don't know approaching me without a legitimate reason is uncomfortable
>>37784054ok, i can get that, & i'm that way too, but i want toexpereience human companionship & engage in exchange of self
>>37771011Parents who throw out their trans kids are demons wearing human skin
>>37783591my fucking parents house in oklahoma city
>>37783986any study space really, I go for the coziest ones with the most space, big open floor plans are my favourite, my uni has a room called the harry potter room and its lovely>>37784006I guess this sarcasm but its genuine from me, if you're gonna be studying anyways might as well spend sometime studying in a place where someone might talk to you (if you want to make new friends that is)
>>37784085>I guess this sarcasm but its genuine from meanon it so isn't i am literally lacing up my boots right now. well i am not anymore, i had to plug in my laptop but i have one boot on. i am going in probably tenminutes
>>37784049thats an awful mindset, if its purely for yourself sure but thinking you're making others uncomfortable is entirely a projection>>37784054generally people don't approach without a legitimate reason, eye contact or something to talk about triggers it>>37784084do i have to ask your parents for you to come out and play?
>>37782882you don't have to sacrifice your own happiness to that extent... to you it may seem noble, but know that you deserve nice things and love too. i would be happy to date a kind soul like you that's for sure
>>37784113they'd probably be happy i was getting out at all
>>37784164easy peasy, I'll ask your father for your hand in marriage shortly
can someone please hug me im severely depressed boymoder with almost no actual concrete interests or hobbies a nd just get on the internet all day and wageslave in a warehouse and i live in a crackhouse (i grew up ehre ) please hufg me please please pleasep leasplse i just wat to be hugged please
>>37785900*hugs*
>>37785912i want to be hugged in real life and not have to worry about being interesting or having things to say because im not interesting and i have nothing to say i just wanna be huggedd by a boy ive never had any real friends irl and im a khv at 21 years old and i dont even know what im supposed to fucking do all day i almost dont like anything
>>37773722>I’ve never really understood why broken bird syndrome is a bad thing.because if you're so pathetic you need to look for validation (be cared for) on the internet you're just...pathetic. Like, you can't get a hold of your own life you need some poor soul online to reassure you to not kill yourself. it's embarrassing.you're probably over 18 get your shit together you're no teen no more
>>37785922are you cute and if not are you at least thin
>>37786321i am some one pls fix me i m such a broken bird
>>37786330we can cuddle and watch movies or something if you live within 300 miles of me
>>37783591I don't even like Berserk, but this is how it should have ended.
>>37786932>>37783591that picrel is unbelievably cute and totally gives me butterfly's
I was deeply neglected as a kid and can be sorta childish because of it. I was essentially raised like a pet. Because of it a ton of people sorta get very protective over me and I think the best thing for me would be to become a profitable artist and then give some broken bird syndrome chaser a conservatorship over me or something. I'd financially support them with my music and in exchange for that they'd help me through the world and love me.
>>37786963I shared it with my tranner—waiting for her response in the morning. She's a Casca fan, so I'll see how that goes over.
>>37772813You have to figure out what you want/need from a relationship, then tall to lots of people with the intention of finding a partner until you find a good person. It's pretty simple, but obviously really difficult.>>37773220Why do you need saving?
>>37786456really?
>>37787080depressed loveless transgender
>>37787101Well finding someone will realistically save you from one of those. Still wouldn't mind saving you though ;)
