How do I cope with losing her? She was the love of my life and my soulmate and I'll never find anyone like her againI had a terrible nightmare and I just woke up thinking I'd still have her there to talk about it but now I'm all alone and it hurts so much.I miss her so much and I feel like this pain will never end
>>38567177She was not the love of your life.She was not your soulmate.You will definitely find another.Romantic concepts like "love at first sight" and "soulmates" are corporate concepts to make you miserable, that kind of feeling dissipates over the years. 90% of relationships are about realizing that both parties are compromising in some way, shape, or form and coming to peace with that and being happy with that.The kind of love that exists in movies, games, manga, manhwa, you name it; it's not real, it could never be real, because real life is weird and messy and complicated and doesn't have a purpose.
>>38567235I used to think that way until I met her and she changed everything, maybe you're right, but out of all the people I've met and known, she was special and I've never met anyone like her and never will again
>>38567254she's alive still thankfully
>>38567427not gonna say her name because I don't think she'd appreciate me posting it here, sorry
>>38567427and I'm sorry you're going through something similar, it hurts so much and I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone, I hope things get better for you
>>38567177sorry anon
>>38567177y did u lose her?
>>38567450it would be so romantic if you posted her name here, I'm sure she would love you for it
>>38568735pls answer i need to know!!!
ok forget it there’s no way ur my ex anyways u said u just woke up and it’s already night where i live. i’m over him too and it’s been like 5-6 months and he left 4chan
>>38568735we both have some mental problems and she's having some serious issues with her dysphoria and stress from work and I wasn't supportive enough during her time of need, she said it's not my fault but I can't help but blame myself and wish I could do things differently
>>38569170ok thanks i just wanted to know if this post was my ex or not
>>38569277I'm not, sorry
>>38569302it’s ok, would be awkward if u were
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>>38569170>another victim of the BPDemon menace Literally nothing you could've done would've helped at all. You were in love with someone that didn't exist. You were nothing but a pawn in her games.
>>38567177i have known similar pain, i wish thee a speedy recovery and a hot new wife.
>>38567177The love of my life committed suicide, and it hurts, but you'll get over it. For me it helped to just slut around and fuck anyone who'd let me
>>38567177>Romantic concepts like "love at first sight" and "soulmates" are corporate concepts to make you miserable, that kind of feeling dissipates over the years. 90% of relationships are about realizing that both parties are compromising in some way, shape, or form and coming to peace with that and being happy with that.i feel like this could be real if both parties agree on this concept, like if two love birds met.
>>38570246she wasn't like that :(she's a good person
>>38567235love at first sight is not real but love does exist bratan... it's not just replaceable, some people do get really attached and then heartbroken. Getting over it isn't forgetting them, but being able to brave the pain so you can be at least a little happy.
>>38569170Well you must learn to accept that some people are just incapable to be loved. You couldn't have saved her and there's nothing you could have done to change the outcome. Maybe if you would have been more careful it would have lasted a bit longer, but at some point there would have been a trigger at some point anyway.It's not fair but some people are just too far gone, and even if they could be helped, maybe in a few years with therapy, you aren't her therapist and a relationship is no substitute for it. Maybe she'll get better and you can try again in 5 years or so. But for now, accept that it can't be.>t. someone whose also to far gone to be helped
>>38570255>>38570275thank you, I hope you're in a better place
>>38570420yeah I agree, and I hope I can be happy again one day, I'll never forget her like you said but I hope I can learn to brave the pain
Hey this happened to me not too long agoYou have the time now to work on some things, maybe find a way to do art to express yourself or do something with your body. If you have friends hang out with themWatch a movie you never got to, etcI'm still thinking about her every day, but its important to love yourself. Genuinely, love yourself https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJ935p8dKzo
>>38567177This advice is pretty much spot on >>38571750I met a girl who was perfect in every way for me and I thought we would be together forever, but things didn't work out for us due to LDR bullshit and our own personal life problems and we had to call it off. It was the most painful thing to ever happen to me because I had made her such a big part of my life and when we split it left a huge gaping hole in me where she used to be, pretty similar to what you're going through.My advice is that you need to find things to do to keep you busy and move your life forward without her, and focus solely on yourself as a person. Avoid sitting in your room all day playing videogames and wallowing in self-hatred at all costs because it doesn't do you any good, just makes things worse. Find things that let you process the grief you're feeling while also being enriching, like hobbies you enjoy or therapy/talking to family and friends or just getting out of the house and DOING real things (gym, hiking, whatever). You need to realize that you are your own person and that you are worthy of love, most importantly from yourself. Learning to love yourself entirely, even your flaws and mistakes and things you maybe could've done better, helps you fill that hole in your heart that she left and lets you be a complete, even stronger person capable of moving on and radiating your love onto someone new. It will be tough but you can do it bro, believe in the you who believes in yourself.
>>38570434the thought of this is so painful, but I guess it might be the sad truth, I truly hope that she gets better, and I will too, and maybe then we can try again, thank you for your advice, and I hope that you can get the help you need and one day you can feel better too and be happy
>>38567177just live your life, try to enjoy things and understand she's gone. itll work out in the end. learn to love yourself, get closer to the friends you know and find some new ones at the same time. go out there and be somebody.
It's almost been six years and I'm still not over her
>>38571750Thank you so much for your advice, I understand that I just have to keep on moving and stay preoccupied and to find outlets for my sadness and grief, I'll try my hardest to love and be good to myself and grow as a person like you said, thank youand that scene you posted is beautiful and made me bawl my eyes out, I'll have to watch that anime now, thank you anon
>>38572349Thank you too anon, I really appreciate the advice and kind words, I'm planning on getting a new drum set to have something to do after I sold my old one, and I've been spending time with my family and my cat to help, I'll start working out and maybe go to therapy tooI relate heavily with what you went through, and I hope you're in a much better place in lifeAnd that last message hits incredibly hard because that was one of the very first things we ever watched together, but I believe that message whole heartedly and will do my best, thanks bro
>>38567177if she was your soulmate she couldn't have brought herself to leave youaccept this before it destroys you
>>38567235my wife is the love of my lifemy wife is way more than a soulmate i will never have to find another366 days ago we fell in love in 5 days; met in just over 2 weeks; and she proposed to me on our first date on valentines; we legally married 9/9/24we have spent nearly every waking moment together since we met, with only a cumulative total of about 4 or 5 weeks apart (never more than 8 days) in the 10 months before i moved to her statewe have spent more time together in a year than some busy couples (with both working fulltime for example) do in a decade we say "ill die for you" more than most people say "i love you" and we mean iti have no doubt that our feelings will remain just as strong for as long as we live; we are eachother's heaven and have complete trust and comfort togetherthe kind of love that exists in movies; games, manga, manhwa, you name it- we surpass it beyond words i love infinitely and fearlessly and i always have since i was a child; my singular highest purpose is to love in this beautiful way that my soul was made fo; and i will love my wife with all of my being even beyond death; and unlike all the other girls i have deeply loved in my life- my wife is capable of accepting and returning my feelings completely i assure you the things you dismiss as fantasy can and do exist; they are just exceptionally rare occurrences- maybe the rarest thing for sentient life to experience in the universe- true mutual Limerence love; such a complete and all consuming shared need for eachotheri am without a doubt the luckiest girl that ever lived; i have found the goddess of the universe and she answered my prayers and sent to me an angel from across the world to love forever- i'm like a bird finally released to the freedom of the skies after a lifetime of shackled captivity where i could not live my purpose Raya my darling I love you so so much!I pray everyone will find happiness and love in their lifetimes )*
>>38575473idk, a lot of the things you said are things I thought were true for usI guess I just don't know right now, thanks
>>38573556It takes time bro my gf was also a fucking messGood luck
>>38572549thanks, I'll do my best
>>38576837i get that and im very sorry for your loss and pain:( i have been through it many times myself; i can tell you that i think with the trye most-right individual; there will be a different feeling from the start; things will move more deeply quickly; you will feel it in a different way than even this girl; and she will have more similar feelings pulling her to you; you won't have to hold things back or feel fear about pushing her away; and you will know at some stage that it would take alot to derail when both side want and-need- it so badlyim no expert believe me ive been hurt very badly many times- my key advice to you is not to let this cause you to hold back and recoil intoa shell forever; you must must must love like this again; and even more- the true right person will fit more like a goove than a mitten; will make you stop hurting over this girl once and for all- and will uplift you to a place youve never beeni really hope you find itplease don't be afraid to love again; you will probably get hurt again; you just need some strength and drive to pull you through those- for me that was my goddess; but you have to find what that is for you- it may take you a decade to find someone like the one you lost- but you probably can; and you will know very quickly she was worth the waitdon't give in to jadedness and hopelessness, keep trying to show people the real you- one of those beautiful fishies will see you through the murky waters and will offer you a warmth you have never known
>>38578031your post was very comforting, thank you, I won't give up and will keep going forwards even if it hurts right now
>>38572568So real
BPDemons win again or something
>>38567235>love isnt real>real life is weird and messy and complicated and doesn't have a purpose.wow what a totally novel and non-corporate opinion
>>38580204They can't keep getting away with it!!
>>38580221this
It'll be okay
>>38580221It's a sign someone just started watching Plebbit and Memey
>>38578975good luck anon tc <3 )*
