Aren't we all crushed and overstimulated by life? Why wouldn't you fantasize about losing control of your will and decisions even for a moment? I don't understand
>>38581817You're asking the wrong anonymous internet forum.The girls here would beg for a chance to be ordered around like a dog.
>>38581833I know, that's why I posted it here. There are always men in the replies who chase girls like that
I mean someone has to be the top
>>38581817Picrel looks hot, sadly girls into domming guys are rare
>>38581817being a bi switch is the bestget to experience *everything*
Errr I don't like being dominated by women like picrelBut I always ask myself the same question, i love being dominated, and I see the dom get so much enjoyment out of it, and how much they love my submissiveness and what not, and I always think "waow... I wonder why they like domming so much, being submissive is the best..." And i guess they're just wired that way. Granted it's older guys who dom me.
>>38581911in my experience afab enbys usually like to deviate from gender norms and dominate cute boys, that's the closest i got to femdom
>>38581817You could look at it the other way: why doesn’t everyone fantasize about dominating someone when we have so little power in our lives and have to kowtow to each others’ expectations? Different strokes for different folks.
>>38581961^
>>38581959>in my experience afab enbys usually like to deviate from gender norms and dominate cute boysThey are also poon reppers so in many scenarios you'll end up with a bf down the line
>>38581961i've had people make me try topping/domming before and it literally makes me cry, it's horrible t.male
>>38581978no one should make you try anything :(
>>38581978yes but you're a massive pussy
>>38581961I guess you're right, i just wonder why don't we all have both desires simultaneously. What is it that leads us to have a specific way of facing the world?
>>38581817https://voca.ro/14YsVDcjX5OE
>>38582008Cute accent you sound like someone who would live where I live in the rural southBut domination and submission isn't even taboo really.
>>38582008because it's fun
>>38581978Same my dom ex gf would always strap me down and use me and one time she make me tie her up and I got overwhelmed and cried
>>38582003I doubt we’ll ever know the answer to that question in full, at least in our lifetimes. My best guess is that it comes from quirks in our genetics and the way they interact with various events in our development, but it isn’t a very useful answer.
>>38582026https://voca.ro/1iDWqC33wZLd
>>38581817There are multiple answers to your question. Why being the sub might not be appealing:Some people have gone through traumas they would rather not be reminded of. Also the pleasure of submissive urges, can come to you without your permission. Which in turn can make you feel violated and in a sense you are even if it's your body that's violating you. Many of the gender dysphoric people with apendages and traits they don't want should relate. Even anyone who has gotten a cold should relate to that notion. Another way to answer your question is that being a dom can be more appealing. Other's reactions can accomplish things for you that you can't feel yourself. I like breaking people with pleasure for example, because I am constantly restraining myself and it's hard for me to feel positive emotions at this point. I can't free myself but I can 'free' others. And that basically feels better to me.
>>38581817I've become a very capable dom, but truthfully it still doesn't "make sense" on a fundamental level for sex to be all about power. I'm a top because I like burying my penis in a cute bottom's warm holes. But deep down I'm very vanilla, and before I had experience, my concept of sex was just all about intimacy and pleasure and playfulness. I've gotten very good at dominance because my bottom(s) enjoy it so much, and that makes it fun for me. And I guess to some extent I have the right personality for itI still just don't really "get it" and at this point I doubt I ever will
>>38581817the trick is finding a top who isn't physically abusive. Ive had enough of that shit in my life
>>38582105How did they abuse you anon? That's really scary; I didn't know that was common. This man I'm talking to talks about slapping me gently but I didnt think he'd actually do it; i always get turned off when they talk about physical violence.
>>38581994it's okay i dont think i was forced into it really>>38581995fact check true
>>38581907i feel so horrible for tops
Why can't everyone just switch
>>38581817Not really, no. My life is fine and I don't really understand bdsm. It feels very very silly to me.
>>38582153severe bullying throughout my childhood, and one particular person (my moms ex boyfriend) would literally pick me up by the throat to punish me when I was 8. To this day I can't wear a necktie, scarf, or turtleneck without having a panic attack because of himI can't find pain to be at all sexy, it's just a manifestation of hate to me
>>38582493so sorry to hear that...
my ideal sexual partner would just outright kill me tbqh
>>38581817i work a very high stress job, so i really enjoy completely surrendering power. i'm very, very lucky that my wife and her trans best friend are always down to own me.
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>>38582493>>38582105I’m sorry anon you should never had to go through that.
>>38582627honestly that sounds so hot, you are certainly lucky
>>38582637I'm talking about a fairly common symptom of the world. Not only my experience
>>38581817>Why isn't domination appealing to everyone?bc the world needs tops
