I feel like I can't connect with other transgender people because half of how people seem to connect is bonding over shared trauma, and I have nothing to contribute to that conversation.My mom and dad always told me that no matter who I became or who I loved, they would love me, and that turned out to be completely true. After coming out, my parents supported my transition after deep discussions about what it meant to me. My mom told me she figured I was either gay, or trans anyway. My mother calls me beautiful every time she sees me now, and says I remind her of herself when she was younger. My father introduced me to his coworkers as his "beautiful, talented daughter" and regularly talks about me to them. When I met them, they all said he had nothing but good things to say.My grandmother routinely texts me to check up on how I'm doing and calls me her beautiful granddaughter. Her "politics" don't align with mine, but I love her to death, and she's always supported me in the same way. She's just old fashioned.It feels so awkward to hear someone talk about family trauma and not be able to relate or connect at all. I feel extremely uncomfortable talking about any of this to any trans person, not only just because it feels like bragging and that makes me feel awkward, not just because it triggers intense feelings of jealousy and loathing in people, but half the time, people don't even believe that this could be real. So I simply don't talk about my family with other people. Does anyone else come from a supporting, loving family who wants them to succeed? Is it really that outlandish that a trans person could come from a loving home?
>>38587888nah my family is kool
>>38587888my family is cool but I hate them anyway because I'm a schizo retard
You don't have a responsibility to feel pain. No reason to feel awkward to hear people describe pains you haven't experienced. Its empathy. Be there for them. Show your friends the love their family can't offer. My family was awful to me about being trans. I don't wish that on anyone. It makes me happy to hear about trans people being loved by their family
>>38587888yeh my entire family is accepting. i feel bad for the people who get like disowned but it can get annoying when all they talk about is how much they hate their family, i sometimes also wonder if their family was at fault, when it’s on this board i believe it cuz u girls aren’t that crazy and wouldn’t do the things reddithons would do. but i’ve seen hons complain about the dumbest things, like they’ll disown their family cuz someone accidentally boynamed/malegendered them. and like it’s so crazy to me, it took my grandma like 2-3 years to not accidentally say my boyname sometimes, like she’s 81 u can’t expect someone from that age to immediately adapt to a change. it took her years to stop calling a grocery store the old name it had lmao.
>>38587888godspeed you beautiful tranner
>>38587888this was specifically written to make me spiral
>>38587952I try to be there for them as much as I can, but at a certain point it's difficult to say much else other than "I'm so sorry that happened to you", or some variation of "You didn't deserve that, and I'm sorry you experienced that." I think a lot of people are looking for connection in sufferring rather than healing and when I can't do that for them, it does make things awkward.>>38588021I can see that. I think a lot of people are very reactive and emotional especially when beginning HRT, your brain is fucked on your first year and I believe people do the most incomprehensible nonsense on their first couple years of HRT before everything levels out and becomes more normal. Every time I've had to go off HRT due to not being able to afford it I feel like I'm going fucking insane because of the hormones flooding my body again. >>38588312I'm sorry. I wish things could be different for you, I wish things could be better for you. I would give you a hug if I could.
>>38587888yesit makes me feel so guilty because it's like i have no good reason to be this fucked up and dysfunctional
>>38587888what age did you start HRT
>>38588389I started HRT at 19 years old. I'm 31 now.
>>38588370>I would give you a hug if I could.that's nice but i already went insane and cut myself because im a dumb mentally ill person
>>38588427Well, I don't really have any control over any of that. I'm sure you know this already, but make sure to dress the wound and disinfect it. Externalizing the internal pain might feel good in the moment, but it's going to make you feel worse if that cut becomes infected. Not like you need me to tell you that, but still.
>>38588021>you can't expect grown adults to adapt to change!holy cuck
>>38588370it sounds like you don't have any empathy for trans people worse off than you, considering how quick you are to agree with a post blaming trans people with unaccepting families
>>38589063shitty strawman, learn how to read. only said it takes someone who’s pretty old longer to adapt to change than someone who’s younger.
>>38589075No, I don't blame trans people for having unaccepting families, you're being very intentionally reductive. What I do agree with is that that many people, trans or not, manufacture problems for themselves that don't have to exist.
>>38587888no
>>38589113Geriatrics just say that because they don't want to introspect
>>38589881just say u don’t know any old people. i know it’s true cuz my grandma always says my name now it just took her a few years (and in those years she always corrected herself), and she’s had a phone for way longer than that and still doesn’t know some things that are basic knowledge to us.
>>38587888i moved to trannyville and the girl who brought me here was like how come you never talk about your family and i was kinda surprised cuz i thought the meme was trans girls have no family :c one of my exes is also openly a boymoding tranny with a family that loves her and it makes me sad because i dont have anyone but i wouldnt know how to act if i had a family anyway so
