>on second date with a guy>he wants to have sex>tell him i have a dick>he gets confused, apologizes, tells me he's not interested and ghosts meDo i really have to choose between getting rejected or only dating chaser fetishists from grindr? Can't wait till i save up enough money for SRS so i won't have to disclose im trans
>specialize in attracting closeted gays>mention the one detail they are most nervous about
St4t is the answer anon. Cissoids are too cowardly so you'll have to settle for someone with similar experiences
>>39482807yeah i thought this as well and tried to not tell them i have a dick but then they get even more confused when i undress
>>39482797that's why srs is so popular. No dick no problems
>>39482797>Do i really have to choose between getting rejected or only dating chaser fetishists from grindr?You could also date chaser fetishists from 4chan
>>39482955id imagine that would be somewhat better but none of them are in Poland
>>39482992The 4chan guys are fatter but usually nicer because basement dwellers don't have a body count and still act like they're trying to impress you instead of treating you like a disposable fuckdoll
>>39482797>Do i really have to choose between getting rejected or only dating chaser fetishists from grindr?Yes. Men generally don't like dates. The only reason they put up with them is because they need to in order to get sex from women. You catfished the guy when you should have disclosed that you're trans from the get go. You keep this shit up and you're gonna run into the wrong guy who won't take it as lightly.
>>39483008how fat though? like obese or jsut overweight?
>>39483081It varies
>>39483079i generally don't worry about how lightly he takes it since i always carry a gun, knife and pepper spray. A bit paranoid probably but better safe than sorry
>>39482890This is unfortunately a huge myth, speaking from personal experience.
>>39482797You know as well as I do if he answered anything other than "oh, well i'm not interested in that sorry" you'd think he was a faggot and lose attraction for him.
>>39483079Tranneis don't like dates. I'm a man and I like dates without the pretense of sex. Every tranny I have ever taken on dates ended up pushing to have sex with me. One literally just asked if she could come over and suck my dick on the first date while we were eating tacos together.
>>39483185trans women don't want gay men?
>>39483194You need to go on dates with trans women who are 7+ years into transition. Baby trans are weird and do weird things.
>>39483197So what's the correct answer, then?>That's okay with meFaggot.>I don't mindProbably a faggot.>I'm not interestedwtf why are men like this :(
>>39483185TRVKE
>>39483185if he's a faggot or not doesn't really matter to me, i usually would rather date a bisexual guy than a straight one since the straight guys are all so annoyingly insecure in their masculinity and heterosexuality
>>39483211It's so funny that you'd say that. The one who did that to me was 10 years on HRT and post orchi.
>>39483226Absolutely wild. Personally I couldn't imagine having sex on the first date- or 2nd. When I manage to actually get a date dudes want to keep me a dirty little secret confined to their bedroom or just ghost/unmatch>t. mostly well adjusted troon 13.5 years into transition.
>>39483096>i generally don't worry about how lightly he takes it since i always carry a gunHow quick are your reflexes? Are you quick enough to outdraw him or strong enough to overpower him if he tries to disarm you?
>>39483248damn nigga how old are you. Shouldn't you be taking care of the kids instead of posting here?
>>3948326932, started at 18 back in 2011. RIP /cd/
>>39483248I'm the exact opposite. I want to take a girl out and have some fun. I like gentle PDA like a guiding touch, a kiss on the cheek, things like that. Just to remind her that I'm here for her, she has my full attention. I also have zero interest in fucking on the first date, meaningless casual sex just cannot ever compare to having sex with someone you have an actual connection with.But it seems like no trans woman I meet is at all interested in that, they all just want to have sex and move on as fast as possible.
>>39483290Damn, sorry to hear that anon. Where are you from?
>>39483259In terms of the gun i don't worry about having to outdraw him since i live in a country where 1% of the population owns guns, if he tries to get close and start to disarm me i can always stab him with the knifeIn terms of the knife i don't worry about him disarming me since i carry a trench knife
>>39483341I'm from a very notorious PNW city which probably explains a lot of what I'm saying right now. No, not the one in Washington.
>>39483211i'm 1 year into hrt and i always want to have passionate sex on the first date, you think that will change?
>>39483358LMAO I was literally going to add "Probably not portland because it's all transbians" I'm dead.
>>39483385Maybe, it depends on if you ever become "well adjusted." It could also just be my religious-upbringing brainworms I internalized. But I used to be like heavy into BDSM and now I'm the "strong independent woman" type
>>39482797Just look for bisexual men. Kinda hard to find one that isn't also super faggy but my ftm boyfriend managed it>t. non-faggy bisexual
>>39483402All the hot bi men in my city are poly and I want to vomit
>>39483344ofc that's all in the worst possible scenario where he jsut charges at me instantly like a maniac, usually the pepper spray is more than enough when someone starts getting aggressive
>>39483386There are a scant few non-transbians here but they are all poly sex pests and all that shit lol. So are the cis women too, but at least they're less likely to randomly go ghost for no reason. I have a cisf fwb at the moment who has been pretty awesome to me. Gay men here are so fucking vile and disturbing I don't even bother with that, despite me considering myself pan.
>>39483417Shame, you sound chill but I'm in Denver.
>>39483425I try to be, sometimes it feels like I'm the only one. I really don't ask for much, just someone who isn't a sex-obsessed weirdo and who won't randomly hit the block button. One time I texted a girl good morning, sent her a funny cat video, she responded positively. I go take a shower and boom, blocked. Bitch just hates hygeine or what?
>>39483405Trust me everyone feels like they're in the same situation. I've only met one other "normal" bi person in my entire lifetime and it was my boyfriend before he came out and started his transition. Just don't lose hope.
>>39483468literally this
>>39483490I deleted my dating apps and am trying to convince my roommate to let me adopt a cat, but we might be parting ways next feb so I'll probably hold off until then and just get my own place. Like I'm a monogamish, heteroflexible, mostly passing, mostly well adjusted, have a great software engineering job (the meme), but I can't find a dude of similar caliber who would even look at me twice. Feelsbadman
>>39483417>Gay men here are so fucking vile and disturbing I don't even bother with that,wow a tranny being homophobic never seen that before
>>39483194I am a 30yo virgin twomen who is passing and terrified of dating because of people wanting sex before I'm ready for it...
>>39483493Wtf am I reading? Sounds insufferable. I've met a lot of BPD girls that are carbon copies of the one in the screenshot, are their boring asses made in a factory or what?
>>39482797If you think all men on grinder are chaser / gay fetishists you aren't ready to date men. You're looking to be affirmed by someone who has no idea who you are.You're just not ready to seriously date anyone and wouldn't be even if you were cis.You should probably just casually date men on grinder pre transition and then after your SRS if you happen to be single maybe try stealth dating.
>Do i really have to choose between getting rejected or only dating chaser fetishists from grindryes.
>>39482797You can just put that you're trans on your profile and go on normal dating apps but that would be totally unreasonable I knowAlso this >>39483570
>>39483493The funniest thing about BPDemons is they'll claim to be needy and clingy but they are invariably the ones who end up doing the blocking lol. >>39483533I'm a cis male. If you took a look at my DMs from gay dudes in my area, you'd say the same thing. >>39483557Well I hope you find someone like me in your area. If you were around Portland I'd take you on a date.
>>39483589I won't do that for safety issues, especially in this administration. But I always disclose before moving off the app (in person or like discord/text)
>>39483533how did you read that post and think the person writing it was a tranny? get a fucking grip gincel
>>39483358I'm a portland tranny of some repute. Drop your discord and I'm happy to chat. I'm taken but I can introduce you to someone perhaps.
>>39483669I mean I've got no special interest in trans women, I'm not a chaser. I was just speaking generally of my experiences dating trans women around Portland. But sure, let's do it. anotherstrangerme
>>39483386No we're not omg so many transbians here secretly want boyfriends
>>39483702Prison transbians then?
>>39483417Literally none of what you said is true that might be your social circle but it isn't all of us at all.
>>39483702I'm a cis dude who has tried dating trans women around Portland and each and every time they ended up going ghost at random. I'll believe that when I see it lol
>>39483711I am totally open to being proven wrong, but so far that has yet to happen.
>>39483686Okay I'll add you when I get home it won't be till around 10 pm though
>>39483194in my experience trannies r either sex fiends or only really like it very occasionally/neverunfortunately the former outweighs the latter by a considerable margin>t. latter tranny
>>39483747Sure sure, no biggie. I go to bed around 11 because I work out early in the morning but I'll probably be awake.
>>39483712The answer to these types of problems is (1) filtration(2) know what you're looking for (3) be patientAlso, not to be a boomer for a sec but I think the total ghosting is more of a younger thing since I chickened out on tons of guys as a drunk anxious baby fag/ tranny
>>39483768Last person to totally ghost me out of nowhere was 26, on E for 10 years, and post-orchi. She later came crawling back saying she was soooo sorry and told me it was because she was "too gay-leaning sexually" to have a long-term relationship with a guy despite me being "such an awesome dude". That's why I'm a bit incredulous about your claims lol.I'm 29 myself, I know how dating is suspposed to work. I was in a relationhip of 6 years with a cis woman in my younger days. That's why I have no interest in casual meaningless sex any more.
Blow him up with a HE shell>WHIIIIIIIIIIRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR >GZZZZZHHHHHHHHHHTTTTTT>GRR>BVRRRRRRRRRRR>KRKRKZHHH
>>39483756Don't get me wrong, I do like sex. I just don't like sex with people I barely know. It doesn't feel good at all, I can barely even get it up if it's with someone I don't know. I'm demisexual honestly, I get attracted to the person as a person and then physical attraction builds from there. If I just wanted to cum I'd go jerk off, if I'm going to have sex with someone I want it to mean something more than that.
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>>3948289010% of trannies get SRS, it's really not popular
>>39482809i would be so much more into st4t but no penis really throws me off and i'm just really not into vaginasi also understand the irony of that statement so i really can't blame someone else for feeling the same way about mei wish i was more compatible with st4t stuff or that srs for trans guys was better
>>39483194i wish there were more guys like you out theret. mtf virgin
>>39485301That is okay. You are allowed to have preferences, but remember that realistic strap-ons and packers exist. Also, sex doesn't have to be PIV. You can have intimacy in other ways that are pleasurable for both parties. I find cis men to make such a fuss out of everything, so I just don't deal with them anymore. Reflect on it doe
>>39485311I wish there was more guys like me out there too. Or at least, less of the weird chaser types.
>>39483669I'm probably gonna shuffle off to bed soonish, reputable portland tranny. I'll accept your req in the morning if I pass out
>>39485372Denver anon here, godspeed my guy. Keep being a real one
>>39485382Thank you for the words of encouragement, Deveranon
>>39483761Just got home and sent it... crazy shit day of running around on the road.
>>39482797>on second date with a guy>he wants to have sexlol you dodged a bullet
>>39483220This is the easy solution then, filter for bi guys on queer dating apps
>>39483686Advanced chaser strat
>>39483785This is the actual problemLiterally the vast majority of trans women are mostly into womenA lot of them overlap slightly bi or use meta attraction to momentarily use men as hetero validation Those are the ones who want the Hetero Sex Experience and then immediately move on
>>39482797>tells me he's not interested and ghosts methat's not what ghosting is
>>39485936Why do you instinctually believe anyone who could have any interest in dating trans women is a chaser? I'm interested in dating trans women because I'm interested in dating, period. I've gone on dates with enbies, guys, trans guys, cis women (longest relationship), trans women, I don't care lol >>39485949I mean in the moment she certainly seemed 100% into it, and we did actually go on a second date before she ghosted. I'm sure you're right though, and I'm just not sure if it's really worth the gamble of "is this person actually into dudes or is this some weird brainworm meta fantasy stuff?"
