Smug Editionprevious: >>40884987Goal of the thread: Take some aspect of self care you are procrastinating and try make a game of it, keep score! Tell us what it is you struggle with, too.Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!>What is this thread for?Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone.Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc.>Why is this thread /lgbt/?Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices.>Notes to consider:Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly:WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION>Note on adviceGeneric advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know!Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!## RESOURCE LINKS:Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07General advice from Anons: https://sntry.cc/sig-tips-2024-04Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://sntry.cc/sig-posts-2024-04
Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!- prepare 1 load of laundry- do 1 load of laundry- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish- eat a meal- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes- make your bed- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)- do the dishes for 3 minutes- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)- Open your window for 10-20 minutes- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)- take out the trash- drink a glass of water- put one item of trash in the bin- reach out to an online contact- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:IRC: presently defunct afaik.Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2
>>41014692WE DID ITBUMP LIMIT
pg 7the hospital finally called me back. prescribing a psychologist isnt a part of the plan they've outlined, and I feel a great sense of relief at that.things are going to be bad for a long time. when I'm done forcing down some food I'm going to go outside to see if I can exercise without ruining my back again. take care anons
>>41014710thank you for this list i never rlly look at it but it gets tedious doing the same to do lists once a week i might try to read cause uni is coming up
I feel stuck in therapy because on one hand I want to tell my therapist that I am bi and that I actually used to be trans in the past and have since detransitioned, but I also don't really want to talk about that because it's not really a huge part of my life and I feel as though admitting those things would forever color therapy in a way going forward that I wouldn't want because I dont want to work through trans feelings and issues of identity, I've already done that for years and years, and I dont want to be asked questions related to that, when I want help with other issues that I feel are more important. It reminded me of the only person I ever told anything, my friend, who I only told I was bi. She was amazingly supportive and there was nothing bad about that interaction and in some ways I felt relief that I got get it off my chest, but really ultimately I regret telling her because I just dont want people to know that about me. I want to control people's perceptions of me and am uncomfortable not being able to completely control a deeply held secret. I want to approach therapy in way that I seem like a straight cis man and want help related to being that identity and I dont want talk about being bi or detransitioned.
HEY!
how do i stop feeling envy/mogged/jealous/etc
>>41014692Will follow up in previous replies as soon as possible, just super tired right now.Thank you to everyone here for keeping things going, especially Siganon.Goodnight for now.
>>41018096hi
>>41019923This is something I have struggled with myself, and something I’m still working through. I still identify my posts here with this character *because* wanting to be more like her was the thing that finally motivated me to start taking better care of myself — this character who is in large part defined by being beautiful and sexy. There are a lot of problems with basing your internal value system on looks. One is that they keep you from being able to love yourself unconditionally. You need other people to think you’re pretty to feel good about yourself. That makes you easier to manipulate (by, for example, advertising) by preying on your insecurities. And if your self esteem is based on your looks, you’ll have a harder time loving yourself when you look your age as you get older, even though it’s normal and healthy to not look ready for a Victoria’s Secret ad or a shift at Hooter’s that for more of your life than not. Another problem is that being focused on beauty makes you see other people as competition, rather than kindred spirits who can help you and be helped by you. That’s crab bucket mentality — it makes you selfish and hard-hearted. “At least that wasn’t me, too bad for them!” As a woman, needing to feel pretty can make you want to live up shitty misogynistic stereotypes. Even if you could become the curvy blonde bimbo ideal, by doing that you’re denying yourself a chance to actually be yourself and do interesting, fulfilling, useful things because they’re “malebrained.” If that’s not everything, it’s definitely plenty. I hope this helps.
Fasting today.
>>41020821thank you for the lengthy reply i hope in a better headspace i will be able to appreciate it but i think rn i cant thinkits visceralself hatebecause someone else is objectively better tha meand lives a life i could have if I wasnt me
>>41020895It’s okay to feel your feelings and to feel like you’re missing out on something you want really bad. You’re not alone in feeling that way either. I was watching a video about Shakespeare today and it quoted one of his poems, Sonnet 29. I was thinking about posting it here anyway so here it is, adapted for /tttt/: >When in disgrace in fortune and men’s eyes,>I all alone beweep my outcast state,>And trouble deaf heaven with my useless cries,>And look upon myself and curse my fate,>Wishing to be like one more rich in hope,>Featured like her, like her with friends possessed,> Desiring this girl’s art and that girl’s scope,>With what I most enjoy contented least
I won't be able to afford 50k ffs for a long time. Looking to start hrt so that my mosquito breasts are appearing at around the time I can afford ffs, with smart casual coats hiding them early. If I go honmode I get fired from my job because it's client centric. If I wait to transition I will be 36 by the time I complete ffs.
>>41020993FunnilyIt wasn’t even a girlJust a friend They get to joke and be themselvesAnd have young experiencesAnd can choose to do anything they wantAnd are real humansAnd I’m justMe
I could have just complimented himMaybe find the courage to come out How awfulHow pettyI’m such a cowardAnd that together with my Shane abd guilt and fear mske me non existent abd jealous and hateful
goodnight!
Goodnight everynyan
im very done with life and everything, i can't do it anymore
>>41022835SameYet we must keep goingCarry the flameFor our sake tooIt will get betterIt can get better
>>41022883i just need to be fixed, i need hardware/software fix.be opened up and have my self improover capabilities re-enabled, that's all i need.