Christmas Editionprevious: >>41869583Goal of the thread: Talk to a friend or loved one, or in a pinch, feel free to socialize with us. Talking to people is a human need, even to those of us who exhaust quickly from communication.Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!>What is this thread for?Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone.Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc.>Why is this thread /lgbt/?Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices.>Notes to consider:Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly:WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION>Note on adviceGeneric advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know!Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!## RESOURCE LINKS:Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07General advice from Anons: https://rentry.co/sig-tips-2024-04Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://rentry.co/sig-posts-2024-04
>>42044782>WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION Damn this thread cringe as hell
Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!- prepare 1 load of laundry- do 1 load of laundry- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish- eat a meal- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes- make your bed- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)- do the dishes for 3 minutes- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)- Open your window for 10-20 minutes- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)- take out the trash- drink a glass of water- put one item of trash in the bin- reach out to an online contact (perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:IRC: presently defunct afaik.Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2
Please check last thread for responses, since the last thread died pretty quickly after my last few replies.Still, some posts from last thread remain unreplied to, I'm working on that right now.Thanks everyone for your patience. Also, Dec 16 marked the 3 year /sig/ anniversary! >>28777091 was the first, for those curious.
>>42044832Panty here. Thanks for the suggestion on the Linux emulator, siganon! I’m going to look into that. Yesterday I managed to do some cooking. This is pearl couscous, sliced zucchini, spinach, sun dried tomatoes, chickpeas, onion and garlic cooked in vegetable broth. It was good, and I will definitely make it again, but I think I’ll add corn and white beans as well. Maybe a potato sliced like the zucchini.
>>42039720Unfortunately my spouse took the post seizure state I get into as me being in a bad mood/ignoring them on purpose. I genuinely think I'm too retarded to be helped, but I still function to well to be put in a shit hole facility or get MAiD. So i guess I am on my own I found an old notebook and I'm going to keep a journal again though. I used to keep one because people taking advantage of my memory issues but my therapist at the time made me stop because he thought it was making me focus on how bad things are too much
>>42045494So, since you mentioned MAiD, Medical Assistance in Death, I assume you’re Canadian? And there’s more than one way to journal. You can write things down you want to remember, and that doesn’t have to mean you’re only writing down negative things or dwelling on negatives. And it’s possible to live through things that are going to upset you either way, and whether or not it’s better to journal about them can be subjective. But I think if you focus on just writing down things you want to remember, that could keep you focused on a goal beyond just dwelling on negative emotions. It could be a way to protect and advocate for yourself also.
>>42031393>I just want her to know she has my support and that I'm still the same friend I've always been.I think you already nailed it right there. Just say you're happy for her and that you got her back. Hell you can even say you worry about coming off weird if that eases your mind, but your intent is clear and you being there is all that matters. I doubt she will remember the specifics either way years from now.>>42035212Sounds like things are going well overall, yes! And the new captcha sure is an experience.Thank you so much for the update, Anon. It's always nice to read them.>>42036522Welcome back, Tanjinon!>felt ungrateful for not wanting to go with themTrust me, it's 100% human. Admitting it's burdensome is not a weakness of character.>internet censorshipI will be frank with you, the vast majority of these half measures are going to be not only extremely difficult to implement and enforce but also, realistically speaking, simple to circumvent. For now, the best cope I can give you is that you can rest assured I'd help you find a way to circumvent all this shit, if pressed.>I feel like such a greedy piece of shit for being upset by itNobody would have liked to hear that, all you want is financial security (for yourself and your loved ones), it's human, sensible even. And I will gladly reassure you as often as it takes.>I also feel like an asshole for coming here when my life feels like its melting and not sticking around too long when things are goodTanji, this is a place of support. We help each other, if I discouraged people from leaning on us more than they let themselves be leaned on this would be /therapistgen/ not /sig/. Your behavior is natural and no less vital than my own.Also, The new captcha feels like an elaborate troll. Making a new thread was hell.
>>42035835>-1 month before midterms at rhe uni and i hadn't studied ANYTHING AT ALLYou're stuck in a spiral like that, right? Alright, could you make a list to try and get a feeling for what needs doing? Like a coarse checklist of subjects.>>42037221>>42037646Oh that fucking sucks.. I don't know if the /fa/ general has stuff you might not be aware of (>>>/fa/18613072) but that aside I think a great deal of the other things could be addressed, and it would make life more tolerable I believe, even if being bald really hurts you.>>42038732That's actually quite extraordinary a degree, do you think it could be an actual OCD type of thing? I mostly ask because if it is there might be resources tied to that label that can help you cope.
