Old thread actually hit bump limit Edition>QotTWhat, if any, difference do you feel in attraction to different sexes? Does if feel different mentally for you?FAQ:>Am I bi if I like women and femboys/traps?>Am I bi if there's this one member of the same-sex I'm desiring, but normally I like the opposite sex?>Am I bi if I sexually like both sexes, but only interested in romance with one of them?Yes, sexual attraction to both sexes is bisexuality.>What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual?Only difference is that our flag is prettier.>Am I bi if i have periods where I feel only attracted to women and others where I feel only attracted to men?This is known as the bi-cycle and many bisexuals experience it.>Am I bi or am I 'prison gay' or porn addicted?'Prison gay' is not a real thing and porn addiction does not alter your sexual orientation. You are bi.>Am I bi or pan if I like trans people?Both are able to be attracted to trans people.>I think I might be bi but I can't tell. How can I be certain?Just make a point to check out members of the sex you think you might be attracted to and see if anyone grabs your attention.>Should I be harsh on myself?You should be kind on yourself. Few people will do it for youResource for Bisexuals:https://biresource.org/
Yeah, in the rare case of me liking a woman I feel somewhat less submissive, definitely not dominant, but with men I just submit completely.
Wow, bigen hit bump limit, just like one of the real big kid gena lol. Nice to see it picking up steam>>43044890I’ve generally been the dominant partner with women, but am not at all opposed to having roles flipped around.I prefer being submissive with men. I really like feeling cute and feminine with them. Still down to switch though. Nothing like flipping a cocky top over and plapping him.
Goodnight bigen, one more bump before bed. You’re doing great, but you’re still the slow kid in class. See you in the morning little fella
>>43045212>>43045003Does this extend to preferring physically more imposing / bigger men for you?
>>43046536Most men are bigger and more imposing than me, it is rare to find someone smaller and weaker men than me that isn't a turbo bottom.
>>43046536Eh, it’s a turn on, but it’s also pretty low down on my list of traits I find attractive. Someone who’s nice and funny with a cute face is a lot more appealing to me than a tall guy with no personality. I honestly don’t have a consistent preferred type with men or women though. People can potentially be attractive in so many different ways.
>>43048408I’m 5’10”, so I’m not exactly tiny myself. I work at a cafe and I check out cute guys all day when I’m working. It is definitely fun the rare times when a hot guy a full head height taller comes in. Tilt my head back to make eye contact, “um… can I take your order sir??” lol Again though, not the most important trait by a long shot. I really hate that dating apps have gotten so many people to think of themselves as a set of metrics that hopefully match a platonic ideal of a hot person.
>>43044890Shit I forgot to add /bigen/ to the subjectHopefully if I put it in a comment it will show up using catalog search /Bigen/ - Bisexual General
>>43048450>I really hate that dating apps have gotten so many people to think of themselves as a set of metrics that hopefully match a platonic ideal of a hot person.It permiates every facet of life for zoomersMy bf and I are 5 years apart He's 22 I'm 27And he constantly talks about how he wishes he was 5'5 or shorter not realizing he's already 5'9 and short. Those 4in don't make a ton of difference for anything that actually mattersBut the number isn't right so it creates envy
>>43048892it won't, you fucked up
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>>43048892Kill this one and retry?
>>43048904>It permiates every facet of life for zoomersIt bums me out how common it is for them. I’m guessing it’s because the internet has totally infiltrated modern life, and so much of that is geared toward gamifying things and making you feel like you’re missing out on life. People are being trained to think of everything in terms of stats and attributes, and to think someone else has got things better than they do.I’m in my mid thirties, so there’s a definite generation gap. I think it’s great that zoomers take their health seriously, and have resources to learn how to look their best, but I wish they could chill out a bit. I also just feel bad that they’re stuck with the internet in it’s current form, where it’s highly manipulative, Balkanized, and run by malevolent billionaires. This stuff isn’t exactly new, but it seems like it’s accelerated in the last decade or so as the post-war order unravels.I hope your bf can relax a little anon, poor guy. That sucks to be fixated on a number like that :(
>>43048965It is okay I was able to find it.However. It is cold. No motorcycle to work day. Its 40F somehow.>>43044890>QottI have so little flirting and anything like relationships that I cannot get comfortable with the idea of topping anyone due to self esteem. My attraction to both sexes has stayed basically even. Id prefer women that are more femme and men that are more masc but I'm not picky Also anon who asked about me in another thread, yes I am still super single.
>>43049156Idk if it's a huge deal. Let's let this one play out and if it dies because nobody can find it then we'll do the next one right
>>43049180I an a zoomer and 30 in two summers. It is over. Also health is subjective, I refuse because it costs too much.
>>43049258I'm the same ageI've been putting off regular checkups because my insurance sucks ass and my copay per visit is $50
>>43044890>QotdWhen I first started having hookups with men it was different Like my interest in men was purely carnal and sexual unlike my interest in womenNow that I've been in a relationship with a boy for 2y now it has changedI really couldn't see myself acting or feeling any differently if my partner was a woman instead
>>43049371See. It is more than that. I'll just die thanks. I can get a full checkup when I get in a bad motorcycle accident or something.
>QotTi do find myself more attracted to men compared to women
>>43049442Luv me American healthcare system
>>43044890men cuddle better than women.>>43042770i would enjoy that, but it wouldn't clear my head like a good pegging does.
>>43049791Okay hot and honestly would like both...
>>43048450>>43049180>I really hate that dating apps have gotten so many people to think of themselves as a set of metrics that hopefully match a platonic ideal of a hot person.My God yes, and the other way around too. I feel like it has really succumbed to, okay this person crosses off the attributes I am looking for, let's date - with no regards to actual feelings or attraction. >zoomersI teach freshmen courses at college and my students have told me their generation doesn't really chat up people irl anymore. If they see someone attractive on the street, or even in their classes, they'll have a look on the apps to see if they can find them. I am so glad I'm a millennial (and past the point of caring about dating).
>>43049923I haven't approached anyone of the opposite sex in a non work context since 2016. Why would you?
>>43050012To make frens, have orgasms and or find love.
>>43044890I'm very dominant with both men and women. It's actually probably the most consistent thing about my sexuality, but it's not limited to just sex. I guess I'm a bit of a control freak.i like to be in charge, I like to take initiative, make plans, make decisions, etc. I have different physical types of people I'm attracted to, but I really like taking the lead in the relationship no matter who my partner is.
>>43049180Same age as you and I feel like a dodged a fucking bullet having an adolescence juuuuuust before social media became mainstream and basically a requirement for modern life. I deleted all these apps years ago, some before the pandemic, and my happiness has vastly improved.
>>43050785Anymore a lot of people are really closed off, myself included. People act like it is a hassle to be approached by someone that isn't sharing another space with them already. I donthis on accident when people just talk to me when I get off my motorcycle, I am just really not used to people anymore.>>43051523I deleted Facebook in 2012, family and relatives desperately want me to use social media and dating apps that are publicly facing. I got off them because my family stalks me online. I didn't get anything on dating apps and it might be due to no one being able to vet me or check socials but I do not want to have social media presence connected IRL.
>>43051938>it might be due to no one being able to vet me or check socials but I do not want to have social media presence connected IRLYeah, same issue. People want to vet you before meeting in person, which I find really invasive and won't permit. It's fine. Either we go on a date and get to know each other, or we don't.
>>43049258Yeah I just meant that the obsession with image means a lot of zoomers put a premium on working out and eating well. I agree that’s far from the only thing that matters for a healthy lifestyle. >>43049923> this person crosses off the attributes I am looking for, let's date - with no regards to actual feelings or attraction.Jesus that’s a bleak way to approach intimacy with another person. These poor kids really got fucked by growing up with what’s so far been the worst version of the internet. I agree, I feel very lucky be a millennial and to have largely missed this bullshit.>>43051523Agreed. I’m sure I would’ve been susceptible to all of this stuff if I was 10-15 years younger and had grown up with it. I got rid of most of my socials too, and I don’t have apps for any of the stuff I do still have on my phone. Definitely seen an improvement in my quality of life since doing that 5+ years ago
Would you a fat bitch?
>>43056426why not?
>>43044890Very much sexually attracted to femininity and do enjoy sex with women. I tend to notice hot girls more than guys. Love their visuals and love to see beautiful women. However also attracted to guys aswell and enjoy sex with them too. Mostly as a bottom fag. Trans/traps/fembois etc all valid too. They’re beautiful and feminine and also have a cock which is fun. If I had to choose one of the genders to have sex with for life though I would choose men. Best sexual experiences have been when hooking up with guys and I’m the bottom. Taking cock feels amazing and it’s better when they’re guys rather than tranny cock. Also always been more sub with all sexes. I like to please. With guys being sub for them feels lot more fun. Feeling of being used by cock is physically more intense which is hot. Being sub for woman is hot but more in a mental way. Knowing she is having her fun. But getting cock in my ass is divine. I’ll pass on pussy if I need to.
>>43056426Depends. Chubby is fine but past 300lb is a no for both genders.
>>43056426Have and would again>>43057794Would it be fair to say you’re more attracted to women than men, but enjoy sex with men more than women? How does that work in practice? Does it bother you that the people you find most attractive and the ones you find most sexually fulfilling aren’t the same?
How do you guys meet guys? Apps? Bars? For women it feels easy to randomly meet them during hobbies and such, but I haven't had luck meeting men
>>43059158I have the opposite problem, though most guys I hit on end up veing straight.
>>43059187>most guys I hit on end up veing straightThat's what I meant as well, I'm really bad at telling who is into men
>>43059215I basically never meet women in any hobby few I see are brought there by their partner.
>>43044890>TQFairly similar but I think I actually more “feminine” with men (not really any more submissive, I still like being in control) but mostly the main difference is bottoming to men, oral, kissing, grabbing etc is the same or similar.In terms of preference I like women a bit more but the main difference is that I like chubby/curvy women more and slim toned/muscular men more, I’m not picky with either and enjoy variety though. I connect emotionally more easily with women.>>43056426Yes I like fat chicks, with fat guys only if he tops and only as a hookup.
>>43059306Hmm, sounds like you might have the wrong hobbies tbf. Is joining a run club still a thing?
>>43044890Need masochist bisexual bf
>>43059370Erm... Well I fit two of those. I feel like there is a broad spectrum of masochistic genres though.>>43059366I still haven't seen one and I live next to a college. Which is sad because I jog every night now.
>>43056426If they're tastefully chubby. Only hogs I like are on my plate.
>>43059667There's only one, the toxic
Wheres everyone
>>43056426I don't have a weight limit like a lot of other guys It's more the fridge body type that happens with a lot of women over a certain weightAs long as waist<hips, I'm down to clownBut a lot of heavy women also ignore pubic hygiene. Last time I was with a heavy girl, my dick stunk for almost a month afterwards and I'm not willing to go through that again Say what you will about anal but being forced to clean your ass before you do anything makes for a relatively nice experience
>>43058564Nta but I personally am more attracted to women than men but I find relationships with men more fulfilling It doesn't bother me too much but I do find myself jerking off to women more than other guysI consider myself bisexual homo-romantic If I have any issue with it it's the fact that I seem to have it vice versa than what would be optimal Men are much more willing to have casual sex than womenIf I was in an open relationship with a woman, I feel like I would be able to satisfy all my sexual urgesThat being said though I have huge issues with open relationships and wouldnt want that for myself ever again
>>43056426>>43060200It is tradition
>>43059866What does a toxic masochist imply.
>>43060389Back in pre-historical times every human on the planet must have been jacked af cuz the only alternative was to be dead
>>43059370Me too fren
>>43060237Interesting. Yeah it does seem like your preferences would be easier to work with in reverse lol. Agreed about not being interested in open relationships- I know they work for some people, but I think I’m too jealous/sensitive about rejection to pull it off. Never really had any inclination to try anyway. Power to folks who do it though, not trying to be judgmental or anything.Most of the time if I’m looking at porn it’s of women or feminine presenting people. If I’m masturbating thinking of guys it’s usually while either reading or writing smut. Not sure why exactly, but I think for me visually oriented porn lends itself to simulating the experience of desiring a person and being the active partner, whereas writing is much better for imagining myself as the object of someone else’s desire and playing a more passive role.
I <3 my bi boyfriend. Sorry for being straight yall ily2
>>43061058Kek that’s okay to love your bf and be straight. Are you just popping into the bi thread to say hi, or are you queer in some way?
>>43061089MtF!
>>43061158Oh word, that makes more sense why you’re on here then lol. Welcome, and congrats on loving your bf! :D
hey bigen. was browing through old social media posts and remembered y'all exist. it was nice being here back then. anyway. hope everyone's doing well. things change but so much stays the same. i've spent 2 consecutive years of uni, each yearning for a different man who was for various reasons unavailable. i remember my ex whom i broke up with 6 years ago. i was so distraught back then. now, looking back, i still understand i was upset. but i've moved on and found it in my heart to forgive her. she posted a story saying she took some silly quiz thing that called her "35% hard to love". i let out a little chuckle. perhaps she's grown too as a person.everyone goes through tough times. me too. my struggles today are different from my past ones - no more and no less, but different. perhaps in the future what troubles you now will just be a blip in the past.last week i found myself gazing at the gentle, rhythmic sway of a tiny praying mantis on my finger. small joys everywhere to be found :)
>>43062174>>43062174Glad you’re doing well and taking time to enjoy bugs :) hope the rest of your time in school goes smoothly, and that the next man is actually available
>>43044890>>QOTTI feel like, emotionally I have a much stronger connection with men than I do women. I dated a woman for 6 years of my life and loved her dearly, but she broke my heart. I tried dating afterwards but it just didn't work out. Nowadays I've accepted that foids are merely semen receptacles and I am much happier for it. Women are completely and utterly bereft of anything stimulating other than their body. With men I typically do not look at a guy and think "oh wow he's hot" immediately (honestly I don't really do with women either) but I grow attached to men quicker and the physical attraction starts to build on top of that. If I had to make it more simple:>women are exclusively for sex >men are for love, companionship, and intimacy
>>43063328This but in reverse: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zd8vzIRQLLM
>>43063899Yeah basically. I'd never date a woman again, but I'll definitely fuck one just because the logistics of vaginal sex are easier (I have a very big penis). In the end I do want to get married to another man one day.
I’ve been happy in relationships with women, but I’ve been feeling more interested in guys for a little while now
>bf lost his job soon after we moved in together >It's ok because while he was jobless he acted like a live-in maid>I paid all rent, utilities and groceries >Fast forward and he found a job>Only makes $16/h and works part time>His shifts are hell though, many times he works 12h+ shifts>Tell him not to worry about helping out for his first few paychecks and to focus on saving a bit as a safety net>He's started getting mad about there being no groceries in the house because he used to do the shopping while he was jobless (I would send him money to pay for it)>If he gets home and there's dirty dishes in the sink, he gets annoyed with meIdk if I'm in the wrong or he is. His job is harder than mine but I'm making quite a bit more than him and pay for everything that's shared between us. I feel like all this shouldnt be on meI need to have a conversation with him about this but I'm not even sure about how I feel
>>43065291A part time minimum wage job and he’s acting like a stereotypical angry bread winner all of a sudden? Doesn’t seem great anon…12 hour shifts doing something stressful sucks, but I think he needs to back off considering you supported him when he was out of work, and still cover most stuff
>>43065291It's just the situation your in, he's tired and you both working, have an honest conversation about what your both capable of and take care of yourselves. Once things get rolling the climb isn't so bad.
Goodnight bigen, sleep tight
>>43065291Discuss it with him, as >>43065533 says the angry breadwinner coming home to the spouse they don’t feel is doing enough is not a good place for you to be.
>>43060492A faggot beater
>>43069325>A faggot beaterjust like me fr
>>43068958I agree, this seems fixable and worth starting a conversation over. I just find that whole, “I’m slaving away at work, and this is what I come home to?” shit really off putting. Especially when it’s for a part time minimum wage job; it almost feels like parody in this situation.
>>43065291It shouldn't all be on you. They're an adult and need to pull their own weight. Boy has plenty of time for his share of chores with a part time job.
Also. Thought this was hilarious. https://youtu.be/HrWtkaVJRTw?si=8u01HqWMNYA48DeQ
Internet is out at work so I'm getting paid to fuck around on my phoneI love having an office job. So much nicer than the construction I used to do
>>43044890im the person that made the other thread, hello friends
>>43070432Hello friend, thank you for making a thread with a searchable title xD>>43070321Hell yeah anon, you pulled the reverse Office Space
>>43070432Mea culpa
>>43063917What about fucking women WITH your bf?
I recently started bouldering and I highly recommended. It's super tough, it's a great workout and you end up meeting nice people through it. 10/10
>>43044890It definitely feels different but I can't verbally point out how
starting to get over my ex after 6 months still hurt how he handed it tho
>>43073658Bouldering is peak, if you're too lazy to even ego lift this gamifies it
>>43073658I’ve definitely been curious about bouldering and rock gyms. Looks like great exercise and a cool mix of people who do it. My family have been getting my niece and nephew into it, so it would be cool to have something to do with them too.
>bf says something that makes me question if we're right for each other because I'm anxious attached and anything resembling a distance sets off catastrophe bells in my brain>Instagram for no reason becomes filled with breakup reelsWtf
>>43074179>Instagram for no reason becomes filled with breakup reelsYou're probably just seeking that shit out subconsciously
I can feel attraction to any sex really. It doesn't even matter if they are trans or not, or if they;re currently transitioning. I think I might have a weak preference towards biological women, but then I can't bottom with them so idk.
>>43069325Do you know the difference between sadism and masochism
An older dude told me about how he and his wife used to go out to the country and strip down to just their shoes and he'd chase her through the woods after giving her a 30 second head start.Anyway the bf and I are making plans.
i wish two hot men and women dominate me at the same time
>>430793115 people sounds like more trouble than it's worth
I know this is the opposite problem most 4channers have but my gf keeps trying to get me to watch animated hentai, but the low budget animations with motion tweens and shit really distract me and turn me off. I'm like hentai mangas but cannot deal with it animated.
>>43081368Kek that is an unusual problem to have. So you’re okay with watching hentai with your gf, you just wish she had better taste? Is that it?
>>43081400Yeah pretty much lol. I like hentai, but I don't think I've ever seen animated porn (hentai or not) that didn't trigger an uncanny response for me.
>>43081368There has to be hentai with quality animation.
>>43082415I've yet to see it.
>>43082415My Neighbor Chodero, Spirited A Gay, Asshole In The Sky
>>43082463I am disappointed that none of these are real.
>>43082597Kek sorry if I gave you false hope, they were just dumb jokes I made up on the fly xD
I don't seek out LGBT movies on purpose, but I realized recently that many of my all time favorites are lesbian dramas - not because of the lesbians, they are just banger movies that happen to revolve around them.
>>43084295Check out "What Keeps You Alive."
>>43084394It's not a masterpiece but a fun indie psycho thriller with lesbians
>>43084394>>43084413Added it to my watch list. In return I recommend Portrait of a Lady on Fire. I still vividly remember its ending. I watched it with a lesbian friend of mine and I think it hit even harder for her than for me lmao.
Bump
GN Bigen hopefully I can relive my early 20s again with this
>>43080948i am a born team player and multi tasker
>>43084295you see portait of a lady on fire?
