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Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!

- prepare 1 load of laundry
- do 1 load of laundry
- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off
- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish
- eat a meal
- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes
- make your bed
- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)
- do the dishes for 3 minutes
- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)
- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)
- Open your window for 10-20 minutes
- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)
- take out the trash
- drink a glass of water
- put one item of trash in the bin
- reach out to an online contact
(perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)
- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)


Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:
IRC: presently defunct afaik.
Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2

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For anyone who missed last thread and didn't get any replies the thread before: You can find the old thread archived here: https://archived.moe/lgbt/thread/43093245
I am slow to respond recently but I do make an effort to respond to as many people as I can, even cross thread.

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>>43049096
>Maybe they do, they want the "nice kind of friends" but not the colorful ones
They do, taken to its most extreme it would be cult behavior, even at the best of times it is overbearing.
>(the few last therapist was so understanding)
That is good, on its own. It can be a great supplement on top of other things you clearly need.
>cannot fix what's generally known as "shit life syndrome"
I see, you need more than what a therapist can offer: you need to gtfo. That is a social worker sort of deal, although it strongly depends on the country and I have seen a lot of very useless social workers from several first world countries by now. Still, it sounds like what you describe is a dire need of someone to essentially help bust you out and cut ties with your family.
>"What will you do if you see a boymoder who just generally speaks in /tttt/ lingo?"
Hm, that is very specific, but if you want we could try talk through some things to perhaps
>https://twitter.com/halimedemf
Oh shit, I completely forgot about her! I only heard of her through the /tttt/ grape vine.
>no, I mean psychologist administered therapy like DBT, CBT.
Ahh, thanks for the clarification!
>Sorry, I don't check replies often. I honestly should use a thread watcher
A good idea, yes. The last thread reached bump limit and the new thread fell of the catalog so right now it is tough to keep up with replies either way, I hope you find this.
>>43049852
>i cna talk lime a machine that says just all the right thigns to onvince you that yeah that checks out
Hm, do you still feel this way, Anon?
>>43051700
>I need to see a psychiatrist.
Do you need help planning, on that front?
>>43052532
>can i know if i cant go to a doctor
Important: why can't you go to a doc? Is someone keeping you from it?
>>43054315
>will speedrunning sonic and learning makeup make me happier
Perhaps, what are the things that make you unhappy?

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>>43058984
>Psychiatrist is once again pushing for me to be on a lower dose of medication.
Hm, is a second opinion in the cards for you? Because if the psych keeps suggesting it for no good reason it's concerning, in particular the fact they don't listen to your concerns it seems?
>but it's also nice because people don't do that unless they're sure.
It must be such a confusion place to be in life, but I am happy your efforts are bearing fruit.
>Life fucks you hard and then you get up. Let's all make sure we're standing or trying our best to get up tomorrow!
A beautiful outlook, by the way.
>>43062743
>all i wanted was to make money
>is that too fucking much?
It's 100% not too much to ask, I assume it's about the mess of a job market we're dealing with at the moment?
>>43063590
Hi, Dutchess.
>Rediscovered a thrift shop near my house and found a cute kitty <3.
Awh, that's great news! I'm glad you made a nice discovery on your stroll.
>I plan to gain weight and fix my sleep schedule. The first of which is hard atm because I'm going through dysphoria hell
I can only imagine how though that must be, one thing that may help you is to consider drinking some of your calories, or eating high calorie snacks you can partake in on the side? Of course there's a risk of that becoming a habit but it would help.
>Haven't had a friend since 2023.
Are there old contacts you wish to reconnect with or would you like to start from scratch? Do you have places in mind to look for people? Perhaps hobbies you wanna share with others?
>My anxiety and perfectionism means it took me a long time to actually write this post
Perfectionism is an absolute bitch to deal with, to some extent one thing that helps me stay on track is to set myself time limits for how long I wish a task to take (think a S.M.A.R.T. type approach). I also encourage people to make posts that are stream of consciousness, and let me mop up the things I don't get by asking questions.

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>>43093248
>im gunna try to tell myself to stop killing myself
In which ways do you kill yourself? I assume you mean some self destructive habits?
>>43093510
> Gonna try a few more weeks with these and see how it goes.
Very fair, but def worth keeping an eye on!
>Started yoga in the meantime tho!
I did see your yoga updates and very much appreciated you keeping us posted! Sorry it got downed with the thread yesterday, I have a bit of a dip in activity recently.
>>43095195
>i dont know i ahve lost track of myself over time.
>i need a break
Would you like us to take a step back and talk about your past a bit, the things you used to enjoy, the things you liked about the person you were?
>>43076894
Hi Shinji! It's been a while, I'm glad to see you.
>Many things have happened to me. The hospital and doctors messed up here and there, le
>The work out group has fully adopted me.
Sounds like you gained a circle of friends to support you, that is wonderful news! Sorry to hear about the financial perils though..
>Currently I am in my first real relationship.
>Soft intimacy and stereotypical couple things, like using pet names or saying ‘I love you’, doesn’t come naturally to me.
I am glad you get to experience these things. I get that it is scary, I am glad you push through. I hope you'll come to find it a bit.. liberating, I suppose, as time passes.
>I am “rougher” than my partner, and that scares me. Their wants lean towards the opposite.
If you need some advice from someone with experience being the "soft one", I got you covered. You've gotta trust that you are already enough to begin with, and work from there. You are already doing great trying out tender things. That is perfect for now.
I wish things wouldn't have to be a struggle for so many of us. Thank you for the update, Shinji!
>>43094992
What makes you say that?

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>>43080163
>I need to get back on the wagon with using Right Speech
Hmm, you captialized Right Speech, is it a particular technique?
>>43083853
>Made edamame with some tajin seasoning.
Sounds nice, I had to look up tajin seasoning!
>>43084174
>Sorry garbage posting
No need to be sorry, Anon. You vent your feelings, and it gives me something to pick your brains over.
>Meeting other trans people makes me feel sick too. I’d never be them.
You're closeted, right? Do you feel unsafe to be out where you live, or do you think you'd pass worse than the tranners you met?
>>43095221
>Reminds me of a distant home..
That's an adorable way of putting it, wanna try and expand on that?
>I wish i could figure things out with the people i kinda abandoned.
do you have any means to contact them again?
>Im so self critical and tend to isolate to boot.
It sounds like you might be prone to mind reading, where your head decides what other people think about you without any external validation or feedback. Could that be it? In that case, it might be a good idea to try and seek some degree of reassurance. Not constant, but.. reaching out to people and speaking up about things. And then critically dissecting your internal response, with a bit of help if you wanna.
>no time
hm.. work consuming too much of your schedule sorta deal?
>>43095249
Sounds like a mixture of overworked, dysphoria, and difficulties connecting with people.
>i push people away and i want to be treatted a certain way
>so i force that on people and then i hate myself for others reasons
Can you explain those two bits a little? What kinda way do you wish to be treated, in what ways do you "force it on people"?

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>>43096388
>>I absolutely have to lose weight and fix my diet, it's hard.
What's your current diet like?
>>43097844
Sorry to heat about the breakup but it sounds coming out went well? I don't have super much on the skincare front but it sounds like you are already doing a fair amount, is there something concrete you are unhappy about? On the topic of waxing, I heard people recommend laser.
>>43098306
>about to sit down for yet another evening of writing in my diary! that makes one full week yay
Awesome, Anon!
>>43106111
>>I'm going to be 25. I'm already old and decrepit. I don't have much time left.
Anon, you likely have twice that ahead of you. It is likely a good idea to make sure your weight loss is steady and most importantly lasting. Given your high weight your initial weight loss will likely be rapid even with a moderate deficit.
>>43106212
>Problem being is that I'm a retarded repper.
>I've been starting to cry again now that it's moving closer, but I can't feel anything when I do it unlike back when I was on e.
In general repping makes you numb to your emotions, as far as I know. I have no good solution for this but would like to know why you we

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>>43107583
Looking for apartments sucks, Navy, I know your pain.
The hair transplant part is really upsetting though.
>my brain's in a really bad place, but I can't see a psych because if I actually get diagnosed with anything, it messes with the rest of my life.
This is such a deeply upsetting thing to think about, really. People simply should not have access to one's records of that nature, not by default. I think your best options really are in that case to cling to other people for dear life, but you need emotional outlets.. I wish I had anything more concrete.
>>43056555
>I had a virtual appointment with my financial advisor today, and that went well.
Oh, that is great news, panty!
>I’m actually beginning to plan the rest of my life.
Slowly but surely getting there too, a few more months of bs left..
>>43104443
I'm glad you survived, Anon. It sounds like you are doing your best in the face of your struggles, and I hope you know you have people rooting for you here!
>>43108770
>I wanna be more
>i wanna learn something knew
>a creative talent to develop
A lot of it will be trial and error, but if you remember things you enjoyed in the past, that is a good initial indicator. Also, remember that even things you enjoy can lose their luster if you feel like you have nobody to share them with. Seeking out people with similar interests can be a major boon there.
>>43112192
>yeah, they dragged me even when I used to life far away because of i became unemployed.
I assume in your current situation you feel very alone with this, because THAT borders on illegal. Besides considering restraining orders (which I have no idea whether they would help), I suppose the most important step would then be to secure any kind of support to keep the assholes as bay. Depending on the country there are places dedicated to this kinda stuff, centers you can contact regarding not just physical violence but also abuse like this.

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>>43112339
Oh I see, it really sucks when things depend on funds, like laser. As for the skinny, if you want we could try work on that, but maybe it's besides the bigger point you are making.
>Not really. Everything is through school and I don't have my own place.
A good start would be to establish some contact outside of school, a chat or anything. A cafe or anything of that sort can work if you wouldn't have privacy inviting people home, since moving is probs a future concern atm.
>People are usually pretty interesting.
A good outlook, I think in that case it is more a matter of when/where to have people open up, then.
>You sound incredibly caring and kind.
Sweet of you to say, I think it is a matter of what people find exhausting/energizing, so in a way it helps that it comes comparably easy to me.
>I just feel I'm not the best at transferring this enthusiasm to the other person without it becoming me blabbering on about nonsense. Maybe I'm just not around the right people?
It can be a mix of both, absolutely! Some people aren't particularly receptive on that front, that's when the skill issue is on their end, so to say. It can help to try and probe them for what excites them about their things and try approaching them from that side, but it does take some flexibility on their end no matter what.
>"So what? You're annoying. Nobody wants to be around that."
I think the important thing to remember is: how often do you REALLY think about someone else this way, and spend ANY time at all with them, willingly? It would be kind of mean to think of someone else this way and string them along, so you could retort to yourself "isn't it mean to think someone else quietly thinks so poorly of me?"
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>>43112339
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>You get it. Thank god somebody gets it!
>everyone else is just a fucking charisma magnet compared to me, anon.
I'm glad I make you feel understood, Anon. I do know that feeling to a reasonable extent, myself. Perhaps you too get overwhelmed when having to address a lot of people at once? I have no stage frights and can speak in front of crowds no problem, I do very well with people one on one, but 5-6 people in an active conversation fries me. You have your own set of things that overwhelm you easily I am sure. I need you to know you aren't broken for those, and you can make friends and form meaningful relationships within those limitations. You are not at all alone in your struggle, and as you learn to set your stage you will make the difficult things easier, with time.
>I played with my dog today, went for a walk in the woods, and I went to a bookstore. Not bad.
Sounds like a lovely time, all around!
>>43075115
>>43098836
>>43108335
Heya, bunon. I'm catching up with the thread right now as you can tell, so let's get crackin'.
>I couldn't work at the gas station, supermarket, the coffee shop or the sandwich place.
I wish these kinds of things weren't so terribly opaque to me. You could really use intel from employed Aussies, in particular from within the region you looked for jobs in.
>I can explain more later but he's been all over the place at times, which makes it hard for me to tell whether I can truly trust him or not.
Given your circumstances that is normal, take your time.
>That's nice to hear, we appreciate it all the same.
Thank you..
>>43112362
>i have lost 17 lbs
Excellent progress, Anon!

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>>43113227
>I should have gotten a femboy when I was still attractive myself. There's no point now
There is, Anon. Neither you nor the femboys your age that feel the same deserve to die alone, don't you think?
>>43113292
>>43113311
>ok so my main goal right now might sound silly, its to be a better friend,
not silly at all in my book!
>trip planned for next year and im going to spend as much time as i can improving our relationship in between now and then
That sounds absolutely lovely, Anon.
>so i want to keep it simple this spring with attainable goals and hopefully go from there. one day at a time
A good call by the way, do tell me if you need any input!
>>43113581
>im going to be a 25 year old khhv this year
Tell me about your surroundings, are you very isolated from people?
>>43114825
>I've been a smoker since I was 18 and now I'm 28
>I genuinely don't know what else to do keep myself chill
There's a lot of common things people get out of smoking, it sounds like the thing you need is grounding. First of all, cigs are a breathing exercise, that part (getting up, going out, breathing consciously) is easily emulated. It won't make nic withdrawal suck less though, so the initial hump is there.

>>43137481
>>43127261
yoga has been great! i think the biggest thing helping recovery is stretching pre and post run. ankle is feeling better every day after the run rather than worse, so i must be doing something right! today is a rest day, but i did yoga this morning and it's pretty good. a few days ago was core day and im still feelin' it but in a good way. avoiding the gym because im not trying to overload myself, but once i finish this c25k thing i think im gonna start going back alongside the running. big goal is maybe a half marathon by end of the year, realistic goal being at least a 10k? we'll see!

also sig anon you're a legend for actually engaging with people and helping them out, appreciate you and what you're trying to do for people

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>>43117497
>I'm finding it hard to do "wants" even when I have downtime
Hm, what kind of wants do you think of, what usually gets in the way, internally?
>>43113585
>I still look uncanny. Why didn't HRT do for me what it did for others?
It doesn't help that we tend to overlook changes that happen gradually, so since you see yourself every day it can be super hard to gauge even without dysphoria hell.
>I've endured a lot over the past few years, but I'm not sure if I can pull myself through that.
I am glad you seem to have friends around so that you don't have to endure it all alone at least, but perhaps you could use more support, too?
>>43120320
>I'm just not good enough.
Given everything I said, don't you think there is a different conclusion you could draw?
>I am being more open with some of my family and close friends.
>I am trying to be stronger while trying to get support at times.
So, so important. I am glad you're doing it!
>>43120362
>I just run away and I hate myself for it. Excuses. Fuck my retard life and voice.
You are scared of pushback, I assume? Do you feel unsafe to stand up for yourself?
>>43120803
>I’ve never heard of a quiche without cheese in it
Oh, I just forgot to mention the cheese!
>German equivalent of mac and cheese uses a mustard-based sauce.
Huh.. really gotta ponder this, sounds like a kind of "Nudelauflauf", but I can't put my finger on it.
>And I did read 2 graphic novels this month, although I wish I had read a couple more. The challenge is in building that habit of reading regularly. Any advice about that is welcome.
Oh! Lemme think, where do you usually read, at what time of day? What do you do instead that you'd like to do less often?

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>>43124575
>my left arm is just fucked and i was even clean for so long
I am so, so sorry to hear, Anon. But I need you to understand that, even if you got hurt, the fact that you stayed clean for so long is not undone right now. You will manage to again, even longer. You must be scared and distraught. I would urge you to have your arm checked by a doc if you can help it.
>i really hate those places and i wish i could cry for help but no one will come
What kind of place are you in that caused this? We're here to listen, and perhaps help.
>>43137538
>ankle is feeling better every day after the run rather than worse, so i must be doing something right!
Absolutely, that's wonderful news! I am glad you are keeping a sustainable pace, too. You're doing wonderfully.
>>43137586
Thank you so much for your kind words, Anon.. It's a labor of love but I do admit it's a bit rough sometimes, spent like 3-4hours knocking out replies today. Of course I know my limits, I will take a break for today and I have 3-4 posts to go to catch up with last thread so it will be fine, but you people make me feel appreciated for it all. I just am so tardy with responses recently, it's a shame.
>>43125577
>i imagine it's hard enough to find someone decent when you have A problem you can zero in on and not some gordian knot of bullshit.
Hm, I mean, if people could cleanly articulate all their issues then they would have a much easier time solving them. I do think that that is just part of the job to deal with.
>>43127307
>i could but i feel weird bringing it up.
I know those inhibitions but people will probably cheer you on in person too! Just consider it. Glad to hear journaling is going well for you to boot, and of course all the best on the career front!

pg7

RIP Caine Digital Circus

Let's see how long it takes to clean and dust my room

started tracking calories again after falling off the wagon around christmas time, also started going to the gym again

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>>43139748
RIP indeed.

I'm gonna miss that poor, twisted soul.

>>43139899
Done
Also dinner is started

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>>43137625
That’s on me for assuming you couldn’t have just forgotten to mention the cheese in your quiche.

I was thinking of mushroom spätzle/spaetzle. There’s a cartoon on YouTube called “Literally Hitler,” about a regular family inviting over a new neighbor who somehow turns out to be Hitler. He brings over mushroom spätzle, and says that “some people call it German mac and cheese.” The way it’s described is meant to make it seem weird and gross, so I guess they played up the fact that it can be made with a mustard sauce, and not the fact that such a sauce would also contain cream and butter. Apparently pasta in a mustard based sauce is most commonly served with bratwurst.

>Where do you usually read, at what time of day? What do you do instead that you'd like to do less often?

I read on the loveseat in my bedroom. Best place to do it since I mounted a little reading light on the wall over my shoulder. Usually I read in the evenings. I’m going to try making a goal of reading for like 30 minutes every evening. Even that would put a dent in my reading list, and it’ll probably make reading more than that easier.

>>43139748
>>43140186
At least we got that GOAT song, and his voice actor seemed to be hinting he might show up in flashbacks in the final episode. And I felt like this was a good point for Caine to leave the story. It seemed pretty clear that even if Caine could tell the players anything they wanted to know, he wasn’t going to, so he needed to be taken off the board for a proper resolution to be possible.

I was thinking it would have been nice if TADC had a bunch of filler episodes, like if it had been made for a cable network. But I respect the intent of every episode advancing the plot, and 9 episodes is a realistic workload for (what at least started as) a small indie production.

>>43137467
>They do, taken to its most extreme it would be cult behavior, even at the best of times it is overbearing.
If I were to make friends, I will only be allowed to make friends in social settings that's allowed (Religious institutions, or work)
>It can be a great supplement on top of other things you clearly need.
They will freak out if they know I am seeking psychiatrist
>Still, it sounds like what you describe is a dire need of someone to essentially help bust you out and cut ties with your family.
I am tired of trying. I almost whored myself out of some chasers, and trannies that take compassion to me generally cannot help as well.
>Ahh, thanks for the clarification!
Yeah I am afraid that those kinda thing cannot be administered remotely.
>Hm, that is very specific, but if you want we could try talk through some things to perhaps
Are you willing?
>I assume in your current situation you feel very alone with this, because THAT borders on illegal. Besides considering restraining orders (which I have no idea whether they would help), I suppose the most important step would then be to secure any kind of support to keep the assholes as bay. Depending on the country there are places dedicated to this kinda stuff, centers you can contact regarding not just physical violence but also abuse like this.
I don't know where to seek respite, I am not rich enough to seek help or to defeat them. DV courts are annoying because in the end it becomes "I said" and "They said" without much recourse nor progress.

I am kept being amazed at hoe you kept talking to us nobodies for free. I am echoing this person's sentiment. >>43137586

I shouldn't have taken Ritalin yesterday afternoon. I pulled an accidental all-nighter. Welp, almost time to take some more Ritalin

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I haven't earnestly posted here since I dropped out of uni yet again. I've made progress on the mental health front. My bajillion psychiatric diagnoses got undone, and I got diagnosed with ADHD instead. This is the first diagnosis that feels correct, apart from depression. I'm still coming to terms with the fact that I probably got wrongfully involuntarily committed and (mis)treated for schizophrenia. Feels kinda unreal.

Reminds me, I recently stumbled across Dr. Gabor Matè. He's a physician and writer with some really interesting ideas regarding mental health and society in general. I thought I'd share two of his videos with y'all that were pretty eye-opening for me:

https://youtu.be/DvUoBswzsTo
https://youtu.be/krZmYALUqhM

>>43137537
>There is, Anon. Neither you nor the femboys your age that feel the same deserve to die alone, don't you think?
I guess my age is just a dumb excuse that I use. One part of me really wants a boyfriend, but I'm genuinely so insecure about my body... and also I'm scared of messing it up again. I keep hurting people by breaking up for no reason, thus leading them on...

>>43137586
He really is a sweetheart...

>>43137625
>Hm, what kind of wants do you think of, what usually gets in the way, internally?
Various artistic things
I have to make a whole thing out of getting conditions right so it takes at least a day to prepare and then hope nothing by chance gets in the way to make me feel like not doing anything
And more complicated skilled stuff like drawing and music production feels like a total pipe dream at this point