Thoughts on borderline personality disorder woman? My dad wasted his life trying to make one happy and all it got him was living out of a crappy apartment a criminal record a drug addicted son, a son who offed himself, and me who lives off of disability and public housing. Why did he even bother?
>>516967300bet that thang grippy doe
>Beautiful Princess Disorder
>>516967300I’m sorry to hear that, why are you on disability.My ex had bpd, I got her pregnant but we got an abortion then we broke up, had to get a restraining order. Still feel guilty about what happened.This post makes me feel a bit better about my decision.
>>516967300bpd 'symptoms' are just normal adult woman behviour like 'adhd' symptoms are normal male child behaviour
>>516967300When people say "don't stick your dick in crazy" they're talking about women with BPDThey are deeply traumatized individuals who spread trauma to othersYou cannot save them, it's like trying to save a drowning person. You will only be pulled under the water by them and drown yourself.
>BPDjust an excuse to be a lying whore
>>516967300I exclusively fuck BPD women, keep the relationships under 90 days and it is fine. They are wayyy more adventurous in bed. >t 39 ‘assistant prof’ fucking college girls regularly
>>516967300You mean nearly all women? Eh.
BPDemons ruin everything and everyone they touch. After they're done ruining you they discard you with no closure at all and switch to a new victim (just like they discarded some other poor naive schmuck for you btw). Zero self-awareness. Look at Amber Heard.Being in a relationship with one casues actual long-term damage to your psyche for long after she's gone, which is why it's advised to keep away from them.
>>516968645Also one more warning - they prey on your saviour complex if you have one. If you're one of the guys who empathizes with their trauma and try to "save" them with unconditional love, like I did, then you're primed to be their victim and to take permanent damage. You will most probably never fully recover to be the man you were before.>>516967604also this
>>516967300>Why did he even bother?It can happen to pretty much anyone, in fact the more empathetic and good-natured one is, the bigger a chance he will become a BPDemon's slave. Only socio and psychopaths are immune. Also during your old man's times the information about BPD wasn't so widespread, he had no way of knowing what he was getting into.
>>516967300I almost dated one, she was arguably the most interesting girl I met, I felt completely in love with her back then.As it turned out she also had other mental illnesses, had to spend a year in a mental institution so I had to move on.Seems like I dodged a bullet
>>516968645>>516968966I can second this. Got involved with a BPD woman when I was in my 20s. That relationship and the fallout from it 100% killed a part of me. Ive never been the same.
I’m 26, still living at home because I can’t even afford rent on my slave wage job. My parents remind me every day how pathetic that is, like I don’t already wake up every morning with a pit in my stomach. “Work harder,” they say. “Get more hours.” As if I’m not already grinding 10-hour shifts like a dog just to barely afford gas and instant noodles. Like slaving away harder is suddenly going to magically spawn affordable housing or a livable wage. Delusional.And then there’s Pan Piano. This woman has life handed to her on a velvet platter because she was born with tits and figured out how to weaponize them. That’s it. That’s literally it. She puts on a sexy Nezuko cosplay, half her chest hanging out, sits at a piano, barely moves her hands, and somehow that’s worth millions. No speaking, no charisma, no effort beyond squeezing into a costume and pressing a few keys.She doesn’t even have to engage with people. Just films a cleavage shot with some anime tune playing and the simps line up to throw money at her like she’s a goddess. Meanwhile, I’m treated like human garbage by customers, my boss, and my own family—and what do I get in return? Less than nothing. A life that’s going nowhere. My only “luxury” is sleeping in a bedroom I haven’t redecorated since middle school.Why does she get everything for doing nothing? Why is she celebrated for just existing while I’m told I’m not trying hard enough, not doing enough, not being enough?I’m so bitter I can taste it. I don’t even hate her because she’s successful. I hate that she gets to coast while people like me are treated like burdens for simply surviving.This world rewards surface-level bullshit and punishes effort unless you’re already pretty or connected. There’s no justice, no fairness. Just Pan Piano living in luxury for shaking her tits in cosplay while I rot under fluorescent lights for crumbs and get told “you just need to work harder.”Fuck.
>>516969976>>516968966You guys are natural born cucks.
>>516967300Every woman is bpd.
>>516970684>i have no argument, likely bpd womyn myselfhave also dated more than one, they're horrible people, and use bpd to excuse their amoral childish behavior
>>516967604applies to bpd men too. You're not supposed to do it but they can be quite addictive. for some time. eventually you need to get them rid of yourself, otherwise they destroy you, or rather you allow them to do that. but I'd always fall for it again.they are the ones you'll always think about every now and then, even after you've long forgotten others.>>516969976doesn't mean it's bad. It can make you grow. They can trigger immense breakthoughs.
>>516967300They are extremely dangerous today, with all the power the feminist state gives women over men. Learn to recognize the signs of a BPDemon, and then stay away, no contact whatsoever. In my experience the biggest things to look for are:>very charming and outgoing, but very few or no friends (social dysfunction)>has a few friends, but only males (simps.)>bad relationship with mother (big red flag for a womens)>starts telling you about her abuse and traumas instantly (whiteknight wrangling)Anyone who tells you you can "handle" a BPDemon are either clueless simps or lying. No one can handle BPDemons, the attempt will fail at some point down the line, and then it's all down to luck how much of a trainwreck she leaves your life. Worst case you end up in jail for some abuse she imagined you did to her.tldr. stay away from them.
>>516968966>never fully recover to be the man you were before.but maybe you can be a new, maybe even better, stronger man?It cured me from being a wannabe savior for example. I'm not that nice anymore. I was too soft and too good. maybe that was your problem too and you've learned an important lesson?
>>516971034>applies to bpd men tooThey're as fucked in the head, but they are not as dangerous by any means. But stay away from those as well regardless. In fact, stay away from all cluster B nutjobs.
>>516971034>they are the ones you'll always think about every now and then, even after you've long forgotten others.The worst are the memories of the good times. Those really bring out the pain, I guess because of the lack of closure due to sudden discard out of nowhere,
>>516971034I second this.I met a BPD man in my early 30s and he completely eroded the trust in humans I once had. My cheating ex-husband opened that door, but the BPD guy totally ruined any trust in men, specifically.I’m happily not in a relationship and I never will be due to a lot of issues it will take me decades to work through. I’m not BPD (actually Asperger’s) but I have self awareness enough to know I’m not relationship material so I don’t even pursue that. It wouldn’t be fair to someone else.
>>516971493>The worst are the memories of the good times. Those really bring out the pain, I guess because of the lack of closure due to sudden discard out of nowhere,Helps to realize that all those good times were just fake. They were not real good times, she was just play acting good times. It's all an act with BPDemons, they are empty inside, there is nothing there.
>>516967604>>516968645>>516968966Those anons nailed it perfectly, particularly the polish one.It describes perfectly what I experienced .Those women are addictive because they push exactly the right buttons (saviour complex, co dependency, etc) while being absolute goddesses in bed. You're basically addicted to them at this point, which explains why you put up with their shit (also you're completely gaslit and oblivious to all the very, very obvious red flags).Mine really deeply hurted me, I changed in ways that I'm really proud of myself now, but I still long for who I was before her. I don't think I'll be able to move someone like I loved her, for a long long time.I urge any anon with a saviour complex, co dependency or an overall tendency to date crazy girls to get rid of those behaviours before getting crushed by a BPD demon. Also whoever you are as a man, learn the fucking signs. There are plenty. And resist your dick and heart, use your brain.
>>516971410This. Got in a relationship with one and learned a lot. Yes a part of me died, but i'm happy that it did because I'm better off without that part.
>>516971513Don't take relationships so seriously and don't be in a relationship with someone who does, and you will never be unhappy. I learned this from a lot of experience in life and I hope to help you cut to the chase.
>>516967300BPD is the fucking devil. The people who have it will ruin your life. Stay far, far away - I fucking mean it. You can’t fix them.
>>516967604They are deeply traumatized individuals who spread trauma to othersYes. Their brains are wired so this gives them dopamine hits, once you understand that, literally quarantine or kill.
>>516972141>Stay far, far away - I fucking mean it. You can’t fix them.This cannot be said enough. I'm just waiting for some tard to arrive in the thread to say you can "handle" them, there's always a couple, headed for their inevitable doom.You can't handle them, they can't be fixed. Stay away, no contact, ever.
>>516971239>starts telling you about her abuse and traumas instantly (whiteknight wrangling)All women have been raped, no exceptions Even the ones who weren't will tell you about how their ex's raped them or forced them Into sex.
>>516972423>All women have been raped, no exceptionsYes, the younger generations all believe that, due to their indoctrination. But that's not what I'm talking about. BPDemons will start regaling you with tales of their abuse and trauma way earlier in a new social interaction than normal people do. With normal people, you get to know each-other a bit first, and then they might share stories about their traumas. But BPDemons will flood you with stories about their imaginary abuse pretty much for the get-go. This is to trigger your white-knight simping instincts so they can hook their barbs into your brain and start the abuse.
>>516971513Maybe you should rope you disgusting autistic sodomite.
>>516967300The pussy is absolutely phenomenal. Dump and avoid at all costs after 3 months.
>>516967300I'm a man and I most likely have this Every relationship has been a train wreck to meIm incredibly reckless and have been struggling with alcoholism for the last 3 years I've been able to get through worst parts of it but it's constant work against your own nature
>>516972601Who said I was into ass fucking, you retarded inbred incel?Maybe you should neck yourself, first motherfucker. You illiterate, worthless, hopeless, useless, heartless son of a drug addict trailer park whore.
>>516971585>They were not real good times, she was just play acting good times.The issue is I'm pretty sure it wasn't just acting. She was crying actual tears of happiness when I'd comfort her, and smile like I was her lifeline saving her from some kind of hell. That's why it's so hard to get over it. That they can go from feeling like that to give absolutely zero fucks about you in a matter of few minutes is just pure insanity. They are just completely insane, pure and simple. Borderline psychotic.
>>516972838You might just be undiagnosed ADD, anon.Go to a therapist and explain your backstory. They’ll help you figure out a path forward.
>>516972423he actually did. I said I don't want. He beat me down, pulled me with him and then said he'll beat me into a pulp if I don't get him off right now.that is sexual abuse or assault I didn't even report it because i didn't want to cause trouble for him (I was still in the nice girl phase back then) or get into the justice system, not even as a victim.I'm not traumatized though because I refuse to equip some mentally unstable rodent to influence my feelings for longer than necessary. I also don't think all men are rapists and don't dislike men in general or something..
I lost my virginity to a BPD girl I met in the mental hospital. She gave me a grippy-sock footjob under the table in the common room. I was naive and desperate, and she definitely took advantage of that. Luckily, she was married (lied to me about this), and lived in a different state. So the relationship didn't go anywhere other than her visiting me for a sex weekend.I am VERY happy that life's obstacles prevented us from getting married like we stupidly talked about.Pro-Tip: Don't marry the first girl who fucks you
>>516972925>The issue is I'm pretty sure it wasn't just acting.See, she still has her hooks in you. This is the whole mechanism they brainwash people with, not in a calculated way, they act on pure reflex, like insects.>She was crying actual tears of happiness when I'd comfort her, and smile like I was her lifeline saving her from some kind of hell.And inside she was feeling absolutely nothing pertaining to this interaction. Just muscles twitching in the right way to produce the desired effect in the victim.BPDemons are always dissociative and run several parallel personality processes at once. They are not real people, think of them more as demonic insectoid skinwalkers.>That they can go from feeling like that to give absolutely zero fucks about you in a matter of few minutes is just pure insanity.No, again, this is just you as a neurotypical person parsing the BPDemon in a way that makes sense to you, you are referring her behavior to your mental/emotional framework, to have it make sense.The reason why they can flip on a dime like that is because they're not actually feeling the things they portray and caricature through their body language.Absolutely nothing in the interactions you had with her was real. It's very human to not want to admit having been suckered in like that. But if you start looking back at it objectively, you will see it.And seeing it helps. Because then you understand that what you miss isn't actually her, it's just processes that happened in you, that were brought out of you by an insectoid machine, geared towards manipulating out those feelings of you.But you still have those nice feelings inside you, because you're a nice person. She's just an automaton.
>>516972949Could be, but I definitely have many anti social traits.
>>516972562I'm aware dude. I dated one who was hiding a drug addiction. I'd have to say her story telling was top tier.The one extremely convincing one about how "she woke up to" her ex mutilating her vagina was a good one. Lots of detail and shit.Then she has a fucking episode and grabs a full pocket knife and tries self harming her vagina, then goes on to tell her friends and dad I did it years later and get methed up text messages from him where he pretends to be a cop.She's spent the last 4y living in a drug treatment facility.Got prices out of renting so she just stays there and relapses when it's time to leave
>>516973655Classic, kek.
>>516972998Based Asperger's wifau.I've been raped by three women.1st was my babysitter, 2nd was some chick who tilted the 40 up then pulled my pants down and mounted me.3rd, uhh...she was 100lb more than her tinder photos, and I froze up. Just didn't move. I literally felt like I was being raped.It's not that I find it hard to sympathize or believe women, I've just seen the shit they do and then will go onto do to cover their tracks. Try finding a hard working tradesmen who just wants you to give him cuddles and make him food.
>>516972925>go from feeling like that to give absolutely zero fucks about you in a matter of few minutes is just pure insanityI know. Thats why you'll have to wait for that very moment or happening that breaks you free. The drop that causes the bucket to spill over. And always keep that in mind.In my case, he was extremely possessive and always accused me from flirting with other men, he refused to walk past an indian restaurant with me because "I wanted to fuck the pajeet waiters" .That accusation was inexcusable and not manageable for me and my feelings for him died and whenever I thought about him I had to think of that moment too eventually and never felt the need to run back to him.
>>51697386585lbs 5'3 and nobody believes me when I say she beats the fuck out of me, beat my head in with a weed grinder, attacked me with my Bowie knife the faggot glowies stole from me, put out cigarettes on me, and tried aiming them at my eyes.One time I was sitting with her and my brother and she mid conversation takes a swing at me, and then goes onto admit that "I just admitted I cheated on her"My brother just calmly told her that nobody said that and that we were talking about work.>She takes my phone and writes a message about how she wants to feel daddy's cum in her panties.>Yep, gotta go.They are evil, 10/10 would go back and hit again if she didn't gain 80lbs when she came off drugs.Save yourself anons, don't ever stick your dick in crazy
>>516967300well atleast he tried unlike you.
>>516974346>10/10 would go back and hit againSigh... and thus the BPDemon genetics are insured their survival. All those witch burnings and we didn't even put a dent in it. They are truly an eugenic breed in their own twisted and deranged way.
>>516973296>>516974017That does make a lot of sense, thanks.And let my example serve as a warning to anons itt, on how hard it is to break free from a BPDemon long time after they're no longer in your life.
>>516971239>has a few friends, but only malesMajor red flag for women
>>516974508Oh, it can take years and years to overcome the addiction to the reflex-stimulus a BPDemon provides. And just to think... here you are, years later, still sitting there, trying to figure it out, feeling things pertaining to it... and she hasn't felt a single thing regarding you since the flip happened and you were discarded in her mind as a viable victim, not a second thought.You are doing well, my polish friend. You won't make the mistake of interacting with one again, and you will go on to one day form a real connection with a real woman.
I knew one years ago, she got married, they got matching tattoos, got divorced and remarried within one year and got another tattoo of her new husband, they are utter head cases. I feel bad for them with their retarded emotional swings, it must be hell.
>>516967905This. 3 month rule.
>>516974508read the Ulysses story abou the Sirens. They were meremaids who sang so wonderfully that sailors sent their ships on reef to get to them. Ulysses wanted to hear their songs and ordered his men to stuff their ears, then tie him up so I could not escape bur leave his ears unstuffed. You need a close friend who's alowed to tie you up basically, metaphorically.one can find many answers for modern problems in old tales.
>>516967603this. learn to control your women and yourself.https://rumble.com/v5s8qb2-the-donut-lickers.html?e9s=src_v1_cbl%2Csrc_v1_ucp_a
>>516974498Funny I was thinking of witch burnings as a solution yesterday.I'm not going to be dealing with BPD/codependent women ever again because now I have (nice things) and (make money) so I have more of a choice now in selection versus having to date poor and low class women or ones with mental issues.Another part, specifically to my case is how your raised.Alot of men are raised by single moms, or fucked in the head women and made to believe bullshit feminist lies about how it's a man's duty in all cases to pay for everything, and be a shoulder to cry on and get nothing in return.I used to be the nice guy real man every woman proclaims they want, and believed the lies.Then I saw all the good girls fucking degenerate losers while leading dudes like me and other men on, so I lifted weights, did chadsperements where I fucked woman while pretending to be someone I'm not, and in every instance doing that versus the nice guy behavior worked better.Last relationship I was in was fine, but even she had her insecurities because one day I would have to leave,One anon made a remark about how all you have to do is hug them and ask if we can talk about it tomorrow, that generally worked, and treating her like a human being and giving her a safe place to exist in, versus the horrors of living in a small town.>>516974508It's fucking sad at this point. Up until a few years ago shed message me when she'd hit rock bottom and it's like, oh wow cool.Even their brains are fried but they see you as a viable escape route. She also messaged me ex and tried to break us up like 8y since I last saw her. It's just surreal how fucked in the head they are.Also lots of my friends knew she was on drugs, including my family members and not a single person told me, I sent her alot of money during hard times so she could go to school and not have to suffer, she ended up getting blacklisted from her Feild over drug charges, lollmao
>>516971034>always think about This is why I love being a bpd man. This world is too easy for me. You are all naive and deserve to be my playthings.
>>516974855>she hasn't felt a single thing regarding youIf he's lucky. Usually when a BPDemon discards you, they completely tarnish your reputation. They'll tell their twisted version of reality to anybody (simps and other whores) who will listen so that their entire circle of cucks believe you're an evil, abusive monster
I saw this exact same thread with identical replies(my dad tried saving one, don't stick your dick in crazy means BP females) and jargon(BPDemon) two years ago
>>516967603I've never seen the UK so it doesn't exist
>>516974924>I feel bad for them with their retarded emotional swings, it must be hell.Don't. It's not. Inside they are completely empty. That's what BPDemons report when you get to interact with one in a therapeutic setting, where they've paused the act and are actually trying to get some help. The one unifying trait of BPDemons is that they feel completely empty inside, there's basically nothing there. They don't feel hurt, they don't feel sad, they don't feel happy. The grand expressions of emotions is dissociated personality processes that appears to happen to someone else for them.So whether she's in her hyper-succubus mode riding you, or crying tears of joy from looking at you, or throwing a mega tantrum, or crying rivers and wanting to die... inside there is nothing.
>>516975197>bpd manUniversally, everybody considers BPD men to be homosexuals, because you act like histrionic nutty girls
I think I have a mix of autism, ADHD and BPD but I have no idea how to get diagnosed. Psychiatrists in the social security system refuse to diagnose me. So much for "free" healthcare
>>516967300BPD, aka spoiled adult
>>516971034I have a BPD male friend he's very annoying and I'm a very patient person so that's saying something
>>516975342I don’t care what you think, I run through girls and charm my way into jobs I don’t deserve.
>>516975315How close is it to being a psychopath? It's near it right?
>>516967300
>>516975524Probably misdiagnosed NPD.
>>516975210Holy kek I see one of my friends going through that.>Cheats on him.>Maxes out his cards.>Steals 20k in (items) just to stop him from resaleing them >Goes back home with the kids.Either shortly before they broke up, or after:>He has to sleep in a tent in the other side of the country and eat rice to save money to send her >Can't spend any money whatsoever.But now things did a 720 kickflip and when she comes to pick up the kids, in her shitty van she has to see alot of (nice things) carefully and deliberately parked in the back yard every time she comes over.Rumors say the neighbor just took down the for sale sign on a truck that will be parked there next week when she comes over, kek.She put her last ex in a mental hospital, his brain is fractured and he's still there afaik
>>516975600That too.
>>516967300>1pbtid hopefully attention seeking OP just killed himself like his worthless faggot brother did
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>>516975524You expect me to trust someone who claims they have BPD? The disorder that requires you to lie?
>>516975582>How close is it to being a psychopath? It's near it right?It's adjacent. There is a lot of overlap between cluster B and psychopathy, and the nuances are not well understood. Now, psychopathy is not an actual diagnosis, so it's actually a bit on the side of things in this context. But generally psychopaths have a bit of self-awareness around their internal processes, while something like a BPDemon has none. A psychopath could in this regard be said to be some sort of (extremely flawed) person, while I don't think it's reasonable to consider a BPDemon a person at all, but something more akin to a reflex-based automata/insect.
>>516975384Could be worse anon.I have free healthcare in canada but it's 4000$ to get diagnosed with autism cause it's a 8000/yr tax credit and the waitlist is 2y long aaaaaand they don't diagnose adults with autism at all.There is no help for me even if I did want it, and then I live in an economically recessed area and see single moms lining up to get their kids labeled as ADHD or autistic so they can placate then with drugs and collect autismbuxx then a caretaker tax credit.
>>516975184you're a man of virtue, but you're not a victim. the world is not against you. you are against yourself.if you put your trust in a person, you're going to get hurt. that's the nature of life.
>>516968645>>516968966Sounds about right. I was never the same after that, but I don't long for who I was before. I was so focused on my own preconceived notions of being shit that I felt I had to be in a relationshit to define my self worth. Now I genuinely dont give a fuck and im not codependent.
>>516974017getting accused of being with a pajeet gave you a disgust response so hard you dropped a BPDemon? Impressive.
>>516975783I will be 100% honest I just want the diagnosis so I can brag abourt how fucked in the head I am.
>>516972925Anon, they were real times and real love. That’s where rhe power comes from. We completely love bomb you with something out of a fairy tale and tickle every little thing you like because bpd really does love HARD. You will never be loved by anyone else with such intensity, that’s why we are addicting. And we do love you, it’s not a “game” well it is a little bit I guess. It’s when we feel slighted or disrespected which could be anything mundane, I’ll admit, that we completely cut you off and watch you squirm.
>>516975342>you act like histrionic nutty girlsthats why they easily pull women. It never gets boring with them because they are like girls with dicks in some moments, in the bad moments too. Sometimes I, as a woman, got pushed into an energetical male frequency
>>516975827Animals are better than people in most cases.Life's better now than it was back then, fren. I just hope I can help people not fall into the same traps I did.The addiction to BPD women comes from being conditioned as kids by other fucked in the head women that we have a duty to help and support women, and that if we just try harder they will change.Your setting your children up to be abused and exploited by other women for resources, and instilling in them their only value corresponds to what they can give women.Hence, why I was thinking of witch burnings as a solution....
>>516969404>>516968966>>516968645She was really fun tho.Successfully broke up and got custody of my first son.Kinda tried a lil bit to take her back or at least fuck again. She died in a car wreck a month or so later. Miss her still.Never have nor will tell my wife any of this, we were married for years at the time
>>516975736I don’t care to lie to you, there’s nothing you could offer me. I’m trying to give you another perspective since you seem curious in this topic. You dont have to be so defensive, being insecure is histrionic.
>>516975928>Anon, they were real times and real loveNope. It wasn't real. The whole mechanism relies on the victim believing it is real, but it's not real. Inside the BPDemon there is just emptiness, and those expressions of intense emotion are just autnomous dissociative parallel processes. The person you think you see when being love bombed by the BPDemon does not really exist.
What a strange coincidence that all the countries where "BPD" is a problem are gynocentric societies in which everyone kisses women's asses and bend over backwards for them.I wonder how many cases of "BPD" countries like Afghanistan and the Arab Emirates have!If only there was a solution to all these behavioral problems...
>>516976082I'm not calling you a liar. You're mentally ill, so in your fantasy version of reality, you are The Man. Very rich and successful with women falling on your dick. Happy now? Don't go shoot up a school, nutjob
>>516976084If that’s how you want to cope. I’m telling you as a bpd man at least, I really do love in those moments. Just because you were dropped later doesn’t mean that wasn’t real. If we didn’t love we would just leave, which we do.
>>516976210But you are not a BPDemon, you are a misdiagnosed NPD loser.
>>516967300>know girl like this>every man she intentionally makes jealous so they'll fight for her>I'm talking she'll pull this shit live in front of them>turns into a crying mess when they're tired of being torturedwhat's the point?
>>516972865BPD tranny whore spotted.
>>516975210I'm convinced this happened to me. I was dating this girl when I was 15/16 for a few months.o One night she's even more affectionate and sweet then usual. Then next morning, ut of nowhere, she breaks up with me unprompted, shows no sadness in doing so. Starts actively trying to cut me off from all my friends and spreading false rumours about. I lost my closest, best friends from years before and basically had to restart my social life on top of the heartbreak at the time. Fast forward a few years later at university and I find out that after I left the friendship group she proceeded to fuck my best friend whilst he was in a relationship and then rubbed it into the other poor girl's face, and just generally fucked up everyone's life who got near her. Absolute psycho bitch.
>>516976206I wouldn’t say all that. I would like more. I’m just doing better than my peers and way better than I should from bullshitting my life. I attribute that to “mental illness” I think it gives me a leg up in society. I think other people are naive for not being like that.
>>516975995Ahh that explains it.
>>516975315>The grand expressions of emotions is dissociated personality processes that appears to happen to someone else for them.this is fascinating anon. would you have any readings or websites or videos or something that go into more detail about this concept?
>>516976276That’s rich coming from someone whos crying about the girls that left him. Bants aside take care out there and be vigilant.
>>516976210>as a bpd manPsychiatry is a garbage pseudoscience. You are just using some quack's diagnosis as an excuse for your shitty behavior.Same as "depressive" people not doing shit to improve their life.Same as "autistic" people refusing to learn how to socialize.It's all convenient excuses to enable shitty dysfunctional behavior.
>>516967300Another diagnosis about nothing. Same with Schizoids.
>>516975226i saw this same thread last weekend. the 1pbtid and "botspam..." picrel filename is a dead giveaway
>>516974508Yeah, but it starts with breaking free from your own limitations. BPDemons only attach to other Cluster Bs, or codependents. If you have a healthy sense of self worth, or no savior complex, theres nothing for them to hook into and youll find her annoying and walk off instantly.I discarded my BPDemon first (in the end stages you are the one that starts acting crazy), and it took me a full year to recover. Then some switch flipped when I found a new purpose in life. I went MGTOW and genuinely stopped giving a fuck. And its funny because the moment you genuinely stop caring and forget about her, they come right back to you almost psychically. Shes done this to me a couple of times, even though shes married now. I ignore every bit of it.But endlessly talking and psychoanalyzing the BPDemon is the first stage of recovery. By the time youre actually recovered, youre going to think nothing or genuine revulsion, just think she was a nasty whore and thank fuck you got your discard without any kids.
>>516975210>so that their entire circle of cuckshow do they always have these?
>>516976350This is why I dont talk to crazies. Even when I tell you what you want to hear, you keep spewing your fucked up thought processes. To anyone reading this post, there's no reasoning with the mentally ill
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>>516967603Imagine the insanity in labeling pic rel as a mental disorder but not chopping of your cock
>>516976276Half of BPDemons have NPD as well.
>creates BPD thread>unstable gay trannies start flooding itlike clockwork
>>516976471I agree about psycho terms, but I don’t think my behavior is “shitty” other people bitch and whine, but it’s helped me in my life.
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>>516976510Fear of abandonment. Bpdemons attach themselves quickly to everybody they meet and rapidly and randomly idealize and devalue them. Its like the human equivalent of a tornado.
>>516976456Not at hand. Search for the psychological research that is geared towards dissociation as a prime mechanism in cluster B personality disorders, it's a relatively new development, but there's a lot out there. It's really a keystone of understanding these people.
>>516976584what happens if I'm the direct opposite of this except for the hobbies
>>516976586Yes, but they are quite different in their essence. BPD is founded on dissociation, NPD is not.
>>516976510Nordanon explains it pretty well here.>>516971239I'll also add that BPDemons are incredibly promiscuous. They target desperate simps who will white knight for them.
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>>516976515I don’t want to hear anything from you. I wanted a discussion and thought you would like another perspective to help you get some understanding or closure and to just help some anon out with girls. You attacked me and became defensive bro being honest. I’m not your ex gf.
>>516976671I ask because aside from the girl when I was 16 I actually dated someone with diagnosed borderline personality disorder, and the diassociation thing seemed to be a recurring feature of her mental state. So if there's a connection there it's worth exploring. I'll look into that anon
>>516976817>I wanted a discussionDo you usually start off your earnest discussions by telling everybody else they are beneath you and they deserve to be your playthings>>516975197
>>516976725I'm sure Eliah Shekelstein will tell you after 18 sessions and 3 different prescriptions to mind numbing pills
>>516976735NPDs dissociate from who they really are, BPDemons dissociate from reality itself. So while a narcissist wants to draw people in to their fantasy where they are the perfect being to worship, the BPD wants to be the perfect worshipper AND be worshipped too. They paint their delusion onto reality.>>516976749BPDemons are sex crazed and during idealization they will LITERALLY do whatever you want to them.Yes they target white knights and manginas, but actually Narcissists are their favorite.
>>516976938That was directed towards the women, or I assume who I was replying to was a woman. I do think many people are naive and this is why they get taken advantage of, people need to be vigilant. You deserve what you tolerate.
>>516976944Yeah, but a NPD loser (You) doesn't have to be dissociative. They can just be a person with extreme internal feelings of inferiority, that then drives them to pathetic behavior like going on imageboards to express how many women they fuck and how special they are for being a pathetic cluster B loser.BPDemons on the other hand are always dissociative, their whole personality is built on that as a foundation.
>>516976586What's sad is a bulk of them are created. Some array of happenings in their past broke them and brought out the BPD shadow juice. Know a BPD case (fine with having a label for that kind of behavior pattern) and in her past there's violence, war, family suicide, a dad with a belt, and lots of older siblings from the same environment. Basically a house of trauma and traumatized people. And the BPD probably works to some extent, they're a fighter and in charge.
>>516970404The God called capitalism has failed you. Perhaps it is time to worship a new God?
>>516976210>as a bpd manRicky from trailer park boys is a male bpd type with cannabis use disorderJulian = antisocial/alcohol use disorderBubbles = autism/dependent personalityLucy = histrionic/borderlineLahey = vulnerable narcissist/obsessive compulsive personality disorder/alcohol use disorderSarah might be the only "normal" one
>>516967300> just take the pills
>>516967603Oh shut up. That is life ruining advice. We should be teaching boys from a young age which females are better than others so they can make informed choices. Instead of this "all women are the same" rhetoric. A good woman is just annoying on a regular basis like an itch. A bad women will literally destroy your life, your mental health, your finances, and drive you to murder-suicide.>>516967300The only thoughts men should have about BPD women is how to avoid them and get rid of them from your life.It's not that complicated, as soon as a woman acts legit crazy and won't apologize or listen to reason drop 'em. Don't give them a second chance, don't fight with them, grey rock, fade out, ghost. Males should get their kicks from fighting and competing with their peers, not their women. Females should be a source of comfort and charm in our lives, not strife.
>>516976205Based and ''noticing''-pilledIf a man acts like this, we can shame him for acting like an unstable bitch, but women hide behind their fragility privilege.
>>516976817>I want a discussion>im not your exSorry, which how bitchy you’re acting it’s not surprising some people might get confused
>>516967300I think I am dating a woman with possible narcissism and bpd. Im white but she’s Indian but very classist and elitist, for the first 8 months of our relationship she refused to stop hanging out with her male friends, would often berate me for being anxious, and got angry I didn’t think about her every hour of the day, but suddenly two weeks ago she did a 180 and started to address all my issues. She’s given me an ultimatum, that we either start having more sex now that she’s not being so mean anymore or the relationship will need to end once we hit the 1 year mark next month. She’s 33 but acts like a spoiled child sometimes. I know you say most women are the same but I never had these issues with my ex and we dated for 3 years
>>516977169Virtually all of the BPDs i know, including the one I dated, were molested by their dads. That seems to be the most common origin point. >>516977131And unironically thats why I prefer narcissists over borderlines. Dealing with a narcissist is like dealing with a sperg, let them ramble on about what they want and youre fine. Borderlines are human tornadoes that can snap at any second for any reason over any thint.
>>516977083>You deserve what you tolerate.And I don't tolerate being told that I'm a plaything by a mentally ill piece of shit. You definitely played the innocent victim card, backpedaled, and gaslighted, like your ilk is known for.
>>516975876Yes. Right after that he additionally refused to walk past a China takeaway because I wanted to fuck (imaginary) Chink waiters because they were slimmer than him. He had weird body image issues like a girl. that was double plus bad and that was basically the reflection on Perseus' shield that finally killed Mr Medusa.
>>516977299>fictional charactersyou're a retarded asshat, anon. that's your disorder
>>516976065>and that if we just try harder they will changeyou'd have to be a retard to buy this. if you do everything for a woman to help her, she will just come to expect it and become an even bigger bitch if you decline to do whatever she wants. women's main behavioral problems comes from the fact that she is never expected to do anything.
>>516977358You seem like little miss sassy pants over here. Like you, he’s projecting his own hurt feeling onto someone else.
>>516977368Sounds more like a narcissistic woman. Borderline women will literally scream that they hate you if you try to hug them, then when youre like "Oh fuck this, im out", they'll do a 180, beg you to never leave them (while also reeling their next victim in), cry, pull their hair out, throw up, threaten to off themselves.
>>516971949I never felt any different. I knew she was a problem, turns out it was just to herself. Killing herself slowly. not willing to change.
>>516977473>retarded asshatis that in the DSM or ICD?
>>516977398Don't think that happened here but I'm definitely not going to ask. There's enough for the BPD to work with in what I do know. Coupled to some "over-sensitivity" and baseline sentimentality. It's a real son of a bitch and without a doubt can have generational effects.
>>516977398>And unironically thats why I prefer narcissists over borderlines. Dealing with a narcissist is like dealing with a sperg, let them ramble on about what they want and youre fine. Borderlines are human tornadoes that can snap at any second for any reason over any thint.Yeah, that's a reasonable way of looking at it. Now, both are completely dysfunctional people, but NPDs generally don't have the same damage potential that a (female) BPDemon has. Which is why they are targeted out specifically when it comes to social advice.
>>516977688>i know the names of the books psychiatrists to diagnose people with! that means i'm qualified to do it haha again, you are a retarded asshat
>>516975315>>516975582All cluster B is fancy diagnostic language to describe various stages and manifestations of a darkened heart.Usually abuse or familial cult ties are present.They essentially dissociate at a core level because something broke them.They all operate on a level of intense fear at all times masked in various ways.
>>516978101borderline rage detected
>>516977723The main thing is that NPDs normally have some sort of self preservation. BPDs will destroy everything just to make you mildly uncomfortable.
>>516978115Besides psychopathy unless that's not cluster B. Feel like psychopathy should be lumped in with schizophrenia/autism/down syndrome in an aloha omega cluster.
>>516978115>All cluster B is fancy diagnostic language to describe various stages and manifestations of a darkened heart.That's one way of looking at it. Personally I view it as varying degrees of demonic possession, I just use the language normalfags use to talk about it.
>>516976659>believes in lead poisoningyou must go deeper!
>>516973655Holy shit dude, by chance was she a nurse in alberta?? She sounds exactly like a bpdemon I knew over a decade ago when I was posted to Edmonton.
>>516977607Could be. There been a lot of times where she would say “if you loved me you would’ve done xyz” or she would test me by asking me leading questions or waiting for me to take an action and then say “why did you even think of doing that, don’t you care about me?”4 months in she was on the verge of breaking up with me and I caved and begged her to stay, 6 months in I was on the verge of breaking up with her and she begged me to stay. The last 3 months have been fights over us not having sex enough, or how I don’t say enough nice things to her to how I don’t kiss her unexpectedly. Maybe I need to research narcissism, she defintely seems to love/expect her friends to shower her with attention and love
>>516967604A surfer saved me once. I swam too far and couldn't return, some surfer saw me struggling and offered help, he basically tugboated me out of there.
>>516978322This. You'll encounter many narcissists in professional settings, like cocktail parties or businesses. General rule I like to use with Narcs is to let them ramble and keep it professional, and youre fine. Most narcissists actually like all the attention they get so its possible to have a distant and somewhat stable relationship with them.Borderlines though are fucking insane. Get too close, they'll throw knives at you and fuck a nigger while telling people that you tried to rape them. On the opposite side you leave them they'll follow you to your house and try to murder your family. Avoid at all costs. Dont even talk to them.
>>516972838Nah, BPD in men is different, unless they are queer and effeminate. Women are afraid of being abandoned, men are afraid of being killed. Men with BPD aren't as insidious because they end up in prison. Women with BPD are nuts because their nervous system is programmed to feel like they are about to be abandoned as soon as they feel the slightest bit irritated or disappointed. BPD men on the other hand, on a deep lizard brain level feel like everyone wants to literally kill them. BPD males will literally say in arguments "Just admit it, you want to kill me."Most guys like you who diagnose themselves on 4chan have CPTSD.
>>516978449Elaborate.Do you have something to contribute or you're just being facetious?
>>516974017You fucked pajeet waiters?What the fuck is wrong with your head?
>>516977447lol I like the way you relay storiesthanks
>>516978601I assume everyone would kill me if they had the chance. I think of people like the ocean. One big unconscious force that could drown me and tear me apart if I don’t navigate the waters carefully.
>>516978521>love/expect her friends to shower her with attention and loveYeah. Narcissists genuinely want to be praised and adored 24/7, endlessly. And if you do that they'll like it.Borderlines are the opposite. They CLAIM to want to be loved, but when you give it to them they view you as worthless as them, so they'll devalue and attack you and go cheat, then when you start not to care, it reminds them of the unavailable caregiver so they'll chase again.Avoid. Avoid. Avoid.
>>516978378>Personally I view it as varying degrees of demonic possessionWe're likely referring to the same concepts with different words.
>>516978707Sorry anon I'm just yanking your chainShitposting, if you will
>>516977330This guy knows what he's talking about.>>516967603This guy doesn't
I spent 8 years in a relationship with a younger woman who had BPD. After that relationship I developed memory problems and I couldn't really tell you much about it, other than that it was really, really bad at times. Picture this: Everything is completely normal, you're having a good day with your partner. You just picked up some sushi and are on the way home to enjoy your dinner and your favorite TV show that you watch together. You're in a good mood, so you make a joking remark about something and she takes it the wrong way. Or maybe you spaced out for a second and missed something she said. Or maybe she's mad that an old female friend messaged you weeks ago, and even though you blocked that friend so your gf would be happy, she's still upset about it.Now that the smallest event imaginable has triggered her, you're doing everything in your power to calm her and deescalate the situation, but it's all entirely in vain; her anger spirals into rage. Your nice sushi dinner that you picked up to enjoy over your favorite TV show is now splattered across the wall of your living room from when she threw it. She's violently punched herself in the head several times before bolting off to the bedroom, where you keep the guns. She's locked herself inside and you're standing outside of the door trying to calm her down and de-escalate her while you hear her racking the slide of your 9mm.Your night together is ruined, and you better get used to this, because it's going to happen about once a week, maybe down to once a month if you're lucky. And after years of this, it's going to take its toll on your physical, mental, and emotional health. You'll want nothing anymore, just to disappear completely. You will be an empty husk and a shadow of your former self, and if you walk away from this experience, you won't even remember that it happened.-t. an autobiography
>>516978996Based and JustJoshingpilled
>>516978885Absolutely. It's all just paltry models.
>>516967300Are they good for short-term kinky stuff?
>>516975582BPDs are psychopaths + severe mood swings.
>>516978782Thanks for the clarifications anon. I think she is indeed more npd than bpd. She has never tried to harm me or herself. She will try to remain structured even during our worse fights. I have 30 days to figure out if this relationship will continue to work out and the best I can do is read up on npd and see if this is something I can be happy with for the rest of my life
>>516979151>I have 30 days If you have to ask, it’s a no.
>>516967300My last ex had BPD, and I haven't dated since. I've been punched stabbed, cheated on, had the cops falsely called on me at least 5 times from different exs, but none of that compares to the trauma from my BPD relationship.We started dating, things were perfect, the best sex, deep connection, empathy, understanding, literally anything you could want. This is the issue. They are shapeshifters. I had to move in with my mom who was dying. Her lease was up and she moved in with me. Quit taking her meds. Quit going to therapy. Quit exercising and doing everything positive for her mental health.If up "BPD Splitting" They go into black and white thinking. Instantly, everything positive you've ever done is just Thanos snapped from their brains. You become a monster to them, even if you didn't do anything. Fellas, this is the true call of the siren. Real life succubus. IF a girl tells you she has BPD, but seems perfect, RUN THE FUCK AWAY. Go to Quora and look up BPD relationships and see the nightmare stories. Head this warning if you don't want your life to get fucked up. I haven't been the same since.
>>516979107Yes. If you've been through one and made it out with your sanity, you can fuck them. They actually like being used like this. BPDemons during idealization will unironically let you fuck them raw and creampie them within a short time of meeting them.
>>516978378>Personally I view it as varying degrees of demonic possessionThere was a psychiatrist that talked and wrote a book about it. He claimed that the voices and visions of schizos are real entities that most people are unable to sense.He would communicate with them through his patients and they could affect the real world.Human thought, in turn, affected them. If he imagined them with their mouths taped they couldn't speak to his patients.Amusing theory.
bpd asshole makes solid points and imo is correct in his assessmentsbutthurt mgtow is so thoroughly destroyed by the ilk of asshole he thinks he understands him and has “worked them out”alas, nothing is further from the truth exemplified by this person maintaining contact with the ex/demon/whatevernorwaylad thinks too much but kinda gets itbpd anon seems genuine and decides to share simply for the delight of sharing. bpd people are truly, madly, deeply fucked up.only autists and psychos fare well, so I’ve heard… and listen to bod anon, protect yourself at all times
>>516979080Classic BPDemon. That you have started dissociating too from the abuse is a bad sign, but that you're aware of it is a very good sign. Hope things turn out well for you, you are not alone in having dealt with these issues, many of us here know exactly what you're talking about and how hard it is to heal from it.
>>516979107Absolutely not. Stay away from them 100%, any interaction whatsoever is not worth it in any way. When a BPDemon is throwing herself at you in a sexual way, the only thing to do is to politely excuse yourself immediately and avoid that person forever.
>>516967300I have borderline personality disorder, but I don't engage in impulsive behaviour. I'm not a nigger. I actively resist those impulses. I also don't have unstable relationships. I'm steadfast, honest, and loyal. Women I've known, on the other hand, have almost universally been flaky, dishonest, and disloyal, because that's just how most women are.Over the years I've sincerely come to distrust all women. I see the same evil bullshit in nearly all of them. It's just their nature to treat all men as disposable trash.Rare exceptions exist. Very rare.
>>516979485>He claimed that the voices and visions of schizos are real entities that most people are unable to sense.I think so too. But it doesn't matter. For all intents and purposes what we have today to talk to normalfags about this issue is the cluster B model, so I use that.
>>516979498This. Autistic and sociopathic men are the only ones that stand a chance. Cluster A men as well (Schizoid, Schizotypal) because they are cold and unemotional. They have no savior complexes.
>>516979270>We started dating, things were perfect, the best sex, deep connection, empathy, understanding, literally anything you could want. This is the issue. They are shapeshifters.Correct. You have learned the most important lesson. BPDemons are not real people. They are stimulus-reaction machines that make you feel good to make you addicted to their presence.
>>516967300> Why did he even bother?They're shapeshifters. When you're with them, you think you're somehow the problem, or that you can do something better. They're like the deep state, ripping you apart from within, without you realizing it.>>516967604This.>>516968645Yup. Still trying to find myself again. IDK what to do man.>>516969404I think I would be considered a psychopath by definition, although I feel like there are things that help you move away from that. Getting cats and taking care of them really helped my shallow empathy. That being said, I wasn't immune.
Try dealing with a narcissist BPD brother. They’re total pieces of shit prone to violence who will happily go out of their way to fuck you over and make up things to resent you for. They’re 10x worse than a BPD mom, sister, wife, girlfriend.
>>516979080All this is just a sign that you're a pussy with no standards that is willing to tolerate a woman's abuse.Even though the bitch is crazy, it's 100% your fault for not establishing boundaries and dumping her the moment she crossed them.If you had standards and red lines not to be crossed, none of this would've happened to you because you would've cut her out within the first week.Instead of blaming a crazy bitch, blame yourself and self-reflect. Why did you allow this to happen? Stop being a whiny pussy and take fucking responsibility for your situation like an actual man.
>>516977330>Don't give them a second chanceI completely ruined my life by not doing this. Be smarter than me, anons.
>>516979819A BPD sister will tell everybody she meets that you raped her.
>>516979803They take on and genuinely believe theyre the same as the people theyre unconsciously trying to ensnare. They'll adopt your mannerisms, movements, thought patterns, everything about you they'll copy.
>>516970684Virgin alert.
>>516979896She'll unironically believe it too. My ex told me multiple times that her father threatened her with a gun. This of course never happened, the bitch was crazy and painted him black.
>>516970817lol I need to find this store.
It's demonic possession. /thread
>>516967300What are you if you have the EXACT OPPOSITE symptoms?Asking for the man in my bedroom mirror...
>>516979960Copy, mirror, adjust. Tantrum and sorrow creates fear. Sex and idolization creates bonding. Like an angler fish instinctively waving it's little glowbulb at the prey.
>>516980000Quads cheque'd
>>516967603BPD is a legit mental illness, but it's only gotten this out of hand because society doesn't discipline anyone anymore.
>>516980093My BPD ex painted her family as a bunch of abusive monsters. She trauma dumped on me for hours. But the instant I said something innocuous like "They sound like shitty people and you didn't deserve that" she cut off my head and yelled to never talk bad about her family
>>516977447You fuck chink waiters too?
>>516968645These people burn all their bridges and then move on to a new group of people who don't know what they are yet and start all over again. Maybe they change their persona, the kind of scene they're into, their fashions and hobbies. They don't know who they really are they just hate themselves but their narcissism prevents them from recognizing their own failings and correcting them so they project all that self-hatred onto other people.It's a tale as old as fucking time. These people are toxic waste and the moment they pull some manipulative bullshit on you call them out for the sociopath they are and get them out of your life before they get their claws in you.
>>516979896Your BPD brother will make up stories just as bad. They’re both engage in reputation assassination, make up stories about the past to cling to to villainize you and vindicate their hostility to you. The difference is that BPD men are actually dangerous. One day you’re having lunch and then the next they’re threatening your life with a knife in their hand.
>>516979628In my headcanon BPD males are way more likely to implode vs explode. Unless they are gay w/ guy T. In which case, God have mercy on everyone nearby.
>>516979628lol the siren calls>this one is different, she’s special and she really does love me>its not her fault she has a difficult background, this one is really different>rare exception :)
>>516980298Homosexuality can be cured if caught early and you beat them with a stick roughly the thickness of one's thumb.>The same applies to troonism but the beatings must be repeated randomly for at least ten years. It doesn't provide a cure but makes the parents feel much better so it's definitely worthwhile.
>>516980256Narcissists try to do this but theyre usually shit at it and you can tell theyre trying to flatter. Narcissists will do over the top grand gestures and buy you expensive stuff because they have their head in their ass, so you can see what they're doing.Borderlines are fucking demons though. They perfectly copy you because they truly want to be you and merge with you. They truly in the beginning think youre going to make them feel loved and stuff. Youre basically their replacement dad.Hell, they'll act like a replacement mother to you.
can one save a bipolar woman
>>516967300go talk to a therapist about your problems faggot and quit using /pol/ to vent. if your dad was too pussy to do anything about his bitch wife, thats on him - you can fuck off with your "marriage is le bad fellow redditors" bullshit. we need to raise white birthrates AND put women back in their place. we can't do that if we're too busy listening to pathetic queers living off disability and raised by a literal cuck of a man. kysthe hardest lesson i had to learn was to not stay with a crazy femoid just because the sex was good, because one day the sex dries up and you're just left with crazy.
>>516971493>>516971034I still have these memories. I'm also adopted which gives you some default abandonment issues.It gave me mild tourettes whenever I have them,I start muttering "I wanna kill that bitch" under my breath. When they paint you black, and there's a helpless feeling that there's nothing you can do or say to wake them up. I remember printing out hundreds of pages about BPD and how they act when they're split. Thinking it would somehow break the spell. I remember being so devastated knowing that if she just kept taking her meds and kept trying, we could fix everything, but by then, it's too late. They want to sabotage the whole thing.
>>516980629>They perfectly copy you because they truly want to be you and merge with you.Pod People. Beware the Pod People.
>>516980734Probably but not cure
>>516980734Yes.If you bend them correctly they will fit into a domestic freezer and you can keep them almost indefinitely.
>>516977398Narcissism has become a meme at this point. What's called narcissism is often just a reasonable defense mechanism against crab bucket people and how shitty society is. The narcissists that gaslight, lie about pointless things, make things up, those are to be avoided though. Narcissists who only just act conceited and grandiose on the other hand, they are fun, they can be a positive influence in your life.
>>516979080thats why you keep a diary or save their messages, be it for possible law related reasons for personal or professional therapy.I just recently read a messages where he told me I'm a 3. But otherwise maybe I'm a 4,5 because of natural beauty and because I always spread legs.He also once answered a message where autocorrect accidentally turned a "das" (that) into "dad". Just because of that little word he sent me several voice mails about me fucking a guy from Berlin who speaks Berlin dialect, because some German dialects say dat or dit instad of das/dies. But he would put an end to this, just so that I'm prepared.so many bad memories, so many hilarious memories.
>>516980524Be a BPD man:>discard the random dude you slept with>light up the crack pipe>randomly cry for two hours over the guy you just dumped a half hour ago>suddenly paint him black, dont need him anymore>steal a car>go to the strip club, youre now straight>sleep with a stripper while high on coke >develop immediate feelings for the stripper>strippers tells you to fuck off>try to kys >go in mental hospital>suck off the doctor and fuck the nurses to escape>repeat
>>516980734No. Even if they're family - Run
>>516967300Most were probably molested by their fathers.
>>516967300Would a BPD guy be a good fit for a BPD girl would they balance each other out or would it amplify everything even more?
>>516980890This. Grandiose narcissist make the best friends. They are so full of themselves and cocky that they don’t care about you outside of having fun. They won’t attack you, they won’t slander you, and they have fun personalities. At worst they get annoying after a while.
>>516979501That relationship ending felt like having a rug swept out from under me. Sure enough, she started talking to some degenerate loser on discord that she "fell for" and "fell out of love with me" over. On one hand, it was devastating to have the person I had been living with for the past 7+ years suddenly gone, but on the other hand I was finally free of something that was probably going to kill me if I stayed in it.Not only was the relationship ending a blow, I also experienced a string of other losses, both with property and pets, and that brutal month was one of the most difficult times of my life. The fact that I came out of that alive showed me my strength and really changed the way I feel about just about everything. The confidence I have now is unlike anything I've ever had before, because now I know what I'm capable of enduring, if that's any consolation or silver lining.My life has gotten back to focusing on, caring for, and improving myself once again, now that my life, time, and energy are no longer centered around a person that I could never fix or make happy. I've accomplished so much in the couple years since I've been single, probably more than the 8 years I spent in that relationship. I am completely uninterested in ever being in a relationship again after that, but my only real regret is that precious time of 8 years that I'll never get back. Imagine if I could have spent that with someone who was actually capable of reciprocating my love?
>>516967300By and large BPD is just the general nature of women being disguised as a "psychological condition".
>>516967300Do you live around blacks?
>>516980987The child of such a union will be the 2nd coming.Go for it.
>>516980896lol accurate afpls share more stories bro
>>516971513Yeah, I don't think I'll ever date again. I didn't want to date when I met the BPD girl, but I was tricked into it, and fine with it at the time. At this point, I feel broken beyond repair. IT's wild how someone could do such a number on your brain.>>516971957Probably really great / solid advice.
>>516981080Only in order to select victims the authorities will never find.
>>516981049Let narcs ramble on about how perfect they are and youll be a ok with them.Vulnerable narcs like Elliot Rodger are dangerous as fuck.
>>516967300I work two jobs, pay my wife $3500 a month in allowance. let her go out 3-4 times a week, cook most nights, clean, and somehow she says she is being abused. I had a realization a few weeks ago in marriage counseling (since we just HAD to go because of her trauma and how i treat her etc) that this bitch has gaslit me into being her slave and still cries victim. She went psychotic after having our child and had to be institutionalized and i stood by herHer entire family lied about their history of mental illness >>>/adv/33693268
>>516972865Are you female?
>>516977330We should be teaching boys from a young age which females are better than others so they can make informed choices. Instead of this "all women are the same" rhetoric. A good woman is just annoying on a regular basis like an itch. A bad women will literally destroy your life, your mental health, your finances, and drive you to murder-suicide.Yes.
>>516976065Why does that cat get such a large litter box?
>>516981193You're putting up with this why?
>>516981152>Yeah, I don't think I'll ever date again. I didn't want to date when I met the BPD girl, but I was tricked into it, and fine with it at the time.Accurate. Took me a year to recover fully, but Im changed and every last vestige of a longing for a relationship or codependency has been completely removed from my head. This does also include any lingering feelings for the psycho ex, I feel nothing now. Went MGTOW and never looked back.
>>516978472No, one nurse in Calgary actually is a headcase.Name starts with a t, has kids with a dude 30y older than her run.
To the young anons who are just starting dating.There is a good reason why every single thread about BPD always sounds the same and has the same stories and conclusions. Ignore the red flags at your own peril. You were warned.
>>516972321I remember one post on Quora that I read that sticks with me. Someone was asking about their BPD ex who just broke up and moved out.The top reply said "You may not realize this now, of for a very long time, but today was actually the best day of your life."That shit hit hard.Side note, why haven't the mods nuked this thread yet? Since when are we allowed to have real conversations about real life?
>>516981637Real. Tired of talking about some useless whore anyway.
>>516981049My gf is a very insecurity anxious riddled narcissist though. Or is that par for the course? do narcissistic women have a crisis if people aren’t immediately giving them attention or do they have conviction enough to not let it bother them?
>>516967604hmm very compelling but have you considered thati can fix her
>>516981393Having a kid will turn most men who arent psychos into willing slaves for the child's sake. Its a very tragic trap.
>>516981575BPD threads are common on /r9k/. Most of the responders WANT the tornado that comes with dating a demon. Some think they can fix them, others think they can survive the lows as long as they finally get the highs
>>516979485Im a spiritualfag, don't expect everyone to listen, but from what I have researched/observed, everyone has entities inside of them. When someone is mentally healthy those entities just stay in the background and quietly work for you. Like that voice that tells you avoid danger before you realize it's there.
>>516981748Oh yeah absolutely. Narcissism just means "I really, really fucking hate myself so much that in order to make me not wanna kms, Im going to pretend to be someone who Im not." The attention that fuels this fake persona is called supply. Without it, she'll feel like shit.
>>516981748Tbdesu I assume every woman is NPD. I was talking more business or personal settings. Play the course anon and follow your gut.
>>516981183>Vulnerable narcs like Elliot Rodger are dangerous as fuck.Indeed the second their glass armor breaks they go ballistic. It takes a lot of mental energy to maintain that false sense of self and without it the tidal wave of rage and suicidal depression breaks through.
>>516981393She made a bunch of promises to me that she would change when we were married, then when we had a kid. and now I am done.I was putting up with this until she was diagnosed so i can get full custody of our daughter.Turns out she has been diagnosed for months and was lying to me about it. Thinking about handing her papers on her birthday in a week lol
>>516981049Lol yeah but try working with a vulnerable narc. They are the real issue.
>>516981575this. take reflection the various anons who are completely buckbroken by bpd.. good luck to you guys, and do remember; it wasn’t personal.
>>516979819dealing with any BPDemon is exhaustingas a fellow victim, I feel for you and advise you to cut contact immediately and forevernow show tits
>>516972752Thanks for the big smile, anon.When I lived in Hollywood, my roommate brought home this hot chick who was very close to this meme, she had just told us she stole 2 cars.Derek hit it, and I was concerned about the safety of my cats/things being stolen. I told him to kick her out, but to send her to my room 1st. I hit it. She went back and fucked Derek again. Then he kicked her out. She went to jail, then rehab.Hit me up 6 months later. I picked her up from the halfway house. She became a rapper. Had to take her back, hit it again one last time. Your post brought back those fond memories of true mess.
>>516980501BPD women are exactly as dangerousone tried to put my eye out with a corkscrew
>>516979628Gee whiz, someone with diagonosed with BPD doesn't trust anyone. What an unbiased source I'd better trust. BPDnigger is such a good honest person, put upon by others, the eternal victim. Yawn.I guess there is "quiet BPD" these days. This guy is displaying it perfectly. Not as bad as the violent flagrant BPD but still to be avoided.
>>516975706>the 4 pairs of picsHow is that just not some shit test?Always be the man, you beat her up until she does exactly what you want her to do and behaves like an angel.
>>516979868Not sure what these assumptions are based on, but it really sounds like you're projecting, or just have no idea how I handled it but you really sound like you don't have experience with this sort of thing for this generic advice to even be applicable here.
>>516981053Now you know a lot more about what personality traits to avoid, so your next attempt has way better chances of success.
>>516981152>I didn't want to date when I met the BPD girl,same. He broke my nose three times but when I told him, now you've stepped over the border.. Now you gat naked and lay down and I'll let it run like oil in an Ayurveda session, he actually did that and I pissed a whole load over him and he willfully accepted it because he had understoof that he deserved it. I have kept the matress. That is called UNTERORDNUNG. that can't be forced, it must be given freely.I think it's difficult to find someone like that again.I listened to Adele Adele - Someone Like You a lot after it was over
>>516976471I feel attacked by your image.
>>516980893I think I did document a couple of episodes but I wasn't consistent with it. It's interesting to hear about your perspective with a male with BPD, which I understand is a little more rare, but seems like it would be potentially more dangerous.
Jesus the amount of people here falling for a bpd hoes. Back in the day we just accepted we were to become wizards and that is fine bros it isnt word It.
>>516971585>she was just play acting good times. It's all an act with BPDemons, they are empty inside, there is nothing there.>>516973296>Absolutely nothing in the interactions you had with her was real. It's very human to not want to admit having been suckered in like that. But if you start looking back at it objectively, you will see it.I knew she was BPD in 2020, she'd openly talk about it but spin it in a way that seemed manageable. It took me until January of 2025 to fully grasp what that meant. Nothing was real.There was something else that controlled 80% of her actions in life and it had nothing to do with the person I knew. The other 20% was the facade, so those actions were performative.It was like the BPDemon was puppeteering her wounded inner child in a manner it figured would draw me in the most, it mirrored me in many ways. The facade was like a ghost, a ghost of the girl she perhaps once was and a ghost of the woman she had the potential to be, but in reality she was not real.>>516975770Well said, a psychopath's manipulation has intent while a BPDemon is more reflex.
>>516982430>German Flag>Piss fetish>UNTERORDNUNGOf course you would be a word for it in German
>>516981961>>516982021Look at Elliot Rodger. He literally went claiming to be perfect, magnificent, and impeccably beautiful and that he was a God destined to judge humanity as a "pathetic inferior depraved race." One little comment made by his friend made him seethe so hard he fantasized about skinning him alive with boiling water. Vulnerable narcs are some of the most dangerous people on the planet.>>516982041Im lucky to have been the one to discard her first, even though I knew she was about to do her final discard. If I hadn't dont that, I think i might have genuinely gone insane.
>>516982244That's true but I'm in my 40s now and there's not much of a point to restarting a relationship at this stage in life, since I am too old to start a family and I'm focused on my work and don't see a relationship fitting into my busy schedule... but yeah, maybe in my next life, lol
>>516979960>>516980256They're not even doing it consciously, it's merely what feels natural to them. Pure instinct.
>>516980890Yeah people these days seem to conflate acting a bit narcissistic with full blown NPD. Its like the difference between being upset that you spilled your coffee and being so angry you fly into a killing rage. Thats how big the gulf between them is. Like actual real diagnosable narcissists live in a fantasy land in their mind where they are God and everyone else is a puppet with no free will who should be worshipping them and paying attention to them 24/7. Elliot Rodger is probably the best recent example with his whole "supreme gentleman" bit that he did. Its the classic example of where they pick some positive aspect of themselves in his case viewing himself as a gentleman and inflating to godlike proportions. Even when reading his manifesto "my twisted world" you get this running sense that despite being objectively a loser he was constantly looking down on everyone ans droning about how they were all inferior and undeserving. But like all narcs eventually reality cracks that fake self image and mortified him.
>>516979803Yeah, literally lizard demons.
This thread is so feminine Guys who aren't masculine enough and a german faggotYou read these threads and realize this is who /pol/ is and all of the rest of the threads on the board become a comedy when you know the type of person behind the post
>>516967300Sadly his is one of the better outcomes. Truly a life destroying phenomenon. It is why we used to burn them as witches.
>>516979960Yeah, that happened to me too, and I'm really good at picking up on deception. She started acting just like me.
>>516982684>Vulnerable narcs are some of the most dangerous people on the planet.to their families and close associates most of allmake a narc feel inferior/slighted in a high-stakes social situation, watch the crazed killer come out
>>516982860This. Elliot Rodger made videos where he went around filming frat boys with their girlfriends, seething with pure hate saying "I hate them all, they think theyre better than me."Any insult or perceived blow to his ego he would go fucking feral and swear up and down he was going to kill them all.
>>516982684mate, she allowed you to escape because you were not game theory optimal supplyunderstand that, accept it, and move on and stay no contact don’t fool yourself with delusions of agency. God bless
>>516982557>It was like the BPDemon was puppeteering her wounded inner child in a manner it figured would draw me in the most, it mirrored me in many ways. The facade was like a ghost, a ghost of the girl she perhaps once was and a ghost of the woman she had the potential to be, but in reality she was not real.Extremely well put.>>516982726That's early middle age. No problem starting a family that age for a man.>>516982840Yes, that's why I call them insect like. I don't mean that they're literally insects, but they work much that way mentally, just reflexes to stimulus.
>>516982557One way of thinking of it, is people with real BPD, they endured so much abuse their soul fragmented and fled. All that's left is mechanical lizard brain AI programs and pain sensors.
>>516967300I had the misfortune of even being friends with a BPD Woman. I offered my sympathies given that her condition was rooted in the death of her father at a young age. However, I legit ran out of patience. All advice I offered fell on deaf ears. She would constantly get into spats and publicize it all on social media. Did I mention the weed addiction? The moment I unfollowed her on social media, I was bombarded with vitriol and insults by way of text message. I let her let loose before I said my final goodbye in one swift reply.
>>516982520he bruised my face and I 'll always see it in the mirror but I think his occasional beatings also activated different brain areas like in the accountant 2 with the woman who suffered brain damage and developed Savant Syndrome afterwards. I learn new things more easily now.
>>516983018And like I said. They believe it. They have no self.>>516983036They will go from a somewhat quiet, insecure, maybe shy person to an absolute raging psychopath who will use a potato peeler to skin your face off. Im not joking.
>>516979080I'm a DJ and I was about to go on tour with a female friend with the band Crazy Town and Green Jello. Went to L.A. to practice for the tour....My female friend and I have never had a sexual relationship, I've just made music for her and she paid me. She was staying in some rich dudes house when he was out of town. Dude had this giant bed, she was like you can sleep in here with me... I said nah, and slept in a different room downstairs. Made the poor choice of telling my BPDemon about it and she flipped the fuck out on me. Stupid decision on my part. I thought it may help put her mind at ease, knowing I wasn't being sketchy. Nope. IT just fanned the flames.
>>516967300I was married to one for ten years. We got married young, and personality disorders sometimes don't manifest until the mid twenties. Her's didn't. But when it did, life was a living hell...physical, emotional, financial abuse. I put up with it because I'm a doctor and have been trained that "mental health" is a "medical issue" and we should fee sorry for sufferers.DON'T MAKE MY MISTAKEI divorced her, and the courts gave her everything. I will have paid her over 3 million by the time maintenance and child support expire.There IS a fairly (90%) effective treatment called dialectic behavioral therapy (DBT), but it requires the person to admit they have issues and genuinely attempt to fix them...which is something most BPDs won't do.So it's reasonable to offer them help, but in the (overwhelming likelihood) that they refuse it, there really is no fixing them, and they need to be cut loose (after forming your own exit plan...they WILL try to fuck you up)
>>516983107That's a big misconception many victims of BPDemons wind up with, because they parse the behavior of the BPDemon from the perspective of their own emotional and mental makeup.>surely a person that works that much to have me invested in them must care about me at least in SOME wayNo. They don't. You are viable prey, or you are not viable prey. If you are not viable, you are instantly discarded, because there is zero actual emotional investment present in the first place, and during all your interactions.The only thing that matters is how well you respond to the instinctive manipulations of the automata.
>>516982684Eliot Rodgers manifesto should unironically be a mandatory case study in psychology when learning about narcissism. Because it really drives the point hone that its not just>tee hee I have a positive self image take that societyIts more like>I am God! Bow before me filthy worms lest I smite thee with mine supreme(tm) wrath of vengeance!
>>516979080Sorry, anon. <3 I still love you.How long has it been since? How long were you together? Do you still feel like an empty husk?Mine happened after my dad died and I moved in with my dying mom. I had to put my career on hold in L.A. and move to bum ass Ohio, so was dealing with all that darkness on top of my BPDemon situation.
>>516983482That makes sense now. When I started asking a lot of questions and putting two and two together it was like a switch went off and everything went cold. I guess I wasn't a good enough meal anymore, needed to rope in a new dumbass who knew nothing.
>>516983394I know, dude. I know. I got attacked by one of these morons in hs, no provocation, no warning, just a metal bar to the neck because he thought me and his "crush" were laughing at him
>>516972752>>516982134Like a fundamental law of nature.
>>516983807Oh god especially the public ridicule. If you want a mass shooting at any point, make a VNPD believe he is being embarrassed or humiliated. Psycho wont stop until everything is dead.
>>516982684I would even say grandiose narc is a bit of a comic book fiction lol. I mean a king back in the day was not a narcisist for thinking he was hot shit if every day since he can remember he is treated like hot shit. People in power think they are gods because that's how they raise them and well they just end up believing it. If one in no position to actually "justify" it says he is the hottest shit ever he probably is delusional. Vulnerable narcs deep down feel constantly like they are being judged and everyone will see the real them if they dont say some bullshit everytime they can.
>>516976475Yes, when I saw this thread 2 years ago I saw it twice in the same week, notice it goes to bump limit with nonsense discussion, they didn't hide unique IPs for no reason
>>516979868Yeah, you clearly don't know what you're talking about. Mr. Alpha, post a selfie and a picture of your hottest bitch.
>>516983750>I guess I wasn't a good enough meal anymore, needed to rope in a new dumbass who knew nothing.That's right. And of course, it never works out, so she'll just repeat the cycle over and over until she's old.
>>516983983gotta take out all the witnesses, yepnobody can know he got humiliatedif they can't kill EVERYONE in case of irreparable ego damage they'll just off themselves tho
>>516984003I think its more like with grandiose narcs they actually do have some measure of real world success to back up their false image. Like they are still narcs but because they have actual achievements behind them their armor is a lot tougher and harder to crack. Its one thing if you are objectively a loser with nothing but your own pretend ideas to shield you from that fact. But if you actually are rich, successful, respected by your community. Then there's less of a disconnect between reality and what you think of yourself. Like there were kings who claimed to be the living embodiment of God on earth, you know emperors ans so forth. And while that is a wild and false claim. If you have a bunch of underlings all agreeing with you its much more believable in your mind.
>>516983482>No. They don't. You are viable prey, or you are not viable prey. If you are not viable, you are instantly discarded, because there is zero actual emotional investment present in the first place, and during all your interactions.I experienced the light switch getting flipped off with my BPDemon ex. I took care of her and basically paid her way for 3 years through multiple DUIs, weekly mental breakdowns, and daily trauma dumps until I got laid off from downsizing. Even though I was given a generous severance it didn’t matter. I went from her personal lord and savior to lower than shit overnight. She wanted me to continue paying most of the bills and live as “roommates” while we “took a break” so she could see other people. I finally snapped, broke my lease, and moved all my furniture out by the end of the week at great cost to me financially. Once she found out she tried to get me arrested by punching herself in the face but luckily I had the good sense to set up a nanny cam because I had a feeling she would flip out based on the stories she told me about her exes, who according to her were all abusive towards her. The mask came off that day and I’ll never be able to fully trust a woman again.
>>516984457they'll still kill dissenters for making them look bad
>>516980322Mine alluded to her dad possibly molesting her, and she always talked about how that's what caused her BPD, even though she didn't know if it was true. (at the time I was taking care of my terminally ill mom) When we broke up she told my mom her plan to move back to Cleveland and take care of her older parents. (basically what I did) She also said her ex was super abusive, when we were breaking up she threatened to call the sheriff on me to help mover her stuff. I never yelled at her or threatened her or anything. It's a weird reality they paint for themselves.
>>516984334>nobody can know he got humiliatedEXACTLY. If he cant kill them he'll just leave the social circle/situation hes in and sabotage everything on the way out. If they dont explode at a job, for example, they'll quietly find a new one, slowly pull back attention, make everyone else wonder whats wrong, maybe fuck up the computer system, or maybe put sugar in the gas tank, then just leave without saying anything and onto a new circle who dont know him.
>>516984576>ut luckily I had the good sense to set up a nanny cam because I had a feeling she would flip out based on the stories she told me about her exesBased schizo sense tingling.
>>516983694Thanks anon.We were together for 8 years, lived together for 7 of those 8 years. We've been broken up for about 2 years now. I wouldn't say that I feel that empty now, I just don't remember much about my past anymore, which is kind of good because I am always living 100% in the moment now.
>>516976471Not that dude but I didn't even know that it was a real diagnosis until my ex told me I fit a lot of patterns and recommended I seek medical health. Of course I never did but it did spark an interested in psychology and eventually Jung. And some less than orthodox interests. It didn't excuse any of my behaviour but it did give me insight as to what is my trouble. I'm not as shitty to people as I was, not that I'm a nice man or anything. I think the whole bit about BDD not feeling emotions or having personality is not right.
>>516980987Wow, gentleman, I think we just came up with a script for the best movie ever made.
>>516984576Just be cautious anon. Don't let mentally ill people destroy your ability to trust other humans. Be cautious but also be willing to let your guard down for the right person. If things go sideways put your guard back up but don't let nutjobs ruin who you are.
The best way to deal with bapd women is simply shouting at them and telling them to shut the fuck up or calm the fuck down, but unfortunately that will get you landed in prison so all you can do is watch and make small talk while some crazy bitch threatens to kill herself or attack you.
>>516983482yes, ur insights are interesting anon, i like especially the insectoid reflex argument.what i personally don’t like about bpd is they’re capable of rational thought but their emotions mess it up and mean they’re inherently volatile and behave irrationally and not in their best interests.however, they are predictable to an extent and can be manipulated easily especially against a third party.if one is not vulnerable to their emotional wringing they’re interesting.id respectfully suggest you revisit the male bpd anon posts here, he was very insightful.I think you may, too, be framing the bpd behaviour from your own perspective when you state the only thing they care about is how well a mark reacts to the instinctive button pushing..it’s hard to put into words for me, and I am not bpd, but id say their pleasure comes from “wearing your skin” when mirroring and admiring how well it fits..of course, even with a perfectly tailored masterpiece, one wouldn’t wear the same clothes forever, right? ;)
>>516984682Exactly even when they have it all they can't stand having their image attacked. Like normal people can brush off insults made by people they dont give a fuck about. But narcs give a fuck about what everyone thinks about them all the time.
>>516984794get help, you can't leave that sort of trauma unaddressed, it's like a landmine in your past waiting for some innocent bystander to step oni'd suggest PTSD group therapy
>>516967603>>516980298>>516977330BPD IS indeed "female coded" behavior, but cranked up to the absolute logical extreme to the point where the dysfunctional feminine lack of real self, emotional dysregulation, etc etc is ALL they are inside.There is no one else there, however inferior, ,or weak, or fickle, or vapid females can be, theres SOMEONE in there. For BPD there's a true void with nothing but every toxic archetypical female behavior.Just like men traditionally can have tendencies of grandiose narcissism, without being full blown soulless NPDs. Women are also BPD coded by nature, just low enough on the spectrum where its not a pathology.
>>516984873Remember kids, cluster B types are NOT mentally ill, it’s just how they are..
>>516981718Yeah, I no longer have any feelings about mine. It's like thinking about a hurricane that came i and wrecked my life.Just refreshing to hear I'm not the only one.>>516981053This is the way. Thanks for your wisdom.
>>516981863lol rip
>>516984457No yeah I get it but I would argue that in those situations it is more of an issue of the underlying social system. But personally, I've found people who have achieved many things in life and are at good positions but 24/7 their only goal is to mot be percived in some way and will get into real violent tantrums over meaningless shit basically only getting saved by their raw talent in these cases. They never end up actually taking pleasure in their achievements.
>>516984916>I think you may, too, be framing the bpd behaviour from your own perspective when you state the only thing they care about is how well a mark reacts to the instinctive button pushing..Of course. What else do I have to go by than my own perspective? I do have a lot of experience with BPDemons, I'll say that. But other than that I'm just trying to make sense of a complex topic where there are no real answers, like anyone else.>but id say their pleasure comes from “wearing your skin” when mirroring and admiring how well it fits..Well, maybe. My opinion is based on that when you get a BPDemon to stop the act for a bit and have something seemingly approaching a real conversation with the actual creature sitting in front of you, they uniformly start talking about the emptiness thing. They don't really feel the process happening in the same way that you the neurotypical person does. It's abstracted away as a dissociated side process.That doesn't exist the "anger feelings" in the given tantrum doesn't exist at all, or the "mirror feeling." It just has nothing to do with their core persona, like it would have for you. It's more like they're an empty husk, watching a process unfolding, maybe dipping into the feeling here and there, instead of actually feeling a continuous thread in things like you would.
>>516981962Anon, PLEASE LISTEN TO ME. Put up hidden cameras with audio, and record EVERYTHING. Dispose of knives and other weapons. I think your best bet would be to convince her to leave you. They thirst for control. IF you take that away, she'll go ballistic.
>>516984916it's not for pleasure, it's to fill an inner void with something others will accept as reala BPDemon doesn't really have a personalitya BPDemon without anyone to prey on becomes deeply depressed, catatonic and ultimately suicidal
I am a male with bpd and I see a therapist every week to better myself since last year. It's not easy to have bpd. I know it's frustrating to deal with such people it's also frustrating to be the person. I hope the best for you all who have had negative experiences
>>516967469>makes me feel a bit betterYou made the right choice. BPDs cannot be fixed. Your child, if you care, is going to be a mess and like the mother. The courts should identify this risk but they dont and the child goes to the mother. An ever spiraling loop of single mothers.
>>516985380Yeah that's the irony of narcs. Because they live in their head they dont care about real world stuff as much even when they have it and it would make a normal person content. I'm trying to think of a good metaphor. I guess its sort of like when a little kid draws a picture and shows it to mommy expecting mommy to tell him its a very good picture and she likes it very much. The kid doesn't actually give a shit about the picture he just wants mommy's attention and love. But that's like narcs whole life, their life is the proverbial picture they are showing off and everyone is mommy.
>>516985722get rekt lol
>>516984873Thanks. It’s been a year and I’ve been dating for a few months. I already ran screaming from a couple women who wanted to pursue exclusivity after they threw up some minor red flags I would have overlooked before. My tolerance for bullshit is nonexistent now so I think I learned my lesson. Being single is infinitely less stressful than BPDemon maintenance so I don’t feel the need to jump into another relationship. It feels like getting out of prison. Honestly like another anon mentioned, in hindsight that seemingly traumatic day she tried to throw me in jail was one of the best of my life. I’m actually thankful I got laid off back then or she probably would’ve kept up the damsel in distress ruse until my white knight ass put a ring on her or god forbid put a baby in her.
Women shouldn't be working or having college degrees.All of the bpd bitches I've known irl all have some useless shitty social sciences degree or something, meanwhile all the minimum wage women who got married and had kids by 22/23 are all happy and pleasant to ge around.Jews and radical feminism are responsible for bpd rates increasing just like every other undesirable teait about women.
I’m a tranny with bpd and how it works for me is that someone I really like will offend me somehow and from then on every single thing they do is completely irritating and all I want to do is antagonize them or cut ties. I’m very self aware about it and it’s literally like a light switch. I’ll go from really enjoying someone’s company to venomously hating them in an instant. It’s weird. I churn through countless people and relationships too. I legitimately don’t even remember most of them at this point, it’s constant.
>>516985593What camera do you recommend?I have recordings of her when she was manic on my phone but I do not think that is admissible in court
>>516978601I've only really bad burnt my girlfriends, but never close friends or people I like. I think men are more self destructive in an internalised way, think alcoholism and thrill seeking.
>>516985967Most people in general shouldn't have or need degrees for their jobs. Thats part of a larger issue of credential creep in general that has been infesting society for some time now. Jobs should require certifications for that job paid for by the employer. Not general degrees paid for by the employee as proof of competency. The only people who should be getting degrees are actual scholars and scientists not everyday people looking for regular wage jobs.
>>516985043You think so? I thought of myself as being pretty damn badass for rawdogging that trauma, surviving it, and coming out of it a stronger, better person. I don't know if some feminized jew therapist is going to give me any insights that I haven't already discovered on my own. I think you're more likely to hurt others with your own trauma if you're young and don't understand how to properly process it, but I do feel confident that I've properly processed mine. I don't think it's worth rehashing at this point, but I'll consider it.
>>516985572The emptiness is so true. The way I think about it (I have bpd) is that I’m instinctively and compulsively performing behaviors that are supposed to fill me up and make me feel safe and stable, but none of them do anything. I’m always empty no matter what I do, and my button pushing comes as a result of becoming more extreme in trying to stop myself outlook from deteriorating, that not working, and getting frustrated.
>>516986144>someone I really like Classic BPD mirroring.>every single thing they do is completely irritatingClassic BPD splitting.> I churn through countless people and relationships too. It's tragic but I dont think you can fix it. You can be aware and apologize but that's it.
Men need to realize that BPD women are demonic plagues that takes shape of a diamond form. You come off thinking you've found the perfect woman but these are leftovers for good reason. When they're black, they are violent psychopaths. Imagine if you would a toddler with adult strength and a lifetime of knowledge to get what they want. Babies will cry and stomp their feet, BPDemons will destroy your home, loved ones and their own bodies. Someone said they're like retards who can't realize their emotions aren't real and will act out on them the their fullest extent, I think that's an apt description
>>516978601>"Just admit it, you want to kill me."he actually said that. He also accused me to lace his drinks with drugs, often ordered me to take a few sips from his glas when he left for toilet and left his glas/food unsupervised.once I cooked for him when he went to work and he accused me of letting one of the men I was cheating with to put their sperm into the food in his lunch box. but then he told me he shared the food with his coworkers without informing them about his concerns so if there was semen in the food at least he wouldn't be the only one who ate it and that would have made it less bad, for some reason.
>>516986706>feminized jew therapiststay away from those, obviouslyif you can find other men who passed through similar experiences, that would be best, but cancer survivors or ex-zogbots might do in a pinch>I do feel confident that I've properly processed minelol. lmao. how much is missing from your memory? months? years? do you even have a slight idea of what you may have been doing during those times? whom you may have been hurting? have you at least reconnected to all your friends and family yet?
