How can sufferers of BPD such as myself be helped politically? I’m a human who craves love, connection and acceptance like everyone else, but all I hear is how I’m a “demon” (BPDemon) because I’m a little unstable. What can be done about this?
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>>516989375BPD foids should be exiled.
>>516989375Please be in MELBOURNEELOURNE
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>>516989375describe your BPD behaviors
>>516990761I am, why?
you aren't a "little" unstable, you need to understand that this disorder will ruin not only your life but the lives of people who get close to you who will initially be put on a pedestal and then thrown in the pit when you hit a manic self-obsessed phase. Your absolute lack of self awareness on this issue is a red flag. I'm sure you'll be fine, though. BPD tends to go hand in hand with narcissist personality disorders so you're probably confident that you're fine how you are
>>516989375Dont cause violence in your times of acting act out? If you say that it's uncontrollable than you shouldn't be in society. If you can't manage your own tendencies than why should a society bend to your will. It doesn't matter what mental disease you have, if you commit violence, violence needs to happen to you so you brain can recognize that it's wrong.
>>516989375Less threads makey more meds takey
>>516989375sorry sweaty there's only one way we're allowed to help youyou can thank feminism for that
>>516991216Let’s meet up
>>516989375There is currently no known way to help you. It's very sad that you had to experience that terrible childhood trauma and it wasn't your fault.It's even sadder that you are convicted to forever destroy other ppl's lives, you just can't help it.In a perfect world you would be contained as a breeding cow and kept far away from destroying men's lives.But as it stands, this is not a viable option. Maybe go into prostitution if you are pre-wall? At least you'd give some lonecells some relief for a little while.
>>516991071From the other thread:>I’m a tranny with bpd and how it works for me is that someone I really like will offend me somehow usually in a very small way like seeming slightly impatient or agitated when I say something to them, and from then on every single thing they do is completely irritating and all I want to do is antagonize them or cut ties. I’m very self aware about it and it’s literally like a light switch. I’ll go from really enjoying someone’s company to venomously hating them in an instant. It’s weird. I churn through countless people and relationships too. I legitimately don’t even remember most of them at this point because it’s constant. I also experience chronic emptiness and I perform behaviors that feel like they should make me feel more full / complete but they never do anything, so I begin getting frustrated and desperate and my behaviors get more and more extreme.
>>516989375Only you can help yourself. As a BPD chad the world is yours for the taking you just need to go out and grab it by the balls! BPD are unironically are the only non NPCs. Go out there get a trad big titty bitch addicted to your attention, fuck the sluts and don’t call back, defeat your enemies and fuck their moms too, I believe in you! We will get their love and attention one way or the other, so might as well take over the world while you’re at it. Turn the whole world into a North Korea style planet with you as the leader! It’s time anon!
>>516989375Go out Kurt Cobain style demon.
>>516989375people say that because you have the tendency to severely hurt (physically & emotionally) those who love you. if you want to be not a "little unstable" there's really only 1 treatment protocol and thats for years of radically honest DBT where your goal is to put your BPD in remission and control your splitting behaviors. but you probably wont do that, because that will be hard and require you to be actually honest with yourself and your therapist which you're already here not doing on an anonymous message board in 2025. if you don't take accountability for your mental illness the dbt will never be successful in helping manage harmful behaviors and you will continue to hurt those you seek "love, connection, and acceptance" from. you do not seek these like any other human. understanding this is the first step.
>>516989375Sex slavery under a loving master
>>516991338I’m never violent. I’m only psychological and social when I’m BPD. I’m uncomfortable with physical violence. >>516991384I’ve tried a ton of medications and none of them do anything after a few weeks. >>516991546No thank you. Firstly I’m a tranny, and secondly I’ve stopped slutting it up and showing myself off to people because it doesn’t make me feel any better about myself. If anything it makes me feel worse because it’s frustrating that even when people clearly want me, I never feel wanted.
Stop being dependent on others. Learn to live and be by yourself.
Clean it up, Jannie
>>516991591start with humilityyou're not a woman, you're choosing all of this shityou choose to hate people, you choose to do bad things, you choose more extreme behaviors, you probably choose drugs, you choose to call yourself a womanhow did I know you'd wind up being a pillar/pit narcissist? absolutely appalling. you aren't looking for love or mutual edification you just want control or parasitismfucking fix yourself, absolutely abhorrent
>>516989375What you're experiencing is alienation, not necessarily a symptom of your diagnosis.Marx explains that alienation is happening in every interaction you can take because everything can be used as a commodity.Seriously it look it up, it won't change it for you but you'll be equipped to make sure it's changed when shtf and it'll help if you can at least understand it on an intellectual level. t. unironic marxist and diagnosed schizo
>>516991384There's no meds for BPD, anon. And don't call for Jesus either, he's powerless here. They're just irredeemable fucking demons who can and will destroy your life without a moment's notice. The best way to handle them would be to cull them at birth before they can do any damage, but sadly we don't have a way to screen for BPD tendencies (yet).
>>516989375Bpd is curable. Go get therapy. You're not a demon, you're an emotional vampire. You are exhausting to be with, and some people think it's your own fault. They're only right if you don't try to get better. If you get better, people will treat you better.
>>516991573Alternatively, you should find a strong, heavy handed narcissist that will belittle you everywhere you go and maybe give you a little beating every now and then. Because that is what you really crave, and it's the only thing that will contain you as you will forever, unknowingly, seek out to make your own life hell on earth. A good narcissist should be able to give you enough trouble to claim forever victimhood and also contain your "episodes" without allowing you to destroy everything and everyone around you.
The problem with you people is you care a lot about appearance. You will say and do stuff because you know you should. You'll say "I know this is bad" without internalizing and wanting it to stop. Here is a life hack; Stop lying.Seriously. Stop it as soon as it starts. Stop lying about yourself: You are a man, not a woman. You are not especially competent or uniquely deserving or especially sensitive. Stop lying about others. They are not assholes or jerks or rapists or shallow or idiots or whatever other put down you levy on them for denying you constant 24/7 access to dopamine. Stop pretending to care about your problems when what you're looking for is sympathy and a platform to show off on. If you actually cared about this stuff you can see enough problems in your life to know what you should do. "Oh but I just automatically do bad things!" Maybe you should make a better decision in the future.
>>516991950Oh come on bb, we can even cuddle afterwards
>>516989375A strict meditation habit will give you the tools to process your extreme emotional responses and not act demonic because of them.You basically lack a regulator and everyone with BPD should be sedated until they manifest one.
>>516989375swift death>t. had to deal with a person like you for 10 years before i figured out you are UNSALVAGEABLEwhat a fucking waste of time people like you are
>>516991999my ex with bpd stabbed me literally after she failed to fully destroy my life. the internet has given them such a grand new outlet for attention seeking behavior and "accepting" their mental illness instead of just like.... going to therapy and taking accountability for how they treat others. i always see them doing this woe is me stuff I see the OP doing (which I think OP is just trolling or whatever). but its genuinely insane how the internet has actually "normalized" their behaviors.
>>516992171Unironically, dominant and aggressive men are very soothing and stabilizing, but the problem is that they can’t keep it up. They have to be normal vulnerable humans sometimes and when that happens I start to feel out of control again.
>>516989375Fix your personality. "BPD" isn't a real thing, it's not a disease like diabetes or something. It just describes a rancid, awful selfish personality. Which you can fix by working on yourself. No one is at fault except for you.
>>516992328dude me too. its crazy because no matter what happens it just keeps getting worse. thank god we didnt have kids
>>516992343I’m not trolling, there was another BPD thread I was late to so I wanted to continue it here…
>>516989375First, drop the political correctness. 'Borderline personality disorder' used to be called 'borderline psychosis'.Second, reflect on everything you did during the day and compare it against classic symptoms of borderline psychosis. This will give you an ability to stop yourself from going full retard; you'll be able to recognize it and try to mitigate.Third, you will never be fully normal but after you have some control you can advertise yourself as a yandere gf, so the man knows what he is getting into and wants it.If you are a tranny/man you are fucked though lol.
>>516991950>Firstly I’m a trannyYeah well shooting yourself full of hormones may be a big reason as to why your emotional regulation is haywire. Just a thought.
>>516989375>I have BPD>I am victim>please care about me >I am not even willing to give an honest and full account of my shortcomings while asking for sympathy I don't think you mean ill, I just think you're so empty and needy that you are unable to sacrifice for other people. It's like a baby: they cry and scream no matter how tired or overwhelmed their caregivers are, because they are totally helpless and cannot do anything other than that no matter how it affects other people. You brain identifies a person who is a potential source of emotional support, you lovebomb the shit out of them in an earnest attempt to win them over, you find that the ideal love you expected from them (because that is what you need due to the hole in your psyche) is not there in sufficient quantity, and you split in order to reduce the pain of having them disappoint you further. Then you move on. You have only enough cognitive stamina from all this to keep you going, and you give very little thought to the hurt your flings go through. It's only about you because it has to be; but all that hurt that you cause others doesn't disappear - it becomes the widespread disdain that you're here complaining about without offering confession or solution. You're the person who survives drowning by pulling your rescuer down and climbing above them. You're a wrecking ball. Embrace it.
>>516991591sounds like that one can be fixed with psychology. however, emotional violence is still violence. these behaviors should be criminalized. we live in a society where vicious abusers recruit innocent victims into manipulative punishment games for self pleasure. abused becomes abuser, true, but sentient self-awareness is required as an adult human. dont hurt other people on purpose is the first rule of human culture. this rule is enforced by allowable violence. while abused, for the BPD these acts of violence were permitted. however these violences are not allowable any longer against innocent strangers. once criminalized, reformation via punishment is achievable. ssris should be avoided in case of escalating violence. ideally, a recovery clinic could be established, with assistive interventions like eliminating smartphones, controlled small social environment, behavior and psychological counseling, group therapy, etc. ultimately if the BPD behaviors persist beyond of context of multiple relationships, they are the BPD-perp, and their innocent friends are the BPD-victims. typically this kind of disease can spread into and between social groupings.
>>516992256I’ve tried to act normal before many times but when I suppress the compulsive behaviors it’s like an itch that gets more and more intense until I’m internally going crazy.
>>516992495My emotional regulation is better than it was before I went on hormones. I’m more docile now and I don’t get angry as easily.
>>516989375Withdraw from society completely and learn to be okay on your own.
>>516992366Not true, you can screen for bpd by brain activity - it has a completely unique signature. Also, it's more of a problem of missing personality. True that you have to work very hard with yourself to fix it, though. And any period you let it unfold, the more work to get the cat back into the bag.
>>516992481ok.go to a therapist specializing in BPD and dialectical behavioral therapy. don't enter another relationship for 5-6 years and you no longer satisfy 5 or more of the 9 indicators of BPD. try to live a simple lifeits likely difficult to find a therapist because they usually only handle 1-2 BPD patients at a time because its difficult as you all have the tendency to lie and twist narratives and avoid accountability. you'll find one if you actually try and don't try to rope someone else into taking care of you you wont do this though because you just want attention. sage in all fields
>>516992614This is a really great description of what it’s like desu. The part about having a hole in my psyche and being disappointed with people because they can’t fill it is so true. Did you date someone with bpd or something anon?
>>516992354>They have to be normal vulnerable humans sometimes and when that happens I start to feel out of control againThat's where to beatings come in, as a hard reset. The aftermath of it also gives both of you the chance to reconcile and bring a short period of peace, love and tranquility in both of your lives.Hard mode though since you're a tranny, you'll need to find a closeted gay strong-willed heavy-handed narcissist, which is a very, very niche market. Good luck though.
>>516989375Girls with BPD are disgusting whores and guys with BPD are just feminine emotional crybabies. There is no saving you, y'all should be in mental institutions.BPDs are in the same bucket as ASPD and NPDs. They're just not good people. I enjoy love bombing BPD girls and then abandoning them after we have sex. That's the only thing they're good for, cheap easy sex before being discarded like trash.
>>516989375>How can sufferers of BPD such as myself be helped politically?Meds+therapy>because I’m a little unstableIt all starts with the insight that you aren't " a little unstable" but a person who will inevitably deeply hurt anyone who makes the mistake of actually getting close to you.If you want love etc. pp., take care of your issues instead of using other people as cumrags and destroying them without remorse.
>>516993358You are just as bad lmao
>>516993358> I enjoy love bombing BPD girls and then abandoning them after we have sex. That's the only thing they're good for, cheap easy sex before being discarded like trash.That is legitimately evil and needlessly cruel. They can’t help it, but you go out of your way to be like this.
>>516993358that's all a lot of girls want. just a toy to play with for a few fun dates and next then next toy. we should match toy boys up with toy girls and keep them separated from actual human families. technically the birth control pill already has.
>>516993666yes women enjoy sex, casual sex too. Thats no reason to purposely pretend you love them and want something more only to pull the old switcharoo. That just makes you a weak cunt who has to simp to get laid.
>>516989375>How can sufferers of BPD such as myself be helped/thread?
>>516989375bpd is not real, it's a recent fad...no cure for fashion
>>516991950Medications don't work that's why the joke is take your meds. My ex had this shit and would have on and off weeks. Medications will flatline you to a point where you won't recognize good or bad days. If your not violent than I have no issue with what you are. However I will tell you something that I've learned. I believe that if you think you have a problem and people agree with you about it, your mind will create it for you regardless if you actually suffer from it or not. The longer you believe it the harder it will be to become somewhat normal again.
>>516992663Nobody is telling you to act normal. People are telling you to be normal. Don't ruminate in your head for twelve hours a day about how special you are.
>>516991591>someone I really like will offend me somehow usually in a very small way like seeming slightly impatient or agitated when I say something to them, and from then on every single thing they do is completely irritating and all I want to do is antagonize them or cut ties.Sounds a bit like lack of empathy. As in, you cant put yourself in their shoes and understand that impatient or agitated answer might have nothing to do with you, but that they are stressed about something else in their lige right now. If it was genuinely rude just wait until you meet the next time and just ask hey is everything okay, you seemed stressed when you said that to me. I felt it was a bit rude but I thought okay this guy is probably stressed so I didnt say anything.This will sort the situation out 100% of the time. Just realize the other person is probably dealing with own shit. Stop getting offended and taking everything personally. Not everything is about you.
>>516989375I’m sorry you’re in the pain but the pain from my bpd mother was devastating and basically made me fucked for life so I’m quite literally incapable of feeling any sympathy for you
>>516989781twice in one day? bumping your own thread within 5 mins? needing more attention?sage
First and foremost: stop asking for attention on 4chan, I get it, youre bored, fuck off and take a walk or some shit.Second. Vote for someone like Hitler in power in the hope that he will exterminate your sorry ass.I have bpd too and I'm gonna do that.Memes aside, stop asking for attention and get a job, lay low.
>>516989375>What can be done about this?Stop transitioning. Confess your sins to Christ and ask for his help.
Actually you know what? I take it all back. You are already so far up your own ass you will NEVER listen to people, you will just make an excuse for everything and learn your helplessness a bit deeper. People will tell you specific, direct, easy ways to fix your life and you'll just go "no thanks lol" and wonder why you're still such a fuckup narcissist.
>>516989375become >based SIR SAFEdont bother with normies they might get you in trouble
>>516991950>I never feel wanted.Jesus mate. Seriously.
>>516989375Have you tried just not being a psycho bitch boy?
>>516989375Doing the one thing you do best. Suicide.
>>516994887What?
>>516995162Go to church. You have two hours a week where you don't have to worry about anything and can spend time around actually good people. You can learn to maybe shed some of the venomous pride that's killing you.
>>516992983Yeah. I'm someone who needs stable people too. I'm unstable, but not emotionally - I just have a very low tolerance for boredom and routine. I've avoided commitments like the plague except relationships. I don't sleep around. I need people in my life to be open and trustworthy, or I quickly come to see them as a liability and a source of unnecessary stress. The girl I dated with BPD was pretty opaque. She would contradict herself and hide things in a way that made her seem like she had alterior motives, and I cut her out of my life abruptly. I was bitter for a time, but soon realized how good the whole experience was for my growth, and now I just hope she's alright.
>>516989375When we lived in a society where a man could legally discipline his wife and children these faggot ass (((disorders))) never existed.
>>516995335>Go through miles of cocks>be born again christcuck>mary tyrone>go to heaven uhmm sure
>>516989375The demonization of Borderlines is greatly exagerated by the version the narcissist tells about them. They have no introspection like BPDs.Also since BPD is, for the most part, created by growing up with a narcissist there are a lot of similarities from an outside perspective, that normies can't really differentiate. (In reality the motivation for the behavior are opposites. Narcissist abuse as an attack (offensive) and BPDs mostly in a defensive manner.)Note: I'm talking about pure BPD and NPD and not the 40% BPDs who are also narcissists.Since your question shows introspection i assume pure BPD in you and will try to give you advise:You are carrying a lot of stuff around constantly, which causes you anxiety and depression. This is mostly caused by your attachment style. There's tons of free online tests, that are reliabe enough to give a rough estimation.In short it's this:- Anxious preoccupied - is needy and codependent, gets annoying and more posessive over time- dismissive avoidant - is the opposite, doesn't let anybody get close, runs away from the troubles their avoidance causes- Fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment: has traits of both anxious and avoidant traits, depending on partner and situation.- Secure attachment - you have your shit together.I'd suggest to check your style and read advise on how to overcome your unhealthy attachment. For me, it fixed my anxiety and depression like 90-95%. Permanently. I was "just below" Borderline though and not full blown.You basically have to let your "ego" die. (Ego not as in grandiouse, but as in inner self-defences)>Might-or-might-not-work-tipp:>If you're not psychotic and rather stable and you got a week off or so, you might want to try a one-time high dosage LSD or shroom trip. It might crack your ego enough, that the rest will come by itself over the next 2-3 years. But beware, it can be a painful experience. The attachment method also hurts, but gives you more control
>>516995942what if they de-transitioned and married a woman after riding the cock carousel.
>>516995699Sound like you have the 'tism
my dad is BPDits fucking hellimagine having someone who acts like a cross between a spoiled 6 year old girl and a 80 year old jewish hag as your dad
>>516996081Sounds very christian and wholesome
>>516989375BPD niggers are essentially beasts, slaves to their base impulses incapable of reason or peaceful cohabitation.
>>516996135>>516996403I am starting to think that this persons wife is BPD as well.>>>/adv/33693268
>>516989375Just stay away from BPDemons 100%. Don't interact with them, don't talk to them, don't answer their messages. If they come to your door, don't answer it. Just block, delete, move on.No, they can't be helped. No, they won't get better. No, you can't "handle" them. No, they aren't real people.
>>516989375You are putting the onus on others for your happiness and well being spiritually instead of looking inside yourself for the answers.
>>516996507Bi-polar (BD) and Borderline (BPD) are two entirely different things.
>>516991591Are you a hot fuckable tranny?
>>516989375Can someone tell more about the bpd men think one will kill them?>>516978601
>>516989375>What can be done about this?All mental illness of your type can be cured with a strict commitment to the truth. You say you crave love, but that is not true. You crave to see what you lie to yourself about come true. You do not crave connection. You crave to have your own personal prisoner who will never leave you. You do crave acceptence, but it is for your behavior. This is why you are terrified of the light so much you would rather lie about reality and you will become a demon the more lies you tell yourself and believe. The doubling down mechanism instead of admitting fault or bad behavior is just another tool in the bag of demons. You are allergic to the truth and yet that is the only thing that will ever set you free from your demon.
>>516989375>What can be done about this?State prostitute tickets, monthy. 8-12 tickets every month.
>>516989375I would usually say self isolate in nature but you're Australian so that's probably not an option unless you really know what you are doing. If you can find any real self reliance I think it would help. Idk if you let them steal your dick, but if not I would stop jacking off for a while, no drugs or alcohol for a bit either.
>>516991999>>516996633This, they are incarnation of satan, some part in their brains is irreversibly missing, shell of a human but hollow inside. Lack of deep feelings, sadistic approach leading to instrumental use of other human beings in order to cause hurt. Cause of criminal activity of those who don't gtfo in time. They never fucking ever, ever, ever get better.
>>516996110Maybe so, anon. Maybe so.
>>516997069He's wrong. Behavior mostly comes down to attachment style, rather then gender.I explained attachment here>>516996070But the nervous system part is correct, it's just that the attchment rather predicts behavior, rather than gender. I have not looked it up, but attachment styles themselvescould be gender biased.
>>516989375>BPD>Only a little unstableAssuming this is real, and not a shitpost. No, you're not just a "little" unstable. Your reality is warped by your own delusions that you build around people who you either deify or vilify depending on whether or not they've not lived up to the perfect vision of them in your head. Therapy is a meme for most people, EXCEPT those with BPD. If you aren't in therapy with someone who's not going to put up with your bullshit excuses and delusions, and is providing coping skills for your deep-seated trauma and fractured psyche in the form of dialectical behavioral therapies you are a a cyclone of dysfunction and chaos to anyone who you ever get close to and through your actions to seek love only further alienate and hurt both yourself and those around you. Get help.
>>516989375>What can be done about this?A man can put you in your place and keep you there, if ye be a real woman.If not, you're probably screwed.
>>516991591>I’m a tranny with bpdOh, I didn't read far enough.You are screwed.I would say that you could repent and get saved, but we all know that admitting that you are insane and make horrible life choices is an unlikely outcome.Try not to sodomize any children on your way out.
BPD is a natural response to an unsafe and predatory world. People are animals, and many of us like to believe we're above that. We're not. We're just more complex.
>>516989375Just stop thinking about yourself and your feelings so damn much. Won't change the fact that you feel emotions more strongly than others due to BPD. You can still prioritize emotions lower so they won't cripple you as much. There's more important things in the world. Find something to keep yourself preoccupied with that isn't reactionary in nature.>I’m a human who craves love, connection and acceptance like everyone else, but all I hear is how I’m a “demon” (BPDemon) because I’m a little unstableThese are all completely normal desires to have. With that being said, people aren't going to shower you with love and kindness if you're bringing instability and hostile feelings to the table. Relationships are meant to be mutual.>>516991591The trooning out is an example of what I'd consider reactionary. OP, you are male. There is nothing that will change that. I want to state I don't think less of you just because you are a troon, but the honest truth is that you are a man trying to escape reality and adopt a stable sense of identity. >I perform behaviors that feel like they should make me feel more full / complete but they never do anything, so I begin getting frustrated and desperate and my behaviors get more and more extreme.As you stated in your own words, the latter is a given among people who have BPD. You have a constrained idea of what a woman is. Consequently, you choose to believe that it is easier to adopt a female persona in place of acknowledging and improving your character faults. That pattern of self destruction and denial will not improve until you confront yourself for who you are. Best of luck and I truly hope that your mental health improves.
>>516998475BPD is on a wide spectrum, can be high functional and keep causing damages pretty much only to themselves. It is another rendition of the same problems.The typical BPD-stereotype "crazy ex girlfriend" is almost every single time eitherA: BPD/NPD mix orB: pushed that far by a narcissistDon't get me wrong, they need help and can be extremely shitty people and DBT (+ fixing their attachment) is the way, but the (pure) BPD stereotype is incorrect and get it's bad rep mostly for the unspoken narcissism. NPD+BPD (40% overlap) should not just be called BPD in my opinion.
>people give OP good advice>OP ignores it because he can't comprehend a world where he's wrongmany such casessad!
>>516989375You've come to the right place with your question. The first step on your road to recovery is to identify the cause of your illness, which is Jews.
>>516989375Nothing. The people saying BPDemon have probably met a Narc, and not a BPD. BPDs are good people. They're the least horrible and less boring of the personality disorders.
>>516991591Maybe try taking testosterone. I read somehere that birth control can make BPD symptoms worse in women with the hormone changes. Maybe whatever tranny estrogen hrt you're doing is making you worse.
>>516991591BPD is extra aware of social cues and changes in the vibe. >offend me somehow usually in a very small wayIt's not your ego getting hurt, as some may believe. It's merely a red flag that the person is shady or not honest about their feelings towards you. BPD has fear of abandonment. You protect yourself from relationships that have a low chance of staying healthy and reciprocal. I don't see much wrong with it. Most people are hypocrites that make other around waste their time in pointless conversations and hang outs. You don't have to stay and be their +1 for when they don't want to be alone.
>>516999448>A: BPD/NPD mix or>B: pushed that far by a narcissistThat makes sense.My wife was basically made that way by her narcissistic family.Hell of a ride to tame that tiger.
>>516997365Based and demon pilled
>>516991591This person should unironically kill themself.
>>516989375I married one of these cunts and divorced it.Holy shit lads. Steer clear!
>>516989375kill yourself. you're a subhuman animal who can't control their base urges to ruin other people's lives
>>516989375Stop embracing and feeding your instability, stop using it as a crutch to excuse antisocial behavior.
>>516997365>You are allergic to the truth and yet that is the only thing that will ever set you free from your demon.True.My wife could not even really keep track of what she had told everyone was true.Until I demanded unconditional surrender on all fronts, nothing helped. That only maintained an unsteady status quo.It wasn't until we started studying the Bible as a family that she began to heal.Our marriage healed.We had arrived at mutual dislike and begrudging tolerance on our own, but it wasn't until God fixed us that we actually began to like one another.
>>517000334Who told you they were narcissistic? Her?
>>517000689They are my inlaws.I've met them.
My mom had BPD and I hated her completely. She was physically abusive when I was a kid to the point where she tried to strangle me.She found peace in palliative care when the vax gave her heart problems. I miss her even with all the trouble.If you need help please seek therapy and a psychologist/psychiatrist. BPD can make people aberrant and evil.
>>516989375BPD is one of those bullshit made up diseases that only women seem to get, right? Like Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia–I just call them being a lazy bitch.
>>517000334Did you go the usual "i can fix her" route, but ended up in the "spiritual awakening" aka "i can fix her by not trying to fix her" and accidently fixed myself route?I'm was on that ride
>>517000960>I'm was on that rideYou've got to hang on.There is light at the end of that tunnel.You can't let the tiger get loose in the middle of the ride.It will maul you.
>>517001047I'm already in the light bro. Like 90-95%. Point of no return.I let the tiger lose. So it didn't go after me, lol.I'm pretty much over her, but i expect her to be back at some point. Well, then she has to prove, she means it or it's bye bye again.
>>516989375My ex had BPD. She was in 3 mental institutions in less than a year. She was always bitching about her anxiety and wanted to be pampered. She was frequently suicidal and became erratic. She would never kill herself though because she loves herself way to much. Do you have any other diagnoses along with BPD
>>517001453>Well, then she has to prove, she means it or it's bye bye again.Remember, UNCONDITIONAL surrender.She has to agree to let you command her on even the smallest of details at any point in time for any reason.She will test you.NEVER give in.You'll screw up and do it a time or two, but then you'll know why NEVER is capitalized, and the tiger can begin to be tamed.Best of luck to you!
>>516993622As it was already pointed out, but you conveniently ignored, it indeed can be helped. It's not other people's problem to fix, it's your problem.
>>516989375If you are female and attractive, do the world a favor and become an hero. If not, consider antipsychotics. They can't make you any worse a human being.
>>517001676>UNCONDITIONAL surrender.>She has to agree to let you command her on even the smallest of details at any point in time for any reason.Lol. So change from one dysfunctional dynamic, to another dysfunctional dynamic. That sounds stupid.
>>517000960me too. Spiritual Awakening and the conclusion that it's not my problem and he needs to fix himself or seek help but needs to stop bothering me. but I guess he was narcisstic too.he was basically this guy from KIZ Los gehts or Böses Mädchen
>>516992897>you can screen for bpd by brain activityNo, you cannot. Correlation is not causation.
>>517001676He's right >>517002009----------->>517002080nice.it was pretty much the best thing that ever happened to me.
>>517002175There are differences in brain scans of people with BPD. Diagnosis isn't possible with only a brain scan though.
Read this in its entirety:https://armchairdeductions.wordpress.com/2018/09/16/chaos-and-elucidation-the-borderline-koan/
>>517002622There are also differences when you take a heat map of somebody who's lying vs. somebody who isn't lying. Does that mean body temperature is indicative of honesty? Or that any time somebody's body temperature is raised that means they're telling a lie? No, obviously not. Because correlation is not causation. Virtually ALL modern neuroscience is built on the fallacy of mistaking correlation for causation. Your brain is not the reason for your BPD. Your own judgements and values are the reason. There is no outside cause. It's just you. Not your brain or your body. You.
>>516989375Nothing you can do, what you need is your husband beating you into submission and polite subservience, but obviously he can't in current day and age, so you remain BPDemon.
What happens if you forgive and unconditionally love your BPD gf no matter the insane shit she does?
>>517000334>My wife was basically made that way by her narcissistic family.Hahaha, this guy is under the BPDemon spell.
>>516989375>but all I hear is how I’m a “demon”so you're borderline personality disorder or bipolar?That latter is treatable (it's not easy to find the right combination of meds though for a given person), the former just means you're a cunt. And not the sick kind.
>>517001676Terrible, awful advice. This is one of those utter retards who think BPDemons can be "fixed." They can't. This guy is just completely under his demon wife's spell. There is no hope for him whatsoever.
>>516993610>t. BPD whore
>>517003199Does not matter.BPD people are hardwired to make your life as shitty as possible, no matter how kind, caring, or considerate you may be. Your love will never be reciprocated.
>>516998048autism is the kryptonite of borderline personal disorder, because autists have hard time to tolerate illogical things
>>516989375stop being an insane cuntBPD doesn't exist, you're just a fucking bitch
>>517000856I'm sincerely sorry to hear that, anon. Sending good vibes to you.
>>516989375Start doing everything completely inverse of your norm until you feel better.
>>517003177>Your brain is not the reason for your BPDIt's the way the brain and nervous system develop around trauma. It's an adaptation.
>>516996135can you elaborate on your experience?
>>516989375You're just a faggot.
>>516989375Three step program:>Have problem>Don't care>Have no problemIt's one of the easiest three step programs in life, anon.
>>516989375>off topic thread with word "politically" peppered inGo elsewhere faggot
>>516994107>Don't ruminate in your head for twelve hours a day about how special you are.pff ngmimind over matter
>>517004099I am classic narc and I break BPDemons.I was unaware until my gf of 9 years an heroed. I feel as if I am in recovery, though, because I understand the gospel and know what I am. I have remorse.
>>516993358>They're just not good people. I enjoy love bombing BPD girls and then abandoning them after we have sex.
Bpd, depression, autism, ADHD is all fake. Its just your mind that rejects the matrix
>>516989375Nothing. There is a reason why so many psychiatrists refuse to treat people with BPD. People who suffer from BPD are a nightmare to deal with. Best of luck to you OP.
>>517005676gl, I hope you'll get more self awareI know a narcissist guy who's currently in jail for harassing his ex wife. And he was given many chances to correct himself. How dumb is that shit. Throwing away years of your life for bullshit. And I know for a fact he hasn't learned shit about himself.
>>516997948They are just terrified children wrapped up in spikes.
>>517003199She will trample you. Only alchemists can handle BPD girls on the fritz.
>>516989375I was ensnared by a BPD Demon. Literal 10/10 tomboy fashion magazine model, 6ft tall, perfect body. Also played vidya. We'd be solid for months and there'd be a self-inflicted blowout, usually alcohol related with bad social consequences every time. The day I knew for a fact I was with an incurable bpd mental case was when I finally told her she was bpd and her instant reaction was to look me in the eye with all seriousness and say "you're just gaslighting me into thinking I have bpd. You're the one with bpd and that's why you're doing this". Literally packed my shit and moved states 3 days later
>>516989375Use everything you can to stop that demon like religion, yoga (Kung fu kata Is cooler), philosophy
>>516989375Ignore normies, you are worth 1000x more than them.
>>516989375No, you dont. You have problems like everyone else, but unlike everyone else, you make your problems their problems. Then you make little euphemisms for your behavior like “unstable”. You mean rude, menacing, violent, more accurately. You are a bullshit person. There are many dealt a worse hand but they play it better because they choose to, while you admit having a lack of autonomy as a grown adult. Whats the solution? Isolate yourself or only expose yourself to people who deserve taking your shit, and leave the rest of us alone.
>>516989375You're either unstable or you're not. Your problem is lack of any kind of constructive empathy. How do you think people should respond to being pursued by someone who is both needy and at minimum an ongoing burden and at worst a potential threat?>but I did eat breakfast this morningCase closed.
>>516989375>Go back to Faggit, and cry with the faggots there.
>>516989375Men with this do exist and they can fix themselves, but they need to want to fix themselves more then they want love.If you want love more, you'll take self-destructive steps that you think lead to love.You have to like yourself enough to choose getting better, and you CAN do it.
>>517001676So the trick is to be a certain brand of performative male, gotcha. Hey anon, have you ever considered that you are the one being dommed from the bottom? Because thats exactly what you are describing. Dance, monkey.
>>517003199You need boundaries, that can't be overstepped. If you let her overstep them, you have no respect for yourself and you're going to have a bad time. They mirror you. You need to make clear in the nicest way, that you won't take shit. And if she needs shit in the relationship, she has to tell you and work together and not just react in the moment. You have master the art of being confident without being an asshole . And fake narcissistic confidence only lasts that long. It has to be genuine. You have to be perfectly fine to lose her, if she can't hold up your standards. But you have to teach her.You basically have to be her father and her daddy. Except she has total free will and can walk out anytime. And not be abusive in that role.
>>517003199You just sign up for another few months of mistreatment.There's no teaching them that they are lovable and can be loved.They expect to be mistreated. To a normal person, being treated better than you expect is joyful.To the BPD it's almost an insult. They have already internalised the idea that they are trash. You saying they're not just makes them want to prove you wrong.Everything they do is to eventually say "see, I fucking told you I was no good. Just leave like everybody else."You can try to get all Hollywood and say "I love you and I will never leave". But that's a YouTube commenters idea of how it works. You can't wake them up. You can't be the one who finally did X or Y they'd craved their whole life.If somebody is actively miserable living the same bad life they've always had, their aim is to be miserable.Any other animal adapts to their discomfort and just tries their best.Slaves don't spend all day saying "woe is me, I am a slave, it's unbearable" after about a week of slaving. But a BPD would. A BPD would say that as a free person. Their goal is to be miserable.
>>516991950>trannyStart NAC + black seed oil + oregano oil, antiparasitr combo. You can also try fenbendazole.
>>516989375Time. You will grow out of it. You will grow out of it sooner if you stop depending on therapists and on taking psychiatrist's drugs. You should also stop taking recreational drugs, probably. Definitely do not under ANY circumstances drink ANY alcohol.I can help you more but I need more info first. Your age and if you are a man or a woman?
>>517011594> You basically have to be her father and her daddy. Except she has total free will and can walk out anytime. And not be abusive in that role.>performative maleFoolish game. Even if you are “fine to lose her” its a waste of time and passion that distracts from and repels more worthy prospects.
>>516991831Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is garbage, you plebian. The only kind of talk therapy that produces cures, yes CURES, not just" treatment ", is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).It cures anything "psychological". This is not bullshit.Of course you need to back it up with proper nutrition and sleep.
>>516989375You will never have borderline and you will never be a woman.
>>517012478Somewhat true.Most of the time you have to end it.Most sories of BPDs who managed to fix themselves were, when you're long gone and they regret what they had. Because with propper standards, you were a good one and they usualy get shit ones. It's a bit tragic.
It's crazy that trannies pretend to have BPD because they think it is the girl version of being crazy and it makes them seem like a girl ol
>>516989375You shouldn’t worry about politics because you are too retarded
>>517013239Then why bother? Here is the only answer ITT. Life is too short for that.>>517009184
>>516989375>sufferers of BPDthe only people suffering from BPD are the ones that have to be around you
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>>517011683You are describing the American negro.
>>516990613>>516989781>>516989375Borderline personality disorder isn't realYou just need the shit smacked out of you for refusing to be held accountable for doing shitty thingsAnother anon pointed out that bod is literally just another name for narcissist, but they give e this have as the diagnosis because girls accept it more willingly because it sounds more like an excuse instead of just recognizing that they're just shitty people
>>517000856I was never physically abused either but my mom also has BPD and my dad is likely autistic (as am I). I basically didn’t develop a personality until my late teens because I existed solely as my mon’s emotional validation machine. Never had a lot of those milestones normies get so I’m just now getting on my feet in my late twenties. It’s been rough.
>>517001453they always come back. approaching two years with mine. she has"never wanted to talk to me again"multiple times, only for her to come back a week or so later as if nothing happened.i imagine she will stick around in perpetuity in between periods of ghosting
>>517019033That bitch is full of shit.
Bumping>concerned for a family memberI donno if the girl is lying about being diagnosed with borderline or if its the "hip new thing" and everyone needs a mental illness these days
>>517022618Problem is whether she's BPD or just faking it for street cred, they're both signs of mental illness
>>517017960They are shitty people, but it doesn't come from nowhere, it still has a cause, and of you get somebody who wants to get better, they can.Much like with incels, they need to want to get better, which requires rejecting whatever they are currently, which 99% won't do
>>516991591You're right, he is in Melbourne
>>516991740Get Courtney Love to arrange your murder you mean?
>>516989375By the power of jesus i compel you to crawl back to the depths of hell where you came from.
>>516989375The best thing is for you to be isolated as much as possible. The regular laws of decency and reciprocity should not apply to you. Forced sterilization is a must.
So much wisdom ITT. Good stuff but I will still tell OP to kill himself to end his made up problems
>>517000334Insane hubris, thinking he's tamed a tiger because it hasn't yet eaten him
>>516994591TRVKE
>>516989375you have to be beaten to shit to bring you back to your senses>>517017960this, all bpd girls are narcissists with zero accountability on whatever shit they do, they want the whole world to accommodate to them rather than just being stable
