Do any of you have avoidant personality disorder? What's it like?
>>77424974idk if i have it i avoid psychologists
>>77425000sounds pretty avoidant to me, anon
>>77424974I do. It sucks if you're the type that cares about making friends. Good thing I don't.
>>77425000kek>>77424974Yeah I avoid people like they're dangerous monsters. I emerge outside at night just to avoid them
is this suddenly the mentally ill peoples board? what's with the uptick of posts like this
>>77424974no i have anxiety>Anxiety is a feeling of uneasiness and worry, usually generalized and unfocused as an overreaction to a situation that is only subjectively seen as menacing.but i'm not afraid of anything. i wish i could change reality
>>77425175>is this suddenly the mentally ill peoples board? what's with the uptick of posts like thiswow fucking newfag. This board used to be all mentally ill people
>>77424974>avoidant personality disorderi dislike psychology because they label all abnormal behavior as a disorder. calling being avoidant a disorder implies that its pathological, which is only the case if you desire being non-avoidant but cant. i avoid people as a choice because i dont like other people and prefer my own company, its not a disorder
>>77425156Are there any people and/or situations you're more comfortable with? What's the reason behind your fear of people?
>>77425215I'm very autistic and had too many bad experiences with people, I always sweat when I'm outside or around people. Nothing to be gained from interacting with people, I'm an alien to them.
>>77425204I agree psychology is shit, but there's a difference between normal avoidance and the severity of the a avoidance in avoidant personality disorder, which causes distress and/or dysfunction which is why it's called a disorder
>>77424974Well, it's something I'd rather not have.I often end up ghosting and abandoning people.I can deal with surface level conversation just fine, but if I open up my inner feelings with anyone I almost always regret it and end up wanting to hide.I crave attachments but simultaneously I destroy every opportunity to make one.
>>77425194I know. There is an uptick of these posts though
>>77425369mental illness is based
>>77424974i hate dealing xith other people it's so hard it's so hard it's so hard it's so much easier to run away to nature it's the only thing worth it it doesn't judge me ever
>>77425260I was, and still am to an extent, like this. I passively shed relationships regardless of whether or not I necessarily want to. I feel no intrinsic desire to contact or interact with people, so I'm reliant on everyone else to hold up the relationship. But even then, I still have this deep-seated longing for connection that rears its head occasionally, and I'll crave attention and attachment, only to make myself feel embarrassed and vulnerable, ultimately retreating back to solitude once again. In more recent times, I've learned to expect this behavior and to quell it before it gets the better of me.
>>77425204>i avoid people as a choice because i dont like other people and prefer my own companyThat's not what it's describing. It's a condition where someone actively avoids interacting with people out of fear of being rejected and inferiority complex, whether they desire to socialize or not.
>>77424974>What's it like?avoiding people because no one should be subjected to being near you, both physically and emotionally
>>77424974There are no clear distinctions between personality disorders because there are comorbidities. Everyone is individual. Personality disorders are defined in the American DSM5. The rest of the world uses the ICD which doesn't describe personality disorders but more distinct definitions of mental illness symptoms. I don't believe in personality disorders. It's a combination of nature and nurture.
>>77424974Kind of? How I act in real life and online are polar opposites. I am absolutely horrified of people in real life and only leave my home to buy groceries. I sometimes hide in the bathroom to stay away from my family when my anxiety grows. But in sharp contrast I can talk to people online just fine. Not only on anonymous platforms even mainstream ones like twitter. I can hold conversations just fine and never feel the urge to run away. Sometimes I even get bothered if someone doesn't respond. It's always bothered me. Am I avoidant or not? If I'm so afraid of people how come I spend most of my time online talking to random people? Part of is that I have an inferiority complex where the thought "who the fuck do you think you are to [action]" anytime I think of doing/saying anything I would consider rude. I suck up to people all the time, never asserting myself.
I match the criteria but I'm just diagnosed with major depression and agoraphobia. Only saw a doctor once who prescribed meds (bupropion, actually helps) and referred me to therapy which was okay since the therapist was nice but the therapist moved onto some other job so that was cut off real fast and since I already have the meds I likely won't be contacting a doctor again and will just self medicate until I die or something.Diagnoses don't really matter though. I know I'm fucked up and mentally ill and having a label put on me doesn't change anything. We don't understand mental illnesses well enough and especially not for personality disorders for it to be useful for a lot of people. Add in that avpd is an under researched one anyway.
>>77425490That sounds like the average post on r/avpd
>>77425728...is that good or bad? I don't use Reddit
>>77424974it sucks and i csn never have a normal relationship
>>77424974I hate it so much online I want to talk with people really badly but I can't, I always do dumb shit like indirectly asking people if they spoke about me and if they did what they spoke about me then they think I'm a weirdo and I disappear, irl I don't consider others as actual human beings so they don't really bother me that much
>>77424974rules basically mean nothing to mei hate talking to people more than necessary - heavily favor short and concisei hate my stupid fucking ape brain when it starts telling me "YOU GOTTA SOCIALIZE BRO!!!"
>>77424974I have AvPD but beware that I also have NPD, so my experience might be different from majority of AvPD people, I used to be afraid of even posting online because any insult directed at me would destroy my grandiose self, my grandiose state that I so much enjoy. Nowadays I became way more antagonistic and antisocial, if someone insults me I insult back and devalue them in my mind so their insults don't sting as much anymore, you could say I am way less avoidant but way more narcissistic now.
