Would you rather deal with a partner who is into it, experienced with it, but tends to be actually abusive occasionally?Or have a partner who's not into it, has no experience with it, but doesn't mind roleplaying it and leaning into it?
>>78267624Does this fictional partner eat a lot and enjoy sitting on my face?
>>78267651Would that make a difference in your decision?In this example, all traits between the two people are the same except for the differences I described.
>>78267624the first one for sure, but I'm a moid
>>78267722Interesting, any reason for it?
>>78267680>Would that make a difference in your decision?Yes.I feel like while these are aspects of sexual compatibility they do not give enough information to judge which is better. If you like to top a submissive is better, but if you bottom you want someone dominating. Nutshell: partner has to be a bottom and not sexually limited by past trauma. If they are then probably not worth my time.
>>78267748Well, it's not a question about if that person is good enough, just which of the two traits is preferable.Also, this was more aimed at people who are submissive. Guess I could have spelled that out.
>>78267728being into it vs not into is the biggest thing, . I don't actually care about experience since I think you can build that up pretty quickly (and I'm not very experienced myself).I would be ok with (and possibly even prefer/enjoy) them being genuinely abusive because a big part of what attracts me to femdom is catharsis. I want a woman to hurt me and make me cry and be unironically mean to me, being attacked for things that I'm actually insecure about or slapping me in the middle of an argument out of real frustration or making me feel bad because of weird emotional manipulation tactics, having sex when I really don't want to, these are all things that I want to actually happen to me
>>78267799Hmm I see, and you aren't worried that after it being hot initially this will become an unsustainable relationship after a while due to it?
>>78267815I don't think it would be a sustainable relationship at all, self destruction is the pointmy ideal relationship kinda goes like this: I find a chick that hates men but doesn't really have an outlet for it. I'm a man that hates himself and I don't have an outlet for it. she ties me up and beats me and does whatever nasty shit she wants, I cry and act all pathetic, and we keep doing that until we both get all those bad feelings out. then the relationship either ends or turns into something normal or because I've been stockholm syndromed I don't even realize that I'm unhappy and it continues for as long as she wants
>>78267926Huh, Brutal.I doubt that a relationship like that ever would result in anything stable, but good luck anyway.
>>78267624This OP is fucking fifteen years of age bee tee double you
>>78267998I wish q.q
>>78267799>>78267926Woah. Are you my clone?originally???
>>78267624I'd rather avoid an abusive partner all together and find someone with strong healthy boundaries, lest she brings out the abusive side from me.
>>78268044I might be bro. I feel like how I feel is probably pretty common, but I've never really seen anyone ever be able to express it online before. all the femdom porn you see feels so centered around the manI also spend a lot of time lurking places with a lot of women, I constantly read about women complaining about men and how much they hate them and stuff that I've become really self conscious about certain things
>>78268102If you are the type of person who cares deeply about women issues and how they feel about you, wouldn't you be exactly the type their complaints shouldn't be about?
