this girl ive been sort've friends with for a few years never disagrees with me. i could say holocaust women it doesn't matter. she also will like whatever i like, sometimes immediately sometimes more subtly by mentioning how much she loves it out of the blue if I mentioned it before. its honestly really annoying
look into bpd symptoms
>>79998616she's simping. either fuck her or stop talking to heryou won't do either though, because you're too much of a gutless faggot
>>79998616Women mirror whatever the people around them believe. The most important thing to a woman is being part of a group and maintaining social cohesion. This is why the opinions of women literally do not matter. As long as the men around them believe something they will bend to believe it too. As far as actions go on the other hand, women tend to act purely out of instinct, and that is genetically hardwired. That's why it's extremely common for a woman to say one thing while doing the opposite, and they don't see it as a contradiction.
>>79998616she's attracted to you
>>79998625honestly dont want to seems like an excuse for bitches to be insane>>79998636she was into me a lot a year or so ago but i shrugged her off repeatedly until she gave up. she says she's over me and its not like that anymore but the agreeing continues. i am gutless though>>79998655I don't think she actually likes the things I do yah at least not everything she claims she does but it gets old. people should be original.>>79998665least attractive thing a woman can do is mimic me
>>79998736Why shrug her off? People sometimes just want to be agreeable.
>>79998616woe is you that you met a woman who is actually nice to you. give me her socials instead.
>>79998616My ex girlfriend has BPD too it's over
>>79998616>>79998736It's mirroring and people do it subconsciously if they like them. Even if she doesn't like you romantically anymore, she still likes you a lot as a person. She will actually like those things if you engage in them with her and encourage it
>>79998940shrugged off her romantic advances desu>>79998953ive told her she should seek out better friends but she doesnt listen>>79998960is the BPD what made you leave?>>79998970ive never wanted to take up anyones interests
>>79998993She sounds like someone actually worth dating, why shrug that off
>>79998616Just stick your dick into her already.
>>79998993>ive never wanted to take up anyones interestsHave you never liked anyone? It's what people do naturally.
>>79998616>>79998736why are you annoyed by someone wanting to share interests with you?? people can be original while also having an open mind for new things.
>>79998736what does count as attractive to you then
>>79998616Women will commonly copy the interests of people they're attracted to. Ever seen a girl who was into cars? It's because she dated an automotive freak. Seen a girl big into video games? Because her boyfriend is a big gamer. Women's interests are mostly superficial and a reflection of the men in their lives.
>>79998993if youve never wanted to take up even a friends interests then youre probably autistic
>>79999012because i dont really want a girlfriend>>79999034i guess not? i wouldnt like something just because i like the person unless it needs like both of us maybe?>>79999055because it seems extremely forced>>79999082i dont know but not this desu. maybe confidence in your own interests?>>79999111artificial and blackpilling honestly
>>79999158i dont think everything is autism desu
>>79999211>i guess not? i wouldnt like something just because i like the person unless it needs like both of us maybe?Yeah sure, like a multiplayer game then. Trying Stardew Valley with someone because they like it, and you don't. Then it turns out you both like it. People can do the same with music, with topics on events (because they have no opinion and agree with yours) etc. What you're describing is someone that trusts you and values your input. All the music I like is because someone else showed it to me, once, and I found it agreeable and then expanded on it from there. We're a composite of all the most impactful people in our lives.
>>79999211and what if their interests dont appeal to you like? do you engage in her interests at all mate
>>79999211it's not forced though that's what friends are?? unless they're contrarian sneeds
>>79999211I'll take her then, thank you for being gay
idk but that's a cute konata(?) post more pictures
>>79999111incel take, plenty of girls are into shit because they have an actual passion in the topic
>>79998616women are non confrontational if she doesnt agree she wont say to your face>>79999223its autism
>>79998616what are the interests she says that she likes? if you're the same age you two probably overlap shitloads of interests. everyone is in the same spheres the same circles looking at the same pinterest boards following the same artists and watching the same youtube videos
>>79999268finding something agreeable and eventually liking it is different then this. im not that impactful i just interact often the bare minimum>>79999277she has good music taste but thats really the only thing that feels like genuinely shared. she doesnt really mention a lot of her own interests outside of music >>79999286i feel like if i did this to a male friend they would hang me and rightfully so>>79999289she wont leave me for some reason sorry >>79999298izmi_ni on twt
>>79999381okay but do you like ask what their interests are m8? and follow the convo like any games they're playing lately? or are they always just talking to you and trying to keep the convo flowing by discussing your interests
>>79999381tyty for twt, saved
>>79999344ive only ever been called autistic online>>79999362anything from architecture, art, to dumb conversation topics like relationship dynamics or politics. clothing even both male and female. food. either matches me or agrees completely
>>79999381>finding something agreeable and eventually liking it is different then this. im not that impactful i just interact often the bare minimumI think you underestimate how impactful you are if they're someone who used to romantically like you (and probably still does) in sparking their curiosity. If you do the bare minimum then how do you know they're not also developing other takes in parallel?
>>79999381half the shit me and my other male friends are into was started with a passing mention and a "check this out"
>>79999381She sounds cute. Let me talk to her instead of you, faggot.
>>79999409i mean no not really thats fair. i dont really ask her much but she insists on talking often so it probably is mostly me when talking material subjects. when its tilted toward her usually its her complaining about something or woeing about life
>>79998616>people who browse this board can't identify baitembarrassing
>>79999410np>>79999422i find it weird honestly that even liking someone romantically makes you copy their interests. i dont know if theyre not organically coming up with their own interests no but shes a girl and im a boy so sometimes the interests seem rather silly for a girl to stumble into>>79999428i dont feel like its that innocent with her
>>79999454right im sure if you asked back she probably has 10 other interests equally passionate about that she doesn't talk with you about? i mean if youve never expressed being keen into them then why? im not going to tell my book friends about my massive gaming addiction and i dont tell my gaming friends about my dumb music binges
>>79999484>i find it weird honestly that even liking someone romantically makes you copy their interestsMirroring is the hallmark of romantic interest. Their passion is organic and genuine, and it comes from encouragement from their feelings. They think it's already a good topic because someone they trust in has that belief. This is like how bitches will hit on married men because some other woman has already validated him as being worth it.
>>79999418yah if youre the same age then your takes are all formed by social media cookie cutter because you all see the same shit do you know how many posters here seem like carbon copies?
>>79999444get in line, i called dibs first. tell us more about her
>>79998616Sounds like she likey likey, good for you anon! Now go give her a smoochie
>>79999486then maybe im just shallow and dont ask. it still seems silly to like everything i do though.>>79999494this hallmark item is gross desu. i like her way less when she does it. i dont like the worshipping and idealising. blindness bc you want someone
>>79999506shes 3 years younger and the girls ive met irl her age would be her polar opposites but she just magically aligns with me? nah
>>79999573>this hallmark item is gross desuIt sounds like you don't like her at all already. Why do you talk, then? It's not worshipping or idealizing, it's just being open minded because she obviously likes you, past or present. When I like someone I'll pay more heed to their recommendations, but that doesn't mean I worship them. If they do something egregious it will give me pause, but I'll be more malleable on things I'm ambivalent about.
ego on this lad
>>79999573yah you sound pretty shallow and antisocial m8
>>79998616>"Why do women *insert trait both genders do*"Absolute retards. >Inb4 men don't do this. They do. My ex copied everything about me, even my music taste and how I talk
>>79999601talking is pretty easy usually so i just do? ive stopped talking in the past but she always reconnects. i dont think i hate her i just dont really like when im shown some special affection it ruins just being friendly. >>79999609i dont force her to talk to me..
>>79999484>shes a girl and im a boy so sometimes the interests seem rather silly for a girl to stumble intoppl are into all kinds of shit these days especially with vtubers. boys are into girly shit and girls are into boy shit. try get her to play a map game like viccy3 and youll find theres a limit
>>79999632>i just dont really like when im shown some special affection it ruins just being friendly. How do you know she isn't like this with other people..? Some people are chameleons, that doesn't make their interests inorganic it just means they're someone who reflects others around them easily.
>>79999632force her to talk to me since youre too autistic to realise the golden goose you have
OP makes a post in 5 years wondering why they have no friends anymore
>>79999638she'd probably play a map game if i told her to. or said im obsessed with it. i guess she just likes me thats what youre all telling me so ive got to ghost her. >>79999647never met a person like that i dont know>>79999656they all mimic everyone is saying!!
>>79999660i have a few male friends online that i never seem to be remotely vexed by. shes unique
>>79999727>i guess she just likes me thats what youre all telling me so ive got to ghost her. do one thing right at least and tell her directly you dont want to be friends anymore
>>79999727Don't know many people, do you?
>>79999750She's unique by being someone actually interested in your dumb ass rather than being flippant and disinterested
>>79999757yah fair>>79999767am i supposed to? do all of you get out a lot? >>79999780why is it my fault she likes me. she could be normal and go after someone who will like her and her tactics.
>>79999836Genuinely autistic. Tactics? It's called being a human fucking being.
>>79999836>am i supposed to? do all of you get out a lot?Touch (figurative) grass and talk to more people online. Half this board despite being edgy cunts half the time will usually be open and friendly if you're good friends, which you usually become after knowing someone for years
>>79999836good to not be gutless when it counts
>>79999511Damn and OP is STILL being a faggot
>>79999511THIS tell us about her and give me her contact details
>>79999849not autistic! just not into these romance games. >>79999873feel like ive met a lot of people online though only a handful known for years. >>79999881im still going to butcher it. >>79999901shes clingy and not beating the bpd allegations or im not idk. shes really quite kind to her credit. a shame really. im scared to say much. seems bad karma.
>>79999727This is sad to read. Why remove someone from your life if they're harmless by being friendly. Does this ruin your life so badly?
>>79999973Scared to say much on an anonymous forum.. lol. Karma isn't real. Sign me up for her, tell us moar, luv me clingy girls
>>79999973>not autistic! just not into these romance games. It's not a game. It's a human expressing genuine human connection with you, retard. You're likely the bpd and/or avoidant one.
>>79999977because im a dick? it doesnt ruin my life at all but im afraid its ruining hers. she seems to like me and i dont like her like that. im not going to change so its best to just kinda run away from her
>>80000052I thought this too, typical avoidant behaviour, getting mad at someone who's getting too close when all they have is love and good attention and you just push them away and state that he'll want to ghost her. Speaking about her as if she's just some annoyance and has absolutely no empathy whatsoever, seems to be irritated by anything she does. Typical unempathetic unable to understand anybody else but himself ego fueled bpd guy
>>80000076Unless she says its ruining her life why project that onto her?
>>79999973Nobody cares, drop her contact so she can get nicer people to talk to (like me)
>>80000076You don't seem to like her at all full stop regardless of romantic or friendly. You have an inability to understand someone who just wants to be around you because she thinks you're such a cool person. What's so wrong about wanting to share interests with someone you like it gives you more to talk about and friends are made by liking the same interests and hobbies this is literally normal. Maybe have a conversation with her like a normal person instead of posting about how annoying it is to have a girl think you're awesome.om 4chan on r9k dude
>>80000076know what would actually ruin her life? being so mentally ill that you get so afraid of ruining her life that you ruin her life proper by abandoning a friend unprovoked
>>80000076From everything said she sounds normal I think you're the one with problems. So yeah I would avoid her so she can find someone who is healthy and capable of giving and receiving affection without such paranoia and judgement instead.
This thread proves that women only care for abusechads who treat them like shit. What a world.
>>80000140Oh but you're such a delightful wonderful nice human being instead, right
>>80000153No I'm turbo blackpilled and a complete asshole to women now.
>>80000166Has being an awful person who's aggressive to.women worked out in the dating scene yet ? If they like being treated like shit? And don't talk about appearance, do you think this autist on r9k is a 10/10 chad be for real
>>79999973>im scared to say much. seems bad karma.but you talk about ghosting her. butter us up at least and tell us how you met and what else she's like and how someone here can reach her
>>79998655This blackpilled me on dating all non-autistic women, and maybe even autistic women too. I can never be honest or trust anyone whoAnd any relationship with a woman who I can't be truly honest with, is a relationship that's only good for sex. Putting effort into seducing a double-think woman, for the only reward from it to be sex, is the kind of thing that makes you a total faggot and a slave to sex. And I don't want kids either.When doing a conversational deep dive with my own sister, she confided in me that she will not screen her thoughts for contradictions and sometimes even ALLOW known contradictions to exist in her thought patterns. i described to her, that when ever you have a seeming contradiction I try to make it more specific so "a and not a" becomes "a under circumstances b, and not a under circumstances c, where b and c don't intersect". She doesn't do math herself, so I had to explain B and C as different "bubbles" that were separate from each other. Her reaction to this? "that sounds really stressful to have to think about all of the time. My way of thinking is sort of like if you let the bubbles become air" i.e. she can FREELY believe a and not a, in the SAME circumstance at the SAME time, for a VARIETY of different times! she is literally having instinctual known contradictions in her system at many points in her day!!Truth and logic for a woman, is literally groupthink and doublespeak. I don't mean this in the overused sense political people throw around at their opponents, I mean in the literal definition of a term. > " to hold simultaneously two opinions which cancelled out, knowing them to be contradictory and believing in both of them, to use logic against logic, to repudiate morality while laying claim to it... ** that was the ultimate subtlety: consciously to induce unconsciousness, and then, once again, to become unconscious of the act of hypnosis you had just performed **
>>80000187Schizo rant
>>80000187You're a faggot autist who doesn't understand concepts like "reading the room" and how people will not always be completely transparent even in 1:1 situations for the purposes of not upsetting people or confronting them. Insufferable to be around, this is why they all nod their head with you.
>>80000093it cant be right to just endlessly attach to me when i dont reciprocate.>>80000117ive never felt like ive hated her we've exchanged gifts at holidays and birthdays. i just get bothered with the mimicking.i guess a lot of things i find annoying. i dont think its right to i just do. >>80000123i have abandoned her before but she just found me again. just need to tell her like anon recommended. >>80000125yah. i agree. if she'll detach.
>>80000201Or maybe she doesn't care if you don't reciprocate and enjoys the bond you have? She sought you out so seems content with how things are.
>>80000201yeah, you're the bpd one and you're splitting on her.
>>79998940what happens when someone is "agreeable", and comes into contact, at various periods, with more dominant/assertive/desirable males who believe CONTRADICTING things? the agreeable person will naturally conform herself to CONTRADICTING things depending on who she is around at the time. and then the principle of explosion happens. You end up with a totally empty vacuous sponge-for-a-brain who will become a totally different person if they ever break up with you. Worse than a child who would be similarly easily swain, because at least a child has the capacity and even the desire to mature. Age regressors deserve a special place in supersatanevilhell666.
>>80000235Take your meds skitz
Motherless behavior, really.
>>80000201She likes YOU as a person, clearly, it's not about how you reciprocate. Ignoring her isn't going to make her stop liking you, she'll probably just be worried and thinking why you seem disinterested and be hoping to get you to be interested again because she clearly values you as a friend as a person and wants to keep the bond you either have or did have, it's not easy to just cut off your feelings for someone because they don't act like they like you back. And you don't have to outwardly loathe and despise her to just dislike her, you just seem like you have no interest in conversation with her at all, if her presence is annoying then you don't like her, if you are fine with her never being in your life again, then I think it's safe to say you don't really care. Do you realise that you genuinely sound like you have some.sort of attachment issues because all the behaviour you describe is genuinely normal. You seem like you'd prefer it if she had nothing in common with you and just seemed disinterested in you back. It's not even clingy. You don't know real clingy. You just have someone who appreciates you but you just seem like an ungrateful person.
>>80000235What the fuck are you even talking about you just brought up a bunch of shit that was never mentioned I'd say you're schizo but you posted fucking sonic.exe so I'm assuming you're doing it on purpose
>>80000212i kinda care though. like in her shoes i would be quite bothered. i dont think shes content shes asked for more or even irl and i usually just shut it down vaguely. >>80000225i have to look up all these terms mate. i dont think im bpd. im not angry. idk if this is a defensive mechanism it just seems proper. im just hurting her.
>>80000193yes, yes, I came off super edgy on this post, but isn't the site one of the FEW place where you're supposed to be able to do this without getting banned off sites and getting fluoride stared?I guess it's maybe one step above reddit or discord where you'd get banned for insulting "le precious womxn" on a fundamental level, but blankface stares are, to be paw-nest, a little discouraging :/if not here, where am I going to find people who actually read my stuff and don't reflexively judge me and disengage?
>>80000274But you're not her, and you're not in her shoes. Wanting to do more doesn't mean she's going to kill herself because you said no.
>>80000274No it means that how you're feeling isn't normal. It's not normal to want to push people away from you and keep vaguely hinting at not wanting to be around and ghosting her and abandoning her and being annoyed at all the little things she does but still complains about her being the weird person who's bothering you.It's genuinely something wrong with youIf it's not bpd it's avoidant attachment or you got something where you literally unable to be empathetic. You don't actually care, you realise you're hurting her but you are really nonchalant about it and will continue to treat her like this. If you care about her, stop being such a faggot? Or have a proper conversation with her?
>>80000274you are quiet bpd
>>80000280This is one of the few websites on the internet where we tell you that you're a gay autist and judge you for saying retarded shit. Want a hug box, fuck off back to r/incels.
>>80000280Dude you're schizo nobody is looking at you. You're not going to get banned. We read what you said and you can say what you said it's just retarded lol. You're blackpilled on dating and women because you explained to your sister a and a can exist at once and you're not really a three thinker b and c and I'm a male with logic and women can just think ehagever they want!I'm sorry but you sound ridiculous. You have one example. And it was only.loosely connected to the reply. Human beings are full of contradictions anyway but it's not unable to be distanced from and it doesn't even fucking matter like it really isn't that serious dude..if THAT out of everything after talking to your sister about how she can believe two things at once made you blackpilled you're genuinely pathetic I don't know what to tell you.
>>80000280Say anything and you'll be told to kill yourself and you're a faggot. It's not exactly accepting. Most people don't care what you have to say. This place is full of the same related stuff over and over
>>80000197I know what "reading the room" is, and how people will lie by omission or by making vague statements when they want to be Agreeable:tm:. This is why I could never have a meaningful romantic or platonic relationship with a conflict-averse person, because I think of them as fundamentally liars and people-pleasers at heart due to their own spinelessness. I think it was wrong and gay when I mentioned the principle of explosion, yeah, because the agreeable girl-dog owned by her boyfriend, is (if she is loyal) probably internally disagreeing with other contradictory-to-her-boyfriend males she is talking to even when she is people-pleasing them. But the problem with having your woman be an agreeable dog, is that the #1 reason for conflict aversion is not being confident that your own ideas would actually stand up in a conflict. This is a trait that in my experience, makes people very bad at reasoning and communicating about their true beliefs to themselves and to others.
>>80000274anon if you think you are hurting her then speak to her directly about it. have a proper conversation about boundaries and what level you want the friendship to be at. we don't have all the context here or all your history but if you really do care, then it's something you need to discuss rather than avoid. you'll only hurt more and make things worse otherwise if you do ghost, they'll spend forever wondering if they didn't do things right. if you're annoyed by them, then that's just how you feel -- tell them that too. communicate.
>>80000256she shouldnt like me though. ignoring is wrong yah so i should probably say something. im sorry to her that its one sided but what am i supposed to do? tell me the pill that makes me like all this and id take it. i dont think i can help being annoyed anymore then she can being affectionate. conversation doesnt interest me super often but i still dont think i hate her. i mean i think it would feel kinda weird ending it because weve talked back n forth for so long. i get everyone thinks somethings wrong with me and maybe shes normal i cant say. shes the only girl ive spoken to at length and about various things. ive never dated or anything. i do feel like id get along with a woman who doesnt show much affection. i am ungrateful and undeserving yes.
>>80000341It's not spinelessness, it's just not worth dealing with your bullshit.
What exactly is going on in this thread?
>>80000361Read the thread retard it isn't hard
>>80000361put your glasses on dipshit
>>80000350Can I ask how old you are? Are you an adult?
>>80000350>tell me the pill that makes me like all this and id take it.Vafidemstat
>>80000368It's too much to read pls spoonfeed
>>80000385bpd male so horrified by a woman being nice to him that he considers ghosting her because he can't comprehend humans being nice to each other and to save her nose he will spite her face
>>80000344wouldnt it be really fucked up to tell her that she annoys me specifically because she likes me desu. theres a lot of history i kinda spaced on but it only makes telling her that she annoys me far worse. i mean i care i think. i want the least violent outcome. i wish i could not be annoyed. "you annoy me" im not evil.
>>80000390Why are BPD moids like this? Genuinely don't understand OP's issue
>>80000385Nigga just read the op post. Guy has girl who likes him. Girl shares his interests because she's interested in him. Guy is annoyed by her doing this and wanting to talk with him a lot. Guy is a weird avoidant freak and we're telling him why he's being an asshole
>>8000038124. shes 21. >>80000383is it just an ssri desu
>>80000391i mean, you can sugar coat it. say that you find it to be something that makes you weirded out or not want to engage. but you should still communicate that you feel pushed away by it so she understands, and can either course correct or mutually agree to something. i doubt she will want a violent outcome either and would be open to compromise if you communicated.
>>80000419Why di you keep rejecting me
>>80000402>Guy is annoyed by her doing thisWhy??
>>80000423i really think you have me confused for someone else. pinterest lowercase posters like me are made on an assembly line
>>80000441Wanna be friends then or no
>>80000419ill text her tomorrow then and somehow sugar coat it but shes been kinda depressed and sick lately and this is going to seem especially cruel. but okay. everyone already says im evil so y not
>>80000452i'm going to bed and don't want to hijack this guy's thread, post a way to contact you and we can go from there ig, i'll check it when i wake>>80000470the angelic thing is to wait until they're better but depression doesn't have an expiry date so... i guess just add more spoonfuls of sugar
>I hate having women agree with meYou're a faggot please kill yourself.
>>80000430Because he thinks it's too forced and that he finds it weird she's "copying everything I like" or something like that. He admitted he'd rather her have different interests and was less nice and affectionate. He's just a bpdemon
>>80000494it doesn't expire because i think its partially tied to me. too much sugars bound to be bad. thanks though.im going to sleep thanks to anons who gave 2 cents. honestly didn't expect much from this board lately. not sure if they'll be any decent outcome.
Why are you guys entertaining this narcy faggot
>>80000644Update us how it goes anon
Least lonely incel on r9k. None of you can ever whine again.
