>>80082955
>why are hookups a thing? i genuinely feel disgusted by anyone who does them.. just wait for a fucking bf/gf you degenerate. it's not that hard
lil timmy mad cuz he don't get none lol

>>80082970
dude, why fuck women who are not your gf, having a gf is so nice, you can fuck her whenever you want andd have someone to pass the time. hookups are just for retards

>>80082970
Being a hoe for the rest of yo life kinda wild baby girl..

If hook-ups are bad then get a gf? Problem solved right?

>>80082955
After the norms around sexual conduct got broken by the sexual revolution, a race to the bottom started

Why would CHAD stand with a girl that doesn't put out if others do? Why wouldn't a girl put out if she will lose CHAD if she doesn't?

>>80082955

Because I don't want to commit to someone and introduce them to friends and family if the sex is terrible. If the sex is enjoyable then I'll spend time with you outside of sex. If that's enjoyable I'll start being seen with you in public. If you haven't had some psychotic meltdown after 3 months we can make it official. If I can trust you with finances we can move in together. If I can live with you for a year without going nuts I will propose. One year later we will marry.

That's the whole process. You're just confirming that you've got a viable lifelong partnership, starting from the thing that's quickest to verify. (Physical attraction and sexual compatibility)

>>80083034
no but nigga, this is only an american/canadian thing. i'm american, born and race. and the other countries don't do this shit, they date like normal people, and they still get married, have children, etc. and apart from that, isn't it more sweet if you date someone instead of fucking and dumping? i think we americans are indeed as stupid as they say we are and our society is a fucking joke, the whole incel movement is a result of these hookups, incels don't want a gf, no. thay want to fuck with multiple woman and the dump them... and we're even more fucked when the women are the ones accepting this too, fucking retarded

"muh sexual compatibility"
(This ignores the fact that you can grow together and make sacrifices/compromises if you love each other because love genuinely doesn't exist any more)

Like the anon said, its a race to the bottom. We've hit it, now we're going into negatives.

>>80082955
>what is wrong with you people
whoa whoa I'm not having sex at all much less hookups

>>80083064

>this is only an american/canadian thing

Bitch, I bet you don't even have a passport. The Dutch treat sex so casually that they give out taxpayer funded vouchers to disabled people so they can see prostitutes. In France paternity tests are outlawed because too many guys were getting cucked and divorcing their wives over it. Japan and Korea have even worse problems with marriage and birth rates. Everywhere else is somehow even worse than the US and Canada. Either more slutty, repressed to the point of celibacy, or chock full of arranged marriages.

You're putting way too much of your heart into it. I laid out the steps pretty clearly. If you think someone is cool, give them some sex. Hopefully they think you're cool too and you keep having sex. The rest of the relationship falls into place later. Sometimes you'll misjudge someone's character. That's ok, try to do better next time.

>>80083098

Love is a sexual process. If it wasn't then you could fall in love with the homies, and it wouldn't be gay to kiss them. If the sexual process goes smoothly, so does the attachment and pair bonding process.

>>80083157

Side note, the people who complain about being fucked and chucked generally have really nasty personalities. They're getting filtered at phase 2. If you were enjoyable to spend time with, I would want to spend time with you. You have to be a woman that's worth spending time with.

Just keep rolling dice and giving good sex to cool people until you find someone you gel with. It's what I did, and I've been with her for 18 years now.

>>80083195
so retarded lmao.. listen i'm a virgin i want a virgin girl, simple as that. just cause you and your wife are whores doesn't mean everyone needs to, heck the majority of us don't need to do something so retarded. fuck off with your stupid shit. you're together cause you're poor, uncultured white trash

talking will do just fine

>>80083208

Suit yourself, champ. Just letting you know that it's a losing strategy. I was just like you until I met a girl who wanted my dick. I gave it to her, because I thought she was cool and deserved it. Turns out I misread how cool she was, and she left me. Sucked for a bit, went back out, found someone else who was cool. Made a better judgement call the second time, and married her.

>poor, uncultured white trash

The opposite. Turns out splitting expenses with a trustworthy partner allows you to save a ton of cash. I'm cultured enough to know that you can't rely on tradition in a society that has abandoned it. Furthermore, promiscuity isn't a white trash thing, it's an urbanite bugman thing. Keep losing, stay free. Cool girls deserve good sex.

>>80083239
NTA but it's not like yours is a winning strategy either. In such a chaotic scenario settling down is keked as only whores are available for marriage. The only reasonable strategies are the one of the chad pump 'n dumper and of the volcel.

>>80083271

My strategy is the Chad pump and dump. If they're open to sex, I give them sex. If I see no future or don't like being around them, I stop seeing them. I got it on the second try. Maybe lucky, maybe skilled. Whose to say. If she hadn't earned my commitment through her personality and personal contribution to the relationship she would have been written off. Even Chad eventually finds a woman that's worth more than the sex she can provide.

Fuck the cool girls that deserve good sex. If there's one that you think is worth the risk of commitment, take the risk. Really basic shit. Just know that it's not reasonable to expect virginity. Cry if you want, it is what it is. Everyone gets a couple mulligans. You're leaving viable potential on the table by withholding your dick.

>hookups are the sole reason why relationships in america never fucking work out

This is a delusion btw. People aren't going "hmm should I get into a hookup today, or should I get into a long-term relationship?" People who are having lots of casual sex are also very capable of being in a relationship, they just don't want one. If you got rid of every hookup and nobody ever had a hookup again, you wouldn't suddenly have a lovey-dovey society, you would just have less sex.

>>80083512
kek no your strategy is more alike a male roastie, get it out of your system until you are ready to settle down

But I don't think one misses any potential by "witholding their dicks", promiscuous men end up tied to whores to one way or another, get STDs and all sorts of unecessary drama and end up in disgrace many a time because of such things

>>80083558

I've only ever been with two women. I married the second. Fucked her on the second date, didn't make it official until 6 months. It shouldn't take you long to figure out which ones will be viable. If you're having to cycle through lots of women to find a viable one that's a skill issue on your part.

There was no "Getting it out of my system". If I saw potential in a woman, I would talk to them and try to get some time alone with them. I learned from my first relationship that you're just expected to fuck well before you do any of the cutesy public shit these days. Quite frankly, if she's not wanting to fuck you right away she isn't really attracted to you anyway. You're wasting your time pursuing someone who isn't into you.

> I don't think one misses any potential

Because you're the authority here. I was 19 when I found the person I'd commit for life to. My model yields results. Chumps that try to take it slow make them bored. They get left on read. Adapt or die.

>>80082955
This resonates with me because I am absolutely addicted to sex. I'm 36 now, but starting at the age of 21, I had three long-term relationships and with all of them we were fucking around five times a day. So three different girlfriends and I probably had sex with all them a total of around $6,000 or $7,000 times. Please excuse the dollar signs, talk to text has been terrible ever since 2016. Anyway, I don't trust girls with a high body count. Sure I'm addicted to sex, but I only do it when I am in love with that person and in a committed relationship. These girls are out there doing tens and tens and tens and tens and even hundreds of dudes, a bunch of one time deals, and they absolutely wreck their internal bonding system. I've been so fed up with it that ever since December 15th of 2015, I have not fucked anyone. I'm so sick of relationships. So I've been fucking sex dolls and they last about 6 months before they're utterly destroyed because I fucked them so much. I just wish girls could have the same attitude about it because I have been on so many First Dates since then, and I liked each and every one of them and each and every one of them also liked me because we're all just fun people! But then I find out that they sleep around a lot, and it's terrible. How come I can't find somebody with a high libido that doesn't abuse their internal bonding mechanisms in their brain? Because I want something to last forever. I'm not willing to be with somebody who is wrecked that system and can no longer be loyal to someone. And I'm pretty strict with myself in the range of Ages that I am willing to date. No more than 6 years younger than me. So that is a girl that is 30 to 35 years old, as I am 36 and won't date somebody that's the same age older. And all these girls are haggard. It is amazing how bad these girls look after they hit 28 or 29 years old. Just not willing to do it!

>>80083034
You are the reason society sucks.

>>80083161
No, you bloody fool. You don't fall in love with the homies because you are heterosexual and attracted to FEMALES.
You can WORK on the bedroom kinks/limits/preferences TOGETHER with a FEMALE. You BUILD compatibility, not just find it out of thin fucking air by trying to stick your dick into 30 vaginas as if its window shopping. Or vice versa and hopping on 300 dicks.

Long lasting marriages formed in the old days when 15 year old girls got married to 30 year old men. Did they test sexual compatility before that? No. They did that thing that every woman fears: Raise them into a proper housewife