Its weird being a toy collector and knowing minimalist. The two uses of space are so apposed. I have a friend that is probably a minimalist and sometimes she kind of goes off the rails. Like I gave the kids socks, shirts and each a monster high doll. She's and the children have been really greatful about it, sending me pictures of the kids unrapping the gifts and a little hand written note from the kids about what they like about the dolls. Today however, she made the off handed comment to not send clothes next year as they had to throw away some clothes to make room. And to not give them an ornament next year as they had to throw away some to make room. Guys, there home looks like a magazine catalog page. Or like something from a cooking show. They dont own anything. There are a dozen other examples of obsessive behavior like vacuuming every day. Folding clothes two or three times. Alphabetizing all closets. etc. I really can't imagine living like that. At the very least I'd donated some clothes if my kids had too many.
>>11298009Marie Kondo wasn't preaching a self-help religion, but people will latch onto any semblance of religion and run with it.
>>11298009I'm like this but maybe not to the same extreme. for clothing it's more an autism thing though where I only wear the same dress and I'm really sensitive to certain materials. but for toys and stuff idk, just curate what you want. the mother probably has some trauma or neurotic thing. I love ocd it's so fucking fun to deal with
>>11298009My desire for space and room is something im also obsessed with at some point. General stuff, I still keep what I think I need, but then I also try not over equip with clothes or such. I once had a Pokemon game collection and sold that immediately after hacking my 3DS, and I hardly played them again anyway but it felt good letting go. At least once a year, I dump my toy drawers and start purging. But to be that minimalist? I couldn't stand letting go of something I might need. Are they rich too?
>>11299320I try to do this too. I sold a lot of my shit and I only hold on to a bit of. still debating weather I want to sell my sealed Pokemon games or keep them. my game collection isn't even that huge desu outside of my pokemon
>>11299325Keep them, im selling /welp trying to/ some stuff and those pokemon people are kinda irritating. I could do pretty well selling my games but i dont want to yet. I do want to spend time reflecting on toy collecting and how it affects me and my space. Ienjoy it but then again, i get upset when it looks like clutter yknow. And ofcourse dropping $20+ a piece adds up quick.
>>11299475fair. I have nearly every Pokemon game up to the 3ds ones in box that I bought when I was a kid and a collector. it doesn't take up that much room (2 little boxes in my closet) but it's like idk it only sort of beings me job. it's not like I need the money either so I'm not in any rush to sell
I follow two basic rules when it comes to preventing hoarding.1. The item needs to be regularly used and/or bring me some level of joy. If it fulfills none of those criteria, toss it.2. If it's neither of those but I still get the creeping feeling that I will need it someday, it needs to be properly stored. And by "properly stored" I mean a shelf/drawer that does not look ugly and cluttered when looked at or opened and I need to be able to remember where it is.Some people might recoil at #2 but it's genuine OCD-levels of stress that you're inflicting on yourself to hyper focus on how much space each and every item takes up. I get this vibe from people that look down on toys or physical video games or other such things for "taking up space" when really it's just a case of another man's junk being another man's treasure.
I'm the OCD guy and I agree that toy-collecting and minimalism are pretty diametrically opposed. For me, it's to the point where I'm selling all of my toys except for a few of the childhood favorites that I'm attached to. The toys looked cluttered on the shelf and I had no where else to put them. It was either keep my collection incomplete forever in that space or get rid of it and I chose the latter. I try to sell anything that I'm not once a year and I've done so ever since my old home was destroyed and I lost most of my belongings. It honestly felt good to unburden myself of them, I guess it awakened my minimalism/OCD.
>>11298009i feel youi try and keep only one shelf, i've had to sell my whole sonic collection just to maintain the one shelf rule
>>11299325>still debating weather I want to sell my sealed Pokemon games or keep them.You buy games and never open them? i don't understand that mentality. I sold mine with their respective cases I was able to keep initially because not just of emulation and homebrew, but any old services like general online and Dream World were long dead
>>11300389I bought them when I was a kid. something made me think it would be a good idea to keep them sealed
>>11299320>Are they rich too?no, the opposite really. My friend has had panic attacks over money and has made really dumb financial decisions around money, like buying a house in city at 480k when they could have lived on the edge of the city for 180k. Her decision made no sense as she works from home and her husband can not stay employeed, nor wants to.
>>11299754>get this vibe from people that look down on toys or physical video games or other such things for "taking up space" when really it's just a case of another man's junk being another man's treasure.I get the feeling some people become overwhelmed by physical objects and some do not. "taking up space" is kind of a stupid thing to worry about. Everything takes up space. We do not worry about the trees, the dirt, roads, houses, etc. Our yards are packed with grass and it does not concern us. Why does a lot of objects in a home, in itself, bother people? I'm not talking about hoarding, but when people say "taking up space" it feels like emptiness in itself is a virtue to them, and I suspect their brains attempt to analyze everything in a human made space and become over worked if the room has too many objects.
I keep meaning to write a short manifesto on the best way to manage material objects that do not perform a necessary task. In my opinion, hoarders ask themselves a very simple question, consciously or unconsciously: "Has this ever been worth money or emotions to anyone?" If the answer is yes, they keep it. They do not move past that. Either because of age, or trauma, or not being taught better. That is not very practical for a long list of reasons. Just because something was worth money in the past does not mean it is worth something now. There is also the issue of how liquid it is as an asset. And just because something is worth money does not mean you should be the keeper of it. The emotional connection is more abstract and harder to argue with.Better questions would be:If this was to be destroyed, would I buy another?If I was to die today, would I want anyone I love to have this?Does this item help me connect with anyone that I care about?If I had children, would I want them to have this? Do I daydream about this item or the show or brand related to it?Can I use this item for an art project that allows me to express myself?If the answers to these questions are no, there is a good chance we own the item because it is "neat" or we wished to save it from the garbage. It is not loved by us, but we connect with it enough to save it from the landfill. The items we say no to, if they are worth less than $20 or $30, should probably be gifted to others or donated. I always felt Marie Kondo's method was too abstract and really just giving tired mom's the excuse they need to put their families things in the garbage. An easy out vs cleaning their homes. My method provides a clear list and promotes helping others with unwanted items. An easy example would be a Bionicle lego set you found in your closet. If you never think about it, sell it or donate it so someone that loves it can have it. If you love Bionicle, keep it.
I moved semi-recently and most of my stuff is still in storage. It was an interesting to realize that much of it is stuff I haven’t thought about since I put it away. There are things that I definitely do want to get out, but they are all behind so much other stuff. I should sell a lot of it because I don’t have as much room in my new place, and even at my old place, much of it was still in storage. So many things were just put in a box as soon as they were delivered. Now I am putting serious thought into each order, and I have canceled many preorders. I’m still getting some things, but “it looks cool” cannot be the only reason to get something.
>>11299493Ive been working for years at getting one game from every generation and except for b/w 2 i have and ive spent too much time playing these games over the years. These are my games, my mons, my adventures. Im sure you understand my point. But i did sell my rescue team games and the spin offs, i got like 250 for that lot. Ive got 35 + messages on a sealed burger king poke ball, so the market is there if you do sell.
>>11300772whoa you didn't like bw2? I think they're the best games in the series
>>11298009my dad is a hoarder so after growing up in that any form of clutter in my space really stresses me out. things have to be in a certain place.
>>11300781Funny how this cycles. My mom is probably a hoarder and it comes from trauma of her mother letting her younger cousins have access to her room while she was at school and they destroyed all her belongings. Like she came home at her things were in the yard and broken. It caused her this deep sense of betrayal and now she won't let go of anything. My sister on the other hand owns nothing and waste lots of money on trips and food. She'd probably be the sort to trash her kids things if she became and adult.Just cycle backs and forth, one causing trauma to the other.
The thought of some of these old items going to someone who will appreciate them was a decent motivator after actually taking that first step to selling. Getting back a bit of money and getting some space to use was nice of course but passing some stuff on to someone else in person who was happy to get them was oddly satisfying.
>>11301256Yes, that is usally the best outcome. Helping someone else find a treasure is great. A toy that you think is cool might be someone else's favorite.
