can i make friends living in a hostel for 4 weeks?
>>2730528Of courseYou can make friends anywhere. You can make friends in a homeless encampment if you want. Knock yourself out
This hostel in Thailand is non-social, like all the others I've stayed at in this country. One place in a Malaysian Chinatown, this negro-passing young Sri Lankan guy had to be very persistent in his efforts to start a conversation before those of us in the common area at last put down our devices, grabbed a beer, and engaged with each other. If you are easily dissuaded by a cold response, you might be friendless in a hostel in 2024. I stayed several more days at that place in Malacca and never saw another group convo between guests. Between laptop dorkers and passers-thru who just want to lay in bed all day, it's tough to find openings. Perhaps it is a low-value hostel problem; those always-full places in hip backpacker neighborhoods undoubtedly have a lot more social energy. Good luck not getting booted from your bunk by a prior reservation, however.
>>2730528some hostels attract better people than others. if it's a mixed age group it tends to work better as older people are more mature and sociable and know how to get the conversation going. i would avoid party hostels.
>>2730596Name of hostel in Malacca?
>>2730596i literally don't understand how anyone can relax or go to sleep when they share a room with strangers. im in an airbnb with my own room with a lock on the door and i still feel my blood pressure go up when i hear someone moving around in the house. its not from fear either, its from anger that there's some random faggot making noise in the same living space as me.
>>2731098Ola HostelI don't recommend it as it is very cramped and other options are cheaper, like the Sleep Here Hostel Melaka which specifically caters to laptop users. Less centrally located, but it's still near the riverwalk.>>2731598fear and anger are very intertwined. lots of street dogs bark and growl when they are scared.sounds like vanlife in remote places might be more up your alleyit's very comfy to sleep when you're secluded deep in the forest down a track nobody uses, or miles out in the scrubland
>>2731609I'm not asking you to train to be a ninja for 10 years, just be mindful of your actions instead of a drunk ape stumbling through life. It takes next to no effort. Maybe it's just easy for me, because my grandpa saw some shit in WW2, and wasn't afraid to tell me to think, make a choice, then execute. Not, I'm going to dig through my bag for something at a unreasonable hour, pack it all up, forget something, dig through it again 5 minutes later, and repeat a few times. Same with going in and out constantly, and not knowing how to shut a door quietly, like it's my first day on Earth. My grandpa would have kicked my ass if I went in and out a door a couple of times within 10 minutes, let alone if I slammed it. You're all fucking little brats.
>>2731598You have that rare combination of anxiety and anger issues in one person.
>>2731899No, I've just gotten to know lots people all over the world, and know that they're all psychopaths that wear mask and shouldn't be trusted, he said anonymously to an anonymous faggot.
What do you poors get out of traveling like hobos? Walking around with backpacks and sleeping on hostels? I've travelled all my life and never even considered a nasty hostel.
>>2730528You can certainly make acquaintances. People you'll do stuff with maybe once or twice, but as for actual friends probably not.>>2731598you need a therapist
>>2733440I don't want to ride in other people's conveyances and thereby subject myself to their rules and demands. Walking is independent, I am moving with my possessions under my own power. >>2731903Trust, whatever. Constantly worrying about the simple fact that anyone can do anything at any time is fucking stupid. Deal with shit on the spot when it arises. >>2731615Hostels are not for high IQ...neither are the tourist destinations they serve.
>>2730599100% this. The best experiences have easily been when most people are in the 25-35 range.The location is a huge factor, too. Hostels on the 'party circuit' in huge European cities are shite. Brit/Aus fags getting smashed every night, bringing attitude, and having no respect.Sarajevo, Kutaisi, Tirana, etc = far more potential to meet interesting people who know what's what. Met a guy in Sarajevo who was walking from Germany to Greece and was fucking stocked full of drugs. Hung around with him and some trust fund girl who had an unlimited budget as her parents wanted to get her away from her crackhead bf (her itinerary was something retarded like flying Japan-Bolivia-Bosnia-Thailand on a whim).You should do the outdoors activities to develop friends, too. Don't just hang around the bar. Sharing experiences outside = developing connections. Barfags are temporary chitchat.
>>2733440The best journeys have a mix of experiences, imo.Private room in a hostel, being social, doing shit like grills, boat parties and trips to canyons or whatever. Followed by a nice hotel in the next city where you eat upmarket, followed by a beach view apartment with a balcony where you cook up your own shit with local ingredients.I'm a bit autistic in never wanting to fly back from the same airport I fly in to, as well. Always need to be moving forward, and doing something new. Can't stand the idea of lying around in a resort for 2 weeks.
Given hostels are pretty transitory...probably not.I did hostels in a few cities in Catalunya for 2 weeks and only talked to a few people and not a single girl who wasn't staying there with a bf, although I only stayed at hostels for an overnight and was too tired to talk most of the time after walking for 5-6 hours straight the morning prior to check-in. All they are are cheap accommodations for foreigners who don't want to spend 100 euros for a shitty hotel room. Surprisingly they're a lot cleaner than I expected, but the one I stayed at in Barca was so fucking stuffy at night I couldn't sleep at all.
How to get into a high energy, highly sociable state of mind?I am a low energy fag most of the time, work (and mostly work related forced contact with coworkers) really drains my energy battery. This has been like that since school, were I was forced to spend the better part of my waking hours with people I have no common interests with. Spending time with friends is great though. And the few instances where I was well rested, and in a good and high energy mood, I could literally feel how new people liked to have me around. But I'm definitely almost always an introverted sperg, overthinking shit, and meeting new people gets my anxiety up. How do I combat that shit? Aside from forcing myself into social situations to learn that it's easy, I'm gonna do that next year from summer onwards
>>2734056if you have to ask this question the only way is drugs
>>2734056Do open mic stand up comedy for a year. You will need to get boozed up before you go on stage, but don't get drunk. After a year your social anxiety will be reduced by 99%.
>>2734056it's not so much energy but a positive attitude, empathy (interest in others) and sense of humor. energy you cannot change much. we are wired the way we are. if a cup of coffee isn't going to do it, anything stronger than that will just make you weird. it's easy to tell people who are on drugs like coke or something and it's not attractive.
>>2734149this nigga gets ityou don't have to be loud and boisterous to be social. sometimes i'm like that, if the mood takes me, but usually not really, and that's fine. let people talk about themselves (without it feeling like you're interviewing them) and feel your way into social situations gently if you're not feeling in top formi'm not massively extroverted by any means and i've managed to find cool people to hang out with for a few days in almost every hostel i've stayed in2733440if i'm travelling solo then i want to meet people to hang out with while i'm there, which is far, far easier in a hostel than a hotel. the ideal is a private room in a hostel with a nice communal area but that's not always possible
>>2734161>>2733440 (You)
>>2730528I mean you don’t really have a choice
>>2734056healthmaxx
>>2730528I've never been in a hostel before but what do you do when you have to fart while in bed?
>>2733986>Met a guy in SarajevoWas it Franz Ferdinand Hostel by any chance? I stayed there as well and had a pretty similar experience.
