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I'm moving overseas next year in February so that I can 'start a new life', it'll be the first time I moving abroad in my life (permanently anyway).

The main reason is because my family thinks it will be best for me overall and I can probably help my family out when I've settled in with money.
Everyone believes life will be better for me in the country due to better infrastructure and better job opportunities (I know how that sounds but my country isn't getting better any time soon).

Some Context:
>24 years old
>Finished college
>Spent most of this year looking for work with very little luck
>Spent some time working online before being 'dismissed', it wasn't that good of a job but it was my first real experience so whatever
>My dad offered to help me move overseas so I can get a career started in a first world country
>I have a hard time taking care of myself and being responsible, so it'll be a big adjustment
>My relationship with my dad is okay mostly, family drama makes things weird but I manage fine
>My germaphobia and weird habits make it hard for me to be normal around people
>Worried that I'll do something stupid and end up getting kicked out by my dad, then end up homeless in another country (paranoid I know but it's hard to shake off)

Any advice for how I can start behaving less like a manchild and learn how to take care of myself?
How can I protect myself so I don't end up worse off than I am in my current country?

If you need any further context I can provide it, sorry for rambling a bit, I haven't been sleeping to well lately.
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What's up with constant DN/moving abroad threads? Is it Drumpf?
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>>2733182
>Is it Drumpf?

OP is clearly from some 3rd world country so I doubt he's moving away from America

>inb4 the USA is a 3rd world country
Don't bother I'm not American either
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I'll give you some advice. It's only scary for the first few weeks. Then it's exciting and fun for a few months. Then it just kind of feels like normal. The most important thing you can do is learn the language. Are you moving to US or UK? You have to study the language HARD. That's the most important part of integrating in to any new country.

>I have a hard time taking care of myself and being responsible, so it'll be a big adjustment
The most important part of taking care of yourself is just keeping clean and tidy. If you have the discipline to keep the kitchen and bathroom and bedroom clean every day then you'll be able to figure everything else out. Dirtiness is the number one reason roommates fight, even though your roommate will be your dad. Just do your chores! Always put your chores first.

If you're worried about not getting along with your dad you should try to spend more time with him. Ask him to go to the park or eat dinner with him as much as you can.

this is a /soc/ thread quit being a pussy OP and just go for it
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>>2733188
>I'll give you some advice. It's only scary for the first few weeks. Then it's exciting and fun for a few months. Then it just kind of feels like normal. The most important thing you can do is learn the language. Are you moving to US or UK? You have to study the language HARD. That's the most important part of integrating in to any new country.
I am moving from South Africa to Australia, English is my first language so I think communication will be an easy adjustment.
I visited Aus once and I managed to communicate fine.

>The most important part of taking care of yourself is just keeping clean and tidy. If you have the discipline to keep the kitchen and bathroom and bedroom clean every day then you'll be able to figure everything else out. Dirtiness is the number one reason roommates fight, even though your roommate will be your dad. Just do your chores! Always put your chores first.
Understood, can I schedule so that I clean up 'properly' every Friday and Sunday though?
Maybe do the same sort of schedule for laundry as well?

>If you're worried about not getting along with your dad you should try to spend more time with him. Ask him to go to the park or eat dinner with him as much as you can.
Yeah I can try at least, he doesn't get much time with his work and all but I'll see what I can do.

>this is a /soc/ thread quit being a pussy OP and just go for it
Fair enough I guess.

Thank you for the advice so far.
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>>2733234
you should tidy up every day at least, put all your clothes and dishes and furniture back where it belongs. make sure every item in the house has a "home" to go to, and put it back there every day. for sweeping and vacuuming and scrubbing down the kitchen and bathroom you should do that once a week.
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>>2733311
>you should tidy up every day at least, put all your clothes and dishes and furniture back where it belongs. make sure every item in the house has a "home" to go to, and put it back there every day.
Okay great, that all makes sense.
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i believe in you op
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>>2733397
Thank you, I appreciate that as well.
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>>2733181
i moved to germany when i was 21 of my own volition for a better life without speaking german and 122 euros in my pocket. it was hard but great. stop being a pussy
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>>2733181
if you are a poor moving to a rich country, there will be a community of your people you can feel some relaxation around

if you are from a cool country, not everyone but plenty enough people will be happy to interact with a foreigner from one of the cool countries
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>>2733942
>if you are a poor moving to a rich country, there will be a community of your people you can feel some relaxation around
Yeah, that's definitely one of the things I am betting on.

>if you are from a cool country, not everyone but plenty enough people will be happy to interact with a foreigner from one of the cool countries
Eh, wouldn't say South Africa is cool but I don't think much baggage from here will be a problem to me if I keep my cool.

Thank you for the advice.
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>>2733181
>The main reason is because my family thinks it will be best for me
>My germaphobia and weird habits make it hard for me to be normal around people

what I infer from these two sentences is that you are an annoying weird fucker and your family doesn't want to deal with your shit any more, and wants you to leave and struggle in the real world a bit so you grow up and get over your dumbass pretend brain problems

this is a good idea, the challenges of settling into an entirely new lifestyle either make or break a personality, and in your case your personality can only break and then you will rebuild as something more functional

you're not nearly as retarded as you think you, what you are is coddled and tolerated -- people around you tolerated your awful, stupid, retard autism babyshit because they thought they had no choice

when you are out somewhere with nobody to pamper you and tell you its going to be okay, your brain will adapt

tl;dr leave your comfort zone to achieve personal growth
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>>2734067
>what I infer from these two sentences is that you are an annoying weird fucker and your family doesn't want to deal with your shit any more, and wants you to leave and struggle in the real world a bit so you grow up and get over your dumbass pretend brain problems
>this is a good idea, the challenges of settling into an entirely new lifestyle either make or break a personality, and in your case your personality can only break and then you will rebuild as something more functional
That was part of my reason for taking my dad up on the offer to go overseas with him.
I'm getting older, I may not have have much time to get my head straight before things start falling apart around me.
I don't think my family fully hates me though but I can agree I could've put much more effort to being well-adjusted in the past, I really want to be a normal person at the very least.

>you're not nearly as retarded as you think you, what you are is coddled and tolerated -- people around you tolerated your awful, stupid, retard autism babyshit because they thought they had no choice
All very true unfortunately but I am slowly starting to fix it.
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>>2733181
Are you Indian?
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>>2734470
No, Caucasian.
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>>2733181
OP is obviously a rape j٤٤t

Just cancel your ticket pardeep, we got enough of you mud goblins over here already.
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>>2734475
>OP is obviously a rape j٤٤t
What?
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>>2734475
>j٤٤t
i am not sure if should be more surprised at the fact that currynigger might be wordfiltered/banned now, or that you managed to include unicode in a 4chan post (which is supposedly impossible)
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>>2734475
no he's not, OP demonstrated the capability to self reflect and acknowledge that he isn't well

an shitty raperat is incapable of self reflection or acknowledging wrongdoing

you must understand that all indians view themselves as chad, and are angry and confused at a world which doesn't acknowledge it
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>>2734667
I dont know either this is a new one I think
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>>2733923
what did you do for work? i'm looking at montenegro or greece and feel like i'm stuck with either online jobs or tefl
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>>2734059
>>2734474
I think most people find South Africans cool anon. Most normalfags are enamored when a white person says they're from Africa and have an accent.
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>>2736215
I don't have that much of an accent anymore but it's a bit of a relief that being from Soufh Africa doesn't put people off at least.
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>>2733234
I really wouldn't worry about it too much. I'm a brit and know a ton of young saffers that moved here for work (even lived with one), and it's very common in Australia as well from what I've heard.
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>>2733181
>Any advice for how I can start behaving less like a manchild and learn how to take care of myself?
If you can't do it at home you can't do it abroad. You might not want to hear it but that's what it is

Enjoy this rollercoaster I've seen people go through this
>1-3 months have a blast at a new life
>3-6 start slowing down moving locations might help delay some of the boredom
>6-9 really start slowing down starting to revert to old habits again
>9-12 right back at old habits mostly pissing away days until your visa is up and forced to move

>How can I protect myself so I don't end up worse off than I am in my current country?
Grow as an individual

>If you need any further context I can provide it, sorry for rambling a bit, I haven't been sleeping to well lately.
Lmao enjoy a SHIT sleep schedule if moving abroad, sleeping and eating properly which effect your mood some of the most is often the hardest to combat. If you can't fix your life at home enjoy wasting tons of money and time trying to do it abroad.

T. working and living abroad for +8 years
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>>2737101
Okay, that's quite a relief.
Glad it's not too unusual.

I'm mainly just looking for a way to build up a more stable life style for me and my family if possible.

Working is the main goal for the next few years, if all goes well I can help pay for my siblings studies and possibly a new study route for myself in the future.

Hopefully I'm not being too ambitious.
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>>2733181
>Worried that I'll do something stupid and end up getting kicked out by my dad, then end up homeless in another country
I dare say that this is likely the actual plan and goal. Go become independent, then they can cut you off to stop supporting you.

Be careful NOT to send money home until you have saved enough to actual float yourself between job1 to job2. It's the first rule of independence.

I'd like to known what country you're moving to, and what your degree is in.
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>>2737372
>I'd like to known what country you're moving to, and what your degree is in

I'm moving to Australia, into a 'small mining town' as my dad described.
My degree is software development though I have a IT support certification as well.
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>>2737134
Well its good you're being as brutally honest as possible.
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>>2737134
Not OP but one thing I am looking forward to moving abroad is building a better social network. The US is fucking soulless with everyone CONSTANTLY having their social group broken up due to the culture wars. You will do nothing but wage for the powers that be and do drugs to cope with miserable existence.
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>>2737876
Has that kind of discussion really gotten that bad?
Is it just America?

I don't followup with news unless it's prices related so maybe I'm just ignorant.
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>>2737876
>Not OP but one thing I am looking forward to moving abroad is building a better social network
Good luck because most countries will see you as a nice paycheck or a way into the USA/out of their country.
>The US is fucking soulless with everyone CONSTANTLY having their social group broken up due to the culture wars
This only happens online, if you interact with people IRL it's not so bad. Sure my discord and social media looks like ass but if I go out and do things that's nothing more than an after thought touch grass.

>>2738114
If anon isn't baiting then he probably lives in a mega city near a college or some immigrant safe space. I moved from a top 5 big city to a decent sized midwest city as a roommate. Was able to drop any of the PC talk or stupid shit almost instantly, the faggot crew stay terminally online. If Anything my life abroad is filled with more ~liberal~ tourists I run into or people trying to pull a scam on me.

I do 6-8 months abroad and then return for 6-4 months, having travel stories to tell when I get back home and the niceness of the midwest really makes me debate if it's worth still chugging through 365 days abroad.
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>>2733181
What state or country are you moving to? If it's the USA then I'll give you tips on burger life
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FUCK OFF, WE ARE FULL.
>but saaar please my country is very poooor!
Brown people are so fucking irritating
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>>2738116
I see your point, I'll just stick to changing gears if politics ever come up.

Are there any reliable or practical new sources to look at?
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>>2738132
Op here.

>What state or country are you moving to?
I'm moving to Australia, South Australia in a small town.

>If it's the USA then I'll give you tips on burger life
You can give me the tips and advice anyway, I don't know how permanent my stay anywhere is going to be.
I need to learn how to build a life, so any advice will help me.
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look out for snakes and pushers I geuss.
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>>2739387
I meant to say spiders wtf.
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>>2738116
that all makes sense
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>>2736215
>Most normalfags are enamored when a white person says they're from Africa and have an accent
Huh, I never knew that.
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Good luck OP, as other anons mention one of the most important things is to be clean, there's nothing worse than to come back home to a shitty place that's filthy, it will really bring you down. My advice is, do one big thing per day, like washing dishes or making your bed is an everyday thing, but cleaning the bathroom, organizing the kitchen or laundry take up time so instead of going crazy with a "I'll do everything in a single day" schedule you keep your space tiddy enough that it doesn't drain you of your energy. Godspeed anon, you'll have a great time.
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yeah and did not specify what country so must be from 3rd world country lol .



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