I'm moving overseas next year in February so that I can 'start a new life', it'll be the first time I moving abroad in my life (permanently anyway).The main reason is because my family thinks it will be best for me overall and I can probably help my family out when I've settled in with money.Everyone believes life will be better for me in the country due to better infrastructure and better job opportunities (I know how that sounds but my country isn't getting better any time soon).Some Context:>24 years old>Finished college>Spent most of this year looking for work with very little luck>Spent some time working online before being 'dismissed', it wasn't that good of a job but it was my first real experience so whatever>My dad offered to help me move overseas so I can get a career started in a first world country>I have a hard time taking care of myself and being responsible, so it'll be a big adjustment>My relationship with my dad is okay mostly, family drama makes things weird but I manage fine>My germaphobia and weird habits make it hard for me to be normal around people>Worried that I'll do something stupid and end up getting kicked out by my dad, then end up homeless in another country (paranoid I know but it's hard to shake off)Any advice for how I can start behaving less like a manchild and learn how to take care of myself?How can I protect myself so I don't end up worse off than I am in my current country?If you need any further context I can provide it, sorry for rambling a bit, I haven't been sleeping to well lately.
What's up with constant DN/moving abroad threads? Is it Drumpf?
>>2733182>Is it Drumpf?OP is clearly from some 3rd world country so I doubt he's moving away from America>inb4 the USA is a 3rd world countryDon't bother I'm not American either
I'll give you some advice. It's only scary for the first few weeks. Then it's exciting and fun for a few months. Then it just kind of feels like normal. The most important thing you can do is learn the language. Are you moving to US or UK? You have to study the language HARD. That's the most important part of integrating in to any new country.>I have a hard time taking care of myself and being responsible, so it'll be a big adjustmentThe most important part of taking care of yourself is just keeping clean and tidy. If you have the discipline to keep the kitchen and bathroom and bedroom clean every day then you'll be able to figure everything else out. Dirtiness is the number one reason roommates fight, even though your roommate will be your dad. Just do your chores! Always put your chores first.If you're worried about not getting along with your dad you should try to spend more time with him. Ask him to go to the park or eat dinner with him as much as you can.this is a /soc/ thread quit being a pussy OP and just go for it
>>2733188>I'll give you some advice. It's only scary for the first few weeks. Then it's exciting and fun for a few months. Then it just kind of feels like normal. The most important thing you can do is learn the language. Are you moving to US or UK? You have to study the language HARD. That's the most important part of integrating in to any new country.I am moving from South Africa to Australia, English is my first language so I think communication will be an easy adjustment.I visited Aus once and I managed to communicate fine.>The most important part of taking care of yourself is just keeping clean and tidy. If you have the discipline to keep the kitchen and bathroom and bedroom clean every day then you'll be able to figure everything else out. Dirtiness is the number one reason roommates fight, even though your roommate will be your dad. Just do your chores! Always put your chores first.Understood, can I schedule so that I clean up 'properly' every Friday and Sunday though?Maybe do the same sort of schedule for laundry as well?>If you're worried about not getting along with your dad you should try to spend more time with him. Ask him to go to the park or eat dinner with him as much as you can.Yeah I can try at least, he doesn't get much time with his work and all but I'll see what I can do.>this is a /soc/ thread quit being a pussy OP and just go for itFair enough I guess.Thank you for the advice so far.
>>2733234you should tidy up every day at least, put all your clothes and dishes and furniture back where it belongs. make sure every item in the house has a "home" to go to, and put it back there every day. for sweeping and vacuuming and scrubbing down the kitchen and bathroom you should do that once a week.
>>2733311>you should tidy up every day at least, put all your clothes and dishes and furniture back where it belongs. make sure every item in the house has a "home" to go to, and put it back there every day. Okay great, that all makes sense.
i believe in you op
>>2733397Thank you, I appreciate that as well.
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>>2733181i moved to germany when i was 21 of my own volition for a better life without speaking german and 122 euros in my pocket. it was hard but great. stop being a pussy
>>2733181if you are a poor moving to a rich country, there will be a community of your people you can feel some relaxation aroundif you are from a cool country, not everyone but plenty enough people will be happy to interact with a foreigner from one of the cool countries
>>2733942>if you are a poor moving to a rich country, there will be a community of your people you can feel some relaxation aroundYeah, that's definitely one of the things I am betting on.>if you are from a cool country, not everyone but plenty enough people will be happy to interact with a foreigner from one of the cool countriesEh, wouldn't say South Africa is cool but I don't think much baggage from here will be a problem to me if I keep my cool.Thank you for the advice.
>>2733181>The main reason is because my family thinks it will be best for me>My germaphobia and weird habits make it hard for me to be normal around peoplewhat I infer from these two sentences is that you are an annoying weird fucker and your family doesn't want to deal with your shit any more, and wants you to leave and struggle in the real world a bit so you grow up and get over your dumbass pretend brain problems this is a good idea, the challenges of settling into an entirely new lifestyle either make or break a personality, and in your case your personality can only break and then you will rebuild as something more functionalyou're not nearly as retarded as you think you, what you are is coddled and tolerated -- people around you tolerated your awful, stupid, retard autism babyshit because they thought they had no choicewhen you are out somewhere with nobody to pamper you and tell you its going to be okay, your brain will adapttl;dr leave your comfort zone to achieve personal growth
>>2734067>what I infer from these two sentences is that you are an annoying weird fucker and your family doesn't want to deal with your shit any more, and wants you to leave and struggle in the real world a bit so you grow up and get over your dumbass pretend brain problems>this is a good idea, the challenges of settling into an entirely new lifestyle either make or break a personality, and in your case your personality can only break and then you will rebuild as something more functionalThat was part of my reason for taking my dad up on the offer to go overseas with him.I'm getting older, I may not have have much time to get my head straight before things start falling apart around me.I don't think my family fully hates me though but I can agree I could've put much more effort to being well-adjusted in the past, I really want to be a normal person at the very least.>you're not nearly as retarded as you think you, what you are is coddled and tolerated -- people around you tolerated your awful, stupid, retard autism babyshit because they thought they had no choiceAll very true unfortunately but I am slowly starting to fix it.
>>2733181Are you Indian?
>>2734470No, Caucasian.
>>2733181OP is obviously a rape j٤٤tJust cancel your ticket pardeep, we got enough of you mud goblins over here already.
>>2734475>OP is obviously a rape j٤٤tWhat?
>>2734475>j٤٤ti am not sure if should be more surprised at the fact that currynigger might be wordfiltered/banned now, or that you managed to include unicode in a 4chan post (which is supposedly impossible)
>>2734475no he's not, OP demonstrated the capability to self reflect and acknowledge that he isn't wellan shitty raperat is incapable of self reflection or acknowledging wrongdoing you must understand that all indians view themselves as chad, and are angry and confused at a world which doesn't acknowledge it
