What's up with constant DN/moving abroad threads? Is it Drumpf?

>>2733182
>Is it Drumpf?

OP is clearly from some 3rd world country so I doubt he's moving away from America

>inb4 the USA is a 3rd world country
Don't bother I'm not American either

I'll give you some advice. It's only scary for the first few weeks. Then it's exciting and fun for a few months. Then it just kind of feels like normal. The most important thing you can do is learn the language. Are you moving to US or UK? You have to study the language HARD. That's the most important part of integrating in to any new country.

>I have a hard time taking care of myself and being responsible, so it'll be a big adjustment
The most important part of taking care of yourself is just keeping clean and tidy. If you have the discipline to keep the kitchen and bathroom and bedroom clean every day then you'll be able to figure everything else out. Dirtiness is the number one reason roommates fight, even though your roommate will be your dad. Just do your chores! Always put your chores first.

If you're worried about not getting along with your dad you should try to spend more time with him. Ask him to go to the park or eat dinner with him as much as you can.

this is a /soc/ thread quit being a pussy OP and just go for it

>>2733188
>I'll give you some advice. It's only scary for the first few weeks. Then it's exciting and fun for a few months. Then it just kind of feels like normal. The most important thing you can do is learn the language. Are you moving to US or UK? You have to study the language HARD. That's the most important part of integrating in to any new country.
I am moving from South Africa to Australia, English is my first language so I think communication will be an easy adjustment.
I visited Aus once and I managed to communicate fine.

>The most important part of taking care of yourself is just keeping clean and tidy. If you have the discipline to keep the kitchen and bathroom and bedroom clean every day then you'll be able to figure everything else out. Dirtiness is the number one reason roommates fight, even though your roommate will be your dad. Just do your chores! Always put your chores first.
Understood, can I schedule so that I clean up 'properly' every Friday and Sunday though?
Maybe do the same sort of schedule for laundry as well?

>If you're worried about not getting along with your dad you should try to spend more time with him. Ask him to go to the park or eat dinner with him as much as you can.
Yeah I can try at least, he doesn't get much time with his work and all but I'll see what I can do.

>this is a /soc/ thread quit being a pussy OP and just go for it
Fair enough I guess.

Thank you for the advice so far.

>>2733234
you should tidy up every day at least, put all your clothes and dishes and furniture back where it belongs. make sure every item in the house has a "home" to go to, and put it back there every day. for sweeping and vacuuming and scrubbing down the kitchen and bathroom you should do that once a week.

>>2733311
>you should tidy up every day at least, put all your clothes and dishes and furniture back where it belongs. make sure every item in the house has a "home" to go to, and put it back there every day.
Okay great, that all makes sense.

i believe in you op

>>2733397
Thank you, I appreciate that as well.

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>>2733181
i moved to germany when i was 21 of my own volition for a better life without speaking german and 122 euros in my pocket. it was hard but great. stop being a pussy

>>2733181
if you are a poor moving to a rich country, there will be a community of your people you can feel some relaxation around

if you are from a cool country, not everyone but plenty enough people will be happy to interact with a foreigner from one of the cool countries

>>2733942
>if you are a poor moving to a rich country, there will be a community of your people you can feel some relaxation around
Yeah, that's definitely one of the things I am betting on.

>if you are from a cool country, not everyone but plenty enough people will be happy to interact with a foreigner from one of the cool countries
Eh, wouldn't say South Africa is cool but I don't think much baggage from here will be a problem to me if I keep my cool.

Thank you for the advice.

>>2733181
>The main reason is because my family thinks it will be best for me
>My germaphobia and weird habits make it hard for me to be normal around people

what I infer from these two sentences is that you are an annoying weird fucker and your family doesn't want to deal with your shit any more, and wants you to leave and struggle in the real world a bit so you grow up and get over your dumbass pretend brain problems

this is a good idea, the challenges of settling into an entirely new lifestyle either make or break a personality, and in your case your personality can only break and then you will rebuild as something more functional

you're not nearly as retarded as you think you, what you are is coddled and tolerated -- people around you tolerated your awful, stupid, retard autism babyshit because they thought they had no choice

when you are out somewhere with nobody to pamper you and tell you its going to be okay, your brain will adapt

tl;dr leave your comfort zone to achieve personal growth

>>2734067
>what I infer from these two sentences is that you are an annoying weird fucker and your family doesn't want to deal with your shit any more, and wants you to leave and struggle in the real world a bit so you grow up and get over your dumbass pretend brain problems
>this is a good idea, the challenges of settling into an entirely new lifestyle either make or break a personality, and in your case your personality can only break and then you will rebuild as something more functional
That was part of my reason for taking my dad up on the offer to go overseas with him.
I'm getting older, I may not have have much time to get my head straight before things start falling apart around me.
I don't think my family fully hates me though but I can agree I could've put much more effort to being well-adjusted in the past, I really want to be a normal person at the very least.

>you're not nearly as retarded as you think you, what you are is coddled and tolerated -- people around you tolerated your awful, stupid, retard autism babyshit because they thought they had no choice
All very true unfortunately but I am slowly starting to fix it.

>>2733181
Are you Indian?

>>2734470
No, Caucasian.

>>2733181
OP is obviously a rape j٤٤t

Just cancel your ticket pardeep, we got enough of you mud goblins over here already.

>>2734475
>OP is obviously a rape j٤٤t
What?

>>2734475
>j٤٤t
i am not sure if should be more surprised at the fact that currynigger might be wordfiltered/banned now, or that you managed to include unicode in a 4chan post (which is supposedly impossible)

>>2734475
no he's not, OP demonstrated the capability to self reflect and acknowledge that he isn't well

an shitty raperat is incapable of self reflection or acknowledging wrongdoing

you must understand that all indians view themselves as chad, and are angry and confused at a world which doesn't acknowledge it

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>>2734667
I dont know either this is a new one I think

>>2733923
what did you do for work? i'm looking at montenegro or greece and feel like i'm stuck with either online jobs or tefl

>>2734059
>>2734474
I think most people find South Africans cool anon. Most normalfags are enamored when a white person says they're from Africa and have an accent.

>>2736215
I don't have that much of an accent anymore but it's a bit of a relief that being from Soufh Africa doesn't put people off at least.

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>>2733234
I really wouldn't worry about it too much. I'm a brit and know a ton of young saffers that moved here for work (even lived with one), and it's very common in Australia as well from what I've heard.

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>>2733181
>Any advice for how I can start behaving less like a manchild and learn how to take care of myself?
If you can't do it at home you can't do it abroad. You might not want to hear it but that's what it is

Enjoy this rollercoaster I've seen people go through this
>1-3 months have a blast at a new life
>3-6 start slowing down moving locations might help delay some of the boredom
>6-9 really start slowing down starting to revert to old habits again
>9-12 right back at old habits mostly pissing away days until your visa is up and forced to move

>How can I protect myself so I don't end up worse off than I am in my current country?
Grow as an individual

>If you need any further context I can provide it, sorry for rambling a bit, I haven't been sleeping to well lately.
Lmao enjoy a SHIT sleep schedule if moving abroad, sleeping and eating properly which effect your mood some of the most is often the hardest to combat. If you can't fix your life at home enjoy wasting tons of money and time trying to do it abroad.

T. working and living abroad for +8 years

>>2737101
Okay, that's quite a relief.
Glad it's not too unusual.

I'm mainly just looking for a way to build up a more stable life style for me and my family if possible.

Working is the main goal for the next few years, if all goes well I can help pay for my siblings studies and possibly a new study route for myself in the future.

Hopefully I'm not being too ambitious.

>>2733181
>Worried that I'll do something stupid and end up getting kicked out by my dad, then end up homeless in another country
I dare say that this is likely the actual plan and goal. Go become independent, then they can cut you off to stop supporting you.

Be careful NOT to send money home until you have saved enough to actual float yourself between job1 to job2. It's the first rule of independence.

I'd like to known what country you're moving to, and what your degree is in.

>>2737372
>I'd like to known what country you're moving to, and what your degree is in

I'm moving to Australia, into a 'small mining town' as my dad described.
My degree is software development though I have a IT support certification as well.

>>2737134
Well its good you're being as brutally honest as possible.

>>2737134
Not OP but one thing I am looking forward to moving abroad is building a better social network. The US is fucking soulless with everyone CONSTANTLY having their social group broken up due to the culture wars. You will do nothing but wage for the powers that be and do drugs to cope with miserable existence.

>>2737876
Has that kind of discussion really gotten that bad?
Is it just America?

I don't followup with news unless it's prices related so maybe I'm just ignorant.

>>2737876
>Not OP but one thing I am looking forward to moving abroad is building a better social network
Good luck because most countries will see you as a nice paycheck or a way into the USA/out of their country.
>The US is fucking soulless with everyone CONSTANTLY having their social group broken up due to the culture wars
This only happens online, if you interact with people IRL it's not so bad. Sure my discord and social media looks like ass but if I go out and do things that's nothing more than an after thought touch grass.

>>2738114
If anon isn't baiting then he probably lives in a mega city near a college or some immigrant safe space. I moved from a top 5 big city to a decent sized midwest city as a roommate. Was able to drop any of the PC talk or stupid shit almost instantly, the faggot crew stay terminally online. If Anything my life abroad is filled with more ~liberal~ tourists I run into or people trying to pull a scam on me.

I do 6-8 months abroad and then return for 6-4 months, having travel stories to tell when I get back home and the niceness of the midwest really makes me debate if it's worth still chugging through 365 days abroad.

>>2733181
What state or country are you moving to? If it's the USA then I'll give you tips on burger life

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FUCK OFF, WE ARE FULL.
>but saaar please my country is very poooor!
Brown people are so fucking irritating

>>2738116
I see your point, I'll just stick to changing gears if politics ever come up.

Are there any reliable or practical new sources to look at?

>>2738132
Op here.

>What state or country are you moving to?
I'm moving to Australia, South Australia in a small town.

>If it's the USA then I'll give you tips on burger life
You can give me the tips and advice anyway, I don't know how permanent my stay anywhere is going to be.
I need to learn how to build a life, so any advice will help me.

look out for snakes and pushers I geuss.

>>2739387
I meant to say spiders wtf.

>>2738116
that all makes sense

>>2736215
>Most normalfags are enamored when a white person says they're from Africa and have an accent
Huh, I never knew that.

Good luck OP, as other anons mention one of the most important things is to be clean, there's nothing worse than to come back home to a shitty place that's filthy, it will really bring you down. My advice is, do one big thing per day, like washing dishes or making your bed is an everyday thing, but cleaning the bathroom, organizing the kitchen or laundry take up time so instead of going crazy with a "I'll do everything in a single day" schedule you keep your space tiddy enough that it doesn't drain you of your energy. Godspeed anon, you'll have a great time.

yeah and did not specify what country so must be from 3rd world country lol .

>>2740354
>Good luck OP, as other anons mention one of the most important things is to be clean, there's nothing worse than to come back home to a shitty place that's filthy, it will really bring you down
Yeah, that's pretty important to me personally too.

I plan to keep things neat most of the time but I wanna properly clean on Fridays and Sundays.
Would that be sensible?

>>2737383
>small mining town
I didn't know people still moved to Coober Pedy.

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>>2739388
Auto correct?

>>2741879
Yep, seems like it, annoying as hell too.

>>2740354
>Godspeed anon, you'll have a great time
Thank you, Anon.
I plan to make ghe most of this opportunity.

South Africans are one of the most common immigrant groups in Australia, you'll be alright.

>>2737134
A hard pill to swallow but I supposed it's necessary to be as frank as possible.

>>2742513
>South Africans are one of the most common immigrant groups in Australia, you'll be alright
Oh I see, that's actually a pretty big relief, makes things seem a little less uncommon.
Thanks.

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Lots of Affas in Perth. But I'm friends with one south african (white), you're often perceived as loud mouth and arrogant if you're a guy. Otherwise you guys are cool. Anyway, I've learned to enjoy Rooibos because of you guys. You'll be fine, Aussies like white people more than indians or muslims. Which aussie state?

>>2744312
>Lots of Affas in Perth. But I'm friends with one south african (white), you're often perceived as loud mouth and arrogant if you're a guy. Otherwise you guys are cool.
Haha that's a fair assessment, glad we're pretty alright to be around.
Did you meet your friend through work?

>Anyway, I've learned to enjoy Rooibos because of you guys
It's pretty good stuff.

>You'll be fine, Aussies like white people more than indians or muslims. Which aussie state?
South Australia.

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>>2744608
>Did you meet your friend through work?
Mutual friend. If you're white you'll be swamped with chinese girls easily since you're white and exotic in their eyes. Be mindful of social and financial climbers.
>South Australia.
Ah, the land of the churches. Unfortunately the city in SA is small, but businesses are growing and there's often a bit of Defense work there. If you're planning to be a glownigger you'll be questioned because south africans are often on the list of questionable countries (alongside with any of the sand box countries like Iraq). Otherwise it's a nice cozy state, great wineries if you like getting drunk. Being the professional racist I am, in the city avoid any of the petrol sniffing abbos and meth heads, but it's not as insane as the stories I've heard about South Africa myself. You'll find that Australia is a pretty relaxed country. There's none of that you'll get raped on the train bullshit here.
In terms of protection, I think it's a smart call to build a network of friends from work and/or maybe social clubs like sports. We tend to go crazy on the sports here but I'm not much of a sports person myself. But if the town you're staying at is in a small mining town, there's not much of a social life besides drinking, especially if you're going into mining. There's lots of work there that suits your IT degree - aim for something that deals with their ERP systems since the big major mining companies are pretty invested in data analytics and data automation. You'll have to wiggle your way up those ranks.
>How do you know this shit?
I've read a bunch of internal consulting business reports on work the company has completed for different mining companies. Another tip is to pirate the lonelyplanet books for SA and see if there's anything interesting to explore.
Also are white saffers ladies cute? introduce me to one anon.

>>2744657
>Mutual friend. If you're white you'll be swamped with chinese girls easily since you're white and exotic in their eyes. Be mindful of social and financial climbers

Understood, I'll keep an eye out for that kinda stuff.

>>2733181
Ok so your a white saffer moving to a small mining town in south australia correct? What town mate,? ive got contacts from heaps of mining towns ive been doing fifo for 20 years you heading to coober pedy? Lul

happy new year and all that I geuss

fuck off we're full

>>2733181
I’m a 22 year old certified autistic. I’ve lived in a small town in SA (South Australia, not South Africa) my whole life. I’ve met a few South Africans, you’re good people and fit in well in this country. South Australia is a safe state in a safe country, with some good people. Don't be too stressed, you’ll find your place here.

>Any advice for how I can start behaving less like a manchild and learn how to take care of myself?
I don’t know what your situation looks like in particular so I’ll keep it general. Be responsible, clean up after yourself, feed yourself, help your dad with chores. It helps to have a routine; for instance showering and brushing your teeth each morning, doing the dishes after dinner, or doing laundry every weekend. You are never too busy to look after yourself and your home. If you have the small things sorted out it makes the harder things in life more bearable.

Also, like >>2744657 said, steer clear of abbos. Depending on which “small mining town” you’re moving to, you might encounter a few of them or none at all. Don’t give them money, don’t make eye contact, don’t pay them any attention. Though coming from South Africa you probably already know to do these sorts of things.

If you have any questions about what life is like over here, or if you just wanna talk, feel free to respond to this post or send me a message on Discord. My username is: jewseph5080

Happy New Years. I wish you and your dad all the best with your move, and let me know how you’re doing once you’ve moved here.

>>2744657
>Ah, the land of the churches. Unfortunately the city in SA is small, but businesses are growing and there's often a bit of Defense work there. If you're planning to be a glownigger you'll be questioned because south africans are often on the list of questionable countries (alongside with any of the sand box countries like Iraq).
Ah understandable, I'll be on my very best behavior.

>Otherwise it's a nice cozy state, great wineries if you like getting drunk. Being the professional racist I am, in the city avoid any of the petrol sniffing abbos and meth heads, but it's not as insane as the stories I've heard about South Africa myself. You'll find that Australia is a pretty relaxed country. There's none of that you'll get raped on the train bullshit here
That's a relief, other than job opportunities that's one of the main reasons for moving there.
I wanna secure a reliable quality of life for me and family, and I'm not ballsy enough to make it here in South Africa.
Shit's getting looney-tunes here.

>In terms of protection, I think it's a smart call to build a network of friends from work and/or maybe social clubs like sports. We tend to go crazy on the sports here but I'm not much of a sports person myself. But if the town you're staying at is in a small mining town, there's not much of a social life besides drinking, especially if you're going into mining
I see, thanks for the advice, I'll try to be a little more social than usual.
I've been meaning to get out there in more in world anyway.

>There's lots of work there that suits your IT degree - aim for something that deals with their ERP systems since the big major mining companies are pretty invested in data analytics and data automation. You'll have to wiggle your way up those ranks.
Okay sweet, that sounds like a pretty reliable niche, I'll try to do some more research on that.
Anything particular I should search?

>>2744657
>I've read a bunch of internal consulting business reports on work the company has completed for different mining companies. Another tip is to pirate the lonelyplanet books for SA and see if there's anything interesting to explore
Cool, I'll get on that.

>Also are white saffers ladies cute? introduce me to one anon
They are if you know where to look, plenty of petite blondes around.
My luck with the ladies isn't all that good, so I don't know how much help I'd be (my last relationship was back in high school so).

Just treat any lady here decently and they should be all yours, they are a very feisty bunch but easy enough to live with if you know how to look after yourself.
Decent looks and cash will help too but that applies to most women out there.

>>2746348
>I’m a 22 year old certified autistic. I’ve lived in a small town in SA (South Australia, not South Africa) my whole life. I’ve met a few South Africans, you’re good people and fit in well in this country
I'm glad to hear that, I worry about sticking out too much.
>South Australia is a safe state in a safe country, with some good people. Don't be too stressed, you’ll find your place here
Thanks, man.

>I don’t know what your situation looks like in particular so I’ll keep it general. Be responsible, clean up after yourself, feed yourself, help your dad with chores. It helps to have a routine; for instance showering and brushing your teeth each morning, doing the dishes after dinner, or doing laundry every weekend. You are never too busy to look after yourself and your home. If you have the small things sorted out it makes the harder things in life more bearable
Okay, I'll try to work out a good schedule for handling chores.
I'll try to keep things clean day-to-day but I'm thinking of designating Fridays and Sundays for more deep cleaning for stuff like: Laundry, vacuuming, cleaning my room and scrubbing the bathroom.
Anything else I should consider?

>>2746348
>Depending on which “small mining town” you’re moving to, you might encounter a few of them or none at all. Don’t give them money, don’t make eye contact, don’t pay them any attention. Though coming from South Africa you probably already know to do these sorts of things
Understood, I'll make sure to keep exercising caution the way I do here.

>If you have any questions about what life is like over here, or if you just wanna talk, feel free to respond to this post or send me a message on Discord. My username is: jewseph5080
Thanks, I'll message you later in case I have any other questions on my mind. Sorry for the late replies, had a very busy week leading into the new year

>Happy New Years. I wish you and your dad all the best with your move, and let me know how you’re doing once you’ve moved here.
Thanks, Anon, I appreciate that.
Happy new year to you as well.

>>2733234

I'm in a similar position moving over to Brissy

>>2747308
What's your reason for moving over there?

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>>2747441
Got a graduate scientist job over there working for the government

>>2748214
>Got a graduate scientist job over there working for the government
Oh nice, congrats on that.

What kinda field are you in?

Sorry for responding so late, a lot going on in my life at the minute.

>>2747095
>Sorry for the late replies, had a very busy week leading into the new year
No worries, what have you been busy with?

>>2747091
>I worry about sticking out too much.
I feel that.

>I'll try to keep things clean day-to-day but I'm thinking of designating Fridays and Sundays for more deep cleaning for stuff like: Laundry, vacuuming, cleaning my room and scrubbing the bathroom.
That all sounds pretty sensible to me. You don't have to go crazy with the cleaning, just an hour or so each weekend will do.

>Anything else I should consider?
I think you've got a pretty good grasp of things. Wiping the stove top and kitchen bench after use is another thing that helps, other than that I can't think of much else. In terms of personal hygiene there's the obvious stuff like showering, brushing teeth, washing hair, shaving, etc. But I'm hoping you have most of that figured out.

Exercise is also something you should consider doing if you don't already. I used to run, but now I've gotten lazy and out of shape. So I've started running again, and I feel like I have more energy to do things.

>>2748678
>Sorry for responding so late, a lot going on in my life at the minute
Nah, it's understandable.
The new year has a lot of stuff to take care of.

>No worries, what have you been busy with?
Researching some ways to prepare myself for me new life abroad, getting my laptop and external hard drive ready for the big move.
Also, trying to spend as much time with my family and friend here as possible. I want as many good memories and photos to sustain myself overseas as possible.

>>2748678
>Exercise is also something you should consider doing if you don't already. I used to run, but now I've gotten lazy and out of shape. So I've started running again, and I feel like I have more energy to do things
Yeah, I keep a pretty regular routine myself but I plan to start going to a gym 3 to 4 days a week for weight training.
I don't suppose you have any routine idea I could follow?

Once I've got some cash coming in anyways, I wanna get a good footing on a career this year, so I can help my family stay out of the red.

>>2733181
>I have a hard time taking care of myself and being responsible
Bro you’re 24, time to pull your shit together and stop whining
It’s gonna suck in the beginning but you’ll live

>>2748690
>Bro you’re 24, time to pull your shit together and stop whining
Incredibly fair.
I know I'm very late to the game, I just figured I'd ask for as much advice as possible and just go from there while I get my act together.

>It’s gonna suck in the beginning but you’ll live
Also fair, I'll focus on being more positive from now on.

Thank you for being blunt.

>>2748758
No problem bro
It all comes from a place of love

>>2748819
>No problem bro
>It all comes from a place of love
No problem at all, man.
The honesty makes it easier for me to cope and keep a cool head about my life as it is right now.

I hope your new year has been treating you well.

>>2748685
>trying to spend as much time with my family and friend here as possible. I want as many good memories and photos to sustain myself overseas as possible.
Hope you make the most of your time in your home country and make some good memories. This isn't the end, you'll have plenty of good times over here as well.

>>2748688
>Yeah, I keep a pretty regular routine myself but I plan to start going to a gym 3 to 4 days a week for weight training.
It's good you have a routine. What do you do?

>I don't suppose you have any routine idea I could follow?
I'm not really into lifting, but a friend of mine does it regularly. I don't really know his routine in any detail, but he goes to the gym a couple of times a week and does bench press and dumbbells.

>>2749751
>Hope you make the most of your time in your home country and make some good memories
I am trying my best to do so.
The atmosphere is a little odd but I'm powering through it. Very bittersweet.

>This isn't the end, you'll have plenty of good times over here as well
Thank you. I really hope so as well.
Things here are hard for my family, the economy and infrastructure that is.
I want to be able to help and support my family, this move might be my only current shot at a reliable lifestyle and career.

My mom really wants me to take care of myself and learn to live my life fully.
I just hope I can keep myself on the correct path.

>It's good you have a routine. What do you do?
I'll provide my full routine later once I have it with me.
It's mainly full-body on calisthenics days and a two muscle groups on weight day.

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