Is having a girlfriend really as nice as it looks in movies?
Yeah, for the first six months.
Yeah, if you have an intact hairline.
>>215379671My dreams tell me it is but in reality its haven't found it to be so
>>215379671no
depends how much you like freedom
>>215379671Portman in this was so hot.
>>215379682this. Eventually their insecurities come out and you realize most women are basic as shit. That first few months of sex with a new person is pretty awesome though.
>>215379671it's really nice about 10% of the time, very annoying 30% of the time and neutral all other times
No, it's exhausting to be around a smelly retard all the time.
>>215379671>>215380235she looks like a BOY
it's a constant pendulum of wishing her time was yours and wanting to be alone.
>>215380252preblems?
>>215379671Looking-through-the-keyhole bedroom scenes are the clearest sign of dishonest cinema. No good can come from anticipating dysfunction in the sacred arena of sleep and sex.
>>215379682>6 monthsIf you're lucky, usually is 1 to 3.
>>215379682Generally speaking true. Most of the girls I've dated were great for some number of weeks or months. The one I've spent nearly two decades with though is still this, in spite of everything, and it's why we lasted.>>215379695Also this.>>215379671Short answer: it can be.
>>215379682six months? fuck sakes, i'm usually sick of their bullshit after 3-4 months. the hotter they are, the more bullshit you've gotta put up with. women are such faggots. always shit-testing you. you're expected to be mysterious and intense 24/7. fuck that. i've banged literal models. the pussy was NEEEEVER worth the hassle.
>>215379671Idk never had one. I’m self improoving rn, in AA and going to the gym. Hopefully getting my mental and physical straight will help me get one eventually. 26 y/o btw
The constant battling of kids that outnumber you with your wife is where it's at. You need to go through the new gf stage to get there though so yeah it's nice.
>>215379671No
>>215379671It can be. It can also be terrible if you're not being honest with yourself and her. A good relationship NEEDS good communication, and you have to be straightforward and honest with someone else which can be hard for a lot of idiots out there; male or female, I've seen both commit self-sabotage and throw away a good person for zero rational reason.You can have a relationship that's anywhere on the bad/good spectrum and it's 100% your effort to try and find a good one because it's an extremely rewarding, fulfilling thing you cannot get anywhere else.
>>215380929>26Plenty of time, don't worry about it. You're doing great to focus on and improve yourself, just put yourself out there when you're feeling ready and it'll happen.Congrats on the sobriety, you'll be getting comfortable with the uncomfortable with relationships as well as sobriety. Stay positive, amigo.
>>215381137Thanks for the positive words. I’m trying to turn this ship around, I don’t want to end up 30 and still living with my parents, broke, single, and drunk. It had become unbearable
>>215380929What are you doing to try meeting girls? Are you going to school or what do you do for work?
>>215381352I’m 32 broke single drunk a stoner burnout but hey at least I barely scrape enough money to pay for my 1b/1ba in the middle of a medium sized faggot ass city
>>215379671Lol not for you whitey. No family for you. You pay for ours, karma is a bitch huh?
>>215380929I was in this situation 4 years ago. Now I'm 30 and still don't have a girlfriend. Good luck.
>>215379682This. The "honeymoon phase", if both of you are in love, is one of the greatest feelings one can ever feel. But after that it can become hell.
>>215379671It really all depends on the woman. It's fantastic if you meet the right girl but there's many many insecure or needy or demanding women out there
>>215379671>acts like a bitch and blames it on period cramps>plays the "I'm late" game every other month to make you think she's knocked up>complains when you won't go shopping with her>complains when you won't hold her purse or carry all the stupid shit she brings any and everywhere>complains when you tell her those pants do make her look fat when she's bloated>cosmetics shit all over the bathroom>shower and bath shit hogs up the shower>bitches when you buy her the wrong tampons/panty liners>expects you to make every single decision then bitches when you do>gets insecure whenever you take any time for yourself because she can't believe you don't need her around 24/7>bitches when you tell her she's not a "bad ass" and proceed to demonstrate that fact buy pinning her or choking her>constantly bitching about "where our relation is going">does stupid shit because her stupid girl friends do stupid shit>expects you to be her personal mechanic / repairman / bodyguard / ATMNo. It's not.
>>215382014All sounds cute
>>215382099t.woman
>>215379682Usually end of the 2nd month, or somewhere along the 3rd I really get sick of their constant need for attention gets too overwhelming My therapist also says I look for needy girls because give me lots of attention for doing the most bare minimum work
>>215379671No, but still pretty great. But only if you are number matched. (I don’t mean just looks) If you are out of each others league it never works
>live with gf>drink cheap black coffee to save money>it's still coffee and trying to do anything to save money while working through school>gf gets 8.99# coffee from Starbucks everyday >having another one of our talks about how to save "our" money >I suggest she drinks cheaper coffee >she starts screaming and throwing shitIt's stuff like this that all really starts to build up. Even when you're right (which is always) you have to act like you're wrong because they have the emotional stability of an autistic toddler
>>215382200I have seen MANY examples of this being incorrectOnly autistic males think about shit like lookmaxxing, girls don't care don't be a retard
>>215382244>lookksmacingReading comprehension fail.Read a book.It’s not about looks, it’s about being in the same league, for men that’s job/personity/status, money, and looks. For women it’s different
>>215381864>both of you are in love>first six monthsThat's not "love" yet, or at least not any real meaningful love. If it becomes hell afterwards, it wasn't love and it wasn't meant to be.>>215381798Got my first gf at 31, we had a great relationship, it just sadly wasn't meant to be. Put yourself out there, ask women out you see, and be active on the apps. Clean yourself up in the meantime: workouts and dieting, and read "Moby Dick". If you say "I have", fine, read more good stuff, then.
>>215382215Never had this problem. But that’s because I have sugar mommas and I’m the one drinking free coffee
>>215379682Six months is generous. More like six weeks from my experience
>>215381864>The "honeymoon phase", if both of you are in loveInfatuation, not love. Relationships are about duty and respect, and "love" comes after years and years of both of you doing your duty to the relationship, family, and respecting each other even though you piss each other off from time to time.This is why cultures with arranged marriages are better, as both partners know their relationship is about fulfilling a duty, and not being in "love" like some fucking ignorant teenager.
>>215382351>be active on the apps.Waste of fucking time. You want to meet a woman BEFORE asking them out to make sure she's not a fucking cunt / moron / psychopath. Apps don't let you know until it's too late.
>>215381435For right now, not much. I work at Target and there are a lot of hot girls there but I have to be very careful with the corporate woke atmosphere there. Basically only way to play it safe is let them approach me
>>215382528Wrong.You talk to them before you actually agree to a date. Get their number after some app chatting, then text a bit, if it seems good? It probably is.It shouldn't take long to confirm they're not insane. I've been on many dates that started from apps, they all have gone well.
Years ago one of you negroes on /s/ (i think it was) broke me. I had just gone through a breakup with an extremely hot skinny blonde nympho. I was looking for answers, why couldn't we have just gotten along? We were together for 2.5 years.A post said something along the lines of ->I was born into a rich family>by the time I turned 21 I had several luxury cars of my own>I also happen to be just over 6 foot tall and kinda handsome>I'm 25 now and I've dated some of the hottest women in this area, actual 10/10s>and every single one of them wanted me to be their father figure/daddy whatever you call it>they wanted to be like little girls, to act like a daughter and have me take care of them>all I wanted was a partner. I have money, I'm lucky enough to be good-looking too, I just want someone to share my life with that isn't totally obese and all these women do is act like little kidsThis guy hit the nail on the head. That was exactly how I felt in my relationship and a past one too. I hadn't yet met a woman I could just talk to like a normal person. And I realize it's out there. Normal women do exist, but your chances of finding one is slim at best.
>>215381798Thanks. I hope you find someone too
>>215382215You raised your bitch poorly and are blaming her?You are the reason she thinks screaming and throwing shit is even close to an acceptable response to you. Hit her you fucking pussy.
>>215382620>by the time I turned 21 I had several luxury cars of my ownJust because your mommy and daddy bought you something and let you put your name on the deed really doesn't mean "of your own".Glad you enjoyed RPing as Patrick Bateman in your 20's and still came out a yuppy fag.
>>215382620>If you want to be happy for the rest of your life>Never make a pretty woman your wife>So for my personal point of view>Get an ugly girl to marry youThere is a truth to this: women who have been pretty their whole lives are far less likely to have done any real maturing or introspection. If they're beautiful, chances are very high they've always had orbiters/options who were willing to do whatever they could just to be noticed by them. And these guys were probably quite handsome and well off, so of course she'd date them and see where things go.If a person isn't in a good place, every relationship they enter is a doomed one, and no partner can actually "save you" ("I can save her"-type nonsense), that's squarely on the individual to work through. Beautiful people are far less likely to have done the work (or any work, really). It's not impossible, but the odds aren't in your favor if "beautiful" is your top priority in a mate.
>>215379671yes but you have to watch their dumb movies and do the boring shit they like
>>215382620>>every single one of them wanted me to be their father figure/daddy whatever you call it>>they wanted to be like little girls, to act like a daughter and have me take care of themThis is ALL women. Every single one.
>>215380321yeah yeah whatever.
>>215379682Six months? Six weeks, and only if you're both under 26.
>>215382820You don't tho, just say no. They like to be controlled.
I cannot even imagine having a girlfriend. The idea that a woman would want to be around me, let alone love me, is completely alien.
>>215383162girls are nice
>>215382215This. A shitty relationship doesn’t need just huge dealbreakers like cheating to be shitty. Small stuff like this adds up, and every time it did I never hesitated to choose solitude over arguing over dumb garbage like this, or worse walking on eggshells to avoid an argument just to end up in one anyway
>>215382351Dating apps are one of the biggest reasons, if not the biggest reason, why dating in the modern age is absolute cancer. How people continue to recommend these I do not know
>>215382014>does stupid shit because her stupid girl friends do stupid shitI hate this the most. Women will let others tell them to do shit like pic related.
>>215382820This. If you don't they hit you with the, "I'm falling out of love with you. The spark isn't there anymore. I feel like the good times are gone and we are just going through the motions." Etc.
>>215379671Most incels define their entire personality around having a gf. But the fact of the matter is they would probably be just as miserable if they had one. Most men aren’t dating their female soulmate. They have to put up with all this chick’s shit, have to modify their opinions and behavior so as not to offend her, have to spend all their disposable income keeping her happy and doing shit they don’t want to do, all to get a crumb of pussy which will inevitably get smaller and smaller once she knows you’re locked in.
>>215383367>How people continue to recommend these I do not knowIt's quite simple, hyperbolic anon: because they work.If you're working 40 hours a week and spend your free time mostly solitary, and you're not meeting your spouse through your job (which is a pretty big gamble), how else are you going to reach out to strangers today?I'd like to hear a suggestion other than dating apps, then. Should I meet a young dame at the soda fountain, you dinosaur?
Man did Leon ever fuck up. Just move to Jersey lol
>>215383707>have to modify their opinions and behavior so as not to offend her, have to spend all their disposable income keeping her happy and doing shit they don’t want to doImagine not passing the shit test. You don't have to do any of these.
>>215379671It's alright, it's nice to have someone close to you
>>215379671it's good until it isn't
>>215383707The whitepill is that incels probably have more enjoyable lives compared to others than they realize. I know so many married people who feel like they are trapped in a marriage and have ruined their life, or they have undergone a divorce that has destroyed them.Sometimes, it is nice to only rely on yourself.True Love is something only a small part of the population actually get. Sure it sucks not to get it, but being forever alone is better than being in a soul destroying marriage.
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>>215383717>If you're working 40 hours a week and spend your free time mostly solitary>how else are you going to reach out to strangers today>I'd like to hear a suggestion other than dating appsYou're fucking retarded.
>>215383749>so anon what are you into?>I like to post on a basket-weaving image board about how there’s too many negroes on televisionGood luck with that
>>215383983>zero suggestions>calls me retardedThanks for the laugh and easy win, dumbass.
>>215384072>I like to post on a basket-weaving image board about how there’s too many negroes on televisionI would be a girl, I would date a guy like this
>>215384179>zero suggestionsDon't "spend your free time mostly solitary", you fucking retard. Fucking hell. "I hide in my apartment all weekend, what else is there but apps?" GO TO BARS OR CLUBS WITH YOUR FRIENDS YOU RETARD-GO SHOOT POOL-FUCKING DO SOMETHING-MOVE AROUND NIGGAFucking idiot waste of space, you aren't even 30
>>215384294"Going to a bar" or, far worse, a club is not a hobby, or at the very least it's an extremely sad one. Where is it acceptable to say this other than Vegas when you're looking to fuck in your 60s or a college town when you're 21? Way to say zero with that.>MOVE AROUND NIGGAGee, very great suggestion, what I like about it is how specific it is.People have their hobbies and they're typically solitary. Reading, gaming, drawing, watching movies, finding new music? These are things often done alone. You can find groups online, sure; but if you're already looking for people online to get closer with AND YET want to shit on dating apps: you are a dumb hypocrite.I did say "mostly solitary", not "I lock myself in my computer pod whenever I'm not at work". Learn to read.Jesus Christ, you're insufferably retarded. I did you a real favor briefly acknowledging your drivel and I won't any further. I bet even stupid broads see right though your crossed-eyes into that vapid, helmeted head; thank god you're dying alone.
>>215384072It really is that easy, no luck needed. Women aren't inherently based but you can make them based. That's your duty really.
>>215383707>>215383808Saw another anon's post awhile back that made a pretty compelling argument that most incels actually don't want a gf. Not in the normalfag "oh you're just whiny and lazy and never tried" way, but in that it's validation more than anything. Outside of that, they're the sorts that a naturally better off doing their own thing. They don't have that bit in their head that makes them just pursue women on autopiliot like normalfags do.>>215384072You're usually better off doing that, than being desperate and eager to mold yourself to her liking.
>>215379671No, women are very tiresome and disgusting in their everyday life. Once you get older you realize that occasional benis into bussy not even worth it.
>>215384457>Saw another anon's post awhile back that made a pretty compelling argument that most incels actually don't want a gf. Not in the normalfag "oh you're just whiny and lazy and never tried" way, but in that it's validation more than anything. Outside of that, they're the sorts that a naturally better off doing their own thing. They don't have that bit in their head that makes them just pursue women on autopiliot like normalfags do.I think that is all true.
>>215384381Hope your life sucks nigger retard, you're working real hard at making it suck. Brown retard.
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>>215382691You didn't even read his post and went immediately for the "rich man bad" pavlovian reddit response
>>215384072Maybe actually have other hobbies? Is this really all you do all day? Good god.
>>215379671No, women don't act like that in real life, that's how men wish they were. Most romance is written for men, women don't like romance. All my wife wants to watch is boats, explosions, sharks, dinosaurs and serial killers.
>>215385158>All my wife wants to watch is boats, explosions, sharks, dinosaurs and serial killers.
>>215379671I wouldn't want to be with a girl that would have accepted me as a boyfriend
>>215379671It's musty.
>>215379671Yes. Holding hands is better than sex.
>>215379671My girlfriend is just turning 9 and she's absolutely insatiable I'm exhausted. Always wants to go to the zoo.
