I'm very lonely, bored, and listless and I have been for as long as I can remember. I crave intimacy and closeness so badly but I have never been with another and at this point probably never will. How do I purge the feeling from my heart? How do I cull this pain from myself? I wish I could just live my life in peace without the pain of loneliness, so I could at least mask around my family and friends again. It's getting so hard to pretend I'm okay nowadays and I know everyone is going through it now. How do I get rid of these feelings? I know things will only get worse from here, so how do I prepare my spirit and mind for this inevitability?Is there a practice I can take up to kill these feelings in my heart? I know Buddhists speak of letting go of attachments - does this work in anyone's experience? I just want the pain gone, numbing it with drugs and alcohol doesn't work it's still there it just makes it easy to ignore but the long-term health effects aren't worth the short-term numbness.
>>39158403sounds like you need a red pill...something that will demonstrate there's a much larger purpose to your existencechanging your perspective on things is the only way forward.
>>39158472Maybe. I want to be of genuine service to my community and make the world around me a better place to live. Anything else just sounds hollow and unfulfilling. I dunno, I just feel stuck, I feel my life slipping away day by day. I feel the loneliness especially and I just want the feeling gone more than anything else. I know I will never find that love in another person, so I would like to find a path to self-love or detachment.
>>39158510I hear you. I'm in a similar social situation, but I've gotten past the loneliness aspect. These days I'm actually kind of relieved I made it through without forming that bond to another soul.
>>39158403Change your identity. Not as in change your legal name.Change who you are.Do what fulfills you. Try new things and don't stop until you figure it out.Meds can help in the short term to form good habits, like doing laundry and cooking healthy food.
>>39158403Hey anon, I believe you can find someone. I believe there's hope. I hope for the best for you, and others as well.
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>>39158537My message here >>39158888 applies to you and others as well.
>>39158537Introvert here. I can’t imagine how much more my life would suck if I got trapped in a relationship with some dumb bitch let alone have offspring with her.
>>39158403>I know Buddhists speak of letting go of attachments - does this work in anyone's experience?No. I practiced Buddhism for several years and you're just hollowing yourself out. You'll have some pleasant moments in meditation and you'll be less stressed than an atheist, but you're really just spiritually/emotionally numbing and lobotomizing yourself. The only thing that's made any major difference for me as far as loneliness and dissatisfaction is coming to Christ. I legitimately feel like I have a new heart.>Ezekiel 36:26 - And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.If for some reason you're put off by legitimate Christianity then I recommend at least reading the gnostic "Gospel of Thomas" before discarding Christianity entirely. It served as a bridge for me from Buddhism to Jesus.
>>39158403like a kid, scramble enough money to buy a motorcycle; problem solved
