I am beginning my first -500 cal cut. Even though I had to adjust the menu last second, I am gonna make it

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>>75374014
I hate winter.

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>>75374014
I love winter.

>>75374077
>>75374080
Snow shoveling is free exercise bro.

>>75374152
Cold weather burns more calories. Winter shredathon is on.

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>>75374077
I love the cold weather, but the short days fucking suck. It's dark when I go into work, and it's dark when I leave. Working outside in the dark sucks and makes me want to curl up in bed instead.

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I WILL CONTINUE APPLYING TO JOBS
I WILL GET A BETTER ROLE BY THE END OF THE YEAR
I WILL ESCAPE

Well frens, since I failed my level 3 CFA exam, I’ve been prioritizing finding a new role. I had an interview 2 weeks ago but haven’t received an update. I need to keep pushing forward so I can enter a new chapter of my life. Best of luck! WAGMI!

Stay strong anons, no matter how bad things seem, you have to keep going.

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What am I going to do with all this character.

>>75374020
Good luck! I'll start my cut next year

>>75374077
>>75374191
Winter blues are hitting everyone rn. Just remember to take your vitamin D and provide an extra dose of optimism to those around you. We are so going to make it.

>yesterday, have work and tons of other shit to do
>feel fine

>today, day off with almost nothing to do
>feel anxious the entire day
I literally can't relax if I haven't done something productive earlier

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I’ve been sick the past 4 days, but (thankfully?) it coincided with my deload week. There was an immigrant at walmart begging me to buy her baby formula and probiotics for her child, I shook her hand and I think she gave me an illness. Oh well, it’s God’s plan so I won’t question it. More time to focus on non-fitness related tasks like music.

This week I’ll test my 10RM on the bench and squat. I’ve lost some weight from the illness so i’ll be interested to see what I can do.

Let’s get this shit, top o’ da morning.
>>75374077
>>75374080
I love winter
>>75374297
Good luck!

>>75374014
I have been using the indoor rowing machine 3 to 5 times a week combined with calisthenics and I feel great. I think I'm getting back to my college days level of fitness. It's been a gruelling 4 months waiting for this house deal to close but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I hope everyone else is doing good too.

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>>75374080
Same. I love the snow

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Such a brutal week bro. I spam applied to more wagie jobs and okaa San spoke to a friend about getting me one at someplace she worked so hopefully this pans out. I’m still praying that my memecoin investments go up cuz I don’t see any sort of financial comfort without some good luck in my future.

Still a virgin loser but I keep trucking along. I drew this yesterday.

This one gets more heated because I’m passionate about the topic:

https://youtu.be/1Ellyp1D-8M?si=avLnUVeGfrsi818W

:)

>>75374612
words of wisdom
nothing brings joy like the hopecore thread
yesterday my gradma came over cause my cat is apparently very ill and we thought he was gonna die
saturday i had stayed up late so i was sleeping in...i woke up to like 17 missed calls from my family
when i opened the door my poor grandma hugged me while crying cuz they thought my cats situation would finally be the thing to push me over the edge, they thought i had killed myself
today i went to physical therapy and then the gym, its already a win for me

tldr you are loved and things are gonna be okay, smile and spread kindness
thank u anon

Feeling pretty demotivated today. Ate a lot of food yesterday, so my weight is up today. Got in trouble at work so I'm in a shit mood. Trying not to be demotivated but it's only 3 hours into my day and it's already shit. Its going to take everything I have to find the strength to workout later today. But at least I can smile on my face saying I didn't let today beat me down.

>>75374014
>Were you thinking of giving up today?
I was thinking of smoking a joint with a friend today. I won't do it. Your post has helped me steel my resolve.
>What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.
>Study at least 2-4 hours every day.
>Make a call with my sister to help me get an online job.
>Not skipping clsses.
>Do at least 1 hours ef exercise every day.
>Continuing a drawing I am making.
>Keep on learning to be alone without it bothering me,
>Maybe find a job, if so, then work at least 8 hours a day.
>Get better at writing and speaking in English.

>>75374988
You keep going, you win. Simple as.

Just did my last night shift for 2 months, stuck to biking to work and back (40 km a day ish) and working out on my lunch. Eating clean super healthy going back up to past 200 adter a summer cut.

Exhausted every day by waking up at 430 am and having an 18 month at home but I do it for her

We're all gonna make it

>>75374494
Develop into the protagonist of your life

>>75374014
The medications to finally treat my chromic debilitating condition has finally cleared customs. I had to order it from India because in the United States it would cost $1,000. I'm looking forward to being symptom-free and living a better life.

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Snorlax here.
Got my CPAP, it sucks to use but I don’t snore anymore. Also got down to 207 pounds so might not be snoring at all anyway.
Ended up with a six mile run to end the week!
Panel interview went well, hopefully hear back this week.
Goals: eight mile run, 205 would be great to finish off the month with ten pounds lost but not sure if that’s in the cards since taking a trip.
Ideally I’m up to ten miles by 11/17 since my half marathon is a week after that. Wanna be 200 by 11/23

>>75374644
So do something small and productive so you enjoy your day off

>>75374687
I hope you feel better soon. Don't be afraid to reschedule your strength tests for next week

I've been out of my field for 1.5 years, with only 1 YOE as an electrical engineer, and working retail in the past 3 months. I had to quit because of an accident, and I graduated 4 years ago to boot. With 2 huge resume gaps I thought I was fucked.

I started looking late last month and I've got 6 callbacks already, and a couple of interviews, but haven't snagged anything yet because I'm still unprepared for my tech screenings. Still, I'm pleasantly surprised. I thought I'd have to go for technician or drafting roles or even go back to grad school to restart things.

>>75374857
Good work anon, I like your version of The 2000 Yard Stare.

>Tuesday is the day my gym waifu and I work out together without speaking
>on adjacent benches even if nobody else in gym, she kind of follows me around
>Has been going on for some time
>now feels like a competition to make the other be the first one to say something
>Her latest strategy has been wearing perfumes to the gym
>lmao actually really good taste in scents
>Do the same myself next time at the gym, could tell she noticed
>Have alternated scents for maybe 4 or 5 workouts and that's been pretty funny
>fantastic workouts from positive and fun attention and communicating with smells and dumb stuff like that
>this week is halloween
Not sure what I'm going to do, seems it's my turn after the smell thing. I am -absolutely- going to get her to talk to me first though, anons.

>>75375808
love is war desu
good luck anon, report back next week for any developments

>>75375826
Ty anon
To add a funny story, she does this exercise that I call "weighted diggystyles" and it goes like this
>straddles bench
>holds weight (one of those barbells with the rubber weights fixed to the ends) in essentially squat position
>usually like 80 or 90lbs
>really heavy for weird shit like this
>proceeds to lay her breast to the bench, back flat and completely laid to bench
>sits the weight up from this position
>i dont even think this is a real exercise
What lifts should I do to prevent her from absolutely BUCKING me off when the time comes? No idea what her 1rm is on that shit.

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day 1 of withdrawals again

>>75375928
Hang in there, buddy. I have been through it myself so we both know there's not much to say. We're all waiting for you on the other side, though, and we won't be mad when you come back.

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>>75374014
Life is good, bros. Got a working wife who loves me and I get to stay home with the kids. Going out to dinner tonight with them plus my parents. It wasn't always this comfy, my brothers. I came through some of the same hard times you might be going through now: tfw no gf, no money, feeling powerless, hopeless, weak. There's a light at the end of the tunnel if you keep moving forward.

>>75374014
Happy Monday/Tuesday bros. Halfway through my summer cut. Goals this week are to avoid using my phone as a crutch when I feel uncomfortable in social situations or when I'm procrastinating. WAGMI

>>75374712
Congrats on your progress bro! I was a chubby college student so I'm in the best shape of my life at 27

>>75375895
sounds like she is doing goodmornings, its a hip hinge
hopefully both u and ur peen survive her 1rm, itd b a shame to fall short after such trials and tribulations with perfume and whatnot

:)

>>75375388
Based now live your life to its fullest!

>>75374014
if you need a gay peptalk to go to the gym you arent mentally ill enough to be lifting

>>75374014
I have this pretty miserable deep sense of loneliness recently. It makes me wanna win more. Last time I had this my productivity sky rocketed. It’s a really weird sense of loneliness and I guess depression but it’s so specific I can’t even describe it. There’s no loss of energy or any real issues it’s just the feelings there and it sucks. I feel more in tune with certain music, sadder songs and shit. Some nostalgic from the last time I felt like this, some new that bring me the same vibe. Deftones, kid cudi, polyphia for example. Some Joyce manor modern baseball type stuff too. It’s all sad boy shit but idk it’s oddly energizing. It sucks, I don’t want to feel this way. I want friends and girls and then ultimately A gf. The last time I felt this way, after maybe 1-1.5 years of it, I randomly just achieved all of that. It all within the span of a month fell into place. Suddenly had friends, lost virginity, had a few chicks I was messing with, lots of hangouts and a consistent circle and then met a girl to date. I want it all again. But, a longer version that lasts… for now I’m in this weird hole.
But I continue on. My life is work, sleep, workout. Maybe go spend some time outdoors alone on weekends.


Side note, and maybe related. I almost approached a girl for the first time today. Chickened out. Happened again an hour later new chick. Chickened out.

>>75376388
:') thanks anon

>>75374014
Bros I found out I can join the navy without making qualifying weight. They’re supposedly that desperate. This speeds up the timeline of my goals.
Now I just need to hit 230lbs, then start running (knees already fucked gotta get to a light enough weight to avoid further injury & 230 is still pushing it). Get myself to where I can do 3-4 miles so I don’t suffer too bad in basic. Then I can join.
It only speeds it up by maybe 3 months but that’s huge. I could potentially join by around April.
After that, once I’m past basic past A school and begin working the goal is spend my 4.5 years busting ass in the gym so I can come out
>34 years old
>205 10% bf
>good savings
>marketable skillset
>benefits to take advantage of to help tune life around

>>75376441
Nice try, Ssgt. Zog, but there's a reason nobody is signing up to die for Israel.

>>75376453
Not a zogcruiter don’t join idc man I lose or gain nothing if anyone else does this is my personal goal
>tfw died for Israel working as an IT dork
>tfw died for Israel working as a ship mechanic
>tfw died for Israel working as [literally any of the 90% of jobs that are unrelated to combat]
I should consider becoming a recruiter though, if me just sharing my goals reads like the crap retarded 18 year olds fall for them maybe I’d be good at it

>>75374857
Your art is definitely improving :)

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I was posting about being sober a month ago for 12 days, that was fun. In the middle of a bender now, finally off after 13 days working. Still lifting, still scrawny but slightly less. Just incredibly lonely.

>>75375390
You're making great strides, so keep it up!

:)

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>>75374014
This is my 4th week back to the gym in like 10 years. I notice my muscles are waking up a little but I haven't noticed much difference in my muscles being bigger.

My belly is much smaller tho so I guess that's something but I wish it was more noticeable.

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>>75374014
planning on going out to some halloween stuff tomorrow with a new friend. being alone in a new city is tough as hell, and going to do shit with friends drains my battery a lot more than I thought it would, but it's so worth it.

honestly, this next week is gonna be hell on my anxiety. I'm afraid of election day and everything that might happen after. this proj2025 isn't fun to read. Aside from all the financial/corporate stuff that'll make it so much harder to get the food and medicine I need to live, a good chunk of my close friends are gay, my boss and mentor is trans... these are people that do nothing but good for this country and are so close to my heart, and in over a week they might be attacked for just being who they are, or worse.

I know how stupid it is to say all that on this site, but I honestly couldn't give less of a shit. you all have people you love, and you all worry about them. life might get incredibly hard for the people I love next week and I feel helpless about it. I just want to be strong enough so I can do anything I can to keep them safe. I'm bulking as much as I can, but I don't know if what I'm doing will be enough.

>>75376488
>died for Israel working as [literally any of the 90% of jobs that are unrelated to combat]
90% of jobs maybe, but the 10% accounts for most of the positions open, and you get very little say in which position you're assigned. But good for you, you got an easy posting lying to impressionable 4chuds to get THEM to die for Israel in your place.
I'll be watching comfortably from home.

>>75375045
Those are all great goals. You owe it to yourself to see them through

>>75375699
So you’re better than you thought. Don’t sell yourself short, it’s obvious that you’re more talented than you thought. Remind yourself of that fact as you interview

Stay strong anons :D

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>>75375207
WAGMI

>>75375621
Thanks anon! I probably won't change the date because I don't really care if I fail. I'm transitioning from hypertrophy to strength so I'm not really focused on my 10RM.

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>>75374014
ONE MUST IMAGINE SISYPHUS HAPPY

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I did a 48hr fast and been on a Keto diet for 4 days. Apparently that's supposed to help my stomach, somehow...
At the same time, I'm also taking a bunch of antifungals and probiotics.

Feeling like pic. I wanna run a knife through my gut and rip out the shit that makes it hurt so much.
Life fucking sucks and I'm desperate.

Oh fuck yeah, I almost forgot about the indomitable spirit thread! Steady progress continues, I’ve been very depressed lately, but I haven’t skipped any gym days. Better times yet to come, bros.

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>Have interviews with my first-choice dental school a few weeks ago
>Get cleared to go get processed at MEPS for the Army (probably gonna get denied for my hearing but wanna give it a shot anyway)
>Have a job interview lined up for some pocket money in the meantime
>Went on a date with a very attractive girl I thought was way out of my league
>Life is going good
>Have dream about a female friend I had a strong crush on two years ago who stopped talking to me after I confessed to her and who I’ve never gotten over since.
I fucking hate myself.

>>75379146
Consistency and discipline, use them to crush depression. It's the best way forward. That's how you make it.

>>75379657
Who cares about your past? You're doing great now. Appreciate how well your life is currently

:) wagmi

>>75374014
Digits and I read Nietzsche.

>>75377031
Welcome back fren :)
You'll be back at peak strength before you know it

>>75380030
:)

>>75379952
I know, fren. That’s exactly why I’m so mad, lol. I wish I could stop letting random stupid regrets from my past or excessive worrying about the future ruin my present.

>>75380041
Reroll for Thompson.

>>75376640
It's never too late to try again. One day or day one for sobriety

>>75380041
>>75380089
Last roll: digits and no reading, just grinding.

>>75380041
Read Camus

>>75379657
>boohoo I had a dream that made me sad
Grow the fuck up.

>woke up Monday, 2:30 am
>Had a dream about my ex
>Don't miss her but feel lonely as shit regardless
>Work out anyways
>Tuesday wake up at 10 am feeling rough
>Plateau is over
>203 from a start of 225
Yeah, I'm thinking WAGMI

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>gonna make plans with a friend who I haven’t seen in awhile
>deleted all pics and texts with old gf yesterday, also blocked her on social media
>interview on Thursday for a dream job with significant pay raise
>back on 1700 cal/day to finally get from 175 to 160 and finish this cut
>I will ask out that girl at the gym, take my likely rejection, and move on
>I will get 6 reps on chin ups with a 45 pound plate attached to me
It’s all looking up lads
>verification not required

>>75376411
If you're really that upset about being lonely, do something to solve it. Also grow a pair and ask out girls

>>75380349
Congrats, breaking those plateaus is always the best feeling

>>75375960
Glad for you anon, how old are you? I feel like I've left it too late to have a comfy life

>>75380134
I dont want to completely give it up, I just want to have a normal relationship with it

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passing by to say hello....
lets go... :)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4d4LSNwyYWY

>>75380648
Then set healthy boundaries for yourself. You can only have a couple of drinks every weekend and need to do cardio during the week

>>75376814
thanks fren

also found out my house is a total loss (damaged in hurricane). getting a check for over 200k more than i owe on it.

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>>75375984
I should follow your example. WAGMI

>>75376441
Why would you join a navy that's desperate enough to hire unqualified people? How is that not a red flag for you?

>>75380147
Already did. Read The Steanger. I get it, I don't think it's entertaining or good, but I get it.

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>>75380502
Unbelievably based

>>75374977
sorry about your cat anon
be grateful you got the chance to love and take care of your little friend, death comes for us all but that's what makes life so sweet

It's been two weeks since my interview and I still haven't received a response. Even if I were rejected, I'd appreciate an email

>>75381210
You could always contact them.

>>75380648
>I dont want to completely give it up, I just want to have a normal relationship with it
worth exploring why your relationship is like that with alcohol. i found that whenever i have a drink, whether it's tea water or booze, i feel compelled to sip constantly. there was a time where i drank a lot because i really didn't like myself and drinking would help me dissociate. if it gets problematic, there's tons of people that specialize in that. don't gotta give it up, just undersatand what compels you to drink so much

>>75381350
Thanks the advice. I called the office and the worker seemed to know who I spoke to. He asked for my email and phone number

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>>75380081
Thanks fren, appreciate the reply :D

>>75380502
well done brah, good luck with the qt you got this

>>75381566
Yeah, I drink to distract myself from being a loser at 29, when my dad already had a house and 2 kids. I have no savings, cant afford an emergency, etc. When I stop for a few days, everything Ive been neglecting is just instantly spotlit and the shame makes me go back. I know I have to get over that hump.

>>75381682
Your pro-activeness demonstrates your bootstraps and they might hire you. Good luck!

>>75374014
Got the earpods I ordered and somehow managed to get into cleaning I put off for literally months. Looks like I need music(and not getting onto computer before anything else) to get shit done

>>75381752
In 5-10 years your body will not recover from alcohol fast enough to keep drinking it, and you'll be having many sober recovery days feeling awful, or you'll get really ill if you insist on doing it anyway. If you really can't quit, you need to at least get it confined to a weekend (preferably one night) like most working folk. If you can find some people to drink with, all the better. Should at least help save your liver.

>>75375808
You're supposed to talk to her first.

Been sick for the past couple of days which really impacted my weekend plans. Now I've got a birthday coming up in a few days as well. Turning 31 but have nothing to show for it really but I want to turn my life around.

Goals for the week are
>finish cleaning up my living space since I couldn't clean it up this past weekend, was basically bedridden
>get some reusable ice packs, containers, and a lunch box so I can start packing a lunch for work and take my cut more seriously
>make a calorie plan and get some proper lunch stuff to stick with
>walk for an hour every night minimum
>start drafting a resume to try and get a consistent and better paying job
I really want to lose this excess weight, but the only thing holding me back is me. I only need to lose maybe 50lbs of fat and see a tremendous difference. 90lbs is the goal though but even just 50 would be crazy improvement. My lifting is going okay but I still eat like shit so I don't have much to show for it outwardly, but just through lifting I can tell the quality of my life is going up.

I'm scared of making too much progress too quickly as well though because I want to avoid sagging skin as much as I can. A guy I used to work with had some of the ugliest sagging skin after he dropped 100 pounds in maybe 8 months and I do not want that to happen to me.

>>75375808
Based but you could be waiting a long time, in my experience a woman could be really really into you but they won’t do anything about it unless you make the move first

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I have tried to ask this coffee shop girl out three times now.
Sunday I walked in and chatted her up but didn't follow through. Had a good convo though about the book she's reading, so I guess that's something.
Yesterday I was feeling unbelievably confident. Planned on going after work, but some dimwit called in literally two minutes before close and tied me up for a half hour. Did my rage squats at the gym, now I get to up the weight again. So I guess that's something.
Today I was feeling less confident, but still willing to shoot my shot. Got stuck on a call with yet another dimwit five minutes before close that tied me up long enough where I couldn't have gotten there in time AGAIN.
I hate this fucking job and I hate myself for not just pulling the trigger on Sunday. I felt great on Sunday.
I've got a friend coming to visit next weekend, now I'm worried I waited too long and it would be weird if she's busy this weekend but I won't be able to make any more plans for two weeks. I'm in an hour later than normal tomorrow since I'm covering a coworker's shift. If I decide schedule be damned and go through with it and she's not too busy I'll do it in the morning, but I'll be ultra pissed at work if I get a no. The fucking end users can deal with it, I've taken enough shit from them.

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>>75374014
My main motivation for training is beating other people up. I am a peaceful person, always have been. But not long ago I realized that's because of my own body's limitations: if I was bigger and properly trained, I wouldn't waste no words ever, ever again. My transformation is going from Odysseus to Achilles. Do you think it's a valid reason to stay motivated? That, in the future, I will be able to phisically shut others down, imposing my will by overpowering those around me?
I've had many subjective changes the past year: used to be a progressive, open minded individual. But the current state of politics and the obvious bankrupcy of thinking has made me change the very foundations of my beliefs. Intolerant fanatics, incels, and right winger in general have got me: I don't want to discuss any longer with these people, but rather I am now convinced that the only two politically meaningful categories are knowing who your friends and enemies are, and achieving the means to physically liquidate those who opose and wrong you.
My country is becoming increasingly violent due to politics - and sides got to be taken. Wish me luck in my fitness journey bros.

>>75382019
She a customer or work there? Careful asking a girl out when she’s working that’s normally seen as creepy

>>75382019
She works there and I'm a regular, but I've met her a few times outside of her work. See >>75349816. Her mom was over at my friends family's place for dinner and mentioned that she was trying to get a boyfriend. We're the same age and into similar things.

>>75382075
>>75382040
Sorry, this one >>75349739

>>75382075
Ahh I see, tricky situation. Best bet would be to ask her about hitting the range again sometime. Seeing as you’ve met and interacted outside of her workplace it’s really not weird at all. If she gives you a brush off when you ask then you can just drop it, no harm done. Once you get her out of there then after you guys shoot I’d be more direct and just go straight for it

>>75382075
Or do you think there’s any chance mom could wingman you into a chance for you to bump into her outside of work? My buddy’s mom helped him get a chance with a girl he was into and they’re engaged now kek

This board is so dead now, (You)s are at an all time low.

>>75382163
here. have one

>>75374297
good luck on your interview and job hunt CFA anon! i must draw inspiration in your current job hunt and keep pressing forward myself.

career switch anon here. just went through a bunch of job ads and felt a bit down because of my lack of experience and how my current skill set don't align with a lot of the roles... it's okay, rough times will be contrasted by beautiful times (this is the nature of things). all i can do for now is face the uncertainty with courage!

i'll keep focussing on finishing up my cert. resume has been honed, now getting feedback from friend on my cover letter. i'll be kinder to myself. i'll take care of my body through good nutrition and regular exercise. i'll spend time with my lady friend. i'll be there to support friends and family. i'll keep moving forward no matter how bleak things are.

don't give up anons! you got this, one step at a time.

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>>75374297
>>75382242

forgot picture, d'oh!

>>75382149
Weekends are busy for her that that's the only time I'd be able to go to the range. There's a little theater in town that's putting on a play that's an adaptation from a famous author that's pretty festive for halloween. I was thinking of seeing if she wants to go to that since that might fit our schedules. Problem is the friend coming up. You think I should wait or just go for it?
>>75382152
Part of me thinks I'm too autistic to perform in a setup. She initially wanted to invite us all over for dinner but my friend put the kibosh on it pretty quick, kek. He knows me pretty well

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>>75381752
feeling dissatisfied and even ashamed of one's situation is normal and not necessarily a bad thing. the bad thing is how you react to this.
just becasue you're not where you want to be right now doesn't mean you're a loser. in fact get that "im a loser" mindset out of here because that is poison to the soul. the mind has a strange way of making a reality of what we feed it, i.e. if you say you're a loser constantly you'll end up a loser.
take an honest audit of your life and instead of feeling shit or overwhelmed about it, see it as a list of things to work on. your life won't magically fix itself. in fact, no one will come and save you. it's all on you, but you're capable. the human spirit is powerful
you got this king

>>75382270
Yeah bro, I would say fuck it and go for it and deal with whatever happens afterwards your friend should understand. It sounds like you’ve been ruminating over this for awhile so it’s best to get a clear answer and either enjoy the date with her or move on to someone new. Her being busy on weekends could be an attempt to soft reject you, but you’ll never know until you ask. Best of luck bro, I’m in the same boat as you atm so hoping it works for both of us

>>75374014
I just lost the love of my life after a year-long process of watching her wither away and become a shadow of her former self. I still love her, but I know there's no happiness to be found there until she fixes herself and deals with the residual effects of her profoundly fucked up childhood. I haven't been able to focus on myself at all during that time. I had two books accepted for publication, got myself out of debt, started lifting again -- and it all seemed meaningless because of everything else going on. I know I can make it, but it's been ages since I've had any sort of positivity in my life. Hope you lads are doing okay.

>>75382331
Well said.
>>75382448
If i'm understanding your situation correctly, when a woman does that type of thing, there's not much you can do. The more you try to help, the more she'll refuse help. It's weird but it happens. Don't get dragged down by it. Improve yourself to the point that if she shows up again wanting to talk, you have the ability to say "no" if that's the right thing to say at that time (it probably will be). Good luck and take care.

>>75382215
thanks man

>>75382448
Sounds like Norwegian Wood (the book)

>>75382543
I feel you, man. I don't wanna say I fucked up by not taking the hint earlier, but I'm sure I could've spared myself a little agony by withdrawing sooner. There were so many little things that kept me around, but I think my continued presence may have tainted things further. Because she's never had anyone really fight for her, I thought it would be noble to gut it out and show her there are people out there like that. But I need to work on my ability to be independent again, it would seem. Her last words to me were that she still loves me deeply and will for the rest of her life. Thinking about that sort of thing stops me dead in my tracks, no matter what I'm doing.
>>75382560
I'll give that one a go when I'm ready to read about this kind of thing.

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>>75382242
>>75382257
Thanks for the encouragement. I’m trying hard but I’m not getting far. It’s discouraging but I know that by mid November, it’ll be impossible for me to find a new job so I’ll have to rebaseline my job switch to early next year. Success is only delayed, right?

Keep applying as long as you meet some of the qualifications. Remember that job postings are a wish list in most cases. In any case, keep pushing forward! The only way to reach heaven is to walk through hell. As long as you don’t quit you can make it!

Good luck! WAGMI!

>>75382682
>I'll give that one a go when I'm ready to read about this kind of thing.

It's a beautiful book, it made me cry, as it felt similar to the end of my last relationship too.

>>75378754
ONE MUST!!!

:)

>>75381791
You're making progress, now address your problems. Remind yourself that no matter what happens, you'll still turn 40 eventually

>>75374857
you have the autism voice

>>75381773
All that matters is that you got the task done. Congrats on finally cleaning!

>>75376640
What comic is this?

First time posting here, sorry for being ESL
>did my bachelor degree this year
>live together with my girlfriend in a small town
>worked at a large company that paid really well for 3 months
>decide to start a master's degree because fuck it I don't really need that much money right now
>quit my job and start studying at an university that is really far away from my town
>have to ride a train for 4 hours every day to get there and back
>rent is incredibly high there so moving there doesn't work
>also I want to live together with my gf
>realize I have to get some part time job to at least have a small income
>had a job interview last friday and it went quite well
>it's 20 hours a week
Fuck man I don't know how I can have some time for myself if I have university, a job and long train rides everyday. I still want to go to the gym. I still want to learn to draw. I still want to play some vidya.

stay strong anons :D

>>75384011
if you right click an image, you can google search it. the manga is All You Need Is Kill

>>75384298
Sorry bro, your situation really sucks. What matters to you right now? If school and your gf are what truly matter, you might have to give up the gym and drawing

>>75384493
:D

>>75382331
I honestly want to put that pepe in my wallet

>>75375771
>>75376616
Thank you anons :)
>>75383099
Brutal, I get told the same by others. Is it the monotone? I’m not even Autistic, schizoid maybe.

>>75374469
I have no choice but to push forward

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>>75382331
How should I view myself then, because
>Im a loser
is such a prevailing thought and Im constantly reminded of it.
What should I replace it with,
>Im a good fixer upper
lol
Im serious though

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are you guys journaling?
stream of conscious dump, goal setting, etc?
i feel when i do my ideal future style entry, my day feels a lot better and more productive. no evidence on whether or not im closer to reaching those future goals or not at this point. but i also havent been including specific timeframes i want to achieve them in so ill probably start doing that.
goal setting has always been a struggle for me.

>>75386121
I should start journaling, I've heard about it's benefits. I'm currently working on a project where I make playlists for the 3 major stages of my life. The final stage, the green forest, will be about optimism towards the future

>>75386121
I write down summaries or distillations of books I read and want to retain, poems that I find particularly beautiful or apt, and events in my life after I've had time to reflect on them. It's a good hobby, and worthwhile. I can't say whether it helps one towards a specific lifestyle, but I find it good to express myself.

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>>75385977
That you’re a work in progress

>>75386326
thanks buddy

>>75374014
I’ve been bitching about some people I work with since this job started. I mentioned a couple months ago how a manager started yelling in my face on my 2nd day and how the manager training me wrote a report on him.
Well all his employees have been being dicks to me and it’s gotten really bad, last week was horrible. He got demoted and sent to a new location. Everyone knows. Idk if they think I did it, or if that’s a bad thing. They’re all acting correctly with me now. No more shit talk said within ear shot on purpose, no lord dirty looks, no more attitude. Total 180. Mins blowing actually it doesn’t seem insincere. It’s actually really fucking weird to me. I’m good at spotting bullshit and this seems genuine which is sketchy to me. How does every single one of these people go from being total cunts to suddenly treating me like a human.
You’d think it would be fake if it was due to their manager being demoted and sent away but it’s seems real. I’m not saying they’re all trying to be my buddy, just that I’m being given the basic levels of human respect I believe everyone deserves unless proven otherwise over time.
Even the worst employees and other managers have shaped up. It’s crazy.


One things for sure the dickhead getting demoted did set a message to these people at least.
>old guy coworker has no social awareness
>Whisper to him about them thinking I got the guy fired
>talks very loudly “YOU GOT HIM FIRED AND YOURE PROUD YES YOU DID IT”
>that managers assistant and 3 of his employees round corner 5 feet away right when he says that
>have to cover ass by saying “no man that was Zachary (guy who trained me & wrote a report on him heo retired recently). I had nothing to do with that”
>YEAH YOU DID YEAH YOU DID
Wtf is this retards problem. I mentioned it was “Zachary” so it didn’t look as though I was proudly exclaiming “I got him fired” like this old faggot made it seem. Idk what his deal is

>>75386121
Yeah gave me a lot of clarity when I stream of consciousness wrote down all my thoughts. At the time I was thinking about cheating on my gf with a new girl I met but I thanks to that reflection I realized that wasn’t who I wanted to be and summoned the strength to break up with my gf. Highly recommend

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>Get recommendation from employee of prestigious company to join the firm
>find dream job there late last night
>know it's a reach but fuck it, there's no harm in applying
>actually think I can thrive in the role even though I'm underqualified
>end up drafting strong resume and cover letter thanks to chatgpt
>realize today that I spelled evaluate as evaluatE
What do I do lads? I know that if I withdraw my application, I can't reapply from this email. I can apply from another email but I won't have the recommendation. I guess the job was a long shot but I think if I landed an interview, I could prove that I'd succeed

Almost gave up, decided not to. WAGMI

>>75387561
I'm glad your work situation has improved slightly. Some people suck to work with

>>75387879
It's won't get noticed, and it will never come up in the interview. Just go through the resume again, make the correction, and you'll be good for any future submissions.

>>75386157
sounds cool anon. good luck, i think youd benefit even if its just simply jotting ideas down
>>75387816
i think things like this are why its so underrated. if a lot of anons on here are like me, then so many of our problems can be traced back to being so reactive. journaling alone wont help entirely but, over time, it can certainly shape how we approach problems.

>>75387879
>I guess the job was a long shot
Leave it, you're already looking for reasons to rejwct yourself so it's not gonna change anything

>>75388241
Thanks for the advice. I'd be so happy I could get an interview
>>75388337
You're right. I'm already losing faith in myself since I can't fully commit to what I want

>>75387879
if you get a recommendation then they probably wont care or even notice. dont stress it anon, good luck

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>go donate platelets
>phlebotomist keeps making small talk in passing
>at the end she asks me what I'm doing after
>tell her I'm going to a restaurant on that same street, ask her if she's ever been there
>tells me she drives straight home after gor some reason, stops making small talk
Am I overthinking it? All I did was ask her if she's been there.
The fuck was her problem?

>>75388350
Sounds like she clamped up since she didn’t want to maintain the conversation. Just move on

>>75388529
I can see that, kinda rude of her to start the conversation just to stonewall me but I'm better off without that drama in my life

>>75388350
just a pure woman moment, move on.

i started fasting on monday, it does nothing, i got memed?

>>75374014
Writing this just before I go to the gym on a cold Thursday morning as it should instill in my brain more.

>Keep eating in a caloric surplus
>Always try and eat just a little more
>Cut out screen zombie shit like youtube
>Always try my hardest in the gym, the pain is only temporary and short at that
>Work on webcomic for at least 2-4 hours before wagie work.
>Stand up straight and don't slouch

>>75387879
Small things like this can be annoying. I applied for a job in the big city a year so after graduating, I missed the deadline, acknowledged that, but sent it anyway and got it. I applied for a job during covid and made a mistake with the job title. I am currently in that role.