It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is open
>>75409467We are all gonna make it
Love is War anon from last thread-She had short workouts in baggy clothes and seemed a little grumpy. Nothing deescalated but I decided it probably wasn't the week to try to have lots of fun. Looking forward to tomorrow, though!
>>75409467>spent whole weekend gardening and felling trees with my grandparents>notice since losing 100lbs and becoming more active that I no longer feel the cold as badly as I used toit's the little things, WAGMI bros
>thread lasts a week>actually gets linked to the new threadIt's a sign, the unbreakable chain of the indomitable spirit. WAGMI
>meet a lot of girls who are interested in me>none of them want anything serious though>all they want is flings/FWBs/ONSI just don't get it. What the fuck is wrong with me that makes me repeated-fling material but not boyfriend material??I'm fit, I got a decent job, my own place, a (company) car, hobbies I enjoy... Like, I'm not rich but I'm comfortable.I'm seeing a girl right now and I REALLY like her, I really do but I don't think it goes equally both ways.I think she's fun, cool, interesting, gorgeous, sexy.I get the impression she just sees me as a convenient cock for when she's horny.
>>75409751They have no reason to want to settle down or have a relationship. Would you want a relationship with tuna nigiri in one of those revolving sushi places? No.Also, they do not ever want children (or are at least fully convinced so) which gives them even less social incentive to pursue that path in life.
I WILL CONTINUE APPLYING FOR JOBS I WILL ACE MY PHONE INTERVIEW TODAYI WILL GET A BETTER JOB BY THE END OF THE YEAR I’m still searching for a new role, lads. I’m discouraged that I haven’t found one but I need to press on. The other day I realized that 2024 is nearly over and I haven’t accomplished many of my goals. Therefore, I need to push hard to end the year on a positive note. Although we may falter, we will not fall. Best of luck in your endeavors frens! WAGMI!
>>75409467Gonna hit the gym minimum 3-4x this week and run at least 2 of those days.Gonna hit the gym hard as fuck today and burn some calories with an upper lower blast
>>75409467I quit smoking (both cigarettes and weed), quit fapping for NNN, I'm watching my diet and lost weight since the start of October, I revamped my training program and I started training basketball to improve my skills. Doing really good bros. I believe in every one of you, you can do it. Work hard and create your ultimate self!
I suffer from paralysis by analysis. Last year I went to gym for 3 months regularly first time in my life. It was fun. I started to go there whenever I was bored and had nothing to do in evenings. I even started to see some progress despite my terrible diet. Some business and family problems happened later though and I stopped sadly.Now I want to start again. I've read bunch of books and articles about diet, fitness and supplements yadda yadda. I am done with my meal plan and supplements. But I am not sure about my exercise routine. I know I am going to do couch to 5k 3 days a week. I know Sundays will be rest days. I know I want to exercise other 3 days (not sure if I want to do calisthenics or gym stuff). And I don't know what to put in my exercise routine. I don't know about warm ups. And I have this autistic desire that I don't want variation on my exercises. I want to do same stuff 3 times a week. (Except adding weights or changing another variation for progressive overload.)Each week I try to finish my plan start doing everything next week but I can't decide what to do for my exercise routine. Heeeelp
>>75409801Good luck cfa guy, i think that’s you. I still don’t know what a cfa is and i hope i never do>>75409467Wishy washy retail place is going hot and cold on whether or not they hire, but i think there’s a strong possibility I’ll get it in the end thanks to nepoing. I’m still learning the Russian language but stalling a bit, i think I’ll dedicate some weeks to the grammar and conjugations.Also I’m doing the NNN thing because some guy in another thread was getting crazy digits so I’m obligated to see it through. And I’m drawing lots.https://youtu.be/Dg4ALWcfAOM?si=PS1Tr-MWiDuX75IX
>>75409467I'm still sick bruhs but I managed to PR still with a 405x10 squat. My bench isn't so lucky I only hit 290x5 when I was expecting at least 6. I also lost all 5lbs that I put on, oh well.I'm starting my last 8 week bulking cycle to hopefully hit my strength goals on the first week of January (It's probably not likely I'll hit a 405 bench but I'll try my best anyways) then I'll start cutting for the first time in 18 months.NNN begins so I'm going to focus on music more than ever before and creating good habits.Top o’ da morning, let’s get this shit.
>>75410011You are correct, it is I CFAnon. Good luck on obtaining a job!
>>75409898The place I want to go is behind me
>>75410048Good work :)
>>75409467I appreciate these threads a lot. Digging the positivity and optimism. WAGMI
Can I have a hug? I'm sorry but I'm feeling down today and need optimism
>>75409514Congrats on your progress! I've noticed that ever since I slimmed down, I sweat less
>>75409467its 11am here. the library just opened, gonna go work on my website, commissions, and general sketches till its time to pick my son up. WRITE YOUR GOALS/TASKS DOWNthe best way to make sure you have a good week is to plan it out ahead of time. and make it specific and concrete. how many jobs are you going to apply to this week? how many times will you go to the gym? how many hours will you dedicate to reading/coding/etc etc? taking care of this will help keep your momentum throughout the week as you go through and check them off. best of luck this week anons.
I’ve been spending too much time thinking about a woman I see at my gym a lot. I’ve decided to just suck it up and talk to her next time I see her rather than live in this kind of fantasy land I’ve been stuck in for the past while. Digits and I get her number and we are all making it
>>75409467>my company just lost 2 major clients>might have been part of the reason why after I nearly quit and sent a massive rage email that got potentially leaked outDon't drink and learn to fix your shit.
>>75409510Stay strong, bro. You'll get your chance eventually
>>75409474>>75409677WAGMI
Salvete cinaedi. If not for this thread I would have killed myself. Still regret not having done it þough.
>>75409467Goal this week is to stop thinking about work when I'm home/on weekends to manage my stress better. Also do deep breathing to reduce my anxiety and get better sleep.>>75410478Just do it brah
>>75409751It’s honestly most likely not you, anon. That’s just how women are these days, they’ve been completely corrupted.
>>75411349Thanks brah I will, next time I see her for sure. I’ll update here
it's been kind of rough. holding in here tho but despite having achieved more or less what I expected from this year the difficulty and uncertainy are only increasingkind of miss when all I had to do was work out, study and hang out with my gf. it seemed like there was always so much to do but as long as I did it it was fine. now I have no idea if I'm doing right or wrong, things aren't as structured anymore and sometimes I'm afraid time goes on and on and despite all the hard work I put in every day I'm not moving forward
:)
>>75409898I’ll keep walking
>move cities & reconnect w/ girl I was in weightlifting club with in college>start going on dates>she’s never had a boyfriend at 23>i was her first kiss (inb4 “no you weren’t” brother i could tell)>she’s 145lb, squats 3pl8s>no penis>nationally competitive at olympic lifting>was beginning to lose hope>finally gain some again>now have very tight /fit/ gf who isn’t putting me through the typical woman bsit can happen to you too broshowever now i must fix my lustful ways as she wants to move slow. here for motivation
30 Weeks til my friends get married. I havn't posted for a few weeks, but have been consistent in the gym, gaining roughly 1lb per week, which I am happy with. I have a holiday this week, so am not likely to gain any muscle, and in fact may get skinnier from all the walking, but we all need a break every now and then. Food has been consistent, I just need to keep eating more of itStarting Weight: 153 lbsCurrent Weight: 156 lbsGoal Weight: 175 lbs, 12%bf
>>75409467Last week's thread, I posted that life was good. Then the alternator in my wife's car broke, money got temporarily tight, my dishwasher broke, and I was subjected to millions of political ads. But I didn't let that stop me and you can't let anything stop YOU. Politics are almost done, I fixed everything myself and that engine repair was an excellent forearm workout. We're all gonna make it, brothers. Never forget.
>>75409880Good luck in both of your fitness goals
>>75409905Just go and do what exercises interest you at first. The most important step for beginners is to simply go to the gym regularly
>>75409467Idk if I’m voting. I wanna. But I feel like it’s pointless. I have tomorrow off. Which is nice. But I kinda wanna take advantage of it to just chill.Speaking of which. I’m tempted to take an edible. I stopped using weed a while ago. But I’ve made some improvements and reached some goals since then. I’m mostly curious about if I can feel how I used to as a teen with no responsibilities while high again. Idk. I don’t even actually feel like getting high though. Like what’s the point? It became escapism for me for so long. I don’t like drinking it bores me. Weed just feels pointless while I’m high too but I can kinda feel some happiness.Caffeine has lost its touch just anxiety and insta poop.I’d like to just be high on life but I’m not in a position to go do cook shit I enjoy yet.Fuck it, im gonna plan to take some PTO and go solo camping next year. Idk where to go do it though, kinda wanna avoid places with grizzlies and crazy people.
>>75410048Even if you're sick, those are insane numbers. How long did it take you to go from benching 2pl8 to 3pl8?
>>75410060Time only moves in one direction
getting used to the CPAP, had a weird foot injury earlier in the week so didn't get anywhere near the cardio i should have. went on vacation with the gf, ate good but walked around a lot so it feels somewhat balanced. doing OMAD most of this week other than maybe meeting with her dad to officially ask for her handgoals for this week are to get back to eight mile run, drop vacation weight by Saturday, and get some clarity on state of my job application. also get my destroyed rental home figured out (i should have about 200k coming in since it was declared a total loss and i dont want to rebuild)
>>75411964Reporting back in. It's 815, worked out full body for two fuckin hours and partially ran a mile. Took forever but holy shit I'm sacked. Gonna sleep like a boot camp baby tonight
>>75409751Trust me, anon -- it's not you. I've had so many girls say they liked me, let me hit, whatever, and still ghost me the next day. A childhood friend I used to have a crush on and who used to have a crush on me did that after a great first date recently. She asked me out a second time and then when I accepted, she told me she just didn't see a long-term connection. Made no sense whatsoever. Hold your head high and keep doing what you're doing. You'll find someone -- it's just take longer than it should.
Stay strong anons :) people believe in you!
>>75409905> I can't decide what to do for my exercise routinegotta start at some point bro you’ll figure it out as you go along
>>75410384Sounds like you had a productive day. I really need to start journaling and articulating my thoughts and dreams
>>75412915it still isn't engrained as a habit yet so i have to make sure i keep up with it. but it has helped me these past few weeks. especially in terms of feeling that mental victory each day knowing my checklist is done.
miss my foreskin brosmakes me sad that i'll never know what sex is really likedrawing to ease my suffering
>>75411172I’m glad you’re alive. You’ve set a new personal record for days alive, don’t break the streak now
>>75411771>>she’s 145lb, squats 3pl8sOn tonight’s episode of “Things that never Happened”, featuring Anon.
The past 2 weeks have been turbulent to say the least. Turns out I'm in debt again due to not being aware of such until recently. I ended getting a new job, just got it confirmed today which is great. My weight gone up by 10lbs and I've regained most of my strength back but my stamina is dogshit. Hobbies are alright, showing more progress as well but not as much as I'd like. Still feels rather tough to do most things nowadays but I have a better understanding of why afyer looking into it. Looking forward to next week, let's make it count. https://youtu.be/S4E83RKavUU>Goals for this weekRun/Gym 4x, sort out a plan for paying everything off, study 2x and change up my routine. >>75410260>>75411567>>75412735:DWAGMI Bros
Work stress is really destroying me.I leave at ~6:30AM and reach home ~4:45PM.My health is so fucked. I wish I was a NEET again...I really need to figure out a way to retire early. I make good savings but don't know how to invest.If I can get a reliable 6-7% ROI and live frugal I might be able to retire in the next 5 years.
>>75411349Look into box breathing. I do it before bed in front of AC and it helps me out a lot
Another day i can give up, but again i decide not to. Can't let the people down who believe in me, can't let myself down even if i don't believe in me. Man, it's tough. Keep going anons, there's no other way.
>>75411513Life gets harder but you'll get stronger. God speed fren!
>>75409467Have the rare day off and hate to waste it. I’d like to go out and do something. Weather isn’t the best, nothing I can think of doing. Contemplating getting shawarma and going to a park to eat it but the weather is kinda gay atm. I know if I stay inside and rot all day I’ll feel like shit later tonight.Realized some of my recent shitty feels is rooted in a desire for change. I obviously want change for me and myself directly (money fizeek mental) but I also feel like I need to get away from where I am. Get to a whole new area with different people. And I’m simply not there yet. I do believe a trip would serve me well.
Bros... I was happy for the past 3 years, time to pay it off I guess. Every week was better than the previous, until now.Everything is happening at once. I'm fucked.>my health is getting worse, doctors don't know how to fix it. It hurts.>people belived in me to win an olympiad. I'll let them down. One week left and I haven't archieved anything. Losing means fucking up my chances in next step of education.>I was meant to take part in a very important international project, I did everything right and yet somehow I wasn't accepted. I know people inside, they don't know what happend.I won't fucking give up, but I've lost hope and hapiness that I've builded for a few years.
>>75411789You're making great progress, so keep it up!
>been lifting for a few months now>changes are happening slowly but surely though nothing is outwardly obvious yet>yesterday went to the deli at this grocery store for lunch break >2 ladies working, 1 young blonde and 1 older lady>older lady makes my order, goes fine>petite blonde qt makes my coworker's order>she is very matter-of-fact the whole time, not rude, just doing her job>she turns around to put it in the oven and then turns and looks straight at me with a look I don't get very often>finishes his order and hands it off>I stop her and ask if I can get a fork, the box of forks is empty out here>she lights up like a Christmas tree, wide eyes, biggest grin, eagerly hands me a fork, tells me to have a wonderful dayit's the little things, friends. No idea if the lifting was a factor or not because I don't feel like I've changed that much, but it just feels nice to be acknowledged positively by women even if nothing ever comes of it. The whole thing put a lot of fuel in my tank. I will keep going.
Fellas remember: no matter who you vote for, no matter who wins, your life will not change. Neither candidate cares about you. You will still never get married, or own a house, or have any purpose or happiness in your life. It is meaningless.
>>75415366Good for you man. I’m still barely lifting but my new job is pretty active and it’s the weirdest thing, my gains are coming back from this job. I at most lift a box weighing like 60lbs and move it 5 feet once a shift it’s mostly just a ton of walking kneeling and standing back up (essentially doing bodyweight squats all day). Obviously it’s mainly my quads but I can see my pecs biceps fuck even my core and lats are noticeable through the body fat again. It’s nothing major but it’s encouraging to say the least. Makes me wanna go all in with diet and a proper lifting routine. I just know if I do that that in about 4 months I’ll look where I left off again (230lbs 25% body fat end of a big bulk) and then in another 5-8 months after I’ll look the best I ever have. Shit by the time I hit 215 I would probably look like I worked out again to other people. Not even a full year to look great again wtf have I been doing dragging ass so long.
>>75411829Life changes rapidly. Good for you for taking charge and not falling apart. I'll try to remember that - We're gonna make it
>>75415462This is why I didn’t go do it today. I’d rather take the day off I got to do whatever I want. The problem is idk what to do. Hate to be cooped up inside all day. Still happier than if I went to wait in line for 2 hours and then cast a vote on someone who views me as tax cattle
>Year closure for me right now...Seeing a progress in many aspects of my life overall , really felt the sense of growth in past 12 or so month , still trying to make it happen , still trying to push forward, still getting frustrated , still getting no's, still sinning...still want MORE...Relationship , career, lifestyle ,myself, whatever...The good and bad days , making the best out of them...One thing for sure I can't let my focus slip from the important things for me right now....Hope everyone is having a great time....Don't give up , glow up :)>Jeremiah 1:5>Jeremiah 29:11https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CkBV-6-tFWg
>>75415462(You)
>>75412241Don't give into temptation bro. You're way better than weed. Check out camping in Vermont or New Hampshire, they're both beautiful
Not gonna lie last months were rough>Mom got diagnosed with cancer and started with chemo>Help with cleaning and cooking>Give emotional support>Live in shitty part of town>Weekly multiple schitzo events from crackheads and partying students>Getting good rest or good night sleep is rare>Tell manager I want more hours to make more money to search for better house>Manager goes full machiavellian>Gives more expectations>"Getting more hours is a reward"> mfw>Been eating more slop>Been drinking more and during the week>Isolate myself>Almost no chatting with friends and relatives through social mediaI just gotta stop yapping and focus on my stuffIt's not all negative>Sleep sucks but steady routine>Wake up at 6 >Hit 130 gram protein daily easy>5 gym sessions each week>started new project at work>team leader tell me im killing it>started praying againLast week I allowed myself to feel proud for the first time in monthsFor being there for my mom, taking care of my work, hitting it hard at the gym and hitting my macrosI know friends and relatives are going to give me a talk for not hitting them upDecided I will refuse to feel badI made it through without developing an addiction and took care of my businessThats enough for meWere all gonna make it
>>75412663Good luck on getting your money back and getting her dad's approval!
>>75410130Thanks fren>>75412480Thanks, it took 6 years but I took a year and a half off because of Covid, so maybe 4 and a half years of consistent lifting but I also spent one of those years specializing in OHP.
>>75413120Same. I'm American and my dad is jewish so I had no choice. My future sons won't be mutilated though
>>75416028Man, that's rough, but you're getting through it and taking care of those you cares about. Make sure to take care of yourself too and good luck, anon.
>>75415833I didn’t give in. Considered even getting a few beers. But yeah it dawned on me I want to escape my current environment not get drunk or high.I will look into those states. I would probably go in about 6-10 months. Idk what all camping even entails but I’d hope to>hike, explore, photograph, fish, forage>>75416028Your manager is a faggot. I’ve been a manager. In most jobs in order to shine you need more hours. So this moronic sack of fly jizz is essentially saying “to get more hours you need more hours” heather he even realizes it.I also once had a sales job where hours were given based on nepotism and they had this whole issue with me because they thought they hired me as temp and acted like I somehow pulled a fast one on them even though the posting was full time permanent. Gave me 8 hours a week. My numbers were shit. Somehow I managed to on 8 hours a week make equal or more revenue to all the full timers but they didn’t care. Managers who don’t actually give a shit about employees or the business will just give priority to whoever they want. For instance you’ll notice a dumb incompetent ditzy hoe getting hours.. a good manager would at least give you a chance even if it was just 6 extra hours a week at first>the restStop drinking, eat healthier even if mostly healthy with slop once a week, try to spend time outdoors both solo and with your mom
Boys im fucking scared18 but I can't get it up. Last night it was like thisNo morning wood. Nothing
>>75414233Sorry that you're going through a tough period right now. However, remain optimistic that you will prevail
>>75416401I got 10 years on you and it’s been like this since I was at least 20 when I lost my virginity. I chalked it up to nerves. But I had to be with the same chick like 10 times to get hard and even then didn’t really stay hard or even get mostly hard. I have missed out on so many opportunities man, because nerves knowing what would happen. I’ve sperged it up over this or I’ve flat out avoided taking the pussy that was being all but handed to me. I even missed out on a 3 some with a tall sticc blonde and her 5’3” Colombian GF literally had them kissing me and cuddling on either side.I tried cialis with last GF after same shit happened when we first fucked. Got it through goodrx. The amount of confidence I gained seeing what I could do. I’ve never had a bitch reacting like that and I realized I have a big dick when it’s fully 100% hard.I don’t suggest you rely on cialis but I do recommend trying it. You need to stop jacking off. Nofap for 3 months, noporn forever. After 3 months get yourself a fleshlight and use that once a week with imagination, imagining yourself fucking bitches you wanna fuck. But for now keep the cialis on hand so should you get laid you’ll be okay. It can cause a reliance if abused where you then need it even without EQ issues previously. 10mg about 30 minutes before is all you need. Can make it hard to cum but I found this to be beneficial because it meant I had tons of control over when I finished
>didn't sleep enough>crash hard after work>wake up near evening>welp.wav>browser internet for a while>didn't go to /v/, just browsed small hobby board>no new content>...>fuck it>wear earbuds>go continue cleaning up>nice>oh, it's nearing sleep time >earbuds still in>actually brushed, flossed and rinsed my teeth with mouthwash>also cleaned my face with that fancy soap I bought>with no hint of getting lethally bored or anything Holy shit, this is greatest hack I ever had.And here I tried to medicate myself with John's Wort for dopamine deficiency.If I manage to use that to get my ass working on my hustles/hobbies and life in general then I might be able to actually turns my shit around.Get the Bluetooth earbuds, this shit totally rocks.
>>75414238Invest in S&P 500/Nasdaq index funds. They're very safe investments
>>75416483I haven't fapped in a week I was getting erections all throughout my streak up until yesterday. I'll try and do more cardio and eat healthier and see in the next 2 months or so.Not sure if I wanna hop on stuff now.
I don't give a fuck, I'm going to keep pushing through the discomfort with everything I have, I'm already broken anyway so there's nothing to lose, if it doesn't work this time I'll just come at it even harder next time, my reality is eventually going to yield
>>75416318then we can both die one day knowing that we broke this god-forsaken cyclefor now, thankfully, life still seems worth living
Hello, friends. I managed to get up today and go to the gym again for the second day in a row for the first time in about a week. My course load has been very high this quarter. But now that we're over the mid-term peak, I have more time to work out again. I had a good pull day. I would also like to give a bit of a diatribe because of the anxieties many are feeling from the US election. Remember, worry does nothing. The remedy, or psychotherapy, that actually fights our misery is to do something about it. And I don't mean doing it out of that misery, but of a deep conviction found in joy. Joy is contagious. Change the world with a smile on your face. The place of joy in our world of fact is right at the center.
>>75414238>>75416611 is correct. I would also recommend putting some money into high dividend stuff. Let it reinvest over and over.
>>75409467I think I'm gonna have to resort to delivering for Door Dash to make some money.Any anons here with experience in it? Is it all just niggers and spics or is it pricey enough to weed out the non-Whites?
Stay strong anons :)
Good news: I made a new friend at the gym Bad news: I had to roll a bar off of my chest
>>75409467snorted a line of cole this morning on my way to work and in my high realized that I wanted more young people at my office so I commanded HR to hire 4 college grads for no reason today.
>>75417668Thank you so much for your service. Its insanely hard to get a job these days as a young person. You're going to heaven
>>75417549:)
Stomach pain is killing me slowly but surely.I've got nothing else to do but stay alive best I can, so whatever
>>75415181I've spent my entire life in roughly the same place and I've also reached the same conclusion. The only way I can truly move on is to change my scenery. I hope we both escape
>>75416972>>75416611Would Index Funds be a better investment than property rentals?A lot of people seem keen of rental flats.
>>75418062I don't know enough real estate to give you advice on it. Frankly unless you're on an expert on the subject, you shouldn't either. There are many risks in renting out property. In comparison, index funds give pretty stable growth although there are financial risks.
>>75409801your persistence and grit will eventually pay off CFA anon, keep trying and never give up on your job search. career switch anon here. i had a question about long-term goal setting. do you write monthly and year-based goals? i've always had trouble with this, any tips or advice? the best i can do and envision is weekly and daily goals (these time spans are more tangible to me). i'll always have some long-term goal in the back of mind, but don't really plan it out and just grind away until it's done.in a non-profession context, i was rejected recently by a lady friend i was falling for :( i have self-reflected on my experiences and processed my negative emotions (i suspect it may flare-up again from time to time). i learned a lot about myself. i was able to grow as a person also. now i take these learnings and move forward! i did my best. i was my genuine and authentic self. i have no regrets. don't give up anons! you're gonna make it if you keep persisting.
I finally sat down and wrote out what my self criticizing voice is droning on about in the background, and my god there was a lot more shit that I wasn't aware of. I thought I was "only" insecure about my body and acheivements in academia, boy was I wrong.I've been adviced to write it all down before through therapists and mental health content creators, and now it's time for me to pass that advice down - there's probably stuff you need to know that you aren't aware of, and writing it down can help in making those insecurities not feel as real and debilitating as they do right now I made myself cry for the first time in my life writing down the hard truth of my deepest insecurity, that I'm not worthy. This happened a few days ago and I have been feeling better throughout the week. Now I'm aware that this is a big driver in my subconsciousness and that it doesn't have to get to control me. Try it anons.Other than that, I've almost fixed my sleep schedule (priority #1), am working on eating again (#2) and my next biggest hurdle is to get lifting and roooning to be second nature in my weekly routine - I'll update on these in the future.Open for questions about mental and physical health, final year medfag who wants to give back after receiving so much support along the way.You have survived every difficulty so far and you will continue to do so for the rest of your life. Your feelings aren't harmful, you are capable of living by yourself, things will change for the better wether you like it or not, she doesn't matter as much as you think.Wagmi boys
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>>75411508Did you ask her out yet? Sending you good luck>>75414907Thanks anon tried this on the way to work today and it put me in a good headspace. Haven't done it since I used to do yoga classes>>75418189>do you write monthly and year-based goals?I write seasonal/quarterly goals and I find this helps me be more specific and also aligns with life events. I find my goals are more social or connection based in summer/spring. Also seems like you coped with the rejection well, her loss amirite?>>75418419I've also been into journalling recently. What questions did you ask yourself to prompt that reflection? I feel like the only way I could do it is just dump all my thoughts onto the page and get there in a continuious stream of consciousness
Holy shit it's almost the end of the year and I barely even finished any of my goals. I've been extremely depressed, bedrotting for the past two years and I really need to get my shit together but fuck I keep thinking about shooting myself. I need to keep going man but damn I'm drained out.
>>75418485Therapist and content creators have recommended it, I think the reason for doing it *now* is that my best friend has been doing the same whilst dealing with being on long term leave from his job, from being overworked for years now (fuck the ultrarich by the way). He's had multiple sessions where he's been taking a look on why he feels so bad for "not being able to endure", despite enduring this - and worse - for year.I dumped all thoughts as you describe, and there was a lot more under the surface that I haven't faced before, at least not consciously. My self-criticizing voice is really well spoken it turns out, kudos to him. Used humor as well, ending it with "KYSses ;)" and shit lol.>>75418492>any of my goalsBrother, stop this. One of the best things I've learned in therapy is that if your capacity is reduced, the only thing you can do is lower your expectations to yourself. You've been sick, just as real as having a debilitating bodily illness - you wouldn't be this hard on yourself if that was the case, right?I've been depressed throughout almost all of my twenties, with a cumulative time of bedrot of much more than you. You're right in that you need to get better, but you can't expect to be able to that shit by yourself. Seek professional help, and comfort in your social circle if you guys can talk openly about these kinds of things.>nofriendsWell that makes it harder, but you can still reach out to others, join a community - volunteer at a soup kitchen for example.>bedriddenThen start out with going to a therapist, start trying antidepressants (Lamictal 200mg worked for me)>healthcare usa no workAs well as: lol america, invest in working a way around it - does your community college offer therapeutic services? Can you afford to travel abroad for it? If no to all of this, puck up the phone and talk to SOMEONE. Try to understand that you have all the time in the world to get better, you've got your entire lifespan ahead of you.
I got up surpassingly easy today. Found out trump won (I know we’re still eating a shit sandwich but it’s better to have one with ranch and cheese than a shit sandwich with pubes that lends aid to illegals and makes weak people feel empowered for no reason….). Good start to the day. I realized just now, sitting on the toilet, that if I can get out of bed within 5 minutes and take my shit I could probably squeeze in a short workout before I get ready and leave for work. Get up at 3 leave for work at 4-420. It’s a tight window but that’s about 40 minutes to lift if I can squeeze a log off by 320. I prefer to lift early, get better workouts feel better most of the rest of the day and sleep better. Too bad I seem to literally take 30 minutes to finish pooping>>75418045It only just occurred to me. And I can’t help but wonder, will this always be a thing I feel? Like, let’s assume I make it into a best case scenario of either winning the lottery (enough to live off for life) or I find a way to make money online or whatever. I then move to a new state. In another 5-10 years am I gonna feel fed up again? Would I, in the position to move whenever I want feel this way much sooner? Because in all retrospect I’ve been feeling this for close to 10 years now
>>75418036:)
think about this though, WAGMI
>>75418189Thanks for the praise. I need to keep applying so that I can move on. I tend write down yearly goals. Whether they’re fitness or career related, I find that it’s beneficial for me to articulate what I want to achieve. I find that if I set monthly goals, I get too discouraged if my plan goes off track. Remember that the process is a marathon, not a sprint! I’m sorry it didn’t work out with your crush, career switch anon. Use this experience as motivation to improve yourself. You can and will grow stronger! Keep pushing forward! WAGMI!
>>75416748Stay strong bro. Heaven awaits
>demoralization posts deletedNice. :)
>>75416965Nice job getting back into fitness! Your strength will return quicker than you expect
>>75420070>filenamethanks brotherI hope the archive helped you on your way to whatever you want to achieveI'll update it this year, even it is the last thing I do.
>>75420543Thank you for creating the drive, I love it <3 I'm glad a couple of my posts are archived in ithttps://mega.nz/folder/v6AzSDSJ#9nFO3qrNGUEKs3M-uMFfuw/folder/uihXibQK
>>75420692I'm, glad to helpit's just some anon spending some hours giving back you anons helped me making my life better (if you are able to filter out 95% of the shitposts) now I am giving it somehow back
I'm thinking of starting to approach girls in public. I went to the bank today, and I met eyes with at least three attractive girls worthy of asking out. One looked me up and down a few times and kept looking back, but we were both being helped at the same time, and she left before I could start something up. These dating apps are horrendous -- no way to really connect. I think I'd rather shift back to the old-fashioned method and risk being curtly turned down.
My girlfriend is the first person I've loved in my life and she left me due to circumstances outside if our control not because either of us did anything wrong. I dont know what to do with myself. I'm heartbroken bros
>>75418038Sorry about your pain. Do you know what the root cause is?
>>75418430ONE MUST!!
>>75420917Who cares about where you are now? Focus on becoming the man you want to be. Based on what you've shared, you used to be crazy strong. You'll reach your goal eventually. WAGMI
>>75420932Thank you bro. When I started, I had went from 300lbs to 160lbs (6’2”). I did a suicide cut for over 12 months. So when I then started to lift I was frail and weak, I couldn’t bench the bar for 10 reps. I busted ass and got strong over 4 years. Then life happened and I stopped got fat yadda yadda.I’m fixing it all. I’m losing all the fat, I’m getting my strength back and my muscle back. Home gym has collected dust the last 5-6 years. I’m going to make it, I want that bitch to see me again and see me with a new physique. She never knew me when I was fit only before (fat) and after (fat). I know she’ll follow me again maybe text me. It’s not all for her. But this was the spark I needed to get off my ass and start again. WAGMI.
>>75420858If you have the confidence and body, you should. Just don't be an asshole or creep
>>75420242:)Stay strong anons!
>>75420910I'm the dude from the last thread who had the same thing happen. It's ridiculously tough when you've gotta part with someone that things actually work really well with. It's so much easier when they hate you or you hate them by the end of it. I'd say try to overcome the circumstances, but I'm sure you have. You could wait it out, if the conditions are right, and try again later in life. I'm still hoping for that sort of thing myself. But you also need to do right by yourself and others in the meantime. It gets easier.
>>75421124Thanks for replying bro. she blocked my number. i have no other means of contacting her now and everything feels like shit. now im stuck overthinking everything if i could have done differently
>>75421314Same here. She blocked me and then unblocked me to tell me she loved me and always would. You end up at their mercy, in a way. You have to realize, though, that while there were things you could've done differently, and that that might've prolonged things, there was probably a fundamental issue you wouldn't have been able to escape. Hold out hope, but don't limit yourself. As long as you played your cards and told her exactly what you wanted, you shouldn't have any regrets.
>>75418492I'm in the same boat, I also failed to accomplish what I set out to do this year. I'm sad but I'll have to work even harder next year to get back on track. Good luck fren
>>75418079What's the usual expense ratio you see with Index Funds? I'm looking at what I have locally and it's like 0.5% yearly which seems really high...I'm not American so I don't have access to Vanguard, BUT am in a special situation where I don't have to pay taxes on income... so my calculation is a bit different.
Stay positive anons :)
>>75421655The best is yet to come :)
>>75421655We must persist because people believe in us, even if we don't realize it!>>75421669:)
all i can think about is how much i want to kill myself. in under a month i will be 33 and such a loser that most people wouldnt even believe someone can voluntarily end up as pathetic as me, how its possible to not have some sort of drive in your life to not end up like this. and my self confidence is so non-existent that i cant even do anything to pull myself out of this. i dont even have any positive life memories to look back on and want to try to get that feeling back. my entire life is a blur and its like i have just been a non-playable character for my entire life. nothing of any substance whatsoever. i think im going to start researching viable suicide methods that i may be able to do before the end of the year.
I really let a girl write a big long message about how she didn't want to be in a long distance relationship with me, then humiliated myself by begging to have her in my life, and turns out it's because she left me for the dude I told her to go a trip with (but I wasn't aware it was a two person trip) lmao. You know she really had me going there but finding that out kinda rounds out the whole experience and I can't believe I let someone like that ruin my self esteem. I'm buying a house soon. Getting healthier. Better hobbies. Sorting out some mood issues. Life is pretty good dudes.
>>75420913Inflammation of the gut lining caused by SIBO, mostlyIt used to be H.Pylori, but it became SIBO after a round of antibiotics.After 2 years of going to doctors and specialist clinics I kinda gave up on curing it and just "managed" itNow I'm tempted to go back and see what they do
Found out today my gym crush is half my age. Not sure if dealbreaker just yet kek
>>75420923YES
>>75421499I know you're trying to comfort the guy, but I was in the same situation 12 years ago and It never got better. She still haunts me, I'll lie awake at night thinking of her to this day, and I'm still full of regrets over it. I wish I had quit school and upended my life to stay with her, she was worth more than the degree in retrospect. She's married and has kids, so its too late to do anything about it now, but I'll always regret I didn't have the courage to take the steps necessary to stay with her. She was the only girl I ever really got along with, and I didn't fully realize at the time just how rare that actually was.
>>75409467It's been a tough year in some ways for my wife and I. Two of my friends died, one of them from cancer. She lost a friend. Yesterday we got the news that her dad has a very large tumor that's been causing some pain. We talked and will continue to talk about mortality, and fear, and sadness, and loss. We're gonna go spend a lot of time with him. I wish this hadn't happen. It is humbling, and honoring, to be the person someone turns to when the worst is happening.>>75421681Anon, don't do it. It sounds like there is something mentally wrong here, and that might be treatable. My sister was suicidal recently; long term mental health stuff. Got an experimental treatment (from a licensed physician) and is doing well, enjoying life again. If it's in your head, it is worth treating. If it's because your life is shit, that can actually be fixed. Keep living, Anon.>>75421725I'm proud of you for realizing that you shouldn't let others make you worse, or humiliate yourself. Keep it up, Anon.>>75415248That's rough Anon. I don't know what's going on with your health or your career. But keep trying.
Stay strong anons, today is another day to try again.
>>75421874Is she at least 18?
Tried dating apps for about a month and a half. Taking a break now. Made a whole list of stuff I need to do like get a tattoo removed and lose weight before I start dating again. Haven’t gotten laid in about a year.
>>75421867Have you considered alternative medicine?
>>75418485>Did you ask her out yet? No I haven’t seen her since Sunday - hoping for tonight or maybe tomorrow. Honestly the more time that passes the more motivated I get, I just want this done.
>>75422555I'm really sorry about your losses. However, be strong for your wife. She really needs your strength now
>>75422845:)
>>75422988Dating apps suck. Prioritize yourself before putting yourself back on the market
>>7542370234 and never dated before, how do you even start dating? The apps seem like a total crap shoot.
>>75422423Twelve years is a long time to punish yourself over a relationship, man. Stories like yours are genuinely depressing. It's like you're treating her like a dead spouse. Clearly, she's moved on, so you may be in love with your image of her, the idealized form, and not the real her at this point. It's not too late to find someone else. I think you deserve to be happy, too.
>>75423719I've dated dozens of girls after her, hell I was only with her for about a year and half, one of my shortest serious relationships. I just never clicked with any of the other girls like I did her. We separated amicably, she cried a lot but understood I couldn't stay, and I figured I'd get my degree, meet someone else, start working. I did the other parts, but I just never met another girl who I could make a connection like that. Its hard to explain what its like when you meet someone who is just right for you, someone who understands you, someone who you like hanging out with. It was like she was my bestfriend and I had known her my whole life, and I could talk to her about anything, it was just so comfortable, just sitting and talking with her was an enjoyable way to spend an afternoon. I didn't need to hide anything from her I could just be myself and she liked me for it. She was only like my 3rd relationship so I didn't fully appreciate at the time how rare that experience can be.If I have any advice its if you ever have a relationship like that don't give it up for an education/career or something stupid like that.
>>75423953Damn. I feel you on that. I was the same way with my ex, frankly. We just clicked on all levels. But she was mentally ill, and I knew it would eventually break us apart, so I found myself wondering if I should try to find a "normie" girl. Huge mistake. I placed my career above just enjoying the time we had together, and I'll probably never forgive myself for it. I still think about whether or not we could've gone the distance, if being with me and trying to start a family would've been enough to "save" her. But I'm almost 30 now, and I think I have to look for something else. It might not be as good, but I'd still like to find someone. Part of me still wants to pull some grand move and make a lot of money and bail my ex out of her poverty. I remain torn, but forward is the only direction to go, whatever that may look like.
My Aunt died. This year both my Grandma and my Aunt have passed away
>>75424045Sorry for your loss, anon.
>>75418419> there's probably stuff you need to know that you aren't aware of, and writing it down can help in making those insecurities not feel as real and debilitating as they do right nowi have found writing such a powerful tool for me. i have found a CBT worksheet that helps me bring into consciousness my overly harsh and critical self evaluations. i used to journal regularly also, and found that quite therapeutic just getting my stream of consciousness in my head onto paper. i am glad that writing down you self critcising voice has been able to give you insight and greater self-awareness, allowing you to tackle it now. > I'm not worthyi can relate anon... i have realised that it's a toxic and soul sucking attitude to take towards myself. i have been working actively to counter this negative mindset i have built for years. still chipping away at the CBT worksheet and just need to repair my mindset to something more healthy, an on-going project. i hope you can fix yours one day too. > medfagthat's proof that the self criticising voice should neck itself. you're making it in a valued profession. > You have survived every difficulty so far and you will continue to do so for the rest of your life. Your feelings aren't harmful, you are capable of living by yourself, things will change for the better wether you like it or not, she doesn't matter as much as you think.you will continue to survive because you have mental resilience and fortitude! you are self-aware to process your negative emotions and feelings in a healthy way. yin-yang, the cycle will ALWAYS repeat itself, this is the nature of life - we just need to have 'faith' in dark times. your self-worth should not be completely tied to a woman's romantic interest in you, you offer value in other ways also! keep strong anon and move forward, ygmi.
>>75423953I don’t have a lot that can help you but I wanted to say thank you because your posts have helped me gain some clarity on my recent ex from like 7 months ago and feel a little more over her. I never really had any real connection with her. I cared about her deeply but we didn’t really click and I found her insufferable to interact with. It’s been confusing to me but this all helps me realize we just weren’t a good pairing, not good for each other and ultimately probably should have taken it a bit slower with her to figure that out in advance rather than jump into a relationship immediately.What I can say is that if you can do it once you can absolutely do it again. I do know it isn’t common or easy to find what you had though. But it’s not impossible.
I don't have the balls to sadly but life will always be miserable for me and its because of my choices (I'm 18).If I left my house, I hope someone kills me for being black. I'm also autistic. I have no value.The past never goes away.
>>75424230Dude I'm a fuckin gigamutt (I'm from Belize. Dad's black with a white grandpa and my Mom is half white half native). I'm 24 and let me just say life is splendid for me. You can't let race and your past experiences define you. I'm just gonna cut the bullshit and say there are people who care about you.However you MUST build something of yourself. Go into fixing cars, fixing bicycles, fixing parts of infrastructure etc. Build a work ethic. This will give you self-worth and confidence.You may think your past dictates who you are but only if you let it.Also enjoy this life man it's way too short and we're all gonna die anyways so don't care too much about what people think and just live.Stay safe my bro.
>>75421124>>75420910same thing happened to me too bros. it got better for me. it was a long, painful grieving process but it allowed me to process things and see what my shortcomings were (hers as well) and get back in touch with myself. it took some time to get over it, but it passed eventually. im a big proponent of cutting contact. it's really hard, but it's much harder to move on if you keep in touch. you're someone worth loving and you're valuable. you'll find someone else who will make you feel cherished and loved. you just need to have this naive optimism that things will get better. the blackpill mindset will doom you
>>75424325I wouldn’t be surprised if this was Elliott himself posting.>I’m 24I guess it’s not.>build something for yourselfThis is excellent advice that every man needs to hear. We gotta have goals and aspirations and some kind of a purpose. It fixes our brains. We’re not made to stagnate or at best just 9-5 and rot.>>75424230Take his advice man. I initially got out of my slump by getting back into fishing. It gave me a goal and doubled as a means to get in the sun and around nature and be semi active. It re taught me basic patience when I didn’t catch anything for my entire first month of going every day. The job market is crappy but then I got a job after trying for a while, and I formed new goals.In short my goal is to get into cars. For fun and as a career. I really wanna get a 280z to work on and eventually use as a daily. I know very little about cars.But that’s just it, I feel a big part of life most don’t realize is it’s never meant to be one thing or venture. Set a goal, get after it, learn get good beat that goal then do it again and again and again. Always be learning, always after a new goal. Think about it. Even if you fail half of them that’s still 50% that you achieved and succeeded in. I got into that head space by failing and giving up rather than trying again or setting new goals. I want you to know I normally hate niggers but I want you to become happy and I believe in you
>>75424230You’re still young. You still have plenty of time to turn your life around. Do you know what’ll you do in terms of school?
>>75411681>>75409898Why do people glamorize the cuck in this NTR hentai?
>>75424388I hope I'll be able to see things like this eventually. As it stands, I wake up in a sort of daze most mornings and have to force myself to keep going. I can't go back to the womanizer type I was before, and I can't approach my work with the same single-minded egotism I used to have. It's a weird state to be in. My hang-up is that I don't think I'll find anyone who cares about me as much as she used to. She would've taken a bullet for me and then some. Every other girl I've met since has been so wishy-washy by comparison.
Nothing to do but continue, strive on.
>>75409467Wanted to update about old guy coworker. He started talking about black people. In the ghetto store we sometimes go to where I just finished having problems with all the black workers…. He ended up telling me about pilot training and how>you know the lower class… like those lower class people… the blacks and the spanishes they get to become pilots even if they failHis exact wording. It was one of the few times he spoke in a normal speaking voice. I’m pretty sure others heard him. Like holy fuck this lunatic is trying to get me killed
>>75409467I had a realization over the past few months that I really hate my chosen profession and what I'm really interested in is something that my family probably would consider beneath me. I'm in computer science and all my life I've kind of tried to force myself into a "tech nerd" mold but I'm coming to the realization that I'm more of a creative-minded person. I wanted to write books and comics, I wanted to work on video games, I wanted to work on animation and films, I even enjoyed doing acting the handful of times I got the opportunity, heck I even like stuff like dancing. My parents and my family are all either engineers or doctors or academics and while I'm smart enough to understand the technical stuff, I really don't want to work in a fucking office with a bunch of socially awkward geeks for the rest of my life. And the worst part is that I'm turning 31 in a few months and it feels like it's a bit dumb of me to be having such thoughts when I'm out of my 20s. Or feeling like I've wasted my 20s and am now trying to catch up in my 30s.
*hugs everyone in this thread*
>>75426677I suggest you simply start creating while you work your job. If it’s the main thing you do outside of work then that’s plenty of time spent on it, and that’s meaningless if you truly enjoy it. Create, find ways to market it (various platforms and social media), try to get acting gigs even if just as an extra at first, etc. Grind it out until it’s either earning you enough to support yourself or it’s close enough that you think if you quit your job to focus more on it you could have it earning enough. But continue with the job until then. A job is just a means of income. It doesn’t define you. Even if it is a gay job you find soul crushing. Your soul food so to speak comes from the shut you do outside of your job.
>>75426674:)
Boys, it's Friday - how are we holding up? Share your plans for getting through it, I'd like to get some input on that myself:I've started saying no to the invitations that would be a net loss for me, even though going drinking with the guys is really fun.So now I'm at a loss for what to do with myself, I've got a sick dog that needs comfort and my friends are celebrating halloween for the third time. On top of this, bad feels / yearning for>herthat drives me up the wall. Suggestions?>>75424099I appreciate it, feeling understood is the bomb. Very glad you've had the same experience with worksheets!Thanks again, I really appreciate your support. Hope you're in a good place with yourself already, or are on your way there :)
Press onwards, anons, persevere! Things will get better :)
The weekend starts here https://youtu.be/y1DUKZapCOc?si=8rvIEKdnwZ82u8V0
>>75428857:)
>>75425223I’ve always thought Simon and Kamina should be the idols of /fit/
believe in yourselves
Don't give up :)
>>75426707>hugs you back
>>75424230Get the fuck off 4chan. Seriously, don't look down on yourself for the color of your skin.
>Loneliness is as deadly as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.I got full blown cancer then.
>>75427927Don't feel an obligation to go out if you think it'll be destructive. Take care of doggy instead
>>75409905Need to cross the Rubicon in life and force yourself into situations where there is no turning back. Unironically cooking into my missus and having a kid has done wonders for my focus, time management, motivation and routine
>>75429439I know that feeling. I should have made friends back when I was in school
could give up, decided not to. keep going anons.
My job has been taking over my life since several colleagues resigned. I couldn't train for months due to stress and exhaustion andlost a lot almost 10 kg weight. I can perhaps fix myself with a good workout schedule that hits every muscle that i can do 3 times a week with great protein advice, any advice, i find a lot of junk on the internet.
Sitting in a hospital room. My wife and I just lost our baby, she was 34 weeks pregnant. My wife's spleen ruptured causing the baby to die.They brought my baby out for me I sat in this room and held her and cried. My wife is still in surgery. I have no one else
>>75430396Jesus fuck dude that's brutal. I'm so sorry to hear that. Just look after your wife and take it day by day.
>got back into some hobbies>got more active>got job>started losing weight>started lifting again>overcame like 90% of my anxiety issues>finally have formulated realistic goals and a plan to achieve them for the first time and am actively working towards them>finally feel over both of my exes, rarely think of the first and when I do feel nothing, barely think of the more recent one and when I do the most I think is “all I can do is hope she’s doing well”>suddenly started getting no caller ID calls that hang up after a couple ringsFunny how that works. A little frustrating to say the least but I would rather stay focused than spend much time on that, it is what it is. I feel like I’ve finally gotten it in order or at least I’m finally doing the right things and focused in the right way to get it all together. WAGMI
I struggle with keeping to a path. I am aware of my issues - I feel small & weak, even though I objectively have a lot going. So I act cruel and sleazy because I let myself - because the world owes me, and I have it hard enough.My gf comes to me with hurt, and I take it as an attack and strike back with vengeance - because I default to being paper thin as a person.I've got all physical things sorted, but still default to this. I know, I understand - then still fall whenever it would actually matter. It's really frustrating, recently I've had some old, dark, self-destructive thoughts come back. I think I take pointless risks that will have me rejected by those I care about on purpose because I see myself as failed for a decade. I live in the ruins of what wasn't.
>>75429938:)
>>75430396Goddamn, anon. Really sorry for your loss. There's not much to be done right now but to hold out hope, I suppose. >>75430947I used to live like you. I wasn't confident in who I was beyond my skills at my job, so even though I was finding success and had a promising future, I felt like I wasn't enough for her and that she'd eventually realize it. Your self-loathing is rooted in your feelings of weakness, and the more you spurn them and act like a sleaze or a tyrant, the more you'll hurt yourself and those around you. You ought to be more honest with yourself and admit to your sense of weakness. Tell her. Then work on showing who you really are. Otherwise, you'll do what I did and lose someone you could've married.
>>75430396I'm really sorry about your loss. Please remind yourself that you will always love your child but will love your future children
>>75430396Sorry to hear that, anon... it's difficult to even imagine that situation. It might not mean much coming from anons, but i offer condolences and hope for better days for you and your wife.
>>75430535Congrats on your progress!
>>75432391>on a beautiful autumn's weekendNigga, it's November, it gets dark ar 4pm & I don't remember what the sun looks like.
>>75430481>>75432253>>75432338>>75432428I'm in the ICU with my wife she is sedated and intubated. I thought I made it, I found a women to marry me that wanted to have my babies. We both makes good money. Bought a house together.Now I'm not sure if she's gonna live the night
>>75432769No words can comfort you right now, but know that people care about you. I have never met you, never will, but I love you, anon. Take care. Eat, drink, try to sleep. Ground yourself in the basics right now. Whatever happens, take care.
>>75409467I want>to look hot>pussy>enough money to do the shit I enjoy>the free time to do that shit>good health>fulfillmentSo to achieve these things I will>eat how I know I have to, go on daily walks, use ERG once a week, lift 2-3 days and get lean build muscle, fix my clothes and style issue>socialize>save my money and work towards my job/career goals>learn time management and start multiple avenues to make money outside of my job, work on getting them to the point I can work less hours to focus on them or quit job entirely>quit energy drinks and vaping, also quit porn and fapping, make my handful of overdue doctors appointments>accomplish my goals and always be setting new ones to chase even if they fruit nothing but a sense of accomplishment
>>75432769Your situation sucks, I’m not going to sugarcoat it. But please don’t do anything you’ll regret. People care about you, especially your wife. Don’t throw your life away
>>75432897Good plan.
>>75432391i lurk /fit/. shit post on /fph/ threads. lift the spirits of my brothers and sisters who are grinding away in /mis/ trying to improve themselves. i will now go outdoors and climb at the crag with a good friend. even though she rejected me. i too am also enjoying the spring, socialising, having fun, strengthening my connections, and progressing at life. i will become a better person.
>>75433119Your efforts are appreciated :)
>>75433119You're doing great! Eventually you'll find someone who loves you
>>75432769what the fuck does your income and buying a house have to do with your situation.
>>75423953>dude finds his soulmate>gives her up for a fancy slip of papergrim
>>75432769Surround yourself with friends and family, and definitely don't take up the liquor. They'll probably need to make you meals and stuff for a while, 'cause you're not gonna feel like eating or doing anything. Stay strong, brother. Your wife will pull through.
>>75430388Sorry your coworkers quit. Look into doing compound movements
>>75409467finally asked this girl out for next weekend. can’t wait until friday night when she cancelsare women seriously just drowning in so much dick that they cancel plans and ghost guys like it’s nothing?
>>75434369based, good on you getting a date. I think your concern is reasonable because I've been there plenty of times, it's just part of the sad reality that we're facing; however, you ain't gotta let it mess with your head and dictate your decision because there are still good women out there. the best thing you can do is to become a good man that's worthy of having a good woman. hang in there, fren. WAGMI
I feel alone lately. Like actually alone. I’ve felt sad and lonely but this is different. It’s almost more soul crushing more of an empty feeling.I want a girlfriend again. I’ve tried making some posts ITT last couple days about how I’ll continue with my plans and goals to help me stay focused but it seems to be getting worse. I dreamt about my ex and now she’s on my mind. I stopped thinking about her too. I know it’s just my brain wanting to fixate on its most recent idea of where I can get that affection and companionship. But this feeling does suck. Idk how or where to meet another woman, and to be honest I’m not ready with the burdens that I’m working on handling right now. It seems this is just how I have to feel.>been about 30 minutes since I wrote this walked away to go take a dumpAnd now I’m wondering if I was the one who fucked up in that relationship or if it was her or even whether it was for the best anyways. This shit sucks.
>>75409467I've been having migraines for the past two years on and off, and I've been to several doctors who prescribed me migraine medication, and nothing was really helping. So I finally went and got an x-ray. I've just been diagnosed with a stage four glioblastoma.Should I even bother lifting and eating healthfully? Or should I relax my diet and my lifestyle and just enjoy the time that I have left? Doctor says between four and six months.
>>75435149What are your options? Will they even offer chemo? You could try alternative medicine and restrict your diet, but it seems to be a very low survival rate cancer, and a lot of people would probably choose to make peace with the outcome the doctor predicted. Still, i wish you luck and i hope you can enjoy the time you have.
>>75435881I don't have any options. A glioblastoma is brain cancer. I'm just looking for advice on whether continuing to work out is going to be detrimental to my quality of life rather than just kind of going on cruise control and enjoying the foods I normally restrict and using the free time that I would be working out in to do other fun things.
>>75435888That's up to you, isn't it? Has the doctor given you odds of survival or told you there's no hope? What do you want to do? Do you enjoy lifting? I imagine some anons would keep lifting but go perma bulk mode on their diet, best of both worlds or something. Someone else may drop in and tell you to fast or eat keto because they believe it cures cancer. I doubt anyone knows what the right thing to do is.
>>75435934I'm not going to continue this conversation because ive addressed Everything already that you keep asking and you just keep asking it. I'm asking for advice. I already told you waht the doctor said. Please don't waste the small.amount of time I have left.
>>75435149Please try to appreciate the remainder of your life before you pass away. Do whatever you wish to do and appreciate your loved ones
>>75435991Thank you anon. You are a good man.
>>75436017Do you have anywhere you want to go?
>>75436036Not really. Maybe I should? I've never felt unhappy where I was. I mean, I've been on a couple cruises that stopped in places like Canada and Mexico, but no place noteworthy. Is there some place you've been that was fun and exciting that maybe you could recommend?
>>75409751It's called fuckboi. Anyways, don't fuck them and it will fuck with their minds because they seek validation
>>75435942You didn't address everything which is why i had to ask questions, i asked different questions and you aren't really asking for advice but instead permission to give up and you want some attention. Your retardation is understandable given your circumstances, but now you're also being a cunt which makes you insufferable.
>>75436129I'm sorry you are so upset man. No need to lash out. Dude literally.said he was asking for advice, your negativity is some kind of projection or something idk. Dude is dying and is perfectly calm and polite. Only you are angry.
>>75436138>being this obviousYou're literally pretending to have cancer to troll a thread where people genuinely try to help each other. What a disgusting, horrible person.
>>75436140Okay man, get well soon.
>>75436145This isn't the first time you've tried it, but people didn't give you the attention previously. Go back where you came from and stop trying to drag people down with you. Go be miserable alone, crab.
>>75436151Alright bro. Get well soon
>>75436154Enjoy being miserable. You will not drag down anyone else in this thread :)
>>75436169You seem awfully dragged down.
>>75436179So you admit i'm right? Great, now go back to /v/ or whatever other shit hole you crawled out of.
woke up feeling sad and depressed. i forced myself out of bed for a roon and now i feel great. hope you lads have a good sunday. god bless
>>75436186I'm sorry you're so miserable, man. But keep responding with some made up scenario that you invented in your head about somebody pretending to have cancer. I'm sure you'll prove to everybody that you're absolutely not miserable and dragged down and instead it's everyone else.
>>75436201NTA but its obvious you lied about having cancer for attention. dont know whats going on in your life that you felt the need to do that or why youre so angry and miserable but taking it out on anons ITT is not it dude. seriously some introspection is in order, youre being an asshole for no reason.
>>75436196Congrats on motivating yourself to be productive! I didn't sleep well but I'm still going to the gym
>>75436217>Hey, I'm not that guy, but let me just repeat what he said in the exact same linguistic mannerisms.Lol get well soon
>>75436217You're wasting your time. Think about what kind of retard would come to /fit/ just to demoralize people, the kind that would lie about having a terminal illness and then giggle to himself in his dark little room. You think you can reason with such a person? Get him to reflect? No, he's here because he's a sad cunt with no life and he wants other people to feel as shit as he does.>>75436220>crab anon is also a schizoWhat a shock. Get help and then try lifting weights.
>demoralizers have switched to faking illness to derail MIS threadsthat's shitty but man just ignore them or they will keep posting
Listening to shoegaze and thinking about the ex again LOLWish I could delete her from my mind lads
>>75436236>replying to yourself after getting caught
>snapchat shows me a coworkers account shows it has stories>make fake account and view story>instant regret, delete accountI’m worried I’ll be found out for stalking. Not even really a huge deal but I feel like I’ve crossed some kind of barrier I shouldn’t have. Nothing was on the story of interest just her smoking at a club. Oh well. Hopefully I don’t get known as weird stalker at the office… my own fault idk what I expected or why I was even curious
>>75436268You're right. It's just disgusting that someone would feign illness for attention like that. I'm sure he has his own problems, he's obviously miserable and has mental health problems if not physical ones. But I doubt people that far gone can ever recover even if they get help though.
>>75436281You can move forward and create better memories with someone special :)
Anon, pls gib me your energy. I need to find a job...
Hey fit. Ive been off this board (and this bull shit site) for a long time.Ive made a lot of mental health gainz, got a gf, got better with studying (enrolled in a bechelor, second year now), i use my phone and my pc less etc...I just need to get back into training...But its not enough!I still need to get better with my mental health, be a better man for myself and the people i love, get better with studying and healthy ovverall and free from this bullshit technology lifestyle...And here i swear to the sky (and all of fit) i will give all of my energy to acomplish this!I hope everyone on this board a good day and a good life. Be healthy and cool anons.Goodspeed you.
Connected with this insanely attractive, adventurous girl and fumbled it because I'm a NEET loser with no drive and relationship experience
>>75436509Congrats on the experience
>>75436470Take my energy ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つTogether we will get new jobs
stay strong anons :)
>>75436302Women do this all the time
there's this girl at the gym i used to go to middle school with, we were in different classes and I never really talked to her at the time, we were just aware of each other due to proximity (friends of friends, summer camps, school trips).it took me a couple weeks to recognize her because it's been like 8 years but I asked an ex classmate of hers and I'm pretty sure it's her.do you think I should talk to her? not even trying to bang her I just wanna make a friendI checked her instagram and she's some kind of fine arts student, do you think she's gonna think it's cool that I'm a sorta skilled artist and comic maker?
>>75436472A man is only as good as his word. Set forth to bring your dreams to reality! WAGMI!
>>75409467I met a girl and it went well at first but I think I'm losing her. How am I supposed to meet more? There's none at my job or gym and I don't have any social hobbies.I would do dating apps but I'm a legitimate manlet so I think there's no point
>>75437154I met my wife when I broke my leg, she was the attended assigned to my room. We talked for like a month and when I was discharged I asked her out.
>>75437069Walk up to her and introduce yourself. She'll think it's cool that you have a creative hobby
>>75436509Sorry you fumbled it. Don't make the same mistake next time
I don't know how long this thread is gonna stay up, but I feel like sharing my thoughts for a change. Not really venting per se, because I don't have anything necessarily negative to share, but w/e.Next week I'm gonna try to get into a routine of training 6 days a week again. I only started again recently so my recovery has been slow. I had to take a break during my last year of uni and that was rough as shit. I somehow made it through with surprisingly good marks on my final exam now have a bachelor in teaching. Problem is, I was kinda lied to about the job security of that degree. It's rough... VERY hard to find work, so that fucks with my self-esteem, being jobless and living with my parents (I hate it). Atleast I started training again, which helps a ton even if I'm not strong or big by any stretch of the imagination, but I'm really trying to bulk and overload this time around. I used to be lazy about overloading and just thinking that doing every set to failure was a safety net as opposed to tracking weight/reps. I'm also trying to work on my personality to be more positive and approachable and maybe finally get a gf. I've only ever really had chemistry with abusive and mentally ill women, which has kinda skewered my view on relationships and dating in general. It led me to be VERY introverted and society just isn't built for ppl like that. It's funny because every time I've gone off the deep end mentally, I always pick myself back up. Talking with friends and family never did it for me, I always found the answers by myself y'know? I guess I'm just starting to realize that life isn't a linear path of happiness. You will always come back to the darkness, but you also need to get out every time, lest you truly succumb to it and become a danger to yourself. Sry if it comes off as rambling, but seeing other anons ITT, I felt like pitching in. I feel pretty allright these days
made my own thread already but bros i just have to say it again, a hot, mega petite, borderline anorexic, french girl i matched with on dating app made me nut on snap today (verified she was real with a livesnap of her talking to the camera, saying exactly what i told her to say)total freak, wants anal, be hit and choked, giga wet pink pussy, tiny pink nips, talks about wanting to kiss/bite all my muscles, licking and sniffing my armpits/crotch and rimming my assholeLIFTING FOR PUSSY FUCKING WORKS
>>75437233Congrats on graduating! I'm surprised that it's hard for you to find a job, in my country there are pretty severe teacher shortages. Keep applying and doing informational interviews and hopefully something will turn up. The older I get the more I realize that happiness and sorrow are fleeting. One one hand, it sucks that happiness easily leaves, but it also means wee have to cherish it, no matter how small it is. We as humans are resilient, we'll always find a way to live. Good luck fren
>>75437239YGMI! What's your height and body fat %?
My wife looks like she's going to survive, her surgery went well and they are starting the process of removing the breathing tube. I don't think she knows that baby didn't make it. I don't know how I'm going to have the strength to tell her.
>>75437469Wait until she's strong enough to handle the news. For now be grateful that she's still alive. You WILL start over from here
>>75437404TY BROTHER. 180cm and 12%
>>75437239That’s nice anon what’s her name
>>75437489The hospital can only keep the baby so long before they gotta send her to a funeral home. I know she'll want to hold the baby before she has to be cremated. I gotta tell her tomorrow
>>75437526yasmine, ty u anon :)
>>75437536So tell her tomorrow. She should have the opportunity to see her child one time before its sent to a funeral home
Okay, time for me to bump this thread so we can start over tomorrow
>>75437695:)
I keep going because i want to make my mum happy :)
>>75437715I wish I were on good enough relations with my parents to want to make them happy. But deep down I want them to be proud of me. Good luck :)
>>75409467So should I still be doing leg day in 2 days when my hams and quads are still moderately sore from leg day 3 days ago? Or will I injure myself? I’m not sure what to do bros…….. Help! I don’t wanna ask reddit but I fuckin will.
>>75437797If you're still in pain by then, don't do it.
>>75437801Thanks my nigga
>>75437825No problem! Best of luck in your endeavors
This one always gets me
And that's a wrap, frens. Let's work hard next week :)
>>75418062>>75418079Using property as a money-making scheme is kiked and is the number one way to get executed when large numbers of people get executed, don't risk it anons
>>75418630>Be me, PNW fag>Weeks of clouds, libtards who don't go outside all have seasonal depression from reduced vitamin D>Trump wins>4 perfect clear days in a row
>>75421874All you have to do is not abuse the person you care about, it can't be that difficult
>>75424230Uncle Adolf says that everyone should love their race anon
>>75430396My parents lost their first child, then proceeded to have two more and then meThings will improve with time
>>75434369>are women seriously just drowning in so much dick that they cancel plans and ghost guys like it’s nothing?They line up multiple plans and choose their favorite at the last minuteHow many jobs do you apply to at once?
Anons, I think I get it now. I was fat for many years. Sometimes fat, sometimes obese going by BMI. I began to lose weight by changing my diet, but still felt tired, miserable and empty. Hollow. The numbers doing down on the scale were nice, but I still was miserable. I kept telling myself I would start exercising once I hit a specific amount of lost weight, saying that I did not want to buy new clothes only to lose more weight and to re-buy smaller clothes from losing more weight later. Recently I started walking. I started doing push ups and exercising as best as I can without a gym. It is not perfect, but neither am I. I keep pushing myself to improve, to strive for more. My body feels stronger, healthier. My depression feels far, far away. I feel like the venom, the misery, the sadness I felt for most of my life is being fought against, that I am winning. I have hope and it scares me a bit, but I refuse to give up now. Tonight I found this thread and I do honestly think that we all will make it. I've ended up with a (long distance) girlfriend, I've gained confidence in myself, in my body, pride. I'm actively finding ways to improve myself and it is not for a girl or anyone else but myself. To show myself that not giving up is the right option. Sorry for blog posting, but I wanted to put these scattered thoughts to page.
>>75437797It sounds like you only do legs once a week and push them too hard to make up for that
>>75438244It’s kind of interesting to read Hitler’s words towards the end of WW2 and see how much he wrestled with not wanting to outright admit that yeah, Nazi ideology is fucking retarded and we were wrong, but also gradually softening his rhetoric.
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