It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is open
>>75439342>be virgin incel for whole life>finally meet a girl who likes me>she lives with controlling hispanic parents who would kill me and never let her out of the house unsupervisedKek just my luck
>>75439342Gonna close on this house tomorrow and then spend the week moving in. I am a weird mix of excited and nervous. Any advice for a first time home buyer? >>75439374My wife was like this when I met her. Just start coming over and courting her. Once you are committed she can move in with you. Hispanics will forgive their daughters for anything as long as they don't ask first and just do it.
I've been a disgusting half-human half-slug for the past two decades, I'm disgusted at who and what I've become, a shut-in with no one, but with effort and determination I believe one day I can mold myself into being a Man again. Its never too late to make a positive change.
I stopped smoking weed and learning to regulate my emotions without it. I don't crave it but I need to get some new hobbies to kill time and boredome. I have been trying to study and get a job so I can do the things I like again, like going to judo or drawing classes. I am planning on moving out of my city soon enough to continue on with my life. It's something I must do alone but I would still like to get a girlfriend whom I could project onto the future with. I hope I get to met someone once I start living like an adult and not an almost 30 y.o. teenager.
I WILL ACE ALL OF MY INTERVIEWS I WILL CONTINUE APPLYING TO JOBS I WILL GET A BETTER JOB BY THE END OF THE YEAR I WILL ESCAPE While frens, my hard work is beginning to pay off. I had two interviews last week and this week have two more interviews (one is a second round one). I just need one of these jobs to extend an offer then I can finally move on. Stay strong brothers, heaven awaits. WAGMI!
Already asked in the routine thread but it doesn't hurt to ask here too. Where would you add pull ups to this routine?>Day 1Bench 4x6Barbell rows 4x6Dumbbell press 3x10Dumbbell rows 3x10EZ bar Curls 3x8EZ bar wrist curls 3x12>Day 2.Squat 3x6Calf raises 3x20Front squats 3x6OHP 4x6EZ bar skill crushers 3x10Lateral raises 3x10Dumbbell tricep extensions 3x10>Day 3.Curl variation 4x8EZ bar wrist curls 4x12Ab workWrist roller, 4 reps each side>Day 4.Rest>Day 5.Same as day 1>Day 6.Rest>Day 7.Same as day 2>Day 8.RestI'm thinking of switching the dumbbell rows out for the pull-ups and doing them on day 3 instead
>>75439485>Where would you add pull ups to this routine? I guess I would put them in day 5 by simply switching it for barbell rows.
>>75439342I'm finally done with porn bros. Realized I was basically using it as a way to self harm so this time it's gone for good. I'll do something pleasurable for the sake of pleasure, sure, but I refuse to trick myself into doing shit that I'm doing to hurt myself. I refuse to guide myself into an oblivion. WAGMI
>>75439485I'd put them on day 2 since day to day pullups and rows have minimal interference with each other. They're both back exercises but they're prioritizing entirely different parts of the upper back
Was about to start a new program last week but I caught covid or the flu or whatever and was out until friday.Started today and seems like I didn't lose much strength, looking forward to next workout already.
>>75439485On day 3
>>75439446You're correct, it's never too late to change for the better. Articulate your goals and take small steps to move forward
>>75439374My life is kinda like this but I’m a guy. It sucks.>>75439342I’m still here and I’m still a virgin neet. Getting fed up because I’ve applied to so many jobs, tried so many things but it’s never enough and I think I’m doomed to perpetual failure at this rate. No white collar jobs, no retail work either. Even if I got one it’d pay shit. Everything is so brutal. Only upside is I’ve gotten bigger since the start of this year and could probably just cut at this point for a 8/10 body, but I’m so over it all. I might actually have to rope at some point in spite of all my bravado cuz I basically lived a wasted life.And I’ll still swallow the angst and go kill myself squatting later today and bang my head against the wall continuing to look for work. It’s tiresome.https://youtu.be/_kGNXVGECQg?si=Tbxmc03v9vUFqAUN
>>75439459based good luck quitting weed!
>NEET for 9 years could barely function>get on litium and lamictal>broke the 9 years of stagnation>i still fucking hate being alive (probably because im in a depressive episode at the moment)Trying to improve and fix myself. Going to uni and being around normies after 9 years of isolation is a struggle. But I've been working out for 4 months, even though I just work out in my room (still live with parents) and do dips, inverted rows and pull-ups outside. >inb4 just go the gymI have AVPD but I'm working on it. Need to take a blood sample to check my litium levels but I can't be bothered. i feel fine...I usually lurk, but I felt posting for some reason. Stay strong my brothers
week just started but it's already going on perfectlywagmi bros
>>75439374just figure it out. gf was a bit like that but she'd send pictures pretending to be with her female friends at first while hanging out at my place and do other such tricks in order for use to have dates and bang. it's been three years and her parents love me now
350+lb 35yo balding friendless virgin NEET living with my parents, is there any hope? How do I even start at this point? I've been cut off so long from the outside world and society it doesn't even feel possible to fix myself. It feels too late to start trying now. I've been happy all this time, but suddenly I'm not, suddenly I feel alone and adrift, like I want all those things I didn't care about before, a life, a respectable and fulfilling job, friends, family, a wife I love and who loves me, a nice home, kids of my own, I feel the weight of all those wasted years crushing me and its overwhelming. Why do I have to feel this way now? Why not 20 years ago when I still had my whole life ahead of me, or even 10 years ago when I still had time to fix things? I spent my whole life not caring only to care a whole lot seemingly overnight and out of nowhere and only just now that its too late.
snorlax here - just finished up first "month" (21 out of 30 days) of CPAP. getting a lot more deep sleep and feeling better. Continuing the runs, half marathon is in two weeks. Didn't get to ask gf's dad for permission to marry, getting lunch this week with him and popping the q on Saturday (we're already in the midst of wedding planning so its all weird)Did not get the job I did a panel interview for. Pretty bummed but also lit a new spark under me. Going to start working out of a coworking space and networking more, and reduce vidya time.
>>75439342>Posting a chudjak>Wife looks at my phone>Oh anon did you make yourself into a meme? That's so silly>Can't tell is she was negging me or not
>>75440040You haven't been happy, you've been ignoring your unhappiness, and something finally woke you up to it. 350 pounds is a lot to lose, start there. Get a pedometer or an app to track steps and start walking. Build up to 10k a day. Throw out all the garbage in your kitchen. You are not your past, fren. Life starts now. Start living.
>>75439575Congrats! Young people should really be educated about the negative effects of porn, it's harmful to peoples' wellbeing
Stay strong, anons! :)
>>75439342It is Monday and I did my weight in. Decided to stop eating nightly deserts and my once a week candy bar. Only lost one pound this week and it galls me that I have only lost six pounds since October 21st. My Mom keeps going "Losing one pound a week is good, you are doing fine!" but I remember her semi-bitterly complaining that she can not lose weight and her zealous, Boomer beliefs stemming from Weight Watchers and I feel like she has become complacent and is not truly trying her best, which I do not want to do. Also, much like >>75439575 I am quitting porn as well. I want my dick to work properly again and realized how I was just using porn and masturbation as a drug to keep myself placid. Managed 11 days of Nofap until being an idiot yesterday, so picking it back up with both shame and new determination. Secondary goal of wanting/planning on giving my GF a creampie when we finally meet should help as well. I am going to make it. We all are going to make it. I am thinking about finding a job since my physical and mental health both are doing so much better these days.
>>75439342I was waiting for this thread. I had a last meal yesterday of Chinese takeout and today I hit the ground running. >Work up and brushed teeth and showered first thing >Back on the PPL train >Didn't put contacts in until done with arms so as to avoid looking at phone >Made a 500-calorie breakfast >Getting back into applying for jobs after a month-long depression spiral >Going to go for a ruck / C25k once I get 10 applications done
>>75439459Good for you and on. Absolutely based getting drugs out of your life. I hope the best for you. Try walking'. Not as a hobby, but to just take in the world as it is and sort of catch up on what you missed out being dazed and high on weed.
>>75439342I'm still sore from Friday Can't wait til im home smoking on some sweet zaza
>>75439342I fucking dropped the general tso's chicken I made. It's a sign from god to stop being a fat fuck
>>75440563>Snaps back from daydream to clock out
>>75440324>Only lost one pound this week and it galls me that I have only lost six pounds since October 21st.Weight loss fluxes between fast and slow weight loss. It isn't uncommon to see it slow, plateau, or even creep up, especially given how much fluctuations you can see with water weight. 1 gallon of water is about 8 pounds.>Decided to stop eating nightly deserts and my once a week candy bar.This is great. This stuff really adds up. Another good one to try if you aren't already doing it is just cutting out drinking any caloriies. So don't drink any soda, booze, or sugary coffee whatevers.
>>75440563that mean you're free to do anything.are you bold enough to accept this overwhelming freedom?
>>75440713>Weight loss fluxes between fast and slow weight loss. It isn't uncommon to see it slow, plateau, or even creep up, especially given how much fluctuations you can see with water weight. 1 gallon of water is about 8 pounds.I had no idea water weight was like that. I drink around a gallon of water a day these days. >This is great. This stuff really adds up. Another good one to try if you aren't already doing it is just cutting out drinking any caloriies. So don't drink any soda, booze, or sugary coffee whatevers.Thanks, Anon. I love sweets but I am willing to bite the bullet if it means losing more weight. I thankfully only really drink water these days. I was drinking zero sugar/zero calorie orange pop, but despite brushing and flossing twice a day I drank enough that it discolored parts of my teeth, so fuck that noise.
>>75440563
>>75439342Sup bros, just dropping by to remind y'all>Never give up, never give in. Step by step - no matter how small they seem - WE ALL GONNA MAKE IT
>>75439342Few days into nofap, started late. I feel pretty good. I’m not even gonna track how long I’m just gonna make it a goal to go until February or if I feel okay indefinitely. The idea is I’m only gonna but inside a woman’s throat or pussy. When I was consistent with it in the past I’d, almost seemingly miraculously, read only hook up with a chick after a few weeks of it.I have way more energy way better moods, more confidence, eye contact returning, more positive energy and people seem much more receptive to me. Got checked out a few times despite being fat. People are smiling at me. Women are being friendly and talking to me. Also finding myself caring way less about other people. If I fuck up and do something embarrassing I don’t care. My immediate inner monologue is “so what this period in life and these people are nothing more than the sand beneath the stepping stone, this isn’t my end goal.”Got a haircut last week, I feel great. I’m gonna start going every 2-3 weeks.I’m also looking forward to getting lean.Essentially once I’ve achieved>down to 190-200lbs (at least, probably gonna start recomp at that point), also new and better clothes some kind of style>savings back where I feel comfortable, confident>nofapped long enough to cure porn addiction and beat my lust>few more hobbies I enjoy and actively work onI will be unstoppable. That’s not even half of my goals but getting to that point and I should be able to fuck and date again and pretty much begin to start feeling happy again. When I have $25k saved and I lose the weight I may decide to reward myself with either a (used) motorcycle and get into that or a project car if I can find one reasonably priced. Maybe go on a trip idk.
>>75439342NYYYYYAAAAAAA I FORGOT MY LIFTING SHOESFUCK IT, STILL GOING IN WORK BOOTS AAAAAAAAAA
>>75439606Keep up the great work! I'm moving to PPL next year after having the same routine since 2021
>>75439763Your art is improving week by week. Have you tried looking for seasonal retail work? I know it's shit but at least you'll get paid
>>75439446You can always find purpose in your life.
>>75441241:)
>>75439342>going to plan an interview with an electrical company as an estimator this fridayPlease God let it happen. Let me get this job. I know there will be a lot to learn but I'm very much ready to leave this current sprinkler company. The most unorganized asshats I've dealt with this past year with the 3 managers being the 3 stooges in terms of competency. We lose 1-3 people every 2 months and are currently losing big name, big money clients because the tard managers decided they knew best compared to everyone else. Also, day 11 of NNN and as of yesterday there has been a sudden urge to be horny. It's there and I want to COOM but it's not the main thought in my head.
Happy Monday/Tuesday everyone. Goal this week is to make as much money as possible without burning out, which I tend to do when I start working Saturdays. Also to stick to my cut for summer. May you all have a positive week
>>75439342>getting on really well with a girl>replies start to slow down>made plans for wednesday, yet to have a confirmation on her endi can feel disappointment coming my way
>>75439937You’re making good progress, so don’t relapse. Being surrounded by normies is healthy, it teaches you a lot about fitting into society. Stay strong fren!
>>75439943My week is off to a great start as well wagmi bro
>>75441164I’ve applied to a bunch but never hear back, I did a bunch more over the weekend so hopefully something pans out. If nothing else, btc is going up so maybe some of that will trickle down to me
>>75440054good luck in your half marathon! remember that you owe it to yourself to finish the race no matter how long it takes you! sorry you got rejected by your job, job searching truly sucks. but there is a job for you out there
>>75439390There's going to be a flood of letters and calls and 99% of them will be bullshit. Treat everything you get as a scam for the first 6 months or so before they'll give up.
>>75439342I rejected a girl a few months ago because I was already talking to one but that went to shit. Would it be weird to find her on instagram and add her, especially because I said I didn't have it? What would I say as my excuse?
>>75440182That's a sign that you need to start working on yourself
>become a fat fuck over covid>some random dude talks to me at gym today saying i look good and strong>mfw i still have 70lbs to lose
>>75441581lol she broke things off me. fucking knew it.kinda sick of this loop bros.
The greatest abnormality isn't necessarily to have messed up your life, since lots of people have done that, but to have never even participated in life in the first place.It indicates that you're not only a coward, but also that you're basically still a kid when it comes to not having any point of reference to leading an independent and active life. Hell, you could be a drug addict, an alcoholic, an obsessive gambler, and yet still have friends, relationships, and other personal touchstones to the human experience, like different jobs or random places you've moved to/lived in. I'm completely lacking in all of those sorts of things, and like I said, many people would find that super fucking weird, unattractive and pathetic.As it is, I'll never be able to get out from this being a core aspect of who/what I am. Regardless of if I'm able to become more active in life or not, it won't change how mortifyingly desolate the vast majority of my existence has been, and these last 15+ years I've spent completely isolated from the rest of the world. Hiding away in a hermetically sealed chamber of rot and decay, where nothing has been achieved, and nothing at all has happened. Just a long silent death march to my own execution. All those gruelling steps taken having to endure the pointless agony of it all, only to be shot in the back of the head and limply fall into an open grave.I just wish that all of this could've been known/detected in advance somehow. That all this, insofar as an existence spent in miserable damnation, could've been screened for via some techno precognition. Sort of like that book/film Minority Report, except instead of stopping crimes before they occur, people like me would simply be euthanized at birth.
>>75440330Based I’ve always fantasized about buying an old iPod so my phone didn’t distract me at the gym. Good luck on the job front!
>>75440430Don’t give into temptation bro. You’re better than that
>>75439342ive got my weekly checklist down but today was not nearly as productive as it could have been. ive been feeling down the past few days bc i got back into memecoins and cant handle the emotional roller coaster. for every 1 good trade i do, i go and make 4 bad ones. im trying to take the emotion out of it and not do any moves out of desperation but fuck. anyways, nowhere to go but up. ive got a lot to keep me busy this week and even a networking event with the city this friday that im really looking forward to since it will put me face to face with the actual people in charge of the departments i want to work with.
>>75441686Thanks Anon. I'll do my best and take my meds.
Got a cold or the flu or something so I missed a few days in the gym. It sucks getting back in there but I gotta do it!
stay strong anons :D
Last week was good. New job's decent to say the least, not ideal but I'm grateful for it nevertheless. Just got done with a 3 mile run which was great though I still have a long ways to where I was at previously. Not too worried about my debt now that I have an idea on how to approach it now. Hobbies are good, still showing some progress but I know I can put in more effort. Feels a lot easier doing things now that I've started to address the issues hand, actually looking forward to them now. Let's see what happens next week, let's make it count. https://youtu.be/24hlS0apuoQ>Goals for the weekAlign my sleep with my job, start cutting weight, run/gym 4x and start taking my hobbies more seriously. >>75439476I admire your dedication despite your setbacks CFAnon, I'm betting you'll land one of those positions. Wish you luck on your endeavors. WAGMI bros
>>75440563Join the army
>>75440453God wants you to start eating healthier and to maximize gains
I’m in a perplexing situation boys and I could use some input from you guys. Basically I live in a uni/government town now, I’m here because I went to uni here and the got a job in government after. I have a few friends around but I don’t really have any strong network or community. I’ve started seeing this college girl over the past few months, I really like her and we get along very well. I see a future with her for sure. Basically the dilemma is that she’s graduating in the spring and she doesn’t think she would want to stick around town here beyond next summer. Her hometown is about a 12 hour drive from where we are now. She’s asked me (not directly but she’s been probing) how I would feel about moving to her hometown with her. I’m really unsure anons, I have a couple reservations. She’s a few years younger than me so I worry about that, and I’m nervous about starting over in a new place where I only have a bit of family. I feel like it’s the right thing to do because this town just reminds me of ghosts of my old life, it’ll be hard to say goodbye. Anyone been in a similar situation?
>>75440808You're making great progress! I can't go a couple of days without breaking down and fapping. I can quit porn but I need to fap to sleep
Threw out my vape this morning so that’s pretty cool
>>75441514Stay strong brother! You are capable of far more than you can ever imagine. You will complete NNN
Christ , Jesus...watch over me while Im making it....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQz4cda5_T0
>>75441534Good luck on your cut! Do you have any tips for doing one successfully?
>>75442973:D
>>75442002Say that your friends made you make one
I helped run a buddy's restaurant last night (used to be a fine dining FOH manager but left the industry a few years ago)One of the waitresses there was drop dead gorgeous. I mean the spitting image of my exact 'type,' and a great personality to boot. She spent all night chatting me up, doing little 'cutesy' things like coming over to me just to dance to the dining room music, and kept CONSTANTLY complimenting me. Probably the first time I've had that 'warm fuzzy feeling' talking to someone since my last ex, she even teased me about blushing whenever she complimented me. Kept debating whether to ask her out to coffee, but then I also kept thinking "this girl is way too pretty and outgoing to not already be in a relationship," so I didn't make a move. Sure enough, at the end of the night after she left I found out she's in a serious relationship and that's just how she is. It left me feeling good, though. I dunno, spending so much time with doomer incels, failed dates, and bitter coworkers as my only forms of socialization makes it easy to forget I enjoy the company of and get along with normal people. Shit like this reminds me how easy it is to just be social and happy.
>>75444359That’s been an issue for me in the past. Either I’m wide awake or I’m all pent up and in an anxious pissy mood dwelling on past shit. Hasn’t happened my last few attempts. I’ve also gotten better on fixing the moods, I’ll sit up take a deep breath hold it for a few seconds while my inner monologue goes along the lines of>Does it really matter? These people Im mad at or feeling shitty over, are they the end goal? Is there anything I can do about that thing now? No the best I can do is move forward and improve and losing sleep over past fuck ups or people treating me horribly is not going to help that. Fuck thatAnd then I fall asleep within 20-30 minutes.>more nofapI think today is day 4 or 5 idk. I’ll know what day 7 is because I normally feel really good on day 7. I haven’t gone past 5 days in years though. I looked at porn briefly while taking a piss at work today. Stared at a few asses IRL. But ultimately each time I caught myself. I’m horny but it’s nothing too bad. I mainly wanna jerk it out of habit right now. But my logic is I would far rather be fucking bitches than jerking off to them. Like bro, if I improve myself enough I could have a whole damn harem of hoes on rotation that I’m fucking so I have variety. Part of me is torn on that (hookups vs relationship) but that’s gonna turn an already long winded post into a thesis if I elaborate, I’m sure you understand what I mean though (the way women are these days)..>what I’ve noticedWay better moods. No longer worried laughing is at me like I’m still some kind of socially inept autistic 15 year old again. More energy. Wake up way easier. More effortlessly just getting started on stuff like chores. People, especially women are WAY nicer. Just positive smiling interactions. I think I even got checked out again. I noticed sometimes they’ll walk past and look back like they’re expecting me to check them out
>>75444935Thankyou! Tracking every calorie, inventing food rules for myself to eat less and manage bloating (e.g. low carbs at breakfast or lunch), spending weekends walking long distances/hiking, watching fat people eating on Youtube when I'm hungry, drinking heaps of tea, not bringing much food to work, doing things with friends that don't involve eating and generally and keeping busy away from food.
>>75445211Good shit man. I’m the nofap anon below you and similar shit. Had this super pretty slim latina brunette in scrubs walk past me, she looked in passing and I guess caught me staring (at her face) and then came back a couple minutes later to ask me (in broken but really sweet English) where the pet food was. I showed her due to the language barrier but she was all smiles and thanked me and it was brief but a much needed change. She just had a warm energy to her. Didn’t even feel lustful really just good about the positive human interaction.Also had a nice interaction with a woman like 5-10 years older than me. Just some light teasing and talking about my background. But again, it was a warm and even playful positive interaction I, like you, haven’t had since my ex.Idk. It’s nice to realize I can have these interactions with women and know it doesn’t mean they wanna fuck me which was what I used to assume due to not having it often. But rather just enjoy the interactions as positive and warm, happy. Men don’t steal your interact these ways. I guess I see why some men prefer to be around women as annoying as they can be. Idk. I feel like I’m changing into a more positive man who people want to be positive with
>>75442114If you look this much better now, imagine how good you'll look once you lose those 70 pounds
Been struggling with clawing back some semblance of a functioning routine for months. Haven't been to the gym since the beginning of October.Today was the first time in ages I actually managed to get up on time, do everything I had on the daily todo list, and also get down the gym in the same day. Feeling positive bros.
remembered an experiment where i ate the least processed ice cream i could get my hands on and weirdly lost a pound. experimented with it for another week, along with coconut oil and chocolate for lots of good saturated fats.lost three pounds. mind was pretty blown. i suspect some of it might have been due to having a cold and not having a huge appetite, so i'm testing the ice cream and various ingredients again this week before i weigh in.ice cream...might be a health food. i wish i liked it more
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>>75445883:D
>>75442141I feel it. I messed up my formative years and am now trying to claw back. But I’ve accepted that I’ll never truly be normal
>>75442141I'm in it with you too buddy. Just taking it a day at a time, trying to get out there, talk to people, get experiences.
You must persevere, there's no other way!
>>75442304I know nothing about crypto (but I want to learn) but sometimes holding stocks during volatile times is the best strategy
>>75442002>>75445062I couldn't find her on instagram so I looked her up on google and found her linkedin (lol). I don't know how the website works I just sent a "connect" saying I was thinking about her and wanted to contact her. What's the chance she even sees it because I doubt she would go on it that often.
>>75442832You'll recover quickly. What's important is that you're back
>>75445211> I found out she's in a serious relationship and that's just how she is. Yeah, a waitress puts on fake happy demeanor and compliments to people to try to get tips and it carries over into her non-work interactions. That’s all it is anon. She didn’t actually like you in particular. But it’s good that it made you feel good
Been nicotine free for 3 weeks now. It's gotten easy to pass the urges.
>>75443011Thanks for the encouragement. I’m talking with a lot of people and doing a lot of interviews. I have to believe in myself. One of these companies WILL hire me. I’m glad you’re addressing your issues. Big problems become smaller when you chip away at them. Work isn’t always the best but at least you gave something. Keep up the progress :)
I finally was motivated to do something on Monday, and that was to type out my suicide note my parents. Now all I have to do is figure out a way to do it. Thank you for the motivation /mis/To my parentsI have been an angry, bitter, miserable, ungrateful, pathetic, shameful, humiliating, and useless burden to the two of you for my entire life. I have reached the end of my tolerance of the unconscionable misery that I have lived through and that I am incapable of pulling myself out of. I can no longer live with the fact that I have wasted and ruined my entire life, while also providing zero benefit for anyone else.There is no point to a funeral or memorial service, as I never made any sort of positive impact on anyone’s life whatsoever. I hope you both enjoy the remaining years of your lives now that I am no longer here to have my worthless, pathetic, humiliating existence act as an anchor weighing you down. Look back on my “memory” with what it deserves: Contempt, hate, and regret, before ultimately forgetting my worthless existence even happened. I want to sincerely apologize that you had to have your only child end up like me. No parents deserve this.Goodbye.
>>75447275That's a really annoying suicide note anon. Delete it all except>To my parents>I want to sincerely apologize that you had to have your only child end up like me.>Goodbye.Alternatively, man the fuck up and go live life. You're facing down a 100% fatality rate, might as well go wild and maybe experience some interesting memories to take to the hereafter. Because, I hate to tell you, death isn't the end.
>>75446697>I just sent a "connect" saying I was thinking about herkek, unless she actually had a serious crush on you its over
>>75447275I'm sure your parents think of you more fondly than you imagine. And you'd only be hurting them by ending your life prematurely. If you care about them at all, you'll try to outlive them.
>>75447967This, i want them to see their grandchilds
>>75447659She's a nerdy mousy indian girl while I look like a hitler youth. I met her working as a life guard so she already saw me half naked.And of course this other girl suddenly starts complimenting me when I start getting ready to move on. The bitch literally asked me why we still haven't kissed as if she hasn't been last minute canceling every date I plan.
>>75448142what? i just thought it was hilarious that you sent her a message on linkedin. if someone did that to me i would genuinely consider telling the police to get a record of it or googling if there are any resources for dealing with stalkers (in a legal sense) in my area
one day you mayVirtue alone raises us above hopes, fears, and chances.—SENECA
>>75439342im >>75434369She cancelled on me, said he was busy but didnt offer or hint at any notion of a reschedule or anything. I guess this one is going in the “L” column.
>>75444299Since you don't have much of a connection to where you presently live, you should go with her. But only go if you really see a future with her and love her
>>75447275You don’t realize it but you don’t want to die you want to escape and a way out. You want to change your current circumstances not kill yourself. Your homework is to write out, all over again, exactly what you hate about your life. Then write what you want your life to be. Consider after you’ve read this that the past you had died already and now you can plan what you want the future to be like.Then plan how over the next 5 years you’ll work towards making the desired life your reality. Again, write it all out.The other thing you’re clearly lacking is purpose. 99% of dudes get in this headspace when they have no goal or any kind of project.
>>75444749That's a step in right direction! Now don't buy another one
>>75439342I feel like I have so much to say but it can all be boiled down to I want to cum (with a woman).I still have to>save more money>lose like 70lbsAt minimum before I’m ready to even try dating or getting laid. I have a mid girl who wants to fuck me who I’ve known for almost 10 years now but I’m not fucking until I’m closer to 200lbs, plus she lives kinda far now so it would require me to plan and probably spend some money. I could probably drive to her on a Friday night and then be back by Sunday.If I get my body good enough there’s a chick I used to fuck about an hour away from her who I could also fuck, 9/10 though I ain’t doing that until I’m shredded.So all in all best case I can get laid in like 6-8 months. I’m 5 days into nofap. I have no clue if I can go that long or what would happen if I did.>eye contact is almost fixed>energy way up>amazing moods>dgaf attitude>speaking with bass in voice also not letting people cut me off anymore>getting more respectI’m trying to totally get my list in control. All of this though, nofap and all that, it’s just making me normal and my true self again.
>>75445244That's all good advice, I'll try to applying it to my life
>>75449549Oh and I definitely got checked out again today. It was this tall Asian chick she looked FOB. She was with her friend (could have been her mother idk) and I felt staring so I glanced and both were just staring at me but the taller one was STARING at me. I feel like unless a woman was to come to me and practically ask to suck my dick I’m just not gonna try until I meet my goals.
>>75445661Nice job going to the gym! Start setting reasonable goals about going. Even if you aren't hitting PRs, going is half the battle
You're not stupid.You're not weak.You're not ugly.It's not too late.You just have to try. You can do it.You're gonna make it.We're all going to make it.
>>75445680Ice cream is my favorite food. I'd kill to have a healthy version that I could eat to lose weight
>>75449767:)
>>75449780Just make it yourself with milk and fruits
>>75446868Congrats on 3 weeks! That’s a killer steak, so don’t break it now
>>75439476good luck on your interviews CFA anon! your persistence, effort, and hard work is now paying off. i must observe your persistence, take inspiration, and apply it to my job hunt! career switch anon. the resume and cover letter are honed. i have planned for this week to speak with a Lead in the field i am pivoting to see how i can best position myself against other candidates given my unique background and work experience. not gonna lie, at times i feel like i won't make it... feels hard to stand out against more traditional candidates. but i must keep trying, it at least keeps me busy! i can practice my persistence and grit :)best of luck on whatever goals you have set for yourselves brothers and sisters! your sacrifice and efforts will eventually pay off.
Stay strong anons :D
>>75450493Thank you for your praise, career switch anon. I’ve already faced a couple of rejections but what’s important is to push forward. I just need one of these jobs to take me. You’re doing everything right, so keep moving forward. I understand your feelings perfectly. I hate knowing that my background in compliance is preventing me from moving into a different field. But we must find a way to bridge our gaps. Best of luck in your endeavors! WAGMI!
>>75447275what specifically don't you like about your life?
>>75447275You don’t really want to commit suicide, you want to start over and try again
I’m gonna get insanely high and blast some Peter Gabriel and develop a grand unified theory of non-relativistic quantum gravity and do a fuckton of pull-ups in my basement. Or maybe I will do the pull-ups and not those other things. The future is yet unwritten, bros! You write the story!
Stay strong and believe in yourselves or at least trust that others believe in you! You can make it! Discipline and perseverence, there's no other way.
Just got back from my paychiatrist with a MADRS of 31, starting a THIRD medication now and hoping it will crack this bitch.I'm not suicidal, I just need to have the energy to DO SHIT AGAIN god damn and I thought I was through with this bullshit. Thankfully I'm tall and put on muscle easily so it's not a terrible hand fate has given me :^)>>75447275>Golden Gate bridge studySurvivors (safe to say everyone) had the same thought whilst falling, that every last problem they had was fixable, except jumping. Rooting for your survival, even though us guys have a higher suicide success rate.>>75448890She's gonna have a hard time landing a guy like you doing that shit, feel pity for her anon.>>75449549Why wait? Sex is cool and fun, even if you're a doughboy - I'm speaking from experience. You may end up regretting not doing the things you like because you waited for the "right time".There is no right time, there is just right now. Now GO GET THAT PUSSY!
>>75452923:)
>get interview at branch of prestigious company >interview goes decently >it’s been a month since then and no updates despite emailing the recruiter every week >online portal says I haven’t been rejected If I walk over to the branch during my lunch break today and ask for a status update, how autistic will I look?
>>75448201Master guy wanted all of us to believe in ourselves and make it
>>75453370Afaik this is the status quo, me and my friends have experienced the same - radio silence until like a year later when the online portal sets the position as deleted :')So I'd suggest to let any one specific job go, and rather focus on finding as many acceptable (or even good!) jobs as possible, and apply for all of them.It may take months, years even. But you'll get it in the end. Applying for jobs is a skill, like any other.
>>75453860It’s so scummy that you’ll apply for these jobs, they’ll interview you, and then refuse to even reject you. Why do they play this game? It’s a waste of everyone’s time
>>7543934210 min of mediation todayI am going to make it
>>75454043They don't have to care, there will always be an army of shmucks waiting in line for the same job.
>>75454113I understand that they have an endless supply of people eager to work for them, but it can’t be the best use of their time to conduct 100 interviews just to hire nobody
I've had to really let go of my ironic side these last few months. I used to hide behind irony and apathy instead of addressing my feelings of inadequacy and anger over my physical injuries and health problems. I used to be so guarded and distracted at all times. I used to be so dialed into what was wrong with the world and the public, but all paying attention to that did was make life draining and unbearable at times. I no longer feel the need to purport to be something I'm not, or to criticize others for failing to live up to certain standards. Obviously, it's good to want good things for people and to try to help them when they fall short or make bad decisions, but I think I've finally reached a level of peace. I miss my girl a lot, but I'm gonna reactivate my gym membership, get some money together, and attempt to have fun living again. Authenticity feels nice for a change.
>>75454126>but it can’t be the best use of their time to conduct 100 interviews just to hire nobodyThat just sounds like hiring departments making work for themselves to justify their pay. It's gay and retarded but that's the reality of the corpo circus.
Discipline is the way, anons. Focus!
>>75454126>>75454043>>75453860If struggle to get job you simply must lie. Being employed gives you better chances at getting hired than being unemployed. It’s like getting laid. Harder to do while single without any bitches but as soon as you’re in a relationship now these hoes are showing interest. Lie. Use friend as reference make sure he has the story straight as far as how long ago you started what your job is etc. Or say self employed via uber go sign up if you’re uncomfortable lying and put that on your resume.Job market is a joke right now. Half the postings aren’t even real or actually looking. There’s a DEI plague (thankfully they’re realizing it’s not worth it and firing them and stopping that now). You’re up against thousands of others in the same position per job.These companies play games. Would you play chess against someone who can totally negate and undo your moves and summon extra pieces at will for themself while you had to play normally? Don’t play games like that, play by your own rules. These companies are retarded.In my search I even got scammed by a literal pothead who’s employees were all on vacation. He promised me W2 and all kinds of shit then when his employees came back a few weeks later he blocked and ghosted me after selling my pay. Super big bullshit. Retard used to watch me working and be like oh shit you’re great at this then go hotbox his van come back and start screaming at me for doing it wrong despite doing it exactly how he showed me originally, then show me how to do it a whole new and opposite way. That’s type of bullshit employers will pull. I’d have been better off using those 3 weeks to continue applying to places than doing all that. They don’t care. Fuck these people bros.>last week got a rejection email from job I applied to 10 months agoIt’s a fucking joke. You need to start viewing jobs as tools you can abuse and do what you want with. I’m glad I finally got a job
I’m the anon who posted in last weeks thread about asking out my gym crush. Well lads I finally saw her and took the shot last night >regular Wednesday, fresh out of the office and hitting a push day>took a shitload of citrulline and salt pre workout so I’m very pumped and vascular, feeling good about myself >hit the locker room, check out the pump and clean up before I leave>leaving the gym >walking right towards me is my gym crush >i feel my heart start pounding, like it’s about to jump out of my chest>i see her look at me, and then she looks down >she’s about to pass me>oh fuck >”hey excuse me, can I talk to you for a second?”>she turns towards me and says sure>i know you’ve seen me looking at you for awhile, i figured i should at least introduce myself, hi im anon>hey anon, im anonnette >nice to meet you finally anonnette >make some small talk for a bit>she’s studying psych, I find that really attractive >my heart is in my throat, it has to be time now I used a shitty line but fuck it here it is>listen anonnette, the reason why I wanted to talk to you is because I’ve had my eye on you for awhile. You’re beautiful, and I’d love to take you out sometime to get to know you a bit better>swear I blacked out in this moment>she smiles and visibly blushes>thanks anon, that would be pretty cool>get her number, mission accomplished We have soft plans to meet up tomorrow night because we’ll both be downtown. Bros I’m actually so proud of myself. It took me like 5 months but I actually did it. I should text her soon and set something up for real.
>>75454754:)
>>75454754Well done bro. Is she cute?
>>75454991She’s absolutely gorgeous in my opinion. Thicc, short, and beautiful Mediterranean features
>>75454754Good on you Anon. Nice work and good luck in the future.
>go help in a pub's kitchen some evenings, started a few weeks ago, don't really know the place and people well>I live in a 95%+ white country but got a fetish for brown girls>very cute and tiny south asian is a regular, make some eye contact when I cross her>today she comes to talk to me and give me a kiss, asks how it went>I'm a bit confused but think she also worked here or she's friend with others or something>ask a coworker who she is>he see who I'm talking about but tells me she's just a customer and never had any contactToo bad I already got a white gf I guess.
>>75454933>>75455037Thanks fellas, I have a good feeling about this one
>>75454754>>75455019Great job dude. Funny, I also had a gym crush that was a short, sweet-faced brunette with a great ass that I was trying to summon the courage to talk to for months. Except that when I actually did finally talk to her and resolved to ask her out the next time we met, bad luck struck and I haven’t seen her again since. Maybe she started going to another gym or something, I dunno. I still see one of her friends occasionally but I don’t know her at all.
>>75455123That’s really tough man, it sucks to have something like that just taken away without getting any closure or resolution. Hope you can see her again soon, how long has it been?
>>75455141Been like 5 months now, almost 6. I mean I figured a girl like her probably already has a boyfriend or would have politely said no anyway, it’s just that there was this little part of me that thought “hey this girl might be into you, she’s hot and really nice”. Maybe it was just delusional optimism, won’t know for sure now. Ah well, I’m used to disappointment in my sex life at this point.Hope it goes well for you with your gym crush, sorry you just got me reminiscing.
Brb gonna go lift in honor of RFK killing sneed oils.
>>75454644I know that, lying on your resume is necessary in this day and age. But I can't change job titles or completely fabricate what I do (I don't work in Portfolio Management)
>>75455173Damn that’s really tough man. Sorry about that for real. There’s always another one but that shit really stings. Thanks dude :)
>>75455045be confident that women like you and feel comfortable around you, chad
>>75454754Congrats!
>>75439342Day 7. Doing a lot better. I now also wanna quit vaping and caffeine. Nicotine is the real issue. I’ve tried pretty much all methods.
She shot me down, bros. I think it's just time to accept that the women I'm attracted to aren't attracted to me.I've been neglecting the gym lately. I think it's time to go back.
>just got laughed at by a wom*n cashieridk wtf is wrong with me, i understand that i'm awkward. But shit like this is so fucking painful.
>>75456859So make yourself the type of man she can only dread of getting with
Another day to try again, anons. Stay strong :)
>>75457022Elaborate because it may not have been a belittling or malicious laugh, it could have been an awkward laugh meant to take the pressure off it for you
>>75456747Congrats on your progress! You're stronger than you ever imagine. If you truly want to quit vaping and caffeine, you can!
>>75454754Proud of you Anon, I hope one day to have your courage.
I be walking through hell because I know Christ Jesus is with me on all my journey...#wagmi>crossing myself and blowing a kiss at the end for the most highhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xknsHOCyfg
>>75457022Don't sweat it. You'll never see her again
>>75439342>linking with twinks and girls by meeting them through friends and online >they all love me for some reason>both twinks are amateur models >the girl is a fujo yaoi enthusiast >hitting my weight goals>optimistic about my career and college education>eating well>sleeping well>trying to unfuck my feet with wide toe shoes>doing boxing and heavy lifting >feeling great>looking greatWe are so back.
>>75458199based did you meet them through 4chan or discord?
Bros I feel stuck. I think I am finally making some motion and waves in improving but I feel stuck still>got job>down 20lbs>way more active>have plan and goals to transform life>savings going up>7 days into nofap for first time in yearsBut>looked at porn few times, almost slipped up and beat it always quickly stop self though>haven’t done shit today on day off have to laundry, clean, clean bathroom, but new shoes, build a wall storage thing I got last week to help de clutter my room, and clean the bird shit off my car>have laid in bed or played fortnite all dayI feel crappy for no reason. Last few weekends I’ll get my chore list done and that’s it. Won’t leave the house and make use of my time. Idk what to do. I want to do more. I wanna lift, I wanna lose MORE fat, I wanna get off nicotine and caffeine, I wanna get new hobbies, I wanna have friends and through them maybe meet some women. Realistically friends will just be a distraction right now. But everything else seems very possible and yet I’m having issue just getting it all going. I’ve made some progress yet I feel stuck in taking the next step. I’m proud of myself but I must do more and go farther, none of what I’ve accomplished has really paid off yet.
>>75458199cringe, you're in the wrong thread
MY WRIST IS GOOD ENOUGH AGAIN FOR BENCH PRESSING
>>75458915Nice :)
>>75458915NOW GET OUT THERE AND SMASH SOME PRS
>>75456859I feel you on this. Dating used to be so much easier. Now, the girls I attract all have one glaring flaw that makes me believe we don't have a future together. I'm very forgiving, but the ones I end up with always have some sort of major hang-up that pushes me away. I thought I'd already be married at this age, but things just haven't worked out that way.
>>75458284You're doing great, acknowledge your accomplishments. Now articulate what you want to achieve and how you will take steps to reach them
The weekend is here https://youtu.be/y1DUKZapCOc?si=vctxoE6b7-QiycBV
>>75459032>>75457157Thank you guys. I just feel like it’s not enough and I want so much more.I need to get a proper lifting routine, that’s at least 2-4 days where I feel accomplished. But I need another goal I can actively woke on even if it’s just an hour per day
>>75459544There's nothing wrong with aiming higher if you believe you aren't reaching your full potential
>>75456859i can relate bro... i got shot down a couple of weeks ago. i felt a strong connection on my end, but it seems she did not. i look at our times fondly, and was able to grow from my insecurities and vulnerabilities with her.this rejection must not dampen our spirits for too long! we must pick ourselves up and improve for the better for next time. good luck on your search!
But it's friday, silly anon
>>75459998Our spirit is so powerful it lasts all week
>get recommended job by hr recruiter >excited about it so I apply >days later learn that when I export my resume and cover letter to word, the formatting is strewed up Fuck
There are people who believe in you, anon. Keep going, stay strong.
Your crush is out there living her life and enjoying the autumn, going out with friends, socializing, having fun, making memories, forging meaningful connections and getting ahead in life. While you are here shitposting about women and blogposting about your life on a beautiful autumn's weekend. Any last words anon before you inevitably end it?
Let go the line, brothers. I must be free or I’ll die. So we all fly free now. So we all make it.
>>75460171Send them again
>>75454108I am going to be do another 10min today
>>75462177Good advice. I’ll email the recruiter a copy of my resume and cover letter in pdf format and explain the problem
>>75462187You got it this anon.
>>75462166I shall spread my wings along side you. A better place awaits us
>>75462009Heh, nice try, crab. But you have failed!
>>75462009The girl I liked got married and had kids more than a decade ago, her oldest must be like 14~15 now. That ship sailed man.
>>75462009this all you got? lol. weak.
>>75462187You might end up looking better if you do that. Shows that you are willing to fix "problems" that come up. Best of luck, Anon.
Any recommendations for recipe websites for inspiration? Been using BudgetBytes for a while, but need something new now.
>>75463157:)
>>75463385Thanks for the confidence. Best of luck in your endeavors as well!
>>75463585Cheers and thanks, Anon! If my health continues to be decent/good like it is I might end up trying to prop up my... very neglected resume and find work as well.
WAGMI
Discipline and focus!
>>75463628WAGMI
>>75463761thats the spirit :D
>>75463613Based feel better soon fren! <3
>>75463720Exactly. The only way.
>>75463520:)
Another day to try again, anons.
I still have sniffles so I'm unsure if I'll go to the gym. If I do, I'll only put in 70% effort
>>75462009my crush would enjoy filming dead birds for gay art projects no one looks at. Who gives a fuck what she's doing I hope she's eating a large rare steak with all the fixins
>>75466127Stay home and don't infect anyone, you'll also recover faster. Everyone wins.
>>75466240Then I'll stay home. Thanks for the advice
>>75465238Indeed:)>>75466395As long as you definitely go when you're well again, it's the best outcome.
Thinking of taking an off day after two days now that I increased my sets from 3 to 4, my body just doesn't seem to be built for it. Also I keep making french fries out of my homegrown potatoes, It's delicious
>>75462419Phew. Would have been terrible if it was the only ship in the world.
>>75466491there's no shame in taking a risk day
Stay strong anons! :)
okay, let's get this thread wrapped up
>>75467876:)
>>75468001>>75468024>>75468046>>75468080>>75468105>>75468118>saving tons of and renaming screencaps from 4chan>>75468265>while posting an image saying to "stop scrolling the internet, youre wasting your lifefuckin kek
>>75468283I know the irony. I've accepted that the final step to making it is to graduate from 4chan
And that's a wrap folks Nice work this week Let's smash some goals next week :)
